| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 1:39:28 PM | You are asking the wrong damn stupid question.
The question should be: Why do I tolerate this shyte from someone I am supposed to love?
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 10/12/2006 1:43:40 PM | | Online is quite a broad definition. I go online all the time. Games, forum chat, msn, whatever. During the cold months I have to have something to do. However, I won't talk to women in one on one conversations, or be flirty or any of that stuff that I would do if single and looking. Is it cheating if you do? Technically no, but you are well on the way to opening the door to cheating. So if you are serious about your relationship, avoid the above mentioned interaction. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online?
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:18:54 AM | There are great posts on this thread. Cheating is cheating ... Period. It doesn't matter if it's online or offline.  | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online?
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:41:29 AM | I'll draw from my own experience on this one.
Picture this; I'm happily seeing a guy, have been for 6 months, I start to get the gut feeling that something isnt right, so one day, whilst he's in the shower, devious cow that I am takes a gander at his IM message history.
I see a name I've never heard him mention...hmm this looks a bit suss...open the message history....
I see a conversation which has occurred whilst I was asleep on his bed next to where he's sitting on his computer where he's telling this woman who is ten years his senior, married with children and is a swinger! that he wishes she was in his bed and not me!
I go back a couple of days to a night when he insisted that he didnt want to chat on cam with me coz "he see's me every day"....he was actually already on cam watching her do herself and giving himself a hand job.....
Is this cheating?....HELL YES! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online?
Posted: 11/22/2006 5:10:46 AM | | Cheating is cheating, and it is wrong - maybe it is not physical yet, but emotionally that person is not being faithful - or honest! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 5:18:41 AM | | cheating to me is anything that has to be done secretly. wether its \holding hands, or flirting with a coworwker. if he does not feel it being wrong, then he would not have to feel guilty and hide it. so depending on the couple and expectations, cheating has different bounderies. just make sure you tell him yours so he knows what is considered cheating to you... he may have come from a relationship that was more open, and doesn't think anything wronfg with it... but if he u\is sneaking around and lying, then he knows he is doing something wrong...which means chaeting | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 6:04:15 AM | Well its sure is not being faithful, seems like a need is not being filled, and who knows it may never be filled. Talk with him , seek help if he will go , but be sure and keep your guard up other things may be happening.
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 10:01:41 AM | The obvious answer to this question is a profound: "YES"!
Honestly! Cheaters are like "spoiled brats" who want it all right now! | |
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ear123
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Joined: 11/9/2006
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 10:07:59 AM | | Definetly cheating. Creating an intimate connection with another instead of your lover is cheating no matter how it's done. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 10:32:02 AM | If you know that your partner would feel that it was a betrayal of them, then it is.
Everyone defines this differently and you should discuss it properly so that you know what their feelings are on the subject and don't betray them inadvertantly (or vice versa). | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 11:15:44 AM | In one way theres nothing wrong with your b/f, loved one talking toothers on the net.
A man is not a prisoner afterall, some things never change.
Is it cheating or not, I would say no, if he just talks to other women, yet when the conversation turns of a sexual nature I would watch out myself aswell.
Its quite a hard question to answer, depends on how well one understands the other i guess.
From the moment theres no actual meeting taking place i would just see it as chatting. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 12:17:01 PM | | Its cheating if it contravenes a mutual agreed exclusivity. If you haven't had that convo yet, then its not cheating. Simple | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 12:23:34 PM | you have to know the people he chats with and have an open line to the message archives.......know his password....and check often.....now do you really want to extend all that energy, when it could be extened in more positive ways....... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 12:42:10 PM | I would look at it 2 ways...
I *do* have some friends I've made over the years that I've either met online, or have moved away, some male, and yes, some female. I have one I know in TN, haven't seen her online in probably over a year, I'll probably email her an xmas card and ask how her and her hubby and kid are (yup, married). A couple that are single w/ BF's, one thats single w/o a BF but 3000 miles away (friend of a friend, never met in person). Most of them have been on my IM buddy list for 3+ years, and there's no "romantic" interest whatsoever, they're just friends. If a woman wanted to accuse me of "cheating" for chatting with a female friend I've known for years, online, once every couple of months maybe just to say hi and catch up with, thats *her* problem. There's even an ex-GF I chat with, once in a blue moon (maybe once a year), and I'll ask her how the kids (she has 2 kids) are doing, etc. We're not "best friends" or any romantic interest, just nice to catch up for 30 mins maybe and see how each other are doing.
On the flip side, yes, if I was dating someone who was *actively looking* to meet other people online, not established long term non-romantic-interest friends, and it was obviously a frequent thing (every night, or almost every night) that could be a problem.
(oh yeah, my IM logs everything, she would be welcome to browse my IM logs, I have nothing to hide... which to me is the most important thing, if your partner is hiding something from you, there's a reason for that). | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 1:04:32 PM | it's easy.. it's not LITERALLY cheating but it IS emotional cheating
if you're going elsewhere for something that your partner isn't giving you and they don't know about it.. it's cheating
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 1:17:35 PM | | Cheating is cheating...whether it be online or person to person. I think it is not only a physical action but also an emotional one. When you are engaging in an intimate sexual conversation with someone other than your significant other you are doing something behind their back, something that you are probably hiding from them. I would not put up with someone going online behind my back and "emotionally" cheating on me. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 3:57:23 PM | If a partner doesn't know how there partner feels about something like that.
What does that mean, in my mind not much of a relationship.
If they do know and are acting this kinda behavior out behind there back, what does that mean? Again in my mind this person is not in the relationship.
It doesn't make sense to be in a relationship of any kind unless you know the person. A more intimate relationship would require you know the person intimately. so this kinda question shouldn't even come up. If it does, then the proper ground work that will create the space for a loving relationship hasn't been established.
I won't judge the behavior of of this person, but would question if they are ready to be in a relationship. what do they say, different strokes for different folks? this one is very different then i understand.
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chasey
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Joined: 8/24/2006
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 3:57:24 PM | | Yes it's cheating. Period. If you have a loving partnership, no one should be on line looking at either singles ads OR porn stuff. I know of a lot of people whose marriages etc. ended because the other found someone on line, even in a chat room. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:34:08 PM | | Flip the tables for a second... you will quickly learn weather its defined as cheating or not, its not very considerate to your bf/gf, and if they were to do that to you, even if they had no intention on actually physically doing anything, or taking it further than just online, there is no question it would bother you.... do onto those as you would want done onto you.... Karma. Don't get all caught up in definitions and words, think about the gut emotions that it creates... the heart speaks extreme honesty. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:39:59 PM | WTF-----!!!!!!!!!
Anything crossing that intimate barrier is cheating-- sorry Even if they have no intention of ever meeting and doing anything it is still crossing the line.
Damn I would never do that to someone I was invloved with so I wouldn't appreciate someone doing it to me. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:43:45 PM |
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
ABSOLUTELY ! It's called "emotional cheating"" !! If he's doing the on-line chat thing, it shows he has no consideration for your feelings and it's clearly an invitation for meeting in person for more than just chatting !! | |
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