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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 7:58:17 AM | Yet, a quick browse through the profiles will find no shortage of women who make no bones about finding a rich man.
OP, yu say this, but then in the same post - this....
Every profile on this site and every singles site on the internet boils down to only one simple statement. Accept me, Like me, Love me, for who I AM. Thats all, a fondness for watersports or hiking in the woods is all purely secondary. Love is just Love, figure out who you love and go with that. Happiness is a choice you make, and cannot be bought with money or aquired through possesions.
First, do the posts seeking 'a rich man' also spell out that the rich man can come with no other credentials - as your original thread post outlines?
And lastly, exactly what do you mean. You seem to equivocate from telling us we are all dishonest about what we seek, insincere in the statements that we wouldn not marry a rich man solely for the money (Anna Nicole aside) to telling us we really are seeking someone to 'accept me, like me, love me - FOR WHO I AM!
I'm confused. Which is it?
And just because I'm not sell my soul to marry a rich man who has silch to offer other than money, would not indicate I'm willing to marry someone who doesn't have a pot to piss in either. I've worked to purchase my own pot; I expect my significant to bring his into the deal as well. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 10:30:14 AM | It gives me great pleasure to see that you have followed this all the way.
And if that poor man who had nothing to give you but himself and his love and acceptance, would you reject him out of hand ?
In my opinion, acceptance is the key. It is the one thing in human life more valuable than life itself. We will gladly starve ourselves, torture ourselves, climb mountains, swim oceans, and sacrifice out lives just to get. To know we are accepted. By our friends, our peers, our country, our society, and by that one person you lay with in the dark.
To hear someone say, " you are mine, you are special to me. " Can you buy these words ? What would you trade for them ?
If they have any meaning they must come for free.
There is nothing intrinsicaly virtuious in poverty, but the pursuit of wealth and material goods is vanity. I have no desire to leave a museum behind me, and let my heirs charge $2.00 a head to let stangers look at all the junk I used to own.
The most valuable thing you have is that which you give away for free. All you really have is that which comes from your heart. You can't sell it, no one can afford it's price. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 10:34:03 AM |
And if that poor man who had nothing to give you but himself and his love and acceptance, would you reject him out of hand ?
He would not get to know me well enough to offer himself, his love and his acceptance to me. Anyone who has lived to be close to my age who has 'nothing' but himself, his love and his acceptance is lacking in a bunch of things - self-responsiblity being very high on the list. And I'll say it until they throw dirt in my face, "I ain't taking no one to raise!" | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 10:47:09 AM | | And did you or did you not marry?? How insane is todays society. True all encompassing love cannot be bought, no matter the price. With as many online sites available today, it is foolish to settle for second best. So my answer to the above question is absolutely not. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 10:54:14 AM | | There is only one reason I want someone to be with me. Because they WANT to be with me. No other excuse will do. Not because of any obligation they think they have, or what ever they think they owe me, or anything they think they can get out of me. They are there because they want to be there, because they like me. That is the only reason I will settle for. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 10:57:34 AM | | I think you are pretty much stating the obvious. So with this thread? Are you attempting to winnow out the undesirables? Waiting to see if some will actually own up to marry 'just for money'? Interesting application process, to be sure. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 11:11:45 AM | I think a lot have already owned up to it. A lot come out and say so undoubtedly.
Oh yes, there are also a lot of men who get rich just for the babes. I know that too.
My purpose in this was as I said before. Do we judge eachother unfairly ? Yes.
As you judge others, so you will be judged.
But also, we all want love so badly, yet we put so many qualifications on that love that we will never get it. Every profile says, I want someone to love me. And also this, this, this, this, and that, and the other thing too. If you think you can stack up, maby I'll answer you back.
All I want is someone who wants to be there, and who wants me to be there, and who I want to be with too. After that everythings easy, we'll entertain ourselves. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 1:21:52 PM | As the situation is described, I'd say no. I already have enough money to buy the things I want; the one thing I can't do is retire from my job. And marrying for money wouldn't get me anything I want, since I'd basically be trading one job for another, that of husband, that I'd like less.
To make the situation more to my liking, say it's a marriage of convenience where we're legally married but with no sex and mostly leading separate lives, and I like the wife okay, even if there's no love or sexual attraction. I'd be allowed to tell people what the situation is, no having to lie or play a role, and I could still have female friends and date them platonically, just not have sex with or marry them. In that case, I'd consider it. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 1:47:48 PM | | ^^^^I believe a Humorectomy has been performed here. My take on Destryridesagain is that she was being cute - tongue-in-cheek. Men probably have no idea how many women have stated just the thing Destry has and laughed, just as she has. Few mean it however. It's akin to selling your soul - and that is priceless. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 1:51:54 PM | | With a name like TallDarkRich, isn't that sorta waving a sign at the golddiggers? If I were wealthy, I would prefer that people on here or any other dating site I would be on didn't know I was wealthy so that I would feel comfortable that the people I meet are interested in me, not how big my wallet was or how bad my health was. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 2:12:59 PM | With a name like TallDarkRich, isn't that sorta waving a sign at the golddiggers?
jim9660 - I've made the same mistake before - not checking a profile. If you check tallDarkRich he's doing a play on words. He is Tall, Dark and 'Rich in flavor - like honey." Kinda cute twist actually and probably does draw in quite a few gold-diggers. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 2:27:55 PM | To answer the original question, after a bazillion bullsh*t jobs, and presently being shunted into a Helpdesk position despite being overqualified, and looking at my paycheck every two weeks, well, let's just say if I had the chance to marry a sugarmomma and retire young ....
.... I might say no, but I'd think about it real hard, first. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 4:54:03 PM | The people that would respond honestly on it ..well..you know..they have the goods/qualities/connections and time to hunt it up, and land them.
They are not online. They don't have to be or have the time to be.
Money or status has NOTHING to do with who's on-line looking for someone. A few really good friends of mine (real life) that are "haves", not "have nots" are here because they meet interesting people and hope to find someone to share it with.
OT: I was proposed to a number of years ago by someone who was very wealthy (new money) that I liked, but didn't love (I don't throw that word around loosely), and it's a very important component when it comes to marriage. Otherwise, it's like selling your soul for a buck. Of course, I didn't and don't regret my decision for one minute.
My first marriage was to someone I didn't love (money wasn't the attraction, either), and it was a miserable existance. I learn from my mistakes. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/12/2006 5:55:40 PM | Nipoleon: you make good sense and straight up too.
Why can't people just be honest with themselves? They think they are pulling the wool over our eyes, but they are just fooling themselves.
Money is a very strong motivator because it opens so many doors and opportunities that a person would/could never get a chance to do in their present financial condition.
Yes, many women make their own money. That's great, really.
So, the other extrinsic(external force) that women seek besides money is looks.
The more money and looks he has, the better for him. Now if he has looks, but not so much money, still not bad odds. Not much looks and money, zero output. The wild card is if he has megabucks, she can probably still live with it. Could be he's not going to be around long, he works 20 hours of the day, or the pre-nup is favourable to her.
Nipoleon, you are putting it delicately. I'm more blunt and to the point. I find sometimes a hammer approach helps sink in reality for those that are in denial. | |
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