| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 5:54:16 PM | I never ask that question, I don't much care as long as he practiced safe sex then that's really all that matters...
If it's someone I may want to be with always, then all that matters is that I'm the last one not how many were before me... | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 2/23/2006 6:02:19 PM | | Besides, when we to the point of sex, we'er going to know one another well enought for her to know, i would be laying, if i said just my ex, and as old as i'm, why would a Lady ask anyway, so far i'v been divorced 18yrs. and i'm not a Monk... | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/23/2006 11:36:32 PM | | The past is always related to the present and the future. If a woman slept with many in the past, she will probably stay this way, and I would not trust her. Plus, I find most of those who sleep with a lot, have low self esteem anyway, a trait I despise in a woman. A habit is a habit, and an addiction is an addiction. Sorry guys, I DO judge. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/23/2006 11:45:51 PM | if your friend's gf didn't want a man who has been with a lot of women, she should have asked him before she became his gf!
and hellrider that goes for the 'experienced' men too. If they've had many sex partners in the past, they're not gonna change for one woman *shrug* | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/23/2006 11:55:29 PM | I've never really asked that question of a woman. I've had some ask me though. It still takes me unprepared.  I guess I don't really notch my belt so to speak. I answer as best I can. I don't mind. All I know is that I'm as clean as the day I was born and that's the way I'm gonna stay.
A side note here. I don't think that the number of partners is indicative of a good lover. I was with a woman that had only been with one man for 15 years. They were high school sweet hearts. Her only man. That woman was a tiger unleashed. If you really got the anticipation high the girl would start whimpering and couldn't hardly control herself. I miss that woman. Damn what a heart throb that girl was. 
So number of partners means nothing to me. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 12:03:38 AM | Believe it or not ~ I have never asked my men how many women they've been with either sexually or not ~ nor have they ever asked me how many men I've been with.
I don't ask.. because I don't care! The past is the past... and we're living in the present.
As long as he's had enough experience to be of benefit to me.. I don't need to know from whom he got it.. her name... what she looks like... nothing!
Get tested.. do whatever you need to do to put your mind at ease... but for God sakes.. don't ask ~ frankly you don't owe anyone an answer to that question, and you shouldn't expect to receive one either!  | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 12:14:13 AM | | why do so many people have such a hard time with being honest with their partner.. the only reason to not answer is because we are not proud of "the number"..we want to seem perfect but we aren't.. if we aren't honest and open about that then can they pick and choose what they want to be open and honest about..imo | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 12:39:00 AM | Its not a matter of witholding the truth or being dishonest with your partner... or attempting to appear "perfect" or without flaws.
I think its just so senseless to risk opening Pandora's box over something that should remain in the past!
It's just a number.. it means nothing!
People have such a problem leaving well enough alone... they ask too many questions, about things that really have no relevance on the "today"... and then they wonder why they're not happy!
Well... don't ask for answers to a question if you're not prepared to hear something that may change the way you view your partner.. sometimes things like this ~ are best left alone, undisturbed and in the past.. where it belongs.
I don't see how anyone benefits from knowing.. I honestly don't. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 5:09:57 AM | | I certainly DON'T want to know everything about my partner-especially details/#'s etc. Sure-a basic idea that they have had some experience-but not exactly a porn star is great. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 5:20:04 AM | Awww this reminds me of CLERKS... and the sex vs bj argument.
yeah this is never a good question and honestly if a guy or gal has been with 1 or 101 partners that does not mean they are a player... as long as they have not been with multiple partners at the same time or have felt the need to lie about it. I myself answer it with an estimate, (see the top section... and what does constitute sex anyways) and do not ask myself, cause as long as they are desease free the past is the past....
we all have a past and that is the best place for it
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 5:43:34 AM | | Hmm.. a snappy response might be.. "and what was the adult female population of Virginia again".. NOYB in another form. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 8:29:12 AM | I never asked my boyfriend- he told me one night when we were discussing past relationships (well his, I had nothing to contribute to the conversation).
Some people feel that sharing their sexual history clears the air. My boyfriend said that he wanted me to know because he felt that he was keeping a secret.
I never would have asked though- what happened has happened, nothing can be done to change it, so why does it matter? As long as you're happy and healthy, what's the big deal? | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 8:30:59 AM | Guess that the OP's friend got in trouble because of the way he answered it more than the actual answer. | |
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k.kong
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Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 115 | |
| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 8:36:41 AM | If you really want the question to go away, look her straight in the eyes and say "Women? How many women? I could answer the men question, but women?"  | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 8:38:48 AM | | I don't want to know how many women my partner has f.ucked, as long as he is f.ucking only me while we are together, if it doesn't work out, I don't care how many people he effs after either. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 9:09:08 AM | For one of the following reason:
1) They want to put you in a tight spot, such as it being a test or
2) They want to hear that you don't jump into bed with every girl that you had a chance to sleep with. The fewer women you have slept with the more special they feel. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 9:13:26 AM | | I dont think anyone should ask this question.The past is the past.The only thing that matters is if they played "safe". | |
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Joined: 4/10/2005
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 9:28:54 AM | Personally I do ask only to measure their level of experience....I don't want to be with a man who hasn't "sown his wild oats" then cheats on me later.....NOT GOOD!
IF I am asked, I am honest and if they don't like it then it wasn't meant to be.  | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 9:34:52 AM | re msg 116: that question i have asked! its my worst nightmare. not even funny. i don't want to be with any guy that has fukked another guy. yuck. its like being hetereosexual isnt normal anymore? so many people are "open" or "bi".
end of rant.
peace. :) | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 9:35:47 AM | Nice one Kaltes, i agree with you. Also the shock of knowing how many he has slept with could be a passion killer  | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 10:06:01 AM | We ask because we want to know the potential risk for getting an STD. Or at least I did it for that reason. It also helps us to know what to expect when we get you in the sack. For instance if the girl is more experienced, she will know to be more patient and not just think you suck. If it's the other way around we know we should be in for the time of our lives and will of course be expecting it.
I can see why you think no good will come of it, but sometimes a woman just wants to know if you are going to be honest or if you are going to lie to protect her or yourself. That type of thing.
I like when a guy asks me, it lets me know he thinks enough of his body to care. It also shows me that he is interested in me and what I may or not be able to teach him.  | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 10:11:33 AM | I never understood asking either.
I mean, that stuff comes up in convo. in fun.. out of curiosity.
its not such a big deal, you wanna know.. I'll tell you.
but if you feel the need to judge me on my past.. dont bother asking the question if you already know.. that I've slept with more then just you... and its only gonna tick you off.
as long as one is willing to get tests to be safe. Thats really all that matters. | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/24/2006 8:58:45 PM | | Ive noticed something aboutt this questtion though . When asked How many people have you slept with? some people only count intercourse, not oral. just something to keep in mind... | |
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| Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 3/26/2006 6:51:12 AM | so-called bi-sexual is bull*** what you have is a homosexual that dabbles in women for......
a front? | |
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