| Dont give in to the sex girls
Posted: 1/13/2006 8:30:13 PM | | I am learning on this one too. Do you know that it is a biological fact that both men and women become emotionally attached after having sex? We can't help it. But for women it happens much quicker than for men... after three times, men it takes longer. So, yeah, bottom line, gotta be careful with that, who you have sex with and how well you know them! | |
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| Dont give in to the sex girls
Posted: 1/13/2006 8:55:50 PM |
Don't give in to the sex? whats the point in going out w/a hot guy, if you can't have a little no strings fun? lol
The problem is that emotional attachment thing. You can be going along with your no strings fun (meaning you are using people and they are using you) and boom! One day you find you have become emotionally attached, and he is gone! Sex is powerful stuff, be careful with it. And yes, it is true, when a guy has sex on the first date, it is usually for this "no strings fun" and then, of course he won't call. If you are looking for more than that, leave it alone, for later. If you are not looking for more, and the one night of fun is great and you don't want a call back, what do you do the next time you want fun? Another guy? And another? And another? Now, be careful! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 10:00:01 PM | In my eyes, these "rules" are just "games" that are played and that it seems women are expected to play. Yet, there are so many guys on dating sites complaining about all of the game playing~~~ Hmmmm.. Contemplation....
Again, that term "used"... Nobody can be used if they don't see it that way... It gives me a serious brain warp, trying to figure all of this out~~~ | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 10:23:03 PM |
Nobody can be used if they don't see it that way
livewire... that was a very smart thing you said... can I use it someday??? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 10:43:59 PM | Ofr course you can mesna...But you can't have my brain warp~~That's all my own, twisted mind...  | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 10:46:40 PM | If you'll notice.. I didn't ASK for your brain warp, as you well know.. my brain is warped enough!!
Now about this thread, so is it saying the double standard thingy is ok??? It's ok for men to have sex the first date.. but not women.. or we're low grade skanks?? Or did I miss something? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 10:55:28 PM | Ask the guys... I've asked, but don't seem to get much of an answer, although there are many who openly admit to the whole "double standard" thing. I believe the OP is a female though, right>?
So, I try to just make a comment or two and then get off this thread, because honestly, my brain cannot grasp it. Playing games in order to "win" someone is what it boils down to I guess>? That doesn't seem fair. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 11:21:48 PM | You're right sparling and I promised to not get back on this thread again. I broke my promise, but won't do it this time... All done~~ | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 11:32:29 PM | I always say "think like a man" don't think that because some guy sleeps with you that he cares...DUH!
Just say thanks and "don't call me!!!
They think that is cool! Cause you didn't give them that " Don't you love me now?"
Just treat it as if they would.........HELLO!!
Don't give them the "OH I love you"!!! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 11:35:55 PM | RE: do not give in if u really like the guy
So what you're saying is "if you dislike the guy, make love to him" and "if you like the guy, don't make love to him"? Is this correct?
Damn, is that the secret you females have been holding back all these years?
Riggidy
President
Mens World Organization | |
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| Dont give in to the sex girls
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:53:43 PM | | Ya know ladies! Just do what feels right for you and stick to yer guns! In word and also in action,.... and of course communicate appropriately. I've already discused my personal thoughts in more depth prior,... enough said! Ciao! | |
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Posted: 1/14/2006 4:45:17 AM | | Okay, maybe i am at last tiring of these forums... "Brain warp"? What's not to get? It's about respect. If you really like someone, beyond the fact that they are hot and you want to jump their bones, you don't have sex with them right away. Male or female. Having sex right away is about using someone for your own pleasure (you dont know them so you don't really care if they have a good time or call you back or what). you just wanted to get some so you use their body to please yours. This is playing games. NOT having sex because you really like someone beyond having a physical attraction and want to have sex with them is Not playing games! It simply says, "I want more than sex with you. I don't want it just one time and then 'goodbye'. I want to get to know you better first." And yes, when you are intending to just have sex with someone only, you are using them and happily having them use your body; you are using each other's bodies for mutual sexual fulfillment, without a concern for anything else to do with them. If you are not intending to have sex with them in the first place, but there is a strong attraction, this is what this thread is about. Then if you give in, you are being used in a different way, because in a sense you are being convinced to do something you don't feel comfortable with and had not intended to do, and the other person's intention is probably different from yours (they wanted to use and be used, you wanted more and you will likely be disappointed). This is the point of this thread. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2006 4:47:36 AM | | If I have sex with someone, it does not mean I am emotionally attached to them. It takes me a lot longer to develop feelings for a person. In the meantime, I am not going to deny myself the pleasure of them. Besides, for me, sex is a big part of the relationship so I would rather find out early on what they are like instead of waiting. Why get attached to them only to find out they are not good in bed? | |
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Posted: 1/14/2006 6:05:44 AM | | some women (and men) use sex as a tool to control. And it works-until I find that if I want the relationship to get beyond a orgasm it makes more sense to get to know someone before getting intimate sexually. I am trying to get intimate emotionally before sex. I can't help thinking that if the woman I'm with slept with me immediately, why not with others? And I'm sure women would think the same of me. It's a matter of respect. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2006 6:15:14 AM |
If I have sex with someone, it does not mean I am emotionally attached to them. It takes me a lot longer to develop feelings for a person. In the meantime, I am not going to deny myself the pleasure of them. Besides, for me, sex is a big part of the relationship so I would rather find out early on what they are like instead of waiting. Why get attached to them only to find out they are not good in bed?
Well GALLIVANTING1 this seems to be a good reason for me not to bother having sex then after no sex for just over 5 years. Because it is obvious that the woman will NOT enjoy it and I will be no good. Sucks, but sounds like what you said speaks for most women and I agree. Is one thing I am now afraid of is ever someone does decide to have sex with me. She will be freaked out with the fact I am 36 (soon 37) and not had it since I was 31. She will then say "I am out of here, this guy is not worth it"
Do you agree? | |
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Posted: 1/14/2006 6:15:18 AM | | I agree dog mommy. No matter what-it complicates matters. Don't get me wrong, I love sex. Its just that I'm finally trying to me more deliberate and treat it as more special. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2006 7:58:20 AM |
I agree dog mommy. No matter what-it complicates matters. Don't get me wrong, I love sex. Its just that I'm finally trying to me more deliberate and treat it as more special.
Right on, right on! | |
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Posted: 1/14/2006 8:47:27 AM | | No, I don't agree. Are you saying that you sucked at sex before? Just because you are off the market for awhile you may be a little rusty but if you were good at it before, then why would you not be good at it now? Besides, everyone has different tastes when it comes to sex. What may be good for one person may turn another off completely. To each their own. It's what makes it all so wonderful and varied. | |
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