| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/12/2006 4:33:10 PM | New flash....if you are in a relationship and you are here for example, without telling your partner or possibly denying it...your cheating
There are many forms of cheating....don't kid yourself mmmnicky | |
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Rouxx
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Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 27 | |
| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/12/2006 4:44:20 PM | GONE! BYE-BYE! (NEVER AGAIN) SEE YA!
Doesn't a "real" relationship start in our hearts......move to our heads.......end up out of our mouths? Not sure it's in that order but however it happens....it's one on one. At least in my book.
You go to bed earlier then he? Ummmmmm......I can think of a pretty simple way for him to "get help" for his needs!! And it involves nothing online. | |
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Rouxx
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Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 28 | |
| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/12/2006 4:50:25 PM | Here is a future dictionary term for a combination of "humanity" and "technology":
HUNOLOGY: A discipline in which the "human" is aborted from "humanity" and technology prevails. Became absurdly obvious in the POF forums. Circa 2005/6. | |
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phos
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Joined: 11/27/2005
Msg: 29 | |
| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/12/2006 4:51:03 PM | If you talking about it, no it isn't cheating. If your constantly talking to others about it, then he/she has a problem.
How about if they say to these people "my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?"
Yep, that one is cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/12/2006 8:16:46 PM | It's emotional infidelity, which in my opinion, is a betrayal of the relationship and ones' partner.
emotional infidelity is any relationship outside of the primary relationship that contains three elements; secrecy, sexual desire, emotional intimacy.
This:
"my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?"
may or may not be emotional infidelity but it's certainly immature ( to me) | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/12/2006 10:30:50 PM | | I think what matters most is the motivation behind it, why can the person join the gf/bf in the bedroom and be serviced by his/her partner instead of a stranger over the internet? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/12/2006 11:14:59 PM | crzygrl_79:
Well, it may be disgusting, but it all depends on the situation.
If you or your loved one is out of town on business for like several weeks, going online to get your kicks isn't exactly cheating, if they accually met someone in person and then had sex, then its cheating.
But if they are like asleep, not in the mood, ill or at their moms' house, that is not a good excuse, you should live with it and ignore it.
Just watch a movie with alot of slaughter in it.....always makes me cry, which in turn puts me out of the mood. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/13/2006 3:18:43 AM | yeah, what u said is totally cheating. The cheater u met consider internet/dating online is like his backyard, do whatever he wants. Some poeple r such loser in their real life, or sometimes, they r very nice in real life, but turn out to be lustful on the internet, like they r stress out from work or somethin.
Maybe his gf/wife hasnt really go to bed, or even he has no wife or gf, maybe theres bunch of his friends around & they want a striptease from u. They gonna hav a big laugh & some kind of Paris hilton online face to face.
So becareful! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:25:50 AM | Don't know if it could technically be considered cheating, but it isn't right!
Wouldn't do such thing! However, I would still be posting on the sex forum here  but I wouldn't be asking for sexual favors online! . | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:34:05 AM | | Oh Yes i would consider that cheating , how ever having friendship say at work with people from the opposite sex i wouldnt consider that cheating.There is no need ,whatsoever, to have a spouce come online for anykind of so called "frienship". | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/13/2006 6:18:54 AM | If he's so horny why doesn't he just wake his g/f to "help him out"
Just my opinion...He's looking outside the relationship for sexual gratification...IT'S CHEATING! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/13/2006 6:48:22 AM | I would call it cheating when you are asking someone to " help them out" tacky and a taboo to me .
I 've been married 15 years , I came online ,to meet people ,inrich my life ,and mostly read P.o.F. Frms.
My wife knows and I often share the interesting ones W/ her .They can make great conversation,and some times inlightenment.
So am I a cheater because I'm hear ??
I'm not here to hook up!
I just like to meet people in this format, believe it or not It's fairly new to me .
I'll take feed back , if people think I'm walking a thin line here?  | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 9:38:06 AM | Well this makes me happy to see so many agree! I dated someone fairly local to me that is still on Plenty of Fish, for approximately three months. WHAT A JERK! Given the fact we were intimate during the whole time, I made the mistake of thinking that meant exclusive. We also spent tons of time together, I stayed at his place one week night and we basically spent every weekend together almost. I noticed he was regularly online and in fact, stupid me believed him when I questioned this. yayaya just chatting with friends....
