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Posted: 8/9/2006 3:12:37 PM | | To the OP, if you had sex the first time you met him, you just got what you were looking for. This is online dating in case you don’t know! Why are men so mean? Well, why are women so ****y? Why is everybody so mean, ****y and ****ed up? Welcome to the real world! Now you know why there are more singles then ever in history! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 4:25:00 PM | Men arnt mean darlin, men are A**holes!! Just about every single chat I have had from this site starts out wonderfully, full of compliments, nice and sweet, they even seem to like my pets.. It seems that a lot of dudes out there think that if they tell you how cute you are, immediately your going to spread for them because no one else has ever given you a compliment in your life!! I think that actually having a conversation bores them if it doesnt involve even the hint that they could get laid.
I also think that the majority of dudes are reading a hallmark card when they write their profiles, thinking, ok, ok, what would really sucker some chick in?? Let me think.. Ill be sensitive to their needs, caring, loving, tender, or my personal favourite "looking for that special one to complete me"! Right!! They need you to complete them for the weekend at least.
Then sooner or later the conversation turns to either the size of my chest, etc, the size of their****. BORING... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 4:55:45 PM | Maybe us guys know yall women make the rules, and get so picky sometimes, if we arent rich enough, handsome enough, say just the right things. Sometimes when guys are NICE to yall, we get labels as "just friends" then watch yall give it up to some ***hole, then turn around and complain about that ***hole, dump him,. then go for another ***hole, while us good guys just sit back and watch! Or we could actually become the ***hole and get some of the action, because thats what seems to be what works! Nice guys are either labeled Just friends, thought of as Weak, or even worse, GAY. Guys are MEAN because THATS ALL THAT WORKS. Yall dont respond to the NICE guys, on these sites, but you will respond to the guys who piss you off! Then he will eventually apoligize, show you his "softer" side, you'll forgive him, he gets what he wants then dumps you! Try going for the NICE guys for once huh? Try ignoreing the ***holeS. SHow attention to us guys who ARENT ***holes! The we might not have to become ***holeS. It isnt all about SEX, Some do want love, which is a differant thing!
Just a thought! Have fun yall! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 5:13:35 PM | | Its in a man nature to reproduce. However, most men, as they get older and more mature, realize that there is more to life than sex and having sex with as many women as they possibly can. Keep your head up, not all of us are like this, some of us want the fairy tale too, just like most ladies do. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 8:48:19 PM | "Men arnt mean darlin, men are A**holes!! Just about every single chat I have had from this site starts out wonderfully, full of compliments, nice and sweet, they even seem to like my pets.. It seems that a lot of dudes out there think that if they tell you how cute you are, immediately your going to spread for them because no one else has ever given you a compliment in your life!! I think that actually having a conversation bores them if it doesnt involve even the hint that they could get laid.
I also think that the majority of dudes are reading a hallmark card when they write their profiles, thinking, ok, ok, what would really sucker some chick in?? Let me think.. Ill be sensitive to their needs, caring, loving, tender, or my personal favourite "looking for that special one to complete me"! Right!! They need you to complete them for the weekend at least.
Then sooner or later the conversation turns to either the size of my chest, etc, the size of their****. BORING..."
Someone here is a stereotypical B!tch! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 11:12:43 PM |
THE FIRST GUY I FALL IN LOVE WITH AT TIS SITE THINKS I AM A ONE NIGHT STAND. WHY DO GUYS ASUME THEY ARE GOING TO DO U AND THEN DUMP YOU. I JUST REFUSED TO GO OUT WITH HIM. HE WAS SO NICE A COUPLE OF TIMES WE CHATTED BUT THEN GOSH...ALL HE WANTED WAS SEX. WHY CAN SOMEONE TELL ME....I DON'T MIND SEX BUT COME ON U DON'T EVEN KNOW ME GET TO KNOW ME FIRST PLEASE.
It's not just men that are like that...guess I'm not really writing to the op because she no longer exists.hehehehe...anyone else feel like they're talking to themselves hehehe..no? Ok well Women use men, men use women, men play head game, women play head games. The big thing is that there are a lot more emotional stupid gullible women than there are emotional stupid gullible men. That’s what makes men look like the mean ones. Women are just better at emotional manipulation; so it doesn't seem that they are as bad, when in reality we are just as bad as men.
