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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 7:54:23 PM | | The moment you lie, or engage in any obfuscation of an activity with a person other than your partner, in an attempt to keep both relationships.... you are cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 7:57:28 PM | | i haven't read the entire thread as it has gotten long, but i say yes. to me, anytime that you are in a relationship with somebody and do things behind their back, it is cheating. you should be willing to share anything that you say in regards to sex with your s.o. if not, you're hiding...hiding = cheating. this is, unless you and your s.o. have discussed this and have free reign to do this. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 6:17:43 AM | IMO: is being on POF or another site, while in a relationship considered cheating, not if you've hidden your profile, and indicated not single/not looking etc. But , if one is actively shall we label it " shopping " with or without the profile modifications, then I do consider that cheating.
Talk about energy that could have been used better elsewhere.
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 10:37:50 AM |
Well my opinion may be bias but I do think it is cheating. My ex said she was just talking to friends late at night and I am sure that she was at times, however, she ended up leaving me and for some guy she met on the net. The only reason she left was that he had his own business and had more money. The everyone out there, if they are chatting and sharing personal information with others they have already left your relationship and presented themselves as being available.
Typical woman...going after a guy with money | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 1:39:59 PM | Hell no!
Anyone that believes so is just plane silly. ( There is more tho keep reading)
I am involved daily in a role play chat room. I enjoy it greatly, but never would that be anything more than a way to pass the time. I have meet people from that chat...and we've been intimate. But, the role play was just a way to meet, a way to break the ice, something in common................. How in the heck could it be more..... Anything can become more if given the chance.
Is it cheating to read a novel?
Is it cheating to get horny watching a movie?
Is it cheating to look down a girls blouse if given the opportunity?
People are so up-tight about sex................ but leave them behind closed doors and all hell breaks lose.... LOL
I'm not totally sold on the idea that having sex outside a relationship is cheating ( now lieing about it on National TV is a whole different issue). Cheating to me, is giving your love to another without your partners awareness, or permission. Sex to many has nothing to do with loveing that person. To me it is a bonding true, but is that bonding LOVE or friendship .......... Well that is what I have to think about and how I judge my actions.
Now that I have said that ......... Let me say a bit more. If you feel that you are being left out in the cold.......... By all means say so, if you feel he is cheating you out of your time with him......... Then say so ............. If you feel it's cheating .... then in your mind "he is" ......... Do not let it set there and fester .............. If my lady came to me and said...... "I feel 'cheated on' here" .......... Bet your bippy I'd listen! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:10:43 PM | HELL YA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I definitely consider cruising online for cyber or even sending emails an invitation to cheating.. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:24:44 PM | Of course it's cheating. A lot of people seem to operate under the assumtion that if they're online it isn't real or doesn't count. HOWEVER, it does! The internet allows you to make an emotional attachment and I actually find that worse then getting your groove on. Neither is ok, unless agreed upon before hand of course, but to become emotionally involved with someone is worse to me.
In this case he's asking for sexual favours from those he's chatting with, ok not a big emotional connection there *L* but if it was just to get his rocks off, man this is the internet, there's porn everywhere!
As far as I can see, yuck loser, there's the door.
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:33:54 PM | | HELL YES IT'S CHEATING!!! To me any type of sexual contact whether it be physical, verbal or via internet messaging or web cam'ing is cheating. Think of it this way ... do a role reversal and see if you'd mind it then come back and let me know if it's cheating. I have a boyfriend that makes me so completely happy and the only online messaging I do is comment on posts ... that's it and he know's about it as we both met right here on POF. My profile is non-viewable in singles searches just like his is and we clearly have stated we are unavailable in every way shape and form ..... including online sex with other people. So yes in my opinion it still would be considered cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:49:01 PM | | i didn't think it was cheating, but my mind has kind of changed. in my last serious relationship i was alone at home a lot so i would get lonely and talk online. but when my boyfriend found my profile on a dating forum he got reasonably angry. it is a pretty sleazy move and if anything makes you look bored and ungrateful for the relationship. i would never do it again. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 6:53:53 PM | There is a lot of different forums and chat rooms for those who feel the need to communicate on line.
it is highly understandable that a spouse and others would feel that it is wrong. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:52:01 PM | | That definitely is cheating! Don't even question it twice. Cheating is not only sexual/physical but can also be emotional. It's one thing to have female friends if you're a guy and it's platonic, but for him to go online and chat about sexual things while you're up in bed and him needing extra help is pathetic. Drop this guy. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 9:56:03 PM | It most certainly is cheating! What it really means is if they could meet the person they're talking to, they'd go for it behind your back, dear....
Trust me, been there, done that.....he did, I mean....
Went through 8 months of telling myself it really wasn't cheating, but was at his home one day and one of his women called him. I answered the phone! And the jerk asked her if he could call her back!
You and every woman is special, don't let this guy bring you down for fear of being lonely....
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/23/2007 7:10:26 AM | You know what .... After doing some thinking about this I can see everyone's point.
As I have said ...... I enjoy my chat room time, but I know it just "killing time" time, for me. Personally I could not sit there in front of the screen and type away to someone a thousand miles away, if I had a woman in my house that loved me, that simply not my nature.
I do however know some that take it a lot deeper then that, some in fact that can not pay the heating bill but by God they are online 16, 18 hours a day. I also have known several men that take advantage of the lonely via the internet in that they move from one lonely person to the next. Staying only as long as it takes to the woman to wake up and or go broke tending to their needs.
What I have done here is though about how I would feel if I were in a committed relationship and woke up one evening to find my girlfriend/wife online "playing" ...............
We all know that there are times here and there in any long term relationship where one partner is very ready to "play" and the other, for whatever reason, is not & if this only happened here and there over a long stretch of time, I dough it would bother me much. In fact it might even awaken my "playfull" side. We'll just leave that subject alone here .... LOL
But, if this where to happen often ......................
[B]Yep, I'd feel cheated on, big time![/B] & if it did not stop, somebody would be moving out!
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:19:28 AM | | yes its cheating IMO. they are getting into relationships with others even if they dont intend to meet them. Cant understand why its done really other than some people seem to find it addictive - chatting on date sites, moving on to messenger and the sex bit comes as an added bonus to some. Have had few invites to webcam fun lately and think it a bit sick. But guess each to his own or whatever | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:55:20 AM | In my opinion it is cheating, even when ''technically'', i mean there are guys which are always up for something new... so if they message other women regarding sex,
they might more than likely meet up with them... | |
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