| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 12:16:14 PM | | Yes it's cheating! You shouldn't have to define it, it should be something from the heart and if my guy were to do those things, I wouldn't want to be with him because it's a form of lying, cheating and basically being unfaithful; not to mention if he were doing those things, then obviously something is lacking in our relationship. Ciao ~ Gina | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 12:46:16 PM | Well, I consider all of that cybersex pretty lame, so i'll say that I didn't consider that as a possibility.
FINE, that's the one exception, since it's pretty much the same as mutual masturbation, really. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 12:47:17 PM |
Cheating begins as soon as you develop feelings for someone else while your currentily involved in a relationship. Its a betrayl of trust, leaving yourself open to new oppertunities. If your looking or testing the waters your cheating, hence cheating, bending the rules to get what you need.
No, cheating is acting on those feelings.
People cannot choose what feelings develop. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 1:47:13 PM | | it is so cheating, your betraying your partner emostionaly, and if your married then your commiting adultury, it is such a sinful act if i ever saw one. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 1:48:53 PM |
People cannot choose what feelings develop
Yeah I heard this is what Ted Bundy thought as well. Please for the love of God tell me you are not serious, or in the least would like to rephrase that....ALOT!
Have fun ;)!
PS: So I am curious, to rephrase a previous poster's question; if your G/F strips for um..my "friend" on a webcam but neither of them touches themselves, you are cool with that right? | |
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tigi
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 1:58:44 PM | Yes, it most definitely is cheating. There's no "technically" about it.
I would never do it, and I would not tolerate someone else doing it if they were in a relationship with me.
I totally agree with the comment above about would they do it in front of you - a good test of conscience if ever you needed one. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 2:04:41 PM |
People cannot choose what feelings develop
Yeah I heard this is what Ted Bundy thought as well. Please for the love of God tell me you are not serious, or in the least would like to rephrase that....ALOT!
Have fun ;)!
Seriously, how bright are you?
I mean, what would a serial killer have in common with anything there, other than a weak attempt at discreditation?
Look, i'd like one person here to tell me how they've "chosen" to fall for anyone.
Please, let's hear how you found someone and created your feelings out of thin air, instead of your body choosing it for you.
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 2:06:25 PM | | its cheating full stop take it as a warning get out of there and find a real man u deserve better and should demand it good luck hun x | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 2:20:41 PM | | We all have Bill Flaming Clinton to blame for this confusion....IF IT IS SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR THEN IT IS CHEATING.....looking at porn is a solitary activity ...talking to someone on-line is engaging another in sexual behaviour .....as well as what if things suddenly go poof...I think that I am in love ..this happened recently with my lover and I that it is why it is over....as I explained to the woman that emailed her ta-ta photo's to my now ex....it IS SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR AND THAT MAKES IT CHEATING......this woman called me crazy, dramatic and said I was overreacting.....I told her that sending someone a dirty photo when they have not seen your face is dramatic....as well as, within a few hours of conversation she was going tofly to Nova Scotia FROM flaming minnesota ...that is a dramatic overreaction (hope she can read this)...sexual behaviour creates a FALSE SENSE of intimacy and makes proplr think that they know one another.........knowing is based on KNOWLEDGE...and to all those straight guys out there.....lemme ask ya this?????????? HOW DO YA KNOW IT'S A WOMAN??? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 2:31:45 PM | [QUOTE]I'm curious to get other peoples opinion on this subject !!!
Is it still cheating if someone you are in a relationship with, is constantly chatting to people of the opposite sex online regarding sex??
How about if they say to these people "my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?"
Is that "technically" cheating or not??
Please....opinions do count !!!
thank you to all those to co-operate !![/QUOTE]
You know, I completely breezed over the details in this.
I'd still say it's not technically "cheating" but it's sad and pathetic. 
If you must know, my opinion is backgrounded in another forum like this (with more guys than girls) of which a guy in there yelled over and over again that ANY friendship with a woman when you are in a relationship is an "emotional affair" which I thought was completely psycho. He kept on saying how "that's where it all starts" - and obviously I have female friends I have no interest in, so I had to debate it. Not to mention, such a thing says he has zero self-discipline and is just a horndog who can't deny any woman in front of him.
