| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:48:11 AM | i totally agree that it is cheating... i had it done to me... my husband started chatting to a woman online and got her number and everything.. i found out one day as i found a text message on his phone, i took the number down ( which was under a mans name on his phone, so he was trying to hide it from me) and after he went to work i rang her and asked who she was, she told me everything, he had told her that he was single and that he was planning to go and see her.
When i confronted him he said it was someone tryin to wind me up. And still to this day is still denyin it even though i have the proof. The most funny thing about this is after i confronted him and told him to get out of my life... he texted and phoned the woman in question and was declaring undyin love... (she was nice enough to send me some of the texts that he sent her...)
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/16/2006 12:01:26 PM | I have been reading thru all of the responses to this because I am wondering about something myself.
What are the "rules" about deleting your profile on here when you meet someone..??Should you be doing that so you can focus on them and they know you are interested ........What if they don't take theirs off and are still on line..profile still active???
Being the honest trustworthy person I am ...I thought every one was the same (wake up hello!!!)
Would you not do that as soon as you met and there was chemistry??? Or am I dreaming.!!!.I get the impression that sure you meet some one but they are still shopping around...for the bigger better deal...would love to hear from every one
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/16/2006 1:31:36 PM | | anytime your in a relationship with someone and you talk to the opposite sex about intimate things its cheating......IMO | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/16/2006 8:54:27 PM | It's emotional cheating.....physical cheating could very well follow once they get it into their heads. Somehow I don't think they'd like it if they found out their significant other was doing the same thing behind their backs and how that would make them feel. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online?
Posted: 12/17/2006 5:09:04 PM | ^Yep ... Most of the posts on this thread validate my own opinions and feelings about this topic. 
What are the "rules" about deleting your profile on here when you meet someone? Should you be doing that so you can focus on them and they know you are interested ... What if they don't take theirs off and are still on line ... profile still active? Being the honest trustworthy person I am ... I thought every one was the same (wake up hello!!!) Would you not do that as soon as you met and there was chemistry? Or am I dreaming! I get the impression that sure you meet some one but they are still shopping around ... for the bigger better deal ... ^Msg 180 ... I think it depends on the type of relationship both people are wanting/looking for, the agreement between the people and how honest they are with one another, not to mention how honest they are with their own selves. I would consider the underlying message that could be perceived by having an "active" profile and both parties' expectations. Just because you meet someone does not mean a solid, exclusive relationship has been established.
As far as this site goes, there are a lot of people who are only on here for the Forums and some platonic friends/pen-pals made along the way, including myself. One can always hide the profile or indicate on it that they are not currently looking to meet anyone else.
Otherwise, I would presume that they ARE looking for a supposed bigger, better deal. It can also be that they are giving a new interest some time to see if it works out before making an exclusive committment.
Either way, it does tend to breed insecurity and bring up a flury of trust issues, which is NOT a good way to start any kind of relationship. It's also a reason that I am leery with the whole online dating concept. While it may be a good to know that there are plenty of fish in the sea, it also tends to foster a mentality of people being easily "disposable," demeaning the whole relationship/courtship process.
Just My Opinion! 
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/17/2006 7:53:37 PM | only "partners" are "intimate" and if there's chemistry,might have an "explosion"  b/f's-g/f's the commiment is less so,oh yeah,they're still "kids" too Partners...there's a commitment so yes,it's cheating Especially if there as "cute" as you "feel" Nothing wrong with "committed Partners" keeping profiles active to make "friends",might even meet other "couples" | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/17/2006 8:29:13 PM | | What kind of question is that. First of all, you would need to know the defination of "cheating". So, the answer is "NO". If you don't touch of the other person it is not cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/17/2006 9:11:07 PM | Women that place a high value on themselves... don’t attract men like this!
Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. A man respects a woman who won’t tolerate being treated badly. Don’t let him take advantage of you, Pride is sexy! He will not respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him. I call it cheating and wouldn’t give him a second chance, second look, second nothing! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/17/2006 9:52:56 PM | I think it's cheating and this on-line relationship may turn into the real thing. I believe when some one do this they are not happy with what they have. Now if these two people on line only talk about common intrest like books and maybe its not cheating. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/17/2006 10:02:53 PM | Well! Cheating is Cheating! In thought, word, or deed!
The scripture says if a man looks upon a woman with lust in his heart he has
already committed fornication. Notice it does not say with love in his heart!
Love is love and in relationship love is qualified by loyalty!
