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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/23/2008 12:08:29 PM | | If you let your partner know what you think/feel and they tell you its only chatting with friends..after letting your partner know and it doesn't stop-do it to her, mmm or him.! Then they'll let you know you're cheating on them.. depending on the openness of a relationship will determine if its cheating=how open will let you know just how much of or what kind of relationship you have. I believe its cheating= happy fishing. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/23/2008 12:15:08 PM | | Yes in my opinion- mind is just as powerful as the body....the beauty of a relationship between two people is the intimacy...once that has been shared with others even in mind as an intimate moment...you have broken that bond by sharing yourslf with another. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/23/2008 2:21:01 PM | | Personally, when I was in a relationship and having fun online it was usually because I was missing something at home. I think some of it was the excitement of something/someone new. I don't think it was be acceptable in a relationship now for me. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2008 3:36:57 PM | | I think it's cheating. | |
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spkit
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Joined: 11/11/2008
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Posted: 11/23/2008 4:06:21 PM | | How sad it is that the internet is used for such garbage. Look to brighter pastures and forget the past. He's very insecure about his sexuality so why bother with his crap. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/23/2008 10:23:33 PM | | Well, if you are in a committed relationship, I believe it is. I don't mean to be cynical, but I was married and my hb was not only doing porn, but I found out he was sending ecards to women and letters. We ended up getting a divorce. It hurt me, because it made me feel I wasnt good enough. We were married 4 yrs. I wish you the best of luck. Keep your eyes open and keep your head up, you deserve honesty and open communication, not deception and lies. Boundaries are important. When you think you are in love it is amazing how naive we can be. Love hurts. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/23/2008 11:07:54 PM |
I'm curious to get other peoples opinion on this subject !!!
Is it still cheating if someone you are in a relationship with, is constantly chatting to people of the opposite sex online regarding sex??
How about if they say to these people "my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?"
Is that "technically" cheating or not??
Please....opinions do count !!!
thank you to all those to co-operate !!
I know for me I sure put that in the 'questionable behavior' category. I mean really? You spread around special and it sure isn't special anymore. It's been a while since I ran into a majorly stand-up kind of woman, but ya know when your heart is in the right place I think ya don't mind keeping things on the correct track. If a person is on-line chatting about sex to get their rocks off, sure you are showing a huge disrespect to your current lover. I mean really? If you are gonna do that ya might as well be saying to the direction of your affection...."I choose not to respect ya!" | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 12:31:11 AM | Depends on what you do with the other person online.
Casual conversation... Sure, you're allowed to. Everyone in the world does that.
Flirting and pursuing someone.... You're kind of in shady territory if you ask me.
Cybersex..... This is cheating. This is f--king messing around on your spouse. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:01:46 AM | | You cannot get pregnant or make someone pregnant over the internet so it not cheating. However, if the person has a SO, it may be unwise; especially, if it is harmful to their relationship. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:16:02 AM | | Its definitely cheating,no to ways about it.Any intimate talk to help out,should be done by the partner. I guess only if you are into couple swapping as a joint thing,an its ok by your partner,then you cant really say its cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 9:19:59 AM | | now you know good and well thats cheating.her he has a hottie right in bed and he is emailling other women .not me i would have spent the time with you,and horny all the better dont you think. | |
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Pezra
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Joined: 6/29/2008
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:00:42 PM | I was told by my last boyfriend of 4 years that it was over between us because he just couldnt handle bein in a relationship. After a time of being really hurt I came to terms with it and tried to move on. However, now he has admitted that for the last 18 months of our relationship he was "chattin" online to women. I feel completely humiliated and really hurt. While I was waiting at home hoping he would come round and spend time with me he was busy in his bedroom chattin to whoever!! He discussed our private business with these strangers....he shared fantasies and thought with them that he should've been sharing with me! I feel completely betrayed!
So my answer is ....YES it is cheating. Its hurtful, spiteful and shows a complete lack of respect for me and the relationship as a whole. Something I held precious now seems empty, worthless and a complete lie.
Does any1 think im over reactin???
