| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/15/2006 10:03:55 PM | No. I would much rather make my own money then live off someone elses. I had this girlfriend once that mentioned to her parents that my family had "money". I never gave her permission to disclose my personal wealth to anyone. This was while we were eating...I lost my appetite...
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/16/2006 3:24:03 AM | Nope; not even if he was the nicest guy possible; because U CANT BUY LOVE!!! Love u have to earn and to be cherished; its not about money; its all about feeling that two people have towards each other.  | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/16/2006 5:42:41 PM | | To be brutally honest, I think the reason POF exists is because most people here are trolling for the bigger better fish. Not because they aren't getting laid. However, I'm sure there are exceptions...... | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/16/2006 6:00:55 PM | | I would NOT or could NOT marry someone just because they were rich. Even if I married a rich man, there would have to be a connection in all levels and I would still work (I would skip the overtime though...lol). Can't ever see it happening. I did date a rich man once and his money just intimitaded me. And for the record, garry, I am not trolling for the bigger, better fish, nor am I on here because I am not getting laid either. I am here to find the one perfect fish for me. I may find him here or elsewhere, but I am on a mission. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/16/2006 7:24:53 PM | I certainly wouldn't because I like the challenge of making my own. I would want to work unless I was at home raising the children. Too much money to spend and no responsibility probably wouldn't be good for a person.
It is expensive to have a nice home and pay taxes, renovations, furniture, and savings. There are auto bills, insurance bills, ipod, cell phone bills, internet bills, entertainment, travel, and the list goes on. I think people would like someone who can afford a good lifestyle, and who have other loveable traits beyond their capacity to produce. I am willing to do my part to work hard and build wealth but hopefully the woman will be able to generate enough income to pay for things like clothing, dining out, and travel if these are things she needs. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/16/2006 10:28:48 PM | Nope.....
Even if they were it would be incidental and one of my mandatory requirements would be I sign a prenuptial agreement that I shall be ineligible to claim any of her wealth. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/17/2006 12:17:53 AM | I generally do not consider income in a potential date et cetera .... it doesn't realy matter ... but the person does / conversely .... I have a reasonably healthy income and tend to be around and attract people in the same general bracket ..... I have dated people of both much greater and much lesser means .... and I have never considered either end of the scale to be of importance ..... just the person and their compatability.
There is a saying "If you marry for money, you will pay for every cent of it" ... and I have seen this happen! | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/17/2006 5:06:09 AM | | No, I would not marry a woman just because she was rich. I know this though. Money wont buy you happiness, but it surely will make you comfortable in your misery. Now if she loved sex and had big hooters, have to think about that. I am superficial right down to my bone marrow. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2006 6:31:43 AM | When you are YOUNG, comraderie is what would make
a rich gig appealing. When you are OLD and without
substantial resources in particular lifetime medical
insurance and you have a medical problem, then
MONEY ALONE can be a LEGITIMATE reason. I
mean in this remark there is a CROWN OF HEAVEN
having to do with richness which comes into play
in that scenario.
But here follows the REST OF THE STORY of what
a tangled web we weave in our relationships and
bits and pieces of where I see money popping into
consciousness. There is tons of unconscious money
influence, but I am talking below just the conscious
one of NOT DENYING WHAT YOU ARE UP TO -- AT
LEAST TO YOURSELF.
I think the GRAND EXPERIMENT in money foreplay is
done by the ditzy gorgeous headlights, headliner,
hairdo doodle bug billy the kid type. That is a
calling all car situation -- men flock to her like
flies and the rest of it is unpublishable.
There are 4 foundational reasons for marriage. There are 20 for divorce. There are
5000 for out of marriage relationships.
The 4 biggies are well known, and based on the "great commandment"
in Matthew's gospel:
1. soulmate shared talent
2. heartthrob both want same difficult to obtain state of consciousness
over some love object icon wish it were so type of thing
3. meeting of the minds in a joint or dual quest agenda for
big family dreams perhaps 500 years planned, more like 50
4. hotsy totsy sex and comraderie bullshit based on somebody's
got some money to fund the fun times forever
That was the upside. Here is the potential downside:
Item#4 I'm into fun means they're looking for money and be a "show toy".