Seriously people we have to get over the gender bashing crap this is so tiresome. I've been guilty on several occasions of this but I was upfront and outright with my expectations and like a lot of guys are going to say "no it's marriage or nothing" hehehhehe..yeah right. I've had 2 one nights and 5 very casual friendships that lasted years.
Get over it. If you're not interested just tell him to sodd off and go play in someone elses sand box. Whine whine whine whine whine..."he doesn't love me just wants me for sex". Well that’s a start. I just wanted my ex for that and couldn't get rid of the bugger for a year...at least you know you're sexually appealing...now move on and find someone who wants what you want. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 4:27:25 AM | | Well first you mention guys then you mention HIM,yes im sure there are many men thats are like this,its not that they are just mean they are plain iggnorant,and always remember its not just men that are mean its also women too,HEY THE GATE SWINGS BOTH WAYS,THERE IS A BAD EGG IN EVERY DOZEN even two you likes scarmbled eggs NOTTA MEEEEEEEEE LOL | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 5:33:51 AM | ^^^^^^ toolrgdawg Msg: 279
Its in a man nature to reproduce. However, most men, as they get older and more mature, realize that there is more to life than sex and having sex with as many women as they possibly can. Keep your head up, not all of us are like this, some of us want the fairy tale too, just like most ladies do.
Exactly,
but that's 1/2 the problem - they haven't figured it out yet! And from what *I* see, and have come to understand as time has passed and as I keep reading these lame azz threads over & over IS - most of them never will!
If these women (say late 20s to mid 30s) would look for MEN on their own level (7 to 10yrs older than themselves on avg.) they may be suprised at the results they'd get (but what do they do?) they keep playing with the little boys (5 to 7 yrs younger than themselves up to around their age - maybe a couple yrs older!). Then when they keep repeating the same patterens/processes over & over getting the same results - what do they do? They come here B*tching about the crap as the OP is doing, and wondering WHY it keeps happening to them! lmao!
I'm not saying that just because they pick a guy 7 to 10 yrs older on avg. that it would eliminate the problem/s 100% because there's always azzholes in every age group BUT they'd definately reduce the BS they cause to themselves by a substantial margin because us older guys don't play all the games & drama BS like the younger ones do (especially guys 35 & older)!
Think they'll ever figure it out though (these women)?? Not most and they'll continue playing with the 20 somethings & early 30 somethings while being played & taken advantage of & they'll keep B*tching at the world for their own stupid choices/mistakes in life while we sit back & laugh at their xoxo azz'es! If they'd take a look at the women in their age group that do go for the older guys (6, 7, 8, 10 yrs older) - they'd learn something from those women because those ARE the ones that have it figured out!
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Posted: 8/10/2006 5:59:07 AM | i THINK SOME OF THE DIFFERENCE WITH WOMEN AND MEN IS THAT BOTHSEXES WANT THE SAME THING AS A WHOLE (A HAPPY AND FULLFILLING RELATIONSHIP), BOTH THEY GO ABOUT THIS IN 2 DIFFERENT WAYS.
THE WOMAN WANTS THE TIME SPENT TOGETHER (EXPIERENCES,CUDDLING,HOLDING HANDS,TALKING ABOUT EVERYTHING) TO HAVE THE "TIME INTO BEING A MEANINGFUL THING" TO CREATE THE FEELING OF "YES I WANT TO GIVE THIS PERSON THE MOST I CAN GIVE.....ME"
THE MAN WANTS MOST OF THE SAME THING AS FAR AS TALKING ETC THAT THE WOMAN WANTS BUT THE MAN FEELS HE NEEDS TO HAVE THE SEX SIDE OR IF THE WOMAN HOLDS OUT FOR A VERY LONG TIME,THE MAN BEGINS TO THINK SHE IS NOT 100% INTO THE RELATIONSHIP AND SO THEREFORE THE MAN SAYS TO HIMSELF THAT SHE DOSENT WANT ME SO I WILL MOVE ON.
men and women lets try to see the other side of each other and rememeber that normal and healty couples do have intercourse on average 3-4 times a week. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 6:05:23 AM | | Contact me, all I want is to please, true companionship, inellectual conversation, with the hope of a physical attraction that will only occur if it is mutual. Why is it the good guys always lose? | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 6:22:42 AM | Maybe if you wouldn't make sex so hard to get, men wouldn't be so devious about trying to get it.
Plus, there was a groundbreaking thread a while back about the surprisingly large number of women who have NSA sex buddies.
