| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:44:20 PM | I dont think its really cheating till some kind of physical thing takes place
But definatley a line is being crossed that could cause stress in the relationship.
slightly off topic but
i dont know if i would feel 100% secure in a relationship with a guy i met online that still talked to single women online
i know i have had my experiences where a guy on my msn has met someone and the flirting continues, if i were the new gf id be like damn | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:50:44 PM | Even though it's not "cheating" in the legal sense, it would certainly be too tacky for me to ever deal with.
I'd kick the bum out so fast his head would spin. Then he could play online games all he wanted. LOL. | |
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Coeur7
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Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 78 | |
| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:51:37 PM | | Well how about this: how would YOU feel if your significant other was flirting with other women online...getting off etc....? I sure as hell wouldn't like the idea. Actually I know I wouldn't be in that type of relationship to begin with. If "you" are...then something is wrong. | |
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Maxhal
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Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 79 | |
| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:55:36 PM | Okay now what if he lives in Canada, and he is flirting on line with someone in South America, someone who he has no chance of ever running into it. Okay more than flirting, but still no chance of ever meeting.
Okay now what if your girlfriend likes to have fantasies about other men , or what if both of you like to role play in your intimate activities and pretend that you are someone else. What if when your girlfriend , or boyfriend , is away , and you like to fantasize and get off while looking at pictures in a playboy, playgirl, reading romantic novels, or penthouse letters.
Is this all cheating? Probably none of it is done out in the open , I doubt that your partner is telling you whether he/she does this while your gone.
I agree that it is not a good idea to do this in a relationship, but the only time it is really bad for the relationship is when your partner finds out that this is how you think. You gotta do what ya gotta do to get you through life, and as long as you have a mature attitude that your only doing this to get you through the next half hour or so, I don't think it's cheating.
When it's constant, when it's addictive, when it's interfering in the relationship, then it's time to take action. or if you find out, you feel disrespected, angry, you talk about it, and it continues, then it would be over for me. In my mind your not cheating until two warm bodies, other than your own, are touching in a too familiar way. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 5:03:00 PM | I think once you have taken the intimacy out of your bedroom , and shared it with another,(without the others knowledge) then thats cheating.
If they are hiding it from you (hmmm) i consider that cheating.
If he involves me and gives me a choice (thats different)
then again if he knows how i feel and does it anyway its cheating.
Mine is kicked to the curb, he lost me. and everything we had together. Was it worth it.
I guess only he can answer that | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 6:00:38 PM | Yes;of course it's cheating,most may think that
it's only the men on here that are the cheats.
I have gotten to know many woman on this
site who will tell you they are not happy, and
that they would not be online if they were,but
how can they be happy or anyone else for that
matter who tries to take the easy way out. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 6:33:20 PM | | i would personally consider it cheating. saying it face to face or online still indicates hes interested in this other person. i mean how many people do you know thats going to say something sexual to someone they dont like? or have no intrest in. this kind of behavior results in marrage failure, relationship failure, and im sure many other sorts. if he cant get online and talk to a friend without asking them for there "help" then he obviously dont think you are doing for him what he needs to be done for him, and his action is to get online and find better, and if hes saying this to someone else, then whos to say he hasnt already told her hes single, looking, and wants her, to get from her what hes not getting elsewhere, so yeah, to sum it all up, i think honestly, its cheating, i wouldnt want to be with someone who had to go to someone else to get there rocks off. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 6:50:45 PM | | I would definitely consider it cheating. Certainly, you'd be exchanging fantasies, but when people other than your partner are helping you to indulge in those fantasies, there's a major problem. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/22/2006 7:27:51 PM | Oh, it's cheating. Some people may not consider it so if sex isn't involved, but it is cheating because they're going outside of the relationship to meet something that they should be going to their partner for. It's also something they hide from you, which wouldn't be the case if there was nothing to hide and they could do this in front of you.
Here's a quiz to take on your very question:
http://www.shirleyglass.com/quizonline.php | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online?
Posted: 11/27/2006 5:43:22 AM | | That's not just cheating! That's an ***hole. Hope you dumped him. There are plenty of guys out there better. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 5:56:28 AM | | yes i believe it is cheating,because they obviously will more then likely have the intensions of meeting up with them etc or something and it is behind your back i take it as a yes | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 6:25:04 AM | | I think of it as cheating if they say it with real possibly acting intentions behind it, but if its just out of friendly flirting between friends then I don't see it as cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 10:18:03 AM | | oh definitely ..yes its cheating at a 100%.....the father of my daughter was always doing tht and even hiding it.....till i caught him...or telling me he was going to bed and oopppsss he is online witht th chicks....i just felt there was no respect...and specially do you think they tell they ahve a g/f no they dont.....or most of the girl wouldnt chat with themm...and specially online they lied so much.....other ppl dont really no what is going on in the real life....so i called tht cheating....and yeah next they ended up to meet and bla bla....so for me if my boyfriends does tht it is cheating....at a 100% | |
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Efab
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Joined: 11/15/2006
Msg: 91 | |
| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 10:53:31 AM | Nah, I dont think it's cheating,
just think of it like interactive porn.