Item#3 means they want all the control -- at least behind the scenes --
perhaps via never admit their incredible endurance and
what personality types they are so can bait and switch forever,
i.e. wear down any opposition without people know it happened.
Their secret lives on the side are a backup plan system.
Item#2 means roller coaster existence trying so hard for one
state of consciousness that the others get short shrift. They
never got mysticism and live becomes dullsville without it
plus the new crop of kids work cheaper than they can afford.
Item#1 is I love to travel, do you?
They can talk their way out of anything and into anything and
always have enough ambiguity loopholes so their whimsical
overcommitments never get them into trouble. They skip town
if that is even a remote possibility, with someone else holding
the bag of expenses.
These can be synchonized or boobie trapped with the
notions stabilizing factors of the following. But even though
I number them as matching thus, that may be the totally
incorrect correspondence to be making.
1. yokefellows stick to you sidekicks tonto and the lone ranger.
2 jokefellows life has humor at least and plenty of kinds --
which might turn out to be a better starting state
of counsciousness and fallback when need to regroup
3. complementary roles --but please please use Myers-Briggs
personality to decide who's on top of each item and where blind spots are.
THE KICKER: find out what the blind spots of all advisers are also, or it is
the blind leading the blind
4. parallel lives a lot, alias catch as catch can --i.e. do it
in 30 seconds when he walks in the door or she's about
to put on her makeup -- the intrusion into schedules is
going to happenstance and these folks make a game of it
Of course, item#1 hobbies and interests requires money.
Better hope they told the truth and said which were priority items.
Of couse, item#2 could be going to school in psychology or
psychiatry to get better odds.That costs money. Or read
some self-help book now out of print. The biggie problem
with item#2 is so many things needed for this mountain
top experience business is not well known, pretend it doesn't
exist because it is considered dangerous, or doesn't sell
well so the publishers give up on it quickly. So get a 20 year
old copy of books in print perhaps, or check amazon.com
which includes oldies.
Of course, item#3 if there are hidden agendas for making
money that you don't get clued in on,then they have
hidden resources at divorce time. The hidden stash idea
is OK, but I am talking a BIG SIPHON job or have 2 more
jobs than you know about -- e.g. she's a stockbroker --
anything you can do over the phone is good to go.
Item#4 is the INCONTROVERTIBLE GOLDDIGGER scenario.
I wish they were willing to use my career / hobby counseling
to earn more money, but they just want to spend it. Other
people's money. As in trash everything, spoil spoil spoil,
use once and then throw away anything not glistening,
and collect the dole as preacher / host to fund the party
that never ends.
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The 20 reasons for divorce are plain and simple. Those are 2
different kinds of categories.
PLAIN:
Never learning to appreciate others of the other Myes-Briggs
plus 4 hidden personality types. That is plain stupid if
you are around people a lot and not rich. Eventually as people
mature, they are more than one and we always want the
one they started with with us unless they will negotiate
about the other one, which they don't usually -- it is their
freedom factor too cherished to even discuss. When they
get the 2nd freedom factor they are either a monster or
an angel in disguise. Miracles do happen.
SIMPLE:
We all want to go to heaven and be king of the hill or
at least king for a day -- 1000 years it says. There is a
"crown of heaven" earned to make that happen. There
are 19 of them to pick from . We want to steal other
people's blessings like that sometimes or say we did
all the work for them so should get 51% of the credit.
I am into the spiritual metaphor realm and can see that
there might be some sharing, but some people of the
unconditional love ilk think you should share
EVERYTHING FOREVER WITOUT LIMIT OR ANY
DUE DILIGENCE FACTOR. I call that co-dependent.
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5000 ot of marriage style relationships -- just joshing. I
don't think I could remember enough to remember more
than 5000 ladies names in order to do even the same
relationship. With me about 4 styles of relationship
besides the above are practical, semi-safe, and
mutually beneficial. I wrote down a list of about 30
one time, but that was mostly based on a list of the
kinds of Johns I read about in a prostitute's book.
