| | Why can't men focus on the conversation ?Page 7 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | not disputing what ya say, but there's still no need to be rude and stare at her chest when she's looking right at you. Thats just bad manners.
I'm not against looking at a nice set, but manners and discretion can still be used. | |
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/20/2006 1:06:13 PM | Because sometimes women ramble on and on and on and on. And I'll provide an example. I used to work in an office where I was the only man. There were a half dozen women 1 of which was a new mother. A couple were old mothers. Well They had a conversation about baby bottle nipples that went on for 45 minutes. I kid you not. I clocked it. This was the norm having conversations about things that require only a sentence or two of discussion.
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/20/2006 1:48:17 PM |
But wait, to be fair here, don't men do that about cars, women and sports?
Not all men are interested in the same things. Though its likely that a heterosexual man will be interested in women, there are men who have other priorities of interest above sex.
However, the truth is that women only have a problem with a man who is approaches the topic of sex if he isn't desirable to them, or if they are frigid. | |
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Hezron
| | Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 155 | |
| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/20/2006 1:53:14 PM | | For many they are only putting up talking to you in the hopes of getting sex...otherwise they would be out drinking with the boys and having agood time :) | |
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/20/2006 2:15:33 PM | | men focus intently when it sparks their interest. so, if you're hot and speak about football, we're captivated. in every aspect. but, if you're not hot(subjectively speaking) or hot but have enough space in your head to park a hummer, then we will solely focus on innate tendencies... i.e sex, food, fire. | |
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 4:02:08 AM | | Why cant men focus on the conversation?? Assuming you're asking about women's conversations- Do you guys realize the kinda stuff you talk about ? How do yall focus on the conversations yourselves would be a better question | |
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 4:51:51 AM | It could be that the topic of conversation that isn't rubbish to one is rubbish to the other.
Eleanor Roovesevelt explained this well-
Great minds discuss ideas.
Average minds duscuss events.
Small minds discuss people.
And never the twain shall meet.
Find a better match. | |
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 6:39:14 AM |
Because sometimes women ramble on and on and on and on. And I'll provide an example. I used to work in an office where I was the only man. There were a half dozen women 1 of which was a new mother. A couple were old mothers. Well They had a conversation about baby bottle nipples that went on for 45 minutes. I kid you not. I clocked it. This was the norm having conversations about things that require only a sentence or two of discussion.
The only people generally that see women rambling on and on - are men who don't understand women. 
( Broad generalization alert  )
It's again that sexual difference. Men tend to be speaking about facts, and women about emotions. You can try a little test, man or woman. If you are within hearing distance of a couple of people talking, listen to how that differs man/man, and woman/woman a lot of the time.
When a woman asks a question, she already has the answer. The act of asking is intended to get support from other women. That's probably the biggest mistake men make generally with women. A woman asks a man a question, and the man does the analytical thing. He ponders for thirty seconds - and then delivers "the answer" in one sentence. 
End of conversation - neeeeext question please, ladies.
That's how men typically interact, and it's normal and comfortable for us. It's very much like the pattern you see in an action film : problem/solution/problem/solution.....roll credits. Ever want to know why action films are mainly oriented to a male audience ?
Now look at a woman asking a woman the same question. The woman responding will not typically give a one sentence answer, and then fall silent. Her answer might include her experiences ( including her emotions) , and those of others. It will be a much larger and embracing conversation - which is the intent of the question in the first place.
Take that typical " How was your day ? " question.
A man will answer for perhaps thirty seconds... if you are lucky.
A woman will begin with "I got up, had my breakfast early....." and maybe ten minutes later be arriving at the point in time where you asked the question in the first place. 
They are not rambling, we men just do not see that there is a difference in the way both sexes communicate. | |
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coca2
| | Joined: 2/17/2006
Msg: 162 | |
| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 10:36:53 AM | | well, i have been on dates and the guy rambles on and on and on...all about himself....at the end of one date, my g.f. asked me what he did for a living. i had to think...i didn't even know, he talked so much about nothing i had no idea, he sounded like the teacher in charlie brown....waaa waaaa waaa....and my last 2 boyfriends...same thing ..all about them...sometimes even while we were watching a movie or at dinner. all i, m thinking is ..shut up, please just shut up.. i need quiet in my head.....soooo women aren't the only ones who ramble on... | |
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 11:42:07 AM | The best conversations I have ever had have been with a male friend. He has been the only male (so far, and no he is not gay) who actually "paid attention" to what and everything I was saying. And what I mean is that he picked up on nuances like tone inflection, body language, etc. that all communicated something to him, all with a purpose or intent. I truly appreciated this although at times it irked me a bit because I couldn't hide anything from him. :)
But...... he was a guy's guy as well and he somehow always managed to slide the topic of sex into our conversations......specifically his affinity for anal sex!
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coca2
| | Joined: 2/17/2006
Msg: 165 | |
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Hezron
| | Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 166 | |
| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 3:17:34 PM | | I often find it amazing that men and women ever manage to have good conversations. We are segragated from birth and pretty much conditioned in totally different ways and then we are supposed to come together after sexual maturity and have lots of common ground? Duh!!!!! | |
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 9:03:27 PM | The only people generally that see women rambling on and on - are men who don't understand women. ...
When a woman asks a question, she already has the answer. The act of asking is intended to get support from other women. That's probably the biggest mistake men make generally with women. A woman asks a man a question, and the man does the analytical thing. He ponders for thirty seconds - and then delivers "the answer" in one sentence.
Montreal cmon man, serious- im starting to belive those of yall in Canada dont have the same outlook we have down here in the States on topics like this. ^^ Interpret to us, how can this be considered a mistake on men's behalf?? Really now. -- Im not into playing games, and I belive in straightforwardness -- this has become my biggest mistake? How is this always the man's fault- moreso, why are yall beating yourselves up-- or (men at least) trying to appease the women on here? I dont see any problems in communicating from the male/female on this site . In fact, I usually have to check the sn or pic or else I'm assuming the poster is female the way most of yall men answer posts on here. These women come out here and say exactly what they wanna say-- nomatter how harsh it may rub on men--- yet you guys are out here saying exactly what the females wanna hear.. ??? | |
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go99
| | Joined: 12/30/2005
Msg: 170 | |
| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 9:14:11 PM | ....beer, boobies and balls (footballs)...I am sure that any real man.. amen.... will be rapt if you kept the conversation to those topics........  I am a man | |
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Golda
| | Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 171 | |
| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 11:18:57 PM | Of course they know what they are doing...............thats when you cut the date short and say the cable guy is coming to fix your cable.......and leave.
Nite nite dude. | |
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a_vamp
| | Joined: 4/24/2004
Msg: 172 | |
| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/21/2006 11:27:32 PM | Posted By: sunshineface2
Subject: Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Message: I think its so rude when your talking a person about something and they respond with something that has nothing to do with what your talking about. Completely change the subject as though you said nothing.
Um.... maybe they're too busy staring at you?
I also hate it when the guys keep trying to get the conversation towards sex.
Do they even realize they are doing these things?
They do. One doesn't become a beggar (for sympathetic sexual attention) without knowing it... | |
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| Why can't men focus on the conversation ?
Posted: 3/22/2006 5:21:10 AM | Back to the original question:
If this is happening (the rudeness, interruption) - it's simply two things:
The quality of people you are dealing with, and the places the conversations are taking place.
If you want it to stop with the people you are talking about, tell them so.
If it continues after you do and you are offended, leave. | |
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