Are you curious because your partner is doing it or you want to do it to your partner?!!
If its regarding your partner I'd probably draw the line if you are finding a smeared screen or sticky keys after such events the following morning! esp if its your comp he's using!
But on a plus it is free and not ringing up a massive phone bill through 0898 no's!!!!! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:04:14 AM | Cheating to me doesn't require physical~touching...to be concidered so..Cheating begins WHEN you entertain the thought of being with someone eles..other than your partner..SOO.. YES!!..Cyber~Sexing...is DEFINITELY..in that catergory.. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:27:42 AM | | um yes that is most definitly cheating!!!!complete lack of respect.i think you knew the answer to this you just wanted reassurance that you werent doing anything wqrong.well you aint gonna get it from me! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:31:28 AM | | Yes it's definitely cheating, my ex did this to me although he denied it. I agree also that once they do this and are sharing personal information with someone on the net they have already left the relationship. Wonder how these peeps would feel though if they had it done back to them, would it bother them? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:35:25 AM | OP, let's put it this way, if you are involved in any activity whatsoever, and upon finding out about it, you have to say to your SO the following:
"Honey, it's not what you think!"
Chances are pretty good it's either cheating, or something inherently worse. Nuff said.
Have fun ;)! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:35:28 AM | Nothing is cheating, unless it's physical, period.
Otherwise, you get into psycho beliefs of any "friendship" between members of the opposite sex being "emotional affairs" and I refuse to live in the world bound by such ridiculous rules. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:46:15 AM |
Nothing is cheating, unless it's physical, period. so your GF could strip naked and have cam sex with every tom****and harry accross the world nigtly and you would be cool with that? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:54:30 AM | In regards to this I agree in many ways with most of it. Sites like this sometimes provide a
distraction to the actual relationship and can cause hard feelings. It is deceitful and can be harmful whether a person is sensitive or not.
Here are my examples: met a guy here about six months ago, moved six HUNDRED miles to be closer and get to know each other better. My mistake.....
Should have acknowledged the red flags when in online chatting he said he had
to **** someone before meeting me so it wouldn't be a disaster. I liked him though thought he was interesting and convinced myself that I misunderstood the context of the conversation. Rude or premeditated cheating? In retrospect it's really, really sick.
Then when we first hooked up (before I moved) he had the nerve to
look at the clock and announce the amount of time that we were sexual....bragged about
a six hour **** that he previously had. Guess I missed the cue.
Cheating, Betrayal, Deception..........we went on a trip to the city where he lived...I watched him check out fifteen or so women right in front of me..... he also looked drooley
when at a friend's house and a woman friend of a friend was there. He prefers woman of a race different from mine and isn't shy about talking it. I asked him several times if I was
a problem for him ..... he said no but now I know he lied.
Next after living together for a few months I became pregnant...we both wanted children..
next heartbreak was that he announced that he wished that our baby would be 'black'
African or Afro-American, which neither of us is. I was devastated and couldn't stop crying
for 24 hours. He Would have been nice if he had been a man about it and said something like
"Look we can ****, but no family". We're not exactly young and it would have been easily
preventable to not become pregnant.....now I'm carrying a baby of an unpreferred race.
I weep for this poor unborn baby.
Throughout the time we've been together (and I get to the point) he constantly surfs this
site and votes for his favorites ....which for the most part are women of color. When I found
out he was still doing this when I was pregnant....I realized that it upset me so much
and caused so much stress on my body that I thought I was going to miscarry the baby. I
tried to have a conversation with him about it, but
he simultaneously lied and acknowledged it and it sounded like he might have the maturity,
decency and respect for me to stop.
The worst is that I'm now farther along in the pregnancy and discovered that his two
alteregos (yup, he has two different profiles) are still voting for women, one
even called herself 'wet and juicy' (her profile mysteriously disappeared between yesterday and today). I discovered this yesterday and became so uncontrolably
upset that I could barely breath and could not stop my tears. Today would have been my ultra-sound but I cancelled because I was an emotional wreck...and I wanted it to be a
happy event.
Now I'm stuck in a sitaution with a guy who doesn't respect me at all....
Now I have no respect for him either, and I anticipate and have suspected that he has or may
screw other women. It's a very sad situation and he's definately not the guy that he claims to be. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 11:56:34 AM | | Cheating begins as soon as you develop feelings for someone else while your currentily involved in a relationship. Its a betrayl of trust, leaving yourself open to new oppertunities. If your looking or testing the waters your cheating, hence cheating, bending the rules to get what you need. | |
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