| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/26/2006 9:33:53 PM | No way! I've dated men who were rich but I soon found out the size of their bank account equals that of their ego and their kink level which was always beyond my level of comfort (I prefer passion over outright kink any day or night of the week). But I've known girls who have and they've been discarded by these men once they "aged." P-U. Only "smart" women would put it into the context of a "business arrangement."  | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/27/2006 6:11:06 AM |
If I was wealthy, I'd keep it a secret from women. That way I'd know if they really liked me for me.
You know...I tend to agree with this line of thinking, whether man or woman. Keep your wealth a secret. I think this is one white lie that would be acceptable to someone you fell in love with. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/27/2006 1:14:05 PM | It's the people who want everyone to think they have money, that usually flash it around.
That is exactly how I feel about men who talk about their sexual prowess. It is so trite to hear a man go on, and on, and on about 'what he can do for you (to you)'. The more he talks about it, the less I believe him. It is really so silly and they have no idea that they are coming across negatively. I'm sure women do the same thing. My experience has been with men. | |
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Tastey
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/27/2006 1:41:26 PM |
adriana, I'm amazed at how unbelievably rude you were to Chantaz. The woman made a statement about her position on the subject and you have the audacity to tell her she would have no chance???? Oh yeah, you also said "I don't wish to be rude" Yes you did. That was your whole intention.
Adriana wasn't rude at all. The woman obviously made a false statement. No intelligent rational person would dispute that. Adriana simply pointed out that her statement was false. Nothing wrong with that. If anything, you are the rude person. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/27/2006 5:21:20 PM | A lot of bragging goes on with women too, about sex. Quite a bit from the some of the women here on POF.
But this thread isn't about sexuality. It's about attraction between the sexes and how we treat eachother, and our predjudices toward eachother.
There are lots of people in loveless relationships and marriages who are not rich.
You don't need money to be miserable. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/28/2006 10:00:13 AM | That's why I think compatibility in the relationship is more important than money.
Many old-money folks drive ancient cars and do what they can to "hide" that status. The flashy ones tend to be the "nouveau riche" (newly rich) and aren't used to having lots of money.
Regardless, I care more about having common interests with someone than his checkbook. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/28/2006 11:09:20 AM | I think depending on where in the country you live the answer may be different---
at times I felt as if I had a [ F.E.M.A. ] logo tattoo on my forehead-
when I first arrived in the south I read some personal ads (no Internet yet)
and the requirements were : Man Must have Car and must have JOB {that was it}
an indication as to what was in the pond at the time and state of the economy -
So when I would meet people in public,,, with a business or three ,, a couple of vehicles
and a vacation place besides a primary house it was like ""white on rice"".. but for the wrong
reason... So in the past there were many gold diggers here in FLORIDA--
I would say as more northerners arrived and as both the cost of living and wages have risen
here the focus on money may have diminished some... | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/28/2006 11:17:52 AM | Wow, I can't believe how long this thread is...
No. I would not be with someone just for money. I get so tired of guys with money telling me how wonderful they are, it's seriously nauseating and turns me off. Security my @$$! Nothing is a guarantee in this world and I would rather live happy, with passion, flat broke, with someone I love than have everything I ever wanted materially and be with someone
I couldn't tolerate being around. That sounds like torture to me. | |
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Ilene
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/28/2006 11:45:21 AM | | No!!! I couldnt. I worked hard for my money and am very proud of the things I buy with it and I can say I have alot of respect of myself I just couldnt marry someone I didnt love just because he is rich I would have to be in love with him. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:03:36 PM | i agree with all of that too ,magic, like i said u gotta tolerate the person get with even if hes rich
but alot of times they dont
going back to the point. any woman out there if they had an opportunity would consider a rich guy a ":great catch" rather than someone who was poor.
a gorgeous woman wont say to thier family and freinds, "wow i got a convenience store clerk!. hes such a great catch! i just so lucky!"
usually, the more attractive a woman gets the more picky she gets becuase she can get anyone she wants so why settle for a bum?
so why not be picky?
take an unattractive woman who is 350 lbs. do u think shes going to be real picky?
nope
its the law of the land
i do agree that women ask men out more often than say 40 yrs ago.
but most of the time,guys ask women out.
in reality, even in this day and age , even after womens liberation, a woman still doesnt need a good career, job, financial stability
she just has to look gorgeous and she will be fine
all she has to do is catch the eye of a rich guy who will take care of her
and thats it. she set for life if she marries him ( without a prenupt)
u take the average gorgeous woman: she walks into a bar/club. she can walk out with just about ANY man if she wanted to( if she threw himself at him) even if the guy is married. even if his wife is there with him sometimes( if he thought he could get away with it) there are exceptions but u get my meaning.
