| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/4/2006 10:34:20 PM | | synical... oh do I heartedly agree on the money doesn't make a guy a controller, the individual man does that. My husband was poor but he could do a good job of controlling the marriage. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/4/2006 10:37:32 PM | | Know the feeling. The man I DID end up marrying had no money, and turned out to be ten times worse than the one WITH money .. he combined abuse with the control. No, money definately has nothing to do with the man, his character is set well before that. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/4/2006 11:09:27 PM | I have been in this position twice.. However, I like them, but I still couldn't do it. The single rich men I know are either paranoid, desperate, living a second childhood or stuck on themselfs.
Honestly... I would just as soon he say I have a good job and I'm a hard worker and leave it at that. If I were a single rich woman I wouldn't tell anyone.
I do know someone who married for money.. they are seperated and she is doing QUITE well.
I'd much rather have something in my heart to take with me when I go. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/4/2006 11:10:41 PM | | synical... my husband also added in abuse(emotional) with the control.It has taken me many years of self imposed not trusting men to realizing in 2005 I was a very lonely lady. I realized I was living a half frozen life and that is when I joined pof. I still have doubts, placed there by rough treatment. I would have to marry a gentle, caring man regardless of income. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 1:46:17 AM |
self imposed not trusting men
Oh does that ever sound familiar. I had emotional walls built higher than the great wall of China ... reinforced in steel, by the way, lol. Noone got inside those walls, they were meant to protect me and keep any emotional pain out. Took awhile to realize I was also keeping a lot of positive things out.
There is always a bright side though ... :) People like us are that much more appreciative when we find a good one :) | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 1:53:32 AM |
You don't love them, you don't even like them much, you don't even like the sex, and frankly you find them insufferable. But they are rich and can provide you with all the money and possesions you could want. They want to marry you, would you do it ? Be Honest !
Heck no! If I was with someone who loved me as much as I loved them, I would live in a cardboard box down by the river; at least for the short term. Money is meaningless if the heart is empty. I don't care if I am rich. Love is more important than money. I have never really been money focused to begin with. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 2:04:05 AM |
I slightly disagree. It's very easy to be pure and moralizing in a sanitized and objective forum such as this. I think, that a lot of people, expecially women, if REALY faced with the choice, in real life, would do it in a hartbeat and not look back. I suffer the same insecurities as every man on earth does. I think I'm about $ 100,000 a year short of being damn good looking ! I want honesty .
I have to disagree. I had the chance to be with a much older and richer man. He was a nice man, but I had no butterflies, no chemistry. I am too much of a romantic to marry for money, and I believe he is much better off as well. He would not be happy in a loveless marriage, even if we were good friends. It would not be enough. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 2:47:46 AM | ^^^
Well, we all have lists. Just add it to the list. We could find the perfect lover/companion but if they're lazy and do not work we wouldn't choose them for a lifelong companion. Or say one's height. Would you date a guy that's 5'1" even if he was the perfect gentleman? | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 3:45:55 AM | If the connection was there, I would in a heartbeat. I might invest in a stepstool however....
Haha! I would just learn to hunch my back a wee bit for kisses. Why not a short guy? I used to really like this pretty fellow who was 4'11. I have dated guys well over 6 feet tall, they have to bend down, why not be willing to bend down a little for a man?
Us shorties need love too ~_* | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 7:39:38 AM | By the way,
The same analogy can be put on men. Most men would rather marry a rich girl as the divorce rate is very high and no guy wants to share his hard eraned wealth. So should we say a guy has a wife earning average income because you had no choice to meet a rich woman? Could be he had a choices ,but there was no sexual chemistry. Or he would rather not marry an old troll.
Also can say a man did'nt marry a model like girl because he had no choice,but is that true? I have broken up with women I initially thought to be knockouts,but after awhile their attitudes turned me off and I knew I could never put up with them if married.