Cheating in relationship is a breeding ground for problems. So yes I would
say in relationship a bf/g/f would be cheating if asking someone else on line
to light the fire of sexual gratification!. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/17/2006 11:11:27 PM | | It's cheating if your hiding it. If your partner is cool with you being sexual on the net with others than it isn't cheating. I think cheating is when you brake an agreement. In this day and age I'm sure this topic would come up in a relationship. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/18/2006 6:05:59 AM |
First of all, you would need to know the defination of "cheating". So, the answer is "NO". If you don't touch of the other person it is not cheating.
Really? My ex spent hours playing cards on yahoo with his "partner". Hours that should have been spent with me and the kids. He invested his time, energy and heart in her before they ever met in person and touched. It was very much an affair long before they had sex.
They had intimacy, companionship and conversation that should have been reserved for the marriage he was in. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/18/2006 6:36:31 AM | YES, but of course it is cheating. Absolutely!
But, what's perhaps a more interesting question is why is cheating now virtually considered acceptable or at least tolerable, if not in context of the actual relationship but certainly in the larger context of society. That is, how else does one explain away the likes of ashleymadison.com which encourages extramarrital affairs! For a fee i might add!
Gotta go, desperate housewives is on and followed by Sex in the City.
lmao, "is it cheating", ..... hehe of course it is, but why is cheating now considered normal if not acceptable???? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/18/2006 2:31:59 PM | | I Agree Just ask a Lion It's okay to have "friends" of the oposite gender when in a "relationship" but too much touching,break some arms But if you waant to meet them and consider it,that's cheating | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/18/2006 4:31:53 PM | Very simple...there's a very basic thought that says : Don't do to any one else what you don't want or won't accept done to you !!
So your answer is easily found if you ask yourself : Do I feel OK if my boyfriend does this ? The same applies to him...Would he feel OK if you do that ?
Yes or no ?
There's no right or wrong...black or white, it depends on you ! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/19/2006 6:59:41 AM | if you are in a reltionship with someone then chatting to other people in Normal terms are ok.I have a lot of male friends, but i still chinwag to them if i`m dating, thats about it though. No flirting etc , unfortunately there are a handful who do, its part of life!!
I agree with the post above me fully, but i have to ask just how would he feel if it was you ?
If they are being sexually suggestive then thats very low of them. They shouldn`t even be going down that road. Also the person on the other end should know better if they know their chat buddy isn`t on the market!!( but some are innocent of it as they have no idea that some people are involved either), again if it was done to them they wouldn`t like it!
But the worst cheating is when its any meetings, so hope it don`t get that far x
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/19/2006 10:28:04 AM | I READ ALL THE OPINIONS AND FEELINGS ON THIS ISSUE, ALL VALID,
"MYSELF" ONCE I BECOME AWARE ITS A PROUBLEM I GET INTO THE SOLUTION. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/19/2006 10:37:32 AM |
Is it still cheating if someone you are in a relationship with, is constantly chatting to people of the opposite sex online regarding sex??
How about if they say to these people "my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?"
Is that "technically" cheating or not??
How is it any different than sitting in a bar talking to someone about the same thing, or sitting on the phone 'helping out'?
Yes it's cheating, and it leads to other things.
My x had a BIG problem with this. These conversations with 'friends' led to $400 phone bills, secret meetings, and an ugly divorce.
If you are really in LOVE with your significant other, you should at least have enough respect for them to keep the pillow talk limited to your OWN pillow! | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/19/2006 11:08:12 AM |
First of all, you would need to know the defination of "cheating". So, the answer is "NO". If you don't touch of the other person it is not cheating.
#7 You shall not commit adultery.
#9 You shall not COVET your neighbor's wife. (or husband)
Ever wonder why 2 of the 10 commandments deal with this issue.
2 out of 10 deal with it where as only 1 out of 10 deal with murder!
So is it TWICE as bad to cheat on your spouse than to kill someone?
Will the fire burn twice as hot?
(just food for thought, in case your thinking of spending eternity in a warm climate)
My x always did like her meat overcooked! My consolation is HERS WILL BE!
Sorry, if this offends anyone. But having been on the deceived end of this problem,
and putting my heart out only to have it stuck with a hot poker, I tend to be a little
harsh on those who feel that just because you don't touch it isn't wrong.
Your heart isn't in your PANTS, and neither is your partners. If you take their heart,
you need to be prepared to give yours FULLY.
That means keeping your zipper AND your mouth closed when it's not appropriate!
Commitment is HARD work. Nothing in life that is worthwhile is easy!
A truly LASTING relationship can only exist when there is mutual respect and HONESTY!
Anything less just isn't worth the trouble. | |
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