she doesnt have to look clean, dress well, drive a sports car( or a decent car),or have a good career to get a date w
just be beautiful. period
she doesnt have to be smart or charming or witty
just look good
but that doesnt work for a guy
we gotta have to be good looking, look clean, wear the right clothes, we gotta have the right car, say the right things, be charming ,have a good career
, and then, even then IF we are LUCKY, we may walk out of the bar/club with someone decent
the only time that the guy could leave with a financially stable woman herself is if she just is looking for a 1 nighter or a fling,she wouldnt be looking for a long term thing
so usually its the rich man getting with a poor woman
iheres a big double standard too. if a guy is good looking and financially stable. he wouldnt care if a woman was financially stable herself
but
if a woman is financially stable with a career, she wont get with someone who is at least financially stable
so like even after womens lib , and after men for years were taking care of women, now women wont ever return the favor( unless in rare circumstances - maybe she feels sorry for him or something)
all you successful woman out there who are financially secure: let me ask u, if you are pretty would u get with a poor guy even if he was was good looking? i bet the answer would be NO almost everytime ( unless u used him as a boy toy)
see
but a rich guy wouldnt just use a pretty girl as a toy, he could marry her
a well off attractive woman would rarely ever marry a poor guy. EVER.
ive seen it happen too many times
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:21:13 PM | I would NEVER marry for money.
My grandmother always used to say that anyone who married for money earned every penny. Juding from the experiences of some of my friends who married for money and not love - I think the old gal was right. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:21:50 PM |
Now I ask, do you have any female friends who have not had such moral fortitude and married just for money ?
Ahh... I know of two of my friends that have done this and they are absolutely miserable. It's obvious that it's a marriage of convenience only. And unfortunately they are paying the price dearly for it.
I wanted to answer this one before I responded to the original q. Now... to the original q - I won't do that simply because it's morally and ethically WRONG. What is the matter with someone marrying someone for the money when clearly they don't love the person whom they are marrying? Seems like an awlful lot to sacrifice just so you can go shoe shopping. Me - I'd rather be happy in love with someone than their money. Now - ask me about looks... that's a whole different thing. Honestly, I need to feel chemistry for another person and looks are a PART, but not ALL, of that chemistry. Not being vain, just honest. If you aren't attractive, chances are, chemistry isn't going to be there. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/29/2006 10:17:49 PM | sometimes they justify it by telling themselves they can fall in love with a guy but he has to be rich to begin with
that way theres love there but the only reason the women ALLOWED themselves to love the guy in the first place is because one of the criteria she requires is that hes rich.
understand?
instead of loving any guy, rich or poor,. they will only love rich guys
thats how it works
thats how women justify thier actions | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/29/2006 10:28:17 PM | NOOOOOOOOO
material doesnt replace love....unless your greedy. i work hard for my belongings but i wont flaunt it...material doesnt say anything bout who i am as a person.
not what you have or where you go...or what you own for materials....what matters is who beside YOU. <<< isnt that important enough?
what has this world come too. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/29/2006 11:48:28 PM | I think it really depends on what they are looking for in a relationship. If a rich dude is looking for armcandy and a cute bubbly girl wants to be armcandy, then I guess that is a match. And not to be sexest, it certainly works the other way around too - probably more and more these days - that is with a rich woman wanting a boy toy.
I do agree that culture/education/upbringing has alot to do with it though. Although it might be fun for a bit to date someone totally from a different world than the one you are in (as in the movie Pretty Woman), I doubt many of them end up becoming serious. Both parties would at some point have to recognize the differences between them and albeit charming, bridges have to be made. I think that people find it simply easier to communicate when they are from the same world and thus speak the same language.
I am actually quite happy to see that alot of women responded that they would not marry someone for their money. Perhaps some of them would initially be entralled with the idea, but after deep soul searching they find their heart feeling uneasy. Self respect and how you see yourself is truly priceless. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/30/2006 12:03:17 AM | little things in life that matters to me...for i do pretty good on my own with my single income...i had it all before.. the house..cars...trucks..toys..best of everything..he spoiled me all the time...so what....big deal...theyre replaceable and its only materials.....but its not what i wanted... obvisously... for i wouldnt be single today if thats the case..lol.
but lets be real...we all want someone who can fend for themselves as we do...an with a shared income...alot can come out of it for the both to living a comfortable life.
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/30/2006 5:48:56 AM |
Not a chance. I've made it almost 45 years without wealth and I'll go on making it without it.
I'm not interested in marriage, money doesn't make it any more appealing.
^^^^AMEN!!!
I have had an offer from a guy who does very well, to move me out to west, use his cars, live in his house, have my every need and want taken care of including being loved by him, but all of that is no substitute for feeling that love for some someone and I just didn't for him.
I do have a girlfriend who won't even talk to a guy if she finds our he makes less than 70K a year...She's single and has been for a long time and her dream of having children is slipping away the longer she holds fast to such things... | |
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