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| What's the quickest way to get over an ex??
Posted: 1/11/2005 12:19:30 PM | Thank you guys SOOO much for the advice. I dont know what I'll do. Probably take one day at a time, but oh well. I just have to keep telling myself he isn't worth it cause he isn't!!!! But thanks again!!!!! 
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| getting over what???
Posted: 1/11/2005 5:11:40 PM | A "Relationship" that lasted a few months maybe...FFS....You move on...its like losing a favoutite pen at work....you b*tch about it then get another one....5 mins Max....
No-one is Heartbroken over a few weeks of a relationship or a few months even of being played online by someone they havent even met!!!!!!..GET REAL!!!...
So you dated...like what...went out places... held hands...kissed and fukced...So how does that make it hard to get over anyone....Coz ya know what...!!...they next one that comes along....
ITS GOING TO BE THE SAME...!.......few dates...movies...Pizza...bed...then what...life goes on...you repeat the same pattern and return here in a few months askin....
How do I get over........
Blah Blah Blah.....Its happend...wake up tomorrow and forget his name....walk past him in the street and look straight through him as if he is a stranger...You dont know this guy anymore....he died...whatever....he's gone......you're here looking for the next one....
Moving on....
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| The only obstacles that you seeq
Posted: 1/11/2005 9:13:04 PM | are the ones you place there yourself....
If you dont want to let go then you wont...you are the master...( Cant use the word mistress..and not feel skanky... )...of your own destiny....
remember....
You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it come true...
Life is a series of lessons, some people come into our lives for a reason , a season or a lifetime...his time has passed...its time to take the next challenge in your life using the experience and lesson you have learnt..and not make the same mistakes again...
YOU CAN DO THIS
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| What's the quickest way to get over an ex??
Posted: 1/11/2005 10:30:39 PM | I agree with inthepink.
The process is similar to grieving, and there aren't any tricks to get you through it. Just recognize and acknowledge that the pain is there and accept it. Don't judge yourself for feeling bad about it, and don't try to project your anger where it doesn't belong. Accept the fact that it is there, and believe that it will pass in time. In the mean time, be gentle to yourself. Don't overcommit yourself socially or mentally, but don't lock yourself up in a room and hide yourself away either. Treat yourself as if you had a broken limb. Nurturie it, but knowing that it will heal in time.
Talking it out with friends or writing about it can also help you better 'metabolize' the pain you are feeling. | |
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| What's the quickest way to get over an ex??
Posted: 1/12/2005 12:04:35 AM | | bone 1 of their siblings....go on a binge....hook up with the person that you were shaggin before this one....get a puppy....re-affirm you faith with GOD.....buy a convertable.............or just try this.........reflect.....remember the good times and let time heal the wound......your half the reason why your in this state.....if you play the blame game and dont assume half the responsability for the situation then your not ready to get over it and you deserve to feel the ugly feeling a bit longer.... its a lesson ....everything is a lesson.....once you come to terms with that, everything will change.....if you dont come to terms with that....you will continue to re-live this lesson over and over and over....stop searching for easy solution..............and NEVER get with someone that you have had a previous friendship with......going out and meeting new people for the purpose of making relationships is far safer.......but its only my opinion | |
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| What's the quickest way to get over an ex??
Posted: 1/12/2005 12:26:39 AM | Hey ever try using the toilet, that’s were I flush most of my EX….crement, gollee will someone please turn off the Crazy Pun gas, its getting to me here under my “Rock”. Sorry ASB, I will be serious next time, I think.LOL  | |
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| What's the quickest way to get over an ex??
Posted: 1/12/2005 4:07:47 AM | | the quickest way is to if your a girl go shopping and treat yourself coz then it makes us girls feel special but if youre a lad then go down the pub wit ya mates go and do summit boyish | |
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| What's the quickest way to get over an ex??
Posted: 1/12/2005 6:14:04 AM | I am only just "getting over" a long and drawn out seperation (neither one of us dragged it out, ....circumstances). It's been almost 3 years since we started the seperation process, 2 years since we legally seperated, less than a year since she found and bought a new house and moved out. In the middle of all of this, my father passed away, it's been tough.
Sometimes the "quickest way" ends up coming back to haunt you. I feel it's best to wait until you are "emotionally available" before you get back into the relationship game. Would you go jogging on a broken ankle before it healed?
It's important that you understand that often you are dealing with what amounts to stages of grief. Two simple definitions of grief are 1) the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern or behavior. 2) a normal, natural and painful emotional reaction to loss. We can grieve not only for the passing of a human life, but also for the death of a relationship (divorce, etc.). This is often expressed as 5 "stages".
Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
Anger (why is this happening to me?)
Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
Depression (I don't care anymore)
Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)
It's takes different amounts of time for different people, some can "get over" the dissolution of a decades long relationship, in less than a year. Some people on the other hand, will let a 6 month "fling" wreck the rest of their life by not "getting over" it FULLY, before entering into a new relationship, .......baggage can follow a person around a whole lifetime if they "let" it. Learning how to do this when you're young and having "flings" is beats letting it follow you around 'til yer in the ground.
One thing is almost universal, ........talking about it helps the healing. | |
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| What's the quickest way to get over an ex??
Posted: 8/9/2005 7:45:10 AM | | do as much as possible to get and keep them off of you mind be it something physical as hiking or swimming to working out or just playing with one of your pets or children | |
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