Yet, I have dated cute girls who were the ultimate turn-on because I enjoyed everything about them. The woman I was mostly in love with had a cute face and curvy body. Most would say she was about 10 pounds overweight(but in the right places) t. Some might think I could do better, but to me she was it.. I would take her back in a heartbeat above all of the "perfect" bimbos around.
You marry someone because you can't live without them. Their heart,soul. Because you laugh with them and they make you feel great. Because the sexual chemistry is good and you cannot see yourself with anyone else. But if you marry them for money you will earn every penny because your life is s sentence spending it with someone you don't love,have nothing in common with . and having to have sex with them if you are not sexually attracted. Living hell!!! Those goldiggers must hate Viagra!:) I think it's great payback! | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 7:52:27 AM | I can only speak for myself... and i have been in both relationships.... one having money and i was the one who spoiled him... Im a single mom but like to treat my guy right.... he never bought me a thing... and that was fine with me... im not materialistic... the reason why we broke up is that for a 36 yr old man... he acted like a child.... I wasnt prepared to raise a child at his age. I then dated a guy who had nothing... i treated him exactly the same.... and the relationship was awesome. I chose to seperate from him ... because he had issues in his life that he needed to come to terms with first.
As for the question... Would you marry someone just because they are rich.... Never! Money isnt that important... and besides... its the building of a relationship and love that is most rewarding.
best of luck in your searches.
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 11:33:21 AM | I definately would NOT. I also wouldn't marry a woman just because she has super model looks either. I've met some hot ladies that after I met them and saw what their personality is like, they looked ugly too me afterward.
I have a question for the ladies though, when you say "must be successful in your profiles, does that include being born into wealth or winning the Lottery, things that just happen out of chance rather than hard work?
Also, when did $100K a year become just middle class. I guess my friend who just bought a new $400K house and only makes $50k a year is in poverty then huh. Hell, I make about half that, rent rather than own, and i don't feel like I'm in poverty. I can't buy everything I want or go out to dinner every night, but I'm not suffering. And if I married a woman who made the same as me, we'd probably be able to buy a $400k house too. I dunno, I think there is something about "Equality" and "Partnership" that I like in a relationship, not just one side giving and the other receiving. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 5:04:14 PM | I like what Synical wrote: "Money definitely has nothing to do with the man, his character is set well before that". Character to me is more important.
I do have to admit that some of my interests are things that some people with money would enjoy such as flying, horses, the Hamptons (family down there that I care about), etc. But beyond that character overrules. A person's politics can say alot about values. If a man with money voted a way that goes against everything I believe in, I would not touch him with a ten foot pole, let alone marry the sonovagun! | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 5:07:58 PM | Oh, yeah. Just as easy to fall in love with a rich guy? That can happen. Now if a guy has cash enough to help me to enjoy being with beloved family in the Hamptons, to go boating and do other things we both enjoy, has the shared values, is a gentleman, and honorable, he'd be in like FLYNN!!  | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 5:17:00 PM | I'm saddened by these comments as they are a true reflection
of the world we live in .. I had honestly hoped we had progressed
beyond what someones net worth is...
In other realms WEALTH is measured in very different ways-
as prosperity here on earth does not transend all worlds. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 5:17:23 PM | I disagree 1000%
money and love are on different planes
"you can't buy love"
but as the previous poster said it can for some--
and as expected from some posters....
those woman to me are superficial. materialistic
when some says "" Guy has Cash enough to HELP me enjoy.............................""
why not just say your gonna sell your body---
can you put a price on emotion ?????????????????
a sad reflection of our times.
Question what would happen if a millionaire with a child came knocking on your door??
the truth now! | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 2/5/2006 5:30:37 PM | Flamebait! Press the ignore button folks!
Just a quick note, cash enough does not mean a rich person--the Hamptons have middle class areas too you know! And guess what?? I'd be happy to be in one of those sections so that I could spend time with family.
folks let's just tell bajajohn to lighten up!! I'm poking fun of the the question and some of the comments on here!! How sad for bajajohn he has no sense of humor.
Your remark about the millionaire with the child isn't even worthy of a reply. It's flamebait.
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