Its also a dangerous game....he is now with one of these so called ladies that he ws chattin too! I only hope she "chats" while he's in bed!! lol | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 5:47:19 PM | | yes, it's cheating. anytime someone shares something intimate, even getting a "helping hand" from someone else over the net, or telling private things about their relationship, it's cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 5:52:49 PM | why is everyone so quick to assume that it's her bf that's the one doing the cyber sex, it might be crzygrl doin the freak.
i will say this though, if you can't have your mate view what you do over the internet, it's probably cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 6:19:42 PM |
How about if they say to these people "my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?"
Is that "technically" cheating or not??
If all parties are aware of the mutual relationship and happy to share, then it is not cheating but perhaps more just plain lack of self-control and selfishness.
If, on the other hand, the r/l friend and online friend do not know each other, then wouldn't that be classified as deceitfulness? Cheating = disnonesty = sneaky and it's rather inhumane behaviour towards somebody one claims to care for. It's also possible that false promises can be made to the online friend as well, so it's effectively double-cheating if you don't tell both your friends about each other.
Typically it seems, a cheat may use a computer at her workplace to conduct an online relationship, but refrain from posting from home to conceal the identities of the r/l partner and the online partner from each other.
This can be entertaining for all for a limited time, but the end is likely to be a win-lose-lose or else a lose-lose-lose triangle.
Don't play around behind your lover's back, and that includes online romance just the same as real life.
(I know, a bit of a motherhood statement that, sorry folks.  ) | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 8:02:33 PM | "You cannot get pregnant or make someone pregnant over the internet so it not cheating. However, if the person has a SO, it may be unwise; "
Or if said person has BO. Especially a KO BO. Or if she's a HO. Or if she keeps saying NO. Or if the guy is, indeed, GODOT, the LOW BLOW-LOW BROW BRO, a real "GO DOH" SCHMO. So-o-o-o-o..., a one, a two, A DOE , A DOE, A FEMALE, DEAR! With a red NOSE. (That's already two no's!) (By George, she got it! :( | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 8:21:53 PM | yes! yes! yes! yes!yes! yes! yes! What is mine is mine and what is yours is yours!!
IT IS COMPLETELY DISHOHEST AND DECEPTIVE TO YOUR PARTNER
Disrespectful and hurtful  | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 8:41:47 PM |
IT IS COMPLETELY DISHOHEST AND DECEPTIVE TO YOUR PARTNER
Capitalised point taken.
As the online component in such a threesome recently, it was a deterrent when she let it slip out one night, and it took a week to recover for both of us, albeit not entirely IMHO.
How did she manage to keep me online after I found out about her r/l bf?
"Ima leave him anyway! "
"Did you plan on leaving him before or after we met?"
"Umm, aah, err, before!"
"Okay then", I replied in my own lovesick stupidity.
You see, some people have a tendency to avoid loneliness, and seek to move from one worn out relationship to a new one without the expense of having to be single in between. In those circumstances, the Internet provides an excellent means of making your new bed before you have to lie in it, but both times I've been the unwilling usurper of someone else's throne, once for real and most recently online, the karma has been quite reliable.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. The Internet just saves a few dollars on clandestine phone calls and travelling expenses. Please excuse me while I go and have a good cry over the way that going along with someone who wants to cheat on her partner has always come back to get me just the same eventually.
It pays to remember that there is no difference between cyberspace and other aspects of life. It's more convenient for lazy office workers with private cubicles, but just as real and far more well-documented on here, and we ought not be so ignorant of the technology as to take liberties that we would be afraid of in real life. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/26/2008 8:45:09 PM | sure it is cheating. i had that happen to me. i met someone on here, about 7 mos ago. he seemed really nice and we started going out. he called me his girlfriend withing the first month, which was nice to hear. after the second month i found out he was still on pof. i confronted him about it, he got really defensive, told me i had no right. i was really mad, and very upset.
we patched things up, he apologized, i thought he cared about me. i thought we had something important. very recently i find out he pretty much has a profile on every site you can imagine, listed as single and still looking, chatting with women left and right, asking him to call him, sending messages to them.
i guess nothing stops you from doing that, everyone has a pc and access to internet nowadays, but is that really necessary? it just hurts people. i think if you are not happy in a relationship, whether you think you can do better, or whatever, then just says so and then you can whatever you want, chat with women, have sex with them. ..
this is just my opinion. | |
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