IF YOU ARE DOING THIS, AT LEAST BE HONEST. WHAT'S THE POINT OF LYING?
Sure T**y! For all I know he was doing more than just online, where he had the time I don't know! He played the game! He had introduced me to many, and I was hanging with him, his friends and even co-workers! Why I was doing so is beyond me. Obviously he led me on! Oddly enough, we were working on a renovation at his place and the last time I spent with him, I tried to look up something in his history on the computer to double check out research we had looked up on some electrical. I think he almost lost it! I did see some history but am not that nosey nor judgemental and disregarded it at the time. LOL guess what! He dumped me the following week!
Now that I know all this, I only wish it was I who had the opportunity of dumping him!
Oh well the truth is known and he can hide if he likes.
BEWARE ALL, MANY ON HERE DON'T HAVE A CLUE, JUST LIKE OUTSIDE OF THE BOX (COMPUTER).
After the fat, through a fluke chat and a few forums, I learned what a total A**hole he is! I even had the pleasuree of someone sending me copies of chats!
Beware local women to me, I know there is one snake for sure. Actually perhaps he's a turtle! Guys I am sure this goes both ways, just really puts a damper on the whole experience doesn't it?
PS: If you are the person mentioned above, when I look at the turtle sculpture you game me, I often think of you, I assume that a turtle has no spine and thus the reason to hide that big head under that great big shell. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 10:02:52 AM | IT DEPENDS WHAT YOU ARE UP TO
flirting is fine as long as it's me doing it not him (I trust me but i'd be horribly jealous if he was up to mischief...oh oh double standards Flora! Tut!)
cybersex is OUT for both that is far too close to reality
why would anyone be horny with a partner upstairs???? That is just crazy.
Online chatting does make some people insecure and that is reason enough to stop doing it. If the individual concerned doesn't have a problem with it, fine, if they do, be sensitive and respond accordingly. If i was asked to stop talking to other men I would. I can be pretty emotionally full on so i prefer to have more than one person to think about; that doesn't mean i sleep around. It is a purely selfless act, i just don't want to overwhelm him. I am a much better and happier person for having online contacts. I know they won't impact on my primary love interest so I don't worry. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 10:05:07 AM | Cheating begins inside the mind, not in ones actions.
Besides, would you want to be with someone who really doesn't want to be with you? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 10:29:06 AM | | Being a smartass and wanting to play devil's advocate, I've been trying to think up a way to rationalize and justify it. But I can't...it does seem like cheating if it involves a betrayal of trust and intimacy. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 10:58:46 AM | Betraying intimacy is cheating too. There's nothing wrong with chatting with members of the opposite sex, there's even nothing wrong with a bit of harmless flirting. But having intimate conversations with others behind your partner's back is the emotional equivalent to going out and screwing around behind his/her back. And sice thought generally precede actions, how long will this virtual cheating go on before your bf/gf takes it to the next (physical) level?
On a personal note, I went through this in my marriage. This was one of the reasons my marriage failed (and trust me, there were many). I'm still not sure whether or not she followed through with any physical cheating, but by investing emotions into on-line romances, the emotional infidelity was just as damaging. | |
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Barb69
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Joined: 9/11/2006
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 11:01:57 AM | | yes of course it is cheating, what else could it be, infidelity is the same whether physically or not, id be devastated if i found a partner to be indulging in intimate conversations online with someone else | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 1:20:19 PM | | What makes cheating cheating, (in any form) is intent. Just they way me and my hun see it. It's not the sex that makes it cheating, its the lies. If you feel its wrong and shouldnt do it, then its cheating regardless of what the action is. But once again that's just the way my relationship is, some other peoples opinions differ. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 1:26:51 PM |
How about if they say to these people "my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?"
It's disrespectful, disloyal and dishonest, to say the least, and yes, it is cheating.  | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 1:27:33 PM | | I'd have to agree..it would be cheating. It truly does start in the mind, but it only starts if the one w/ the wandering mind isn't satisfied with what he/she has; is still looking. Sometimes it's difficult to know if the connection is as mutual as we want it to be. That's where communication is so very essential. And just as essential is respect. We're all old enough and been through enough to be honest, aren't we?? | |
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