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Posted: 1/11/2006 4:11:27 PM | | I guess form these threads I have read some guys want sex and girls want money at lease most.bitter I say.. | |
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| Used for sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 4:14:04 PM | I know what you mean......I really have to stop taking advantage of men that way  | |
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| Used for sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 4:17:10 PM | lol I need some lovin damn it | |
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| Used for sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 4:18:57 PM | NO loving allowed.. remember they're just using ya..  | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 4:40:33 PM | ohh shit ya right f*uck was I thinking damn ok i sec I need that monster dildo and after I am done with it I give it a good bang on the wall and wait for him to love me  | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 6:36:54 PM | I'd use 'em as a cook first. If they would just cook for me, I'd give 'em all the sex they wanted... and then some.  | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 6:47:26 PM | and usually guys who use women as mastubatory devices aren't very good lovers anyway and so why would the woman enjoy it?
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I know many women who would disagree with that.I have a friend who,in his youth,he was a classic womanizer.Women talked about what a creep he was,but they all ended up on his boat getting their lights banged out.Yet they all raved about how great the sex was at the same time.Go figure. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 7:01:56 PM | | OK. But let's look at the other way. You go out to dinner with a guy...let's say one that you're attracted to physically but not intellectually. You know you you're not gonna want to date him again, but you have sex with him. The next day he calls you and you say 'no thanks!' Has he been used for sex? sure. Will he complain about it? Of course not. Nobody uses anybody who doesn't want to be used. Sex no more is an implied guarantee of an ongoing relationship than a good night kiss, or anything else. And if a girl has sex because she thinks she's going to get a guarantee out of it, she pretty dense. If it was great, great! If Not...Oh well! Get on with your life and stop whining. Men don't 'use' me for anything. It's like a Chinese dinner...I get my cookie. | |
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| Used for sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 7:05:46 PM | ^^^ that's right
Count your blessings for getting a little action between relationships  | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 7:09:08 PM | | I'm thinking I'm NOT gonna touch this thread at all!! LOL | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 7:18:45 PM |
I know many women who would disagree with that.I have a friend who,in his youth,he was a classic womanizer.Women talked about what a creep he was,but they all ended up on his boat getting their lights banged out.Yet they all raved about how great the sex was at the same time.Go figure.
sounds like the creep knew how to pleasure a woman....ie. foreplay etc. What I was referring to was a man who just gets himself off without thought to a woman's pleasure. It usually takes about 3 mins. Not enjoyable. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 7:31:20 PM | 3 min ?!... poor guy, I would be trying to hide that!!!  | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 7:35:40 PM | | As far as I'm concerned, if you have a gun to your head then you've been used. If you're old enough to consent, and do so freely....than you ought to be old enough to know it's 50/50, and maybe a one night stand. And let's be real ladies. You do it because you think it's a way to keep a man coming back...and if he does, you've screwed yourself. If it takes sex to bring him back, that's what it's all going to be about. Do I detect the smell of burning martyrs? | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 7:43:40 PM | | earlier in this thread... a man said he felt used. If thats how one person feels then obviously it wasn't 50/50. And the thing with the gun to your head? well thats rape/sexual abuse and we are moving into a different territory. The used feeling is more to do with a trust issue. People put trust in someone and it was to some extent taken advantage of. It's just not a black and white issue....there are so many levels to this. Everyone has their own experience and if you didn't have it ...you can't look down on someone else's experience....you didn't walk in their shoes. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2006 7:53:54 PM | | the way I see it is... and this is just my opinion... but if a man invites me to dinner and every thing is going good, and we/I decide to sleep together then it's just sex... and I hope freaky, knock you on your ass sex... it's not " I'LL CALL YOU IN THE MORNING", "I LOVE YOU" sex. There's no promises, no committment, no pressure... just 2 consenting adults gettin' their freak on!!!! And "IF" he calls you the next day... that's just an added bonus. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 6:45:32 AM | sounds like the creep knew how to pleasure a woman....ie. foreplay etc.
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From what I hear he was very rough and abusive.Apparently the women he was involved with like that sort of treatment.He was very "successful",he always had a girl on his boat and dated many women at the same time.
That's been a few years ago,though,he's changed now,married and settled with a daughter so he looks at life a little differently now. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 6:50:50 AM | Get on with your life and stop whining. Men don't 'use' me for anything. It's like a Chinese dinner...I get my cookie.
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Excellent attitude,you and a couple more on here have the right idea! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 6:57:22 AM | sometimes I think I get used for sex
at first I had a hard time with that.......
then one day I just said
ah F*CK it
so that's what I did | |
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| Used for sex?
Posted: 1/12/2006 7:44:53 AM | In general...but not always...
Women have sex to get love. Men love to get sex.
If a man has sex with a women they are usually hoping/thinking that it will lead to love.
If it does not lead to further interaction...women will feel used because the men demonstrate they were not looking to love them.
Is this fair...is life fair...we do not make the rules we just play the game.
Personally I feel if you want to win the game just know the rules. That said sometimes the rules are meant to be broken. I slept with my husband the first day I met him...lasted 10 years and although it did not last forever he was one of the greatest loves of my life. Never did that before or again. I will say that I never "expected" it to be more than a one night stand because I knew the rules. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:04:51 AM | | Love your profile, Jewelsnsky. I remember the first time my son saw fireflies. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:11:10 AM |
But if a man took a woman out to dinner
they went home and had sex
It was great
He never called again
A. how do you know it was great ?
B. how do you know he's not dead?
c. went to who's home?
d. a test drive
and I guess no sale. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:20:32 AM |
In general...but not always...
Now that probably represents most of the feelings and expressions I have read in most of these threads...
I wonder if any of you thought along the lines that
"We like to be used ... or we feel useless."
and being used is better than a usless f*uck | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:28:22 AM | | actually I noticed a lot of people posted about this as being a 50/50 thing and it amazes me. Haven't any of you been in a relationship where you are giving all the time and the other person is taking? Taking = using. People DO use other people. It happens in our disposable society. They use them for all sorts of things and for all sorts of motives and it isn't just one gender who does it. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:08:35 AM | If you both agree to have sex then how can one or the other feel like they are being used?
Unless one of them was reading more into it than the other was, if that's the case then shouldn't that person have expressed his/her feelings before the act?
Now, if you've been seeing each other for a while, have sex and communication stops, that's just rude, and you should be glad your rid of the jerk before it went any further. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:32:59 AM |
(Msg 123) . Haven't any of you been in a relationship where you are giving all the time and the other person is taking?.....They use them for all sorts of things and for all sorts of motives and it isn't just one gender who does it.
I feel it's usually one who constantly weighs the benefits of a relationship who feels/suspects being used. It all comes back to that list again. In my view, love is not fulfilling a list.
A thief will be less trusting. One who is easily attracted to others will be more likely to suspect their partner's motives.
I do not believe most people use others when they are in love. It's more a matter of a person just doing what they feel is appropriate and sometimes we have to bring things to their attention but I do not feel it's deliberate unless one has entered the relationship with a list of demands/expectations. In that case it isn't what I would consider love. It is merely an arrangement involving sex. | |
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