A published one, I never met the lady.
So which of the 4 reasons is a prostitute going for?
It is item#2 believe it or not. If she has integrity
in clenches. I cannot prove it, but having to
prostitute yourself, you want to be a sexual
surrogate in disguise to do some good for humanity.
Or so I would if I were a woman in dire straits clench.
BOTTOM LINE: romance costs money, it uses stuff
which is expendable the way usually done. who can
afford it forever?
solution: become a candle maker perhaps. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/17/2006 7:31:26 AM | God, Josie - was your intent to kill the thread?
Okay, I'm gonna go for it. Yeah, I'll marry him. Bring on the little 4' 5", 150 pounder, with his comb-over and bad breath. He doesn't like sex anyway so we don't have to play. Ferraridriver says I get to keep all my toys. So I'll just charm the****ns out of the little ugly mug and have him eating out of my hands. (Damn, I love these censors - that was as in Charles
D!ckens! Wouldn't he love to know he was that bad.)
Maybe it could be the sequel to Beauty and the Beast. I'll tame him, break out the whips and chains; probably never experienced them before and so didn't know he didn't know he really liked sex. Get him to get hair transplants and have liposuction then have all the old hangy skin removed so he does look like an emaciated chicken.
Talk him into having his own dental room set up in our mansion and start with the oral hygiene. Get him teeth implants as well. He's got all the money in the world; just need to teach him how to spend it.
We'll take up ball room dancing. I'll get him to buy me the horse ranch I always dreamed of - bring on the Egyptian Arabians! Would need about a ten-car garage to house all my corvettes and, oh yes, Ferrari's in. We'll take year long vacations all over the world in our private jet. And I must have my own personal spa with attendants. Cleopatra, move over Baby.
Yeah, I'll marry him, Ferrari. Where is he? | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/17/2006 7:54:02 AM | So, Bigger Guy, no chance for us then? 
I too, believe in prenups -- I have grocery cart filled to over-flowing with all my worldly possessions. Just way too many priceless treasures collected over the years to lose in a break-up. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2006 8:09:28 AM | ^^^ i've had enough "men"...think i'd like to try the money....couldn't be any worse right...?
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lol << thought i'd better add that to ensure my post is taken in the right context.. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/17/2006 11:04:04 PM | NO NO NO NO NO NO........hmm, let me check ......did I say NO......oh yea I did .......
I would set them up with someone gorgeous and take a commission!!!..... ........ok, just kidding... | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/18/2006 1:20:17 PM | Just another thought:
Someone once said " It's just as esay to fall in love with a rich man as well as a poor man."
Though I feel money should make no difference in a relationship. I don't want to wind up supporting someone else.
My aunt said, " First time I married for love. Second time I married for companionship and financial stability."
I don't think I'll follow this. I still hope to find love. | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/18/2006 3:34:53 PM | | damn if a women offered me that i would definatly marry the chick, hey it's okay im young and have the time... HAHAHAHA, come on guys if a women did that for you and offered you all the big booy toys you're little heart desired, you would do it... i know i would... | |
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Posted: 1/21/2006 5:59:42 PM | I remember many moons ago working as a young carpenter with an older but lovable black man. I had split with my first wife a few years hence and was going out with a few but having a heluva time trying to meet someone I wanted for keeps. I remember telling him one day in frustration of my woeful escapades. He said; "Garry my boy, there comes a time in your life when YOU'VE JUST GOTTA RUN AWAY FROM IT!" The volume he used for the last part of the sentence took me by surprise although it was meant in jest. I can still see the way his eyes bulged as he said it.
I think it's like this for many of us that are older now. Yes, we have some savings and yes, maybe someone might marry us for that reason. But are we not better to live out the remains of our lives as free solitaries for the eventual benefit of our children rather than re-marry and probably get fleeced? | |
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| Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 1/21/2006 6:06:06 PM | | nope...guys with money think they own you, that they can buy you. i know this for a fact. i make my own money. i can support myself. if they have money great, if they don't, great cuz i can still support myself! | |
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