Stop hating the entire gender because they have innate desires that require your help to fulfill when you just titillate them. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 6:24:42 AM | | I feel the same way yankee. I am a good guy. in fact one date told me i was too sweet and nice and that she wanted a bad boy. That was after what i thought was a really wonderful evening too. So just remember that there are good ones and bad ones for women as well as guys. Just wait someone will come along that is all you every wanted. I am waiting for the same. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 8:22:49 AM | | everyone can be mean,,,,it sounds like im listening to a broken record here. why this ,,,,why that!!! you ****n know why. so answer your own question. Stop using hurt feelings and men as scapegoats. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 8:38:06 AM | I'll never truly understand why they are like this. I've dated a bit and I've discovered that a LOT of men lie (quite poorly I might add - lol) and they really are only after sex. They seem to tell you anything they think you want to hear to get into your pants. What I've never understood is why not just go out with the girls that want only sex? Wouldn't that make more sense? LOL.
I personally can't have "just sex" I need to feel a connection with someone be it emotional or intellectual. I've been burned by this in the past. It is the rare guy that you meet that is respectful and will wait and really want to get to know you as a person and develop a friendship first.
Best advice, weed them out like dandelions and if you start seeing a potential 'good one' wait to have intimate relations (that is if you want to see it go somewhere). I always reflect on the "40 Year Old Virgin" (movie) and if you want to see it develop - have at least 20 some odd dates first. This way you'll know what their true intentions are.
Patience is a virtue.
God knows I've been there, been hurt as well but learned from it. I wish you luck and from now on - make them wait it out.
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Posted: 8/10/2006 8:41:57 AM | | Oh you are sooooooooooooo right on! LOL. That has been some of my experiences as well! | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 8:49:51 AM | | Yankee, it's not that women really want a "bad boy", it's just that you good guys are either already taken, hiding out somewhere or running way too fast away from us! | |
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Posted: 8/10/2006 9:10:32 PM | To the women that say guys need to wait.... If the man waits at the beginning until the woman is ready to make love ,then is that part of the relationship set?
A question for the ladies::::::
if after you have a great guy that has waited for you until you are ready and then it magic of making love happens.....
would women be more inclined to say oh okay the man waited for me and now i should make love more often just because he did this special thing for me OR would you just say nope he waited so that is the way it will be and so waiting for him will not be a problem just because i can wait.
Open communication is the beginning of any relationship so.....Why not discuss the amount of waiting (until love making happens) after a few dates (LIKE 3 OR SO AND NOT ANYWHERE LIKE 20 DATES!!!!) so that then it will be out in the open and neither the guy (if he wants it) or the woman(that wants to wait) would end up mad at each other and both sexes would be better after each know what the other is thinking. SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT!!!!!
For the ladies that do want to wait,why not (instead of dinners,plays,movies or things like this) just go for coffee,the beach,the park and sit and talk to get to know the man and that way neither person is really out anything except time. (no sex,no desease,no money,no hard feelings etc)
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Posted: 8/12/2006 9:17:24 AM | you know ..in my personal opinion..i believe that you need to get to know a person before you get to that next level in a relationship.I was married for 10 years,and i made my share of mistakes,and so had my ex. we sat and talked it over and we parted on good terms.
Since then i have had a few relationships,some were good and some were bad,the last one i was in was wonderful ontill the end,then got the heave ho...but that is neither here or there..we still talk and are very good friends to this day. I help her out when i can and she helps me out ..we both moved on .yes she is my best friend in the world and we talk about everything and anything.when she makes mistakes I tell her without holding back ..and she does the same for me...
relationships are trial and error...if one don't work out right ,then you move on,,would you buy the first car that you see because it looks nice...no..because you know what you are looking for so you are going to find the right one for you..you just keep on searching for that one that feels right ...
no one is perfect,we all have our demons, all we can do is go one with life and look towards the future..some where some time that person ment for you will pop up out of no where..you have no idea where or when ,,but someone will at sometime.
I'm not perfect ,no one is..there are alot of people on this site that play games,and pull at the heart strings..and they know who they are..whether it is men or women..in the end they are the ones that will be lonely...
as for me I am a hell of a nice person..and i will not change for anyone....I know this is a long one..but i hope i get my point across... i enjoy reading forums..but i don't really say much in them ....
good luck to everyone...weed out the players and this site would be great... | |
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Posted: 8/12/2006 9:34:31 AM | you know something I have noticed....i may really get chastised for this ..but going back through the posts...
why are just about half of the posts in here,,the people have their profile hidden?? | |
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Posted: 8/12/2006 10:25:38 AM |
I know women cheat...but you know why cause the man dont give them the love they need.
