| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 1/15/2006 9:46:55 AM | | Some women are very insecure and want to be better than you past relationships. Personally I couldnt care less about the past women only the present one. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 1/16/2006 10:51:00 AM | | Marathonman, That is a very good post. I believe there are other reasons other than desease, but I can understand how women, and perhaps men too, that have lived a slutty lifestyle would resent the fact that they don't measure up to other peoples standards and don't wish to be judged, just like an ex-con doesn't wish to be judged by his past behavior. And you will notice that it never, or at least seldom, applies the other direction. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 2:30:25 PM | to the OP... there are a lot of things you can tell by how many partners ones had... like the chance of a STD..YOINKS!..
I think women ask this question for a few reasons.. one of them is to see if there special..I think a women wants to be picked out of the crowd.. special, like a flower amongst grass.. they want to be number one, desired, made to feel apreciated. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 3:24:59 PM |
I just want to know how experienced she is.
I don't think the number of people someone has been with tells you their experience. Wouldn't it be more how that person has tried to understand their sexual self. Getting banged over and over again by different partners is no class room for experience. What gives a person experience is their understanding of themselves and how they can meld that self with someone else.
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 3:30:22 PM | Sugar, The reason she want s to know how many women you have been with because is
1. he wants to know how experienced you are
2. he wants to know if you are promiscuious or may have something she doesn't want to catch. Especially if you don't wear a condom. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 7:04:47 PM | | I don't ask. Doesn't matter to me. I'm all for a trained man and I'm all for being the trainer if need be. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 8:21:57 PM | | I told him my number and told him I never never ever wanted to know his. My number wasn't actually any of his business either but I was being nice. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 9:59:19 PM | | I've never asked. Unless it came up. The last guy it came up because I told him that I was more than just some "effin" number. Then we talked about how many he's been with and how many I was with. I have a friend that I asked though. I was curious. And it didn't bother him one bit. The number doesn't matter. If they are experienced, then they can teach you a few things... if they are not, and you are more experienced, then you can teach them a few things. | |
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Tastey
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Joined: 12/3/2005
Msg: 84 | |
| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 10:06:23 PM | | in my experience we use the rule of three. take the girls # and multiply by three and take the guys # and divide by three. that is the answer to this question. remember the past, live in the now and look forward to the future. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 10:09:43 PM | I asked my ex husband this question when we first started dating (a sailor mind u) he said well over a hundred...Ive never asked a man since | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 10:13:10 PM |  they ask cuz they wanna know your sexual prowness (or lack thereof)...
remember the quote by chris rock: "all you gotta do as a man is be good in bed...just knock it out!" lol 
besides...it could possibly mean she herself is more sexually active than her outward appearance may describe...
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Joined: 2/11/2006
Msg: 87 | |
| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/22/2006 10:26:09 PM | #s aren't a big deal to me, but it's pretty much inevitable that it's going to come up at some point. I would rather a guy tell me the truth that he's slept with 1000 women than him tell me a more reasonable #, only to find out later that he's lying...
And speaking of lying.....guys, if a girl tells you shes been with 5 guys, she's lying. She's been with a lot more. 5 is the "magical safe 3" that girls use so that they sound experienced, but not slutty. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 8:45:15 AM | limotheshark - Ha ha ha, this is the exact reason I say never ask. She will only lie about it. BTW, we always triple your number and add 5. LOL Only counting "relationships" eh? LOL We always know there are the "don't count" ones that you've omitted.
The only reason someone asks you this is to cast judgement. Nothing good becomes of it, and really, it only serves to feed insecurities.
If it was someone I was casualy dating, sure whatever, it wouldn't matter to me possibly. If it was someone I had developed true feelings for the frankly, I don't want to know. And if that special somone lied to me about such things well they wouldn't be so dam special anymore would they?
Don't put someone in an awkward position to begin with.
If someone does ask, ponder and mumble to yourself "...mm umhmm m mmm carry the nine....mmmm". | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 8:53:08 AM | | I dont ask because as long as he is with me and loves me now, that's all that matter's. I think I'm in love, sorry I just had to say that. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 8:57:13 AM | | Even if you do ask and get an answer how comfortable with that answer can you be, I mean what are the chances you wer given a truthful one. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 9:11:24 AM | | Right, cause if the number is too low they will think your a liar and if its too high they will think your a slut.......SCREWED either way!! | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 9:21:15 AM | I have never asked a man how many women he has been with. They were before me and if he wanted one of them, he wouldn't be with me. As for me telling how many men I have been with, I think it is much better to keep some things to yourself. No need to try and make the people you were with before your current lover an issue. Who knows .. someday he/she may be a Ex and probably would not like the fact of someone else knowing intimate details about our sex life together. I see no reason to reveal that information to a current Lover. It usually ends up in chaos. and I much perfer 
And I am sure this has already been pointed out, but men are just as quick to ask how many before them. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 11:20:40 AM | | I don't think it's anyone's business as long as you're clean. I once heard someone say "Does it matter now that I'm with you?" and that seemed to calm things down. I know personally I am clean and have never had any STD's or anything foolish like that. I'm careful and I don't just go to bars and pick up guys all the time. But I do WHO I want, and I do WHAT I want, and nobody is gonna tell me I've been with too few/too many. I'm a sexual being...and I LOVE IT! | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 11:26:51 AM | "But it could be she is comparing experience levels between you. It has come up about wether she is "experienced enough for me". Never understood that one!"
Yeah, doesn't really make sense...I could have only been with 3 girls my entire lifetime, but had an overabundant amount of sex while I was with them...does this make me inexperienced...I don't think so!?! Just a thought... | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 11:57:14 AM |
it is a valid question because your past makes you what you are.
Kelley, you are correct; it is a valid question. At some point most gals will say, "You can ask me anything." That's my opening to ask. Then after a couple of follow-up questions, if I think they lied, I wouldn't have a long-term relationship with them because I cannot trust them.
I would consider marrying a young mother with a child that has only been with one or two men. However, if a woman has has sex with more than 5 or 6 guys or if she was easy, I probably wouldn't marry her. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 4:22:27 PM | | I hate that question! past is past, and i would never want to know the answer to that question. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 5:48:18 PM | lippyblonde
I'm a virgin everytime :
Gotta love them Texas girls, good answere,
If i'm ever asked, i say just my ex-wife | |
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