| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/26/2008 8:45:09 PM | sure it is cheating. i had that happen to me. i met someone on here, about 7 mos ago. he seemed really nice and we started going out. he called me his girlfriend withing the first month, which was nice to hear. after the second month i found out he was still on pof. i confronted him about it, he got really defensive, told me i had no right. i was really mad, and very upset.
we patched things up, he apologized, i thought he cared about me. i thought we had something important. very recently i find out he pretty much has a profile on every site you can imagine, listed as single and still looking, chatting with women left and right, asking him to call him, sending messages to them.
i guess nothing stops you from doing that, everyone has a pc and access to internet nowadays, but is that really necessary? it just hurts people. i think if you are not happy in a relationship, whether you think you can do better, or whatever, then just says so and then you can whatever you want, chat with women, have sex with them. ..
this is just my opinion. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/26/2008 10:18:08 PM | | Cheating is just that.Either you are single and available or you are unavailable and cheating!If committed then you wait or you get with that significant other.Stop wasting precious time on the computer or phone or in person.Once it comes to those type conversations it is cheating and the person will get caught sooner or later and probably get dumped for someone worth while and monogomous. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2008 12:32:30 AM | hmmm. my first reaction is yes. except that he is telling u...not hiding it from u.
some guys have problem w poronogrphy. the internet is a free trip to a topless bar for some...or a free 1 900 call.
so you have to ask yourself how do you feel about being in a rellationship w someone who calls sex hotlines & visits topless bars?
this behavior signals...the possibility of a man who may have been the victim of adult promicuity...or exposure to sex at an early age.
its not a healthy in a relationship... but if he doesn't think its wrong, and won't go to counseling, and it makes u sick to your stomach... well...your in for a very very rocky road.
when I discovered my SO was into certain things I just could NOT accept...it took a while , but I ended it.I'm at peace not being with him anymore.
Peace of mind goes a long way. find someone who shares your morals.
when guys try that (engaging in sex talk) w me, I say, enjoy yourself...And I close the connection. I will say this, there are a lot of honorable men who were brought up healthy and would luv to find a decent young lady...keep u eyes wide open... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2008 8:21:18 AM | Hmmm well said aquarita..
Is it cheating if they don't think that it is wrong though... I still think it is.. cheating whether your heart or conscience believes it is right or wrong, by definition, it is still cheating..
after all if it's in the heart to be with someone else, regardless the reason(whether they are missing something in the relationship that isn't fulfilling them, or they are being abused in some way shape or form, and they just won't let go), then they are still being unfaithful because they aren't letting go when they aren't in the relationship they want and should leave... it's because they stay that makes this cheating.. not because they are doing it.. because in the end they were going to do it anyway whether you are there or not.. the sad part about it is that they end up dragging you through the mental and emotional damage.. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:45:30 AM | | Of course it's cheating. It's a partner sharing emotions and being intimate with another person of the opposite sex. He or she should be sharing those elements with a partner not someone over the net. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:54:53 AM | Back in the day cheating was a cause for divorce but with todays technology it has allowed cheating without touching.
Dear Bill Gates,
Here my Idea for a new software...
The Cheating Virus...
It sprays ink from the keyboard
and corrupts your comp!
So we all know where you been! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2008 2:00:29 PM | | Yep! If you're genuinely happy with the person you're in a relationship with, there should be no need for this sort of discussion. Just because it's online and not in person doesn't make it any less wrong. If you wouldn't do it in real life why should it make any difference if you do it online? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2008 2:32:41 PM | For one reason or another, when the cat isn't getting fed at home, then It will stray.
Just like it's almost impossible to break up a happy home. when important things are
lacking, in any relationship, there are going to be problems. Then there are those special few, that indeed do have it all, and still aren't satified. Go Figure !  | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2008 2:43:57 PM | | Every couple has their own standard as to what is cheating. Ideally, you should have discussed this before you became exclusive. Anything that crosses the line that you drew together is cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/8/2008 1:20:13 PM | My opionion is .. If your doing it behind your partners back...then yes.
I am married.. and i have been CHATTING ON LINE for over 10 years. I actually met my husband in a LYCOS CHAT ROOM back in 98. I still to this day chat. I love to talk.. and learn about other peoples lives .. cultures.. lifestyles. Hubby knows that i enjoy this and is ok with it. IF HE WERE TO SAY.. Sarah instead of staying up to chat tonight .. why dont you come to bed.. HANDS DOWN im in bed with him.
however.. i feel you can get EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED to people on the net.. EVEN WITHOUT trying. If you are sharing alot of personal info. But as long as ur open and honest with your partner.... it is all good.
To me CHEATING is going out and having sex with someone. Or going out with people of the oposite sex and lying to your partner about it.
there is my 2 cents :)
Sarah in Edmonton | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/8/2008 3:57:17 PM | i dont think its cheating if its only chatting because at the end of the day if ur jus chatting to someone and then going to bed with the person you love or care for and doing to them what you have been talking about then its fine... on the other hand if ur meeting up with someone of the net then thats bad and i wudnt tolerate that in the slightest  but its only chatting and sometimes that could just be a bit of harmless fun xx | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/8/2008 4:49:36 PM | | Absolutely not! The idea is to reach out and learn more about yourself and others. What 'secretly' turns you on and what doesn't. It's not the things you do in life you regret it's the things you don't do. And, for what it's worth who wrote the book of rules? Most people are "condition" to believe and obey the rules they were brought up to believe are true. If you love cyber sex then go for it - keep it your own little secret. You were born to enjoy life and live it not be bound by stupid religiously inspired expectations! Enjoy XXX | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/8/2008 5:38:17 PM | | It's cheating (IMO), if it is something that I won't say or do in front of my mate. In other words, would I be able to send an email to some stranger saying "would you help me out, I'm horny", if my S/O was standing over my shoulder? If you've got to hide it, lie about it, or if it takes time away from the relationship, it's cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/8/2008 6:16:25 PM | That's Fd up in my opinion... Id say borderline... I wouldnt like my somebody doing that... 1. its gross and 2. just go in the shower or something  | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/13/2008 1:15:24 PM | | Its cheating. But at the same time you should be trying to find out why its happening. If he turns to someone online what is missing from his real relationship? If its constantly about sex then that suggests an area of concern, and raises several questions. As for further advice I would need more information about the stuation. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/13/2008 1:25:20 PM | Who pays for the internet?
If he pays for it, it's cheating and he's an idiot.
If you pay for it, it's cheating and you're both idiots.
I'm mainly interested in finding out who's forking out the money to facilitate it. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/17/2008 6:02:50 PM | I think it is. In an explicit relationship, it is implied that anything of a sexual nature is between you and your partner only....and chatting sex online counts as cheating.
In an opne relationship....it's fair game. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/18/2008 11:33:34 PM | The answer to your question is actually dependent on the person, of who their mate or whatever you want to call them, is online chatting up sexually to others.
In my eyes, yeup. That is cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/20/2008 6:18:18 PM | | Men and women..... women and men can talk to each other without it having to be sexual or flirty or whatever like that... If they mention their horny, want you to help them out, flirt, expose themselves on cam, things like that I would concider cheating. | |
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