This was stated in one of the OP's posts (page 2 of this thread), and I have to say it is one of the most absurd generalizations I have ever heard. I can think of several reasons why women cheat:
1. Just as many men are dogs, so too are many women sluts.
2. REVENGE. Plain and simple. They are pissed off at the guy they are with, they know the one thing that'll REALLY hurt him is cheating on him, and so they go and do it.
3. Upward mobility. Maybe the guy she is currently with doesn't make enough money/drive a fancy enough car/have a prestigious enough occupation for her tastes, but she keeps him on the line until something "better" comes along.
4. Committment issues. Yes, there are women out there who have those too...
5. Emotional problems from past relationships (especially girls who have been raped at some point and/or cheated on in their prior relationships.) Hey, here's a hint: get those issues worked out - with professional help if necessary - before hooking up with a guy who loves you and treats you right, only to have you cheat on him because you are a whack job. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2006 12:33:14 PM |
5. Emotional problems from past relationships (especially girls who have been raped at some point and/or cheated on in their prior relationships.) Hey, here's a hint: get those issues worked out - with professional help if necessary - before hooking up with a guy who loves you and treats you right, only to have you cheat on him because you are a whack job
I can support this one in peticular by personal experience.
But long and short, let me sum it all up (as I SWEAR I have before)...
1) 90% of all guys are animals who only want one thing from you. You might be able to get deeper then that on another 10% with work.
2) 90% of all girls are looking out forn #1 and #1 only. You are a tool to them, controlled by various organs sticking out of their bodies. Again, you MIGHT get deeper then that with an additional 10% but no more likely then guys.
That leaves a small portion of the population to compete for. Some grim news...
However, every cloud DOES have a silver lining, including this one....
1) Chances are if you are looking for someone to really be with and not just because they are hot or will make your life easier, someone out there is probably looking for you.
And the one line of advice I have
It's alot easier to find said person when you stop looking for a mate first, and look for a firend first. Simply put, you get in their head alot easier, and yes, I will admit, the jump from friend to love is risky, but it just might do it for you..... and if they are looking for the same, it may well happen faster and easier then you thought it would.
Final note: Thats right, Im BACK! | |
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Posted: 8/12/2006 6:34:39 PM | LOL not all good guys are taken or hiding or running away, we are just being careful.
Personally i feel that women don't respect you when you treat them good, why i'll never know. Wouldn't you want someone who respects you and treats you nice, but everytime i do treat women nice they turn into ******. The best relationships i have had is when i treat girls like crap, but i'm getting older and don't want to play games anymore, and finding a nice girl who wants a nice guy(and not just says that) is proving to be very hard.
Is it so terrible to have a decent relationship with a girl and treat them nice and not have to be a jerk?????????????????????
p.s. And ladies if you ever meet a guy like that(good guy) don't be stupid and treat them badly and take advantage of them. Hate to say this but no guy likes being a jerk, they are ALL aware of the way they act and i have NOT meet any guy that enjoys being that way.
You wonder where all the good guys are gone ladies? They changed because they don't want to be taken advantage of. Trust me meet a good guy and treat him nice like he treats you and you'll never be unhappy with him or your relationship. I can guarentee that,
or your money back:) | |
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Posted: 8/12/2006 6:55:42 PM | | All the good guys have said the heck with it and have moved in the next mountian over from the Grinch. Got a dish and a dog and just sit around the house and take online IQ tests for fun...........So I hear. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2006 7:07:53 PM | Cuz SOME men are ***holes.
I just wasted 21 days on what I thought was going to be a great relationship.
Ha.. what a loser.
Yeah.. I'm still torn up about it. But Oh well! He lost me.  | |
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Posted: 8/13/2006 1:04:20 AM | | im a man and i dont assume anything and im not just looking for sex i could get that from any two penny stripper ive been looking for a long term mate after being screwed over after a 18yr relationship then she decids shes having a relationship with some lesbo online from nebraska but im even more screwed cause so i dont risk losing my kid i let her still live in my guest room of my house and support her ass so you shouldnt assume my orginal problem was went for attraction big tits and at the time nice ass but that was my mistake should have been best friends first know trying to rebuild my life as best as i can so all men arent just after sex dont get me wrong thats nice to but aint it | |
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