smyllz
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Joined: 11/1/2006
Msg: 251 | |
| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:58:13 AM | In my opinion, it's cheating if it's something you wouldn't do while your significant other were present.
Would you hit on someone while they were there?
Would you talk on the phone for hours if they were there?
Would you get intimate, even just online, if they were there? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/23/2007 2:44:05 PM |
IMO: is being on POF or another site, while in a relationship considered cheating, not if you've hidden your profile, and indicated not single/not looking etc. But , if one is actively shall we label it " shopping " with or without the profile modifications, then I do consider that cheating.
I'm the guy that welshgal is concerned about. My profile on here has been set to "not single/not looking" same with CK, I just do some voting there. My lava profile has been set to be hidden from all other users.
Ken | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/23/2007 5:38:16 PM | | Yes its called an emotional affair. Basically anything that takes away from the role you normally have with your S/O, is transferred to another person AND you hide it, is the key sign. Being on POF without the S/O knowing is cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/23/2007 6:47:26 PM | I struck up a conversation with an older lady at the bar last weekend. She was trying to drown her memory of her most recent marriage with alcohol. She had mentioned to me that her ex husband was messing around behind her back and that that previous week had caught the two in the act at a hotel. She further went on to tell me that this all started on the internet through IM'ing.
So IMHO, I think its cheating.
-Jim | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 2/10/2007 6:06:28 AM | once a cheater always one,
i feel.
why then would you be within a relationship, if you need some sort of Buzz Via Online?
Why not just be a single player?
I just do not understand when these taken people say its all in fun and games"
why can they not have these type of games with there other half?
to me it's cheating and very missleading...i could never do anything so Hurtful to someone i loved deeply.
ether way it's very wrong. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 2/11/2007 5:42:21 AM | Absolutely cheating in my opinion. I know there are alot of people who do this and to me that is just wrong you are in a relationship with someone why on earth would it not be cheating? It may not be physically cheating but there are many forms of cheating. This is one of the reasons why people have a hard time trusting, if they are honest with their partner and the other does not mind (to each his own)  | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 2/16/2007 4:17:43 PM | | Yep, absolutely cheating, IMHO. Like others have said in this thread, if it is something you are hiding, then clearly you are being dishonest, which if nothing else, is not a healthy sign itself. But that energy you are directing to someone else is energy taken away from the relationship, and it makes a difference, sometimes in small ways, sometimes in bigger ways. Also, if someone is doing that, it is probably likely that their behaviour will escalate at some point to less 'virtual' pursuits. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 2/16/2007 5:38:51 PM | ''CHEATING!!'' I consider it cheating,crossing the line that shouldn't be crossed.!!Inappropriate
contact with another person outside the relationship.It is unacceptable in real life so why should online be any different? Online,Offline same thing to me in my eyes and book.!! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:06:12 PM | | I really understand the pain of someone ,when their partner leaves them, but I have to disagree with the comment about the typical woman thing. You see there is a different between a pretend woman and a real woman. A real woman wouldnt care if you own a business or have more money. You see, you just happened to have a pretend woman ( Women who dont know how to treat her man ( A good man) and are always out there looking for something better to come along...like someone with more money). These women give the real women a bad wrap. Please dont associate us all with the posers. I'm so sorry you had that kind of experience. I hope you keep searching for the real woman. Shes out there. Thanks for listening. Good luck with your search! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:14:48 PM | | And yes its cheating if you're giving yourself to someone else, no matter how. It doesnt matter if its only online. Why not talk to the other half about whats missing that makes you feel like you need to go cyber. Thats why I feel communication is the foundation for everything we do in our lives. Some of us have forgotten how to use the skill. Also, today some think that the internet fixes everything. If you're angry with your spouse, dont get online and cyber with someone. Work on fixing the issues that are causing the problem or get out of the relationship. If you involve someone else in the middle ( even if its cyber) the relationship is already broken . Good luck! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:27:43 AM | It is human nature to flirt but what is the intensity of these relationships that have developed online?
I think that online chatting can be fine if it is a simple friendly conversation, if you long to get that next email from that person then you are starting to develop an emotional attachment to that person.
Which that isn't good for your relationship because that means you are not focusing truly on the one you are involved with.