Besides, what sort of people do this internet stuff, anyway?
I rarely meet people off the internet (I think i've done it 5 or 6 times in my life, of which 90% of them had no chemistry at all), so all of these concepts of "online relationships" and cyber-whatever, just seem like a big waste of time, to me.
I mean, what's the point of having a relationship if you can't be with them? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 3:04:52 PM | Yeah, that's cheating. If you feel that you have to hide it from your partner, it's cheating.
If you wouldn't like your partner doing that to you, it's cheating.
""my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?" - Honestly, what kind of loser gets off of "dirty chat" from the computer???
I can't believe there are people like that.... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 3:05:11 PM | Yeah, that's cheating. If you feel that you have to hide it from your partner, it's cheating.
If you wouldn't like your partner doing that to you, it's cheating.
""my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?" - Honestly, what kind of loser gets off of "dirty chat" from the computer???
I can't believe there are people like that.... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 3:06:02 PM | Yeah, that's cheating. If you feel that you have to hide it from your partner, it's cheating.
If you wouldn't like your partner doing that to you, it's cheating.
""my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?" - Honestly, what kind of loser gets off of "dirty chat" from the computer??? I can't believe there are people like that....
Oh well, if there are people like that, they need help, and a new keyboard! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 3:07:22 PM | Yeah, that's cheating. If you feel that you have to hide it from your partner, it's cheating.
If you wouldn't like your partner doing that to you, it's cheating.
""my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?" - Honestly, what kind of loser gets off of "dirty chat" from the computer??? I can't believe there are people like that....
Oh well, if there are people like that, they need help, and a new keyboard! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 4:59:10 PM |
Seriously, how bright are you?
Pretty damn bright, but that isn't the point now is it?
I mean, what would a serial killer have in common with anything there, other than a weak attempt at discreditation?
The fact that you fail to make the connection is not my issue. The concept you put forth, that we cannot control what we feel, and thus obviously what we do, is exactly the same premise that is used to try and get Serial Killers off the hook all the time. They simply cannot help who they chose to butcher, its must be beyond their control. Or as you suggest now, perhaps a physical thing, whtever that means.
Look, i'd like one person here to tell me how they've "chosen" to fall for anyone.
Please, let's hear how you found someone and created your feelings out of thin air, instead of your body choosing it for you.
Unlike you, my apparently well meaning, albeit misguided young friend, I am not led around by my c*ck, and it doesn't make my decisions for me. If you are led around by yours, and so forth, therein perhaps lies your problem. Feelings are an emotional, and hence a mental state, expressed through both verbal and non verbal physical means. I can just as easily select who I have feelings for as I can select who I dont have feelings for. I make those choices, not my one eyed friend.
"Feelings" are not created out of "thin air", nor are they determined by the level of testosterone or endorphins that course through my body instructing my pr*ck to rise or fall. They are emotions that grow and/or decline as one discovers both the physical and mental aspects of another person and their likely desireability.
The bottom line is this, if you are engaging in behavior that someone special to you would find offensive or cause loss of trust, then more than likely you are cheating, whether it is hands on or hands off behavior. If you have to hide it, it can't be all that well meaning can it? Nuff said.
Have fun ;)! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/27/2006 10:32:15 PM | | Yes would you feel differently if it was someone they were talking to inperson in the same manner? wny should it be differnt if they are only online? cheating dump him spare yourself of the missery. you look nice you dont need to be tied down to this. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/30/2006 9:37:07 AM | | Well lets put it this way, when it happens to you it feels like he cheated and hurts. Heck he might as well of.The trust and respect is gone. I caught my man last week, with a ton of photos from a girl (shes married also) and I feel very hurt. I thought we were okay, I mean we had great sex, we talk, communicate, but obviously something is missing for him to do this. They were very detailed photos. I do not mind him looking at porn, or pictures, but I do feel this was crossing the line. I think chatting will lead to photos, and photos could lead to meeting the person. It would be okay if both of you were aware and willing to do this. However, if one is kept in the dark, its not fair. So, I do feel it is cheating in some level. | |
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