| WHY ARE MEN SO MEAN
Posted: 12/31/2007 12:08:51 PM | Men aren't mean. It's the dating site thing. Such a smorgasbord of willing women out there. Most of them are disillusuioned, too. They hate the lonliness and fall into casual sex. Why should men go and do the LTR process? No motivation.
I am finding that men are afraid to do the dating and courting thing. In fact, it is widely supported and accepted now for women to face what you have. I had a debate in another thread regarding men who only want sex or who only want FWB. I had traditional views that I abide by and I was ridiculed harshly for them. I feel that men want LTR and marriages, too, but are afraid to go down that road for many reasons. Which brings me to that word. Afraid. Most women are attracted to men who aren't afraid of anything that life presents to them.
If you meet another man on here, please, make sure that his reasons for meeting you are honourable and if he tries anything else, it's easy...JUST SAY NO.
I would say that the odds of finding a man who wants LTR or marriage on this site is about 1/100. So, falling in love is NOT the thing to do until he proves himself to you.
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Posted: 12/31/2007 12:24:11 PM | | Can't quite figure out how many guys you're talking about. You fell in love with someone right? Just from emailing and talking a few times? Love? You actually fell in love from talking and emailing? You hadn't slept with him but were in love? Oh man, is there enough space in this box to explain things to you? He wants to sleep with you to maybe see if he might fall in love and and you don't want to even though you already know you love him from talking to him a few times? Good luck on your quest | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 12:48:31 PM | I don't think men are "mean" per say.
Keep in mind that just because someone is nice to you on the computer doesn't mean they will be in real life.
If a man wants something from you he will always initially be nice be it that he wants friendship, sex, dating, attention or whatever. I don't think that guys who come out and initially say they want to get laid get a lot of responses on here, they will say whatever they have to to get closer to whatever goal they may have whether its honorable or not. The same goes for women.
Be grateful that you were able to weed this guy out before you entered into an intimate relationship with him. He was just bad seafood there are still plenty of fish out there. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:06:16 PM | | Why are men so mean? Well, from my experiance...I've been looking for a girl now for a nine years and I've been trying to be patient and kind and I've never thought about using a girl as a "one night stand" but you know what...I've learned that the nice guys are destined to be single. The guys at work and most guys I know who are not single are the guys who would miss treat girls. If I have to remain single for one more hour I'm going to go crazy but I still would never treat a girl with disrespect and use her like most of the taken guys I see. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:10:26 PM | Why are women so stupid.
A guy wants sex and the weomen stupidly assume that the only thing he wants is sex.
A guy wants sex tonight and the women blindly assume that , becasue he wants sex now he won't want sex tomorrow too.
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| WHY ARE MEN SO MEAN
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:18:24 PM | | Immaturity and insecurity make people mean , whether they are male or female | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:19:17 PM | I have learned that the majority of men who play it up just to get booty are COWARDS. Most of them only have superficial social skills and when you "talk" to them as if they are human, they bolt,/delete/block/...if they do not get to manipulate you. How do you tell who they are ...go with your gut...
I adored my husbands best friend..thought he was someone special after all the years of friendship,
As I attempted to maintain that place ...it got twisted,bent and of the people in the world I really thought I could trust..I learned I couldn't. The fact that he was my dead husbands friend was fuel for him to get closer, the first time..
He reapppeared a few years later after I ran him out of my life and I wanted to make amends. I took the hit on my part, I was wrong, I was a big girl about it.
AND then he pulled the same junk...all over again.
2strikes...game over...baby.
He probably just wants a shotgun he mentioned before,,but I SOLD IT.
So go with your gut,,my gut said "he's not your friend"....the grief couldn't hear me or didn't want too.
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:24:44 PM | | Sorry you had to meet someone like that... But not all of use are like that. Hope you find what it is you are looking for...There are nice men out there I know I would like to think of myself as one of them... | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:31:50 PM | Well,here it is in a nut shell,Men are so mean because THERES WOMAN. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:33:37 PM | | I'm not mean, and really I could care less about sex right now, I just want to meet a good woman, and it's tough. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:35:08 PM | Junk yard dogs are mean, and there are some men who don't always do their best, but I could say the same about some women. Nobody's perfect, we should strive to do be the very best that we can be as individuals. 
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:58:14 PM | There are a lot of good men and there are a lot of good women, they just don't always meet each other. Some men are mean, most are not. Many men cheat, some do not. I suppose women are similar but probably more discreet.