Now, for what you are referring to the "helping out" - I would rather have my man watch porn for that than to get help from a person only because if they chat with that person, then do that stuff w/that person, you never know that could be the leader to temptation to have them actually meet in person then in tale it would no longer be just "ONLINE"
So yes, if it is something mischievous and they can't share w/their partner - I think it qualifies as cheating! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:54:58 AM | | some of you womenn crack me up.you guys put up the most stupid stuff .some of you like being treated like crap.but he loves me love is shown not said.talking online is cheating i bet if you check close enough he has cheated on you a bunch of times.but he loves me if thats love you need dr.phil give me a brake i dont feel sorrey for you because you must like being treated like a door met low self asteem what is it its something it cant just e the sex since he is giving it to others can you spell sexually transmitted decease. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 8/9/2008 7:23:20 PM | | My wife did the same thing. She told me she was emailing friends, not emailing a married man she eventually left me for. He divorced his wife and my wife divorced me. They are living together now. Anyway, being intimate online is definitely CHEATING!!! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 8/9/2008 9:21:53 PM | | It certainly is cheating in every way shape and form!!! I for one have ended a relationship over this very thing. Even if you love the other person, it's a breaking of trust issue, and if it happens once will more than likely happen again. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 8/9/2008 9:38:05 PM | If my girlfriend did that I would consider it cheating.
That being said it wouldn't be cheating if your partner is of with it. I think of cheating basically as breaking the rules. Be careful with this those because many of the rules aren't spoken so just because it was never said that it couldn't be done doesn't mean that it isn't a rule. "Ignorance of the law is no excuse" will also most likely apply in this case (unless your partner is really forgiving).
I'd say an easy rule of thumb is that if you would do it in front of your partner it's ok, if you wouldn't it's not. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 8/9/2008 10:04:09 PM | I have heard this on-line line before... "My wife is asleep in the next room and I am horn y..."
Talk about a conversation stopper! It wouldn't matter to me if it was "only" a live-in g/f...a commitment to another person is a commitment. On-line sexual gratification can be had--for some of us, anyway. Nothing wrong with sex at all. But, IMHO, there is something very wrong with cheating on your significant other. I don't even care if the significant other is okay with it because that just signifies some real problems I would never want to get close to...and sex, virtual or otherwise, is getting pretty darn close.
So is it cheating if it's only on-line? Oh, yeah! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 8/9/2008 10:28:11 PM | Cheating, Oh yeah. Without a doubt. In your mind and your heart you were having sex with another person and what takes to the cheating point that you acted on it and created an interaction for it to happen.
Would you have done it if your spouse was sitting right there with you? HMMM! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 9/6/2008 11:16:45 PM | | I think its cheating too. That is a horrible thing to do. How would they feel if they were being done like that? I think that its only a matter of time until the online thing wont be enough and meetings and hookups will start happening. Its like smoking. You start off with a few a day until you have a 4 pack a day habit | |
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Kixxie
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Joined: 1/31/2008
Msg: 270 | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 9/7/2008 3:24:08 AM | Wow... 11 pages of "yeah baby!"
Hitch me to the badwagon - cheating is cheating.
Okay, everyone hold their horses for a second..... Wohhohohhh nelly....
What happened? why do you ask? what was said? Why do you want our predictable validation? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 9/10/2008 1:31:37 AM | ahhhh good lord... cheating by typing that on the computer?????? are you really asking that because you don't know or your just bored and want to ask something??
well let me take it you really don't know...
lets look at it this way and maybe you can see it,,, If lets say your mother calls you from denver and she is really bad sick with the flu and she talks to you for two hours, all the time coughing and hacking into the phone, are you sick the next day from it??
have you ever seen a good looking man of t.v and think wow what a hot guy, and kind of look down between his legs and wonder??
has brad pitt every joined you for drinks and dancing and then later your both laughing away at something you said that was funny, and then he takes you in his arms and you melt into him,, then you wake up cause your husband or boyfriend just farted in his sleep??
come on, thinking about or talking about or writing about things like that is not cheating.
now if you come home and find him in bed with some woman then yeah its time for someone to be moving out.. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:09:53 AM |
if he/she cannot do it in the company of his/hers girlfriend/boyfriend, then it is cheating.
if you have to hide what you are doing, then you should not be doing it.
I agree with mudflower. Well spoken! That's my take on the subject to a tee. Particularly because who knows what some couples constitute to be "cheating". Just because one person thinks a certain way, doesn't mean everyone else does. Don't do anything with a person of the opposite/same sex (preferences depending) you wouldn't do right in front of your current partner. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/21/2008 4:02:44 PM | .
Absolutely, that is cheating. 
Anything you would not do when your partner is standing next to you is cheating. Otherwise, you have a piss-poor relationship. That type of behavior also demonstrates a total lack of respect.
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2008 4:49:42 PM | They real question is, how does it make you feel?
If it doesn't make you feel good in your relationship, then you should confront him on the issue of your satisfaction...not his actions. Live for you.
How long do you intend to feel bad about it or what kind of mind must you develop to accept behavior you don't like. It doesn't sound healthy to excuse the behavior.
Personally, I wouldn't deal with that at all. | |
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