| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/19/2006 11:50:18 AM | It is a Dating" Site after all Use it to make"friends" if it's mutualy agreeable As long as there's no possibility of "sparks",meeting can be ok too | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/19/2006 12:07:13 PM | Yes it is still considered cheating on line.
You can have friends but if you are flirting with the opposite sex behind your partners back then it's considered cheating. Do on to others as you would like them to do on to you! Something like that, you get my point....... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/19/2006 12:11:11 PM | | I think it's cheating because it involves two people carrying on with one another; the means of communication is a moot point. Whatever happened to grabbing a playboy and heading to the washroom? | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/20/2006 1:16:03 PM | ACE 76..i am a bit late on this response...but you had asked..if my partner was sleeping..and you were online & horny..if asking someone to HELP you out was concidered cheating? YES..my friend..it is..You are actively seeking out another LIVE person to what?..talk you thru it?..its like phone sex..I mean really..Why don't you wake your partner up..with softness and make love to the person you are with..instead of Cybering it?..I Don't Get IT!! technology rules..but takes away from the REALITY........ | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/20/2006 1:20:52 PM | I actually think it IS a form of cheating.... they are mentally..... physically arrousing themselves with someone online....
They can also become addicted to this type of stimulation.... and they aren't mentally there for you. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/20/2006 1:52:48 PM | Or grabbing a "playgirl" and heading for the washroom fot that matter too,especially if she's real That's why reality can suck(hopefully she can too) and computers are just stupid machines anyway Whatever | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/23/2006 9:58:52 AM | | It's cheating if YOU think it is but shouldn't you be asking HIM what he thinks? It can only be cheating if you're not playing by the rules of the relationship and if both parties aren't clear on the rules...... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/20/2007 8:59:42 AM | | It's cheating. Had a boyfriend that was constantly on line at night. He said he was just chatting. I read some of his emails, he was looking for a woman with; more money. I showed him the door. I don't even allow a computer in my home. I go to the library. | |
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ab_qt
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Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 210 | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/20/2007 9:27:42 AM | If your involved with someone .. I think its cheating the minute they sign on to talk to someone else you don't know are not going to know about and they don't want you to know or know about.
At the very least.... they are shopping.. cyber shopping... for like minded cyber buddies... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/20/2007 11:20:22 AM | Honestly, the only person's oppinion that should matter on that subject is of the bf/gf who is in bed sleeping.
This is the type of thing that everybody has different oppinions on, and everybody feels differently about. If you are dating someone and that makes them uncomfortable, if they concider it cheating, well then my friend, thats where you need to get your answer from. If you can't respect how your S.O feels about something, regardless of whether or not you understand it, well, you probably shouldn't be with that person anyway.
And that, is my oppinion. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/20/2007 11:52:06 AM | I consider it cheating,,,,if fact my current-soon to be ex- refuses to give up the dating sites and we have been together for 6 mos,,,,caught him last week updating his profile and putting up a pic and when I told him about it he said he wasnt doing anything wrong,,,,and I smirked well why not put up a current pic and his answer was hold on let me see if I can find one,,,told him I couldnt believe that he would think I was alright with this,,,,, | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/20/2007 12:39:32 PM | | so long as your significant other knows you chat on-line, then there is nothing wrong with it...but chatting on a dating site is different.....and chatting about sex is definitely a no-no....to me, it's cheating..no doubt about it.... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/20/2007 1:13:01 PM | Crazygirl, maybe you could start your journey to enlightenment by participating in some self-reflection whilst reframing that question into, "Would I feel betrayed if my significant other was cyber sexing others?"
Not that you guys must have identical beliefs about all matters-- but being on the same page-- at least in the same book-- about your expectations is a reasonably decent start to a healthy relationship. Cheating and sexual relationships....they're pretty subjective concepts in modernity-- just ask B. Clinton-- but I think it's fair to say that unless you guys have mutually decided on an "open" relationship, then there is probably the expectation of emotional and physical fidelity in all forms. In the case of the latter, the betrayed should demand that the cyber-sexer correct him/herslf or take a hike-- or at minimum, request some decorum :) We aren't talking about innocuous flirting with the store clerk, after all.
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/20/2007 5:56:57 PM | in a general sense - whether or not it's cheating is defined by the boundaries you, as a couple, set for one another. any form of action that can be considered "cheating" really falls under the same stipuation - what boundaries are defined by both parties.
now, for me personally - if I had a significant other, and they were sharing such intimacy with someone other than myself - even if it was limited to strictly online - that is not behavior that i would consider within my acceptable boundaries. if that boundary is set and understood between both parties, and i find out the person is engaging in such action anyhow - then yup - that's cheating - because they are going outside the boundaries that were mutually defined and agreed upon. | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/20/2007 6:18:16 PM | Traditionally, yes it is cheating and you should let your partner spank you and have copious amounts of kinky sex to overcome this.. .in the modern(?) way of thinking?, nope, seems to be accepted, as long as it doesn't get to the point of meeting and actually carrying out a sexual relation. But for a moment think about how you would feel if you found out your partner was doing this to you, probally not very good. Whatever floats a person's boat... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:05:22 PM | **OP** Of course it is infidelity!!
Does it hurt you or your feelings??
Does it take away from you and your needs in the long term aspect??
Would you be asking this question if the person he were talking to was sitting right next to him??
I think you already know the answer and instead of believing your hearts intuition you need to be re-assured here.That's fine. That's what we're here for.
Yes, absolutely! It's cheating and intolerable and unjust, especially by someone who is supposed to Love and care about you.
Just my .98 cents
God Bless
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Tarika
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Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 222 | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:21:32 PM | Thats not cheating, its just perverted! Cheating is when you actually "do it" with someone. I think even flirting and kissing in person is cheating.
This on line flirting is just depriving your other half of time from you. and can cause a break up. I wouldn't really call it cheating though ....... in the sence of time, yes!
 <<<< I just want to squish that guy! lol! | |
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Titian
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Joined: 6/23/2006
Msg: 224 | |
| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:54:36 PM | | I think that it is a form of cheating....yes.....If they are talking to the same ( guys/girls )...ONLINE.... that had an interest in them before yall met ... ... | |
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| Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:57:11 PM | | Nope,only one gets the "point" at a time.The get him interested.Case in point,last girlfriend I met the old-fashioned way,found-out I had online profiles and "poof".You know,the whole "open" relationship issue is a thread upon itself.Anybody might get someone "interested" anywhere."cheating" be when you meet them and sparks fly. | |
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