Men feel they show love through sex - men and women are different in this aspect. In love making people are generally open and vulnerable. For a man this can be an expression of love. Get to know him more and you can generally tell what he is like. Don't knock him for wanting sex - it may be just his way of communicating with you. Silly yes, but being a human being is not an easy task. Men and women are different and that is a good thing. All the best in your quest. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 2:05:13 PM | | You should post his online name here for others to beware, they can be very tricky some of these guys!! | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 2:25:37 PM | Welcome to online dating !
Your learning............... | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:12:45 PM | THE FIRST GUY I FALL IN LOVE WITH AT TIS SITE THINKS I AM A ONE NIGHT STAND. WHY DO GUYS ASUME THEY ARE GOING TO DO U AND THEN DUMP YOU. I JUST REFUSED TO GO OUT WITH HIM. HE WAS SO NICE A COUPLE OF TIMES WE CHATTED BUT THEN GOSH...ALL HE WANTED WAS SEX. WHY CAN SOMEONE TELL ME....I DON'T MIND SEX BUT COME ON U DON'T EVEN KNOW ME GET TO KNOW ME FIRST PLEASE
I just couldnt resiste engaging in a little race reversing. See what the civil rights groups think of this.
THE FIRST BLACK GUY I FALL IN LOVE WITH AT THIS SITE THINKS I AM A ONE NIGHT STAND. WHY DO BLACK GUYS ASUME THEY ARE GOING TO DO U AND THEN DUMP YOU. I JUST REFUSED TO GO OUT WITH HIM. HE WAS SO NICE A COUPLE OF TIMES WE CHATTED BUT THEN GOSH...ALL HE WANTED WAS SEX. WHY CAN SOMEONE TELL ME....I DON'T MIND SEX BUT COME ON U DON'T EVEN KNOW ME GET TO KNOW ME FIRST PLEASE | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:15:30 PM | AND because all men are NOT MEAN, I continue to sift and sort and weed out the whack jobs.
Men and women alike do awful things to one another. Too bad ,,but OP who says men express love in sex......not in the world I lived in..for 20 years Sex was one part of the whole relationship.
and CRAYONZZ
want sex today, want sex tomorrow,,,those kinds of guys are makin sure it's different women each time they have sex. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:29:00 PM | Dont you believe it Tuff
Fer crissake. Use your head.
Like I can bed a girl tonight, dump her tomorrow morning, and within 24 hours I've got an entirely new one in the sack.
Wakey wakey! That sort of thing only happens to a very few rock stars at the absoloute height of their fame. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:29:08 PM | Men are mean when they can't have the remote to themselves.
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:30:30 PM | | Hi ladies, please remember in amongst all this male-bashing, there are some (lots actually) genuine nice guys ot there that dont cheat, lie etc, and yes, do want to have sex with you, but only when the time is right (for both!) | |
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| WHY ARE MEN SO MEAN
Posted: 12/31/2007 3:35:18 PM | If a red flag pops up about something no matter how small-- move on!! Red flags popped up while I was talking to someone on here--and by dang...I learned the hard way.
Weed them out by not having sex!! | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:35:35 PM | crayonzz.....
never did Isay they were actually getting the sex....you said...WANT sex=your words These guys are about the conquest...not governed by a clock
I mean no disrespect to the good guys, genuine and sincere men. This post is referring to a TYPE of man....not all of them
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:52:48 PM | Not all of them are mean, but the majority of them are ass holes. I remember after breaking up with my ex, not even two weeks went by and one of his dumbass friends had the nerve to call me up, wanting a "relationship" now that I was single again. It was so obvious that all he wanted was sex, and got mad after I told him to **** off.
What pissed me off the most was how he tried to take advantage of me so quickly, thinking I was that vulnerable and willing to become his on call sex delivery girl.
Yeah. So don't act all "confused and hurt" when we don't give you the ****ing time of day. It's because we're not interested and have gotten better at weeding out the **stards who pretend to be "sensitive and caring" to get what they want. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 4:03:36 PM |
but the majority of them are ass holes
There's that two way street again.
It works both ways when it comes to ***holes honey no matter what you think or how you try to spin it. Just because you were married to one does not put the "majority" of the rest of us in that category. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 4:09:25 PM |
It works both ways when it comes to ***holes honey no matter what you think or how you try to spin it. Just because you were married to one does not put the "majority" of the rest of us in that category.
I don't know who you're replying to, but I was never married, and what you just said, my ex said something similar before I dated him....
"Don't make me pay for someone else's mistakes, please. I'm different, I promise. Give me a chance."
Bull shit. Still, I gave him a shot anyway, and he still broke my heart. So screw it. It's hard to believe anyone. | |
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