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Posted: 8/28/2008 11:53:31 AM | it's been said 1000 times already but I'll put it into simple words for everyone..
"some of us make the rest of us look bad"
and it's true for women and men alike, women can say that all guys are a-holes and the guys can say that all women are PMS'ing all the time. it's just your pick of the litter. if it were easy everyone would be betrothed at birth with the perfect mate. it's reality people, get back to it. it sucks, but it's part of the journey. and remember, truth is stranger than fiction.
just keep chasin the one.. you'll find em.
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:12:38 PM | DONT GIVE YOUR HEART TO ANY MAN,, until he proves himself,,, that will take time you have to be able to take time,,, boys are not men until,, they are older
some never grow up,,, guard your heart carefuly!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:14:50 PM | | Considering you had never even met this guy and you're talking about how "in love" with him you were after chatting for only a month I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say you probably seemed kind of desperate. You still seem kind of desperate. Get to know you first? Obviously you didn't take much time to get to know him. Also, if he was so convinced you were a one night stand why would he have wasted his time chatting with you if he didn't get there within the first week. Apparently, he liked talking to you. I don't know about everyone else, but this thread seems awfully hypocritical. When you tell a guy you love him of course he's gonna wanna have sex, and why don't you try practicing what you preach and getting to ACTUALLY know them instead deciding you're in love because its the first interested guy who happens to talk to you. I don't feel sorry for you because it's your own fault you invested do many feelings into someone you don't even know. Maybe you should think about that the next time you start contacting someone on here. Taking it slow can never go wrong. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:15:12 PM | not every man is like that i my self wate till i have been dating a lady for a waile be for making love,
for me it is an acted of love not, to use some 1
i hope u finde a nice man soon | |
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:19:01 PM | | To let you know.. you're probably better off without him... You come out the winner ,, not him... May I ask you though,,, You say one night stand?,, that means you had sex with him on the first date? Where did you think that would lead you? I'm not condemning you for you actions... not at all.. but think on his behalf,,, he now thinks that you dish it out to every guy,,, so why should he develop a relationship with you? Sure men do this,, but nowadays so do many many women... You are right,, he should get to know you first before sleeping with you,, but this is more your responsibility than is his,, I know its unfair... but it is just nature... Women give sex in return for love,,, Men give love in return for sex... This is our species known trade off between the sexes.. .. Next time a guy tries for sex, let him know that you'd love to,, but you want to get to know each other first,, if hes a rat hes then gone and you havent given him a thing... If hes a good guy, hes back for another date,,, and you've got another paid night out!! With a free dinner!! and a guy who likes you for you!! Either way, you end up the winner!!! So whats the problem?? Use your head and not your heart or libido.... and good luck! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:19:27 PM | | To let you know.. you're probably better off without him... You come out the winner ,, not him... May I ask you though,,, You say one night stand?,, that means you had sex with him on the first date? Where did you think that would lead you? I'm not condemning you for you actions... not at all.. but think on his behalf,,, he now thinks that you dish it out to every guy,,, so why should he develop a relationship with you? Sure men do this,, but nowadays so do many many women... You are right,, he should get to know you first before sleeping with you,, but this is more your responsibility than is his,, I know its unfair... but it is just nature... Women give sex in return for love,,, Men give love in return for sex... This is our species known trade off between the sexes.. .. Next time a guy tries for sex, let him know that you'd love to,, but you want to get to know each other first,, if hes a rat hes then gone and you havent given him a thing... If hes a good guy, hes back for another date,,, and you've got another paid night out!! With a free dinner!! and a guy who likes you for you!! Either way, you end up the winner!!! So whats the problem?? Use your head and not your heart or libido.... and good luck! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:35:11 PM | Guess I'd have to say I don't think Men Are So Mean, and neither are women. SOME peeps are mean, nasty, crazy, or cruel, &c. So it simply becomes each one's job to do the sorting. If you DON'T sort, it's pretty pointless to blame the whole of other sex for your trubble, don't you think?
Just me.
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:39:48 PM | If you have any mom or dad that could help you leave ? Please do so. I know people are quick to say just leave. And where do you go ? How are you going to pay rent etc.. ?? And how about child care ?? Just is not that easy. Please ! If there is any way at all ?? Get out .. I stayed and now its 40 years later. Miserable. But due to health reasons i can't work..and have gained another child to raise. So i know it is not any easier if you wait. And you should not be miserable the rest of your life. You deserve more. Men can be very controlling, and we trust to easy. Sorry yours is mean.
If your just talking to one on here ? and all he wants is sex ? Your far better off knowing it before you get involved. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:46:14 PM | All men want sex especailly if they are normal. You don;t have topo type in all caps. its extremely annoying to read. Just ebcuase a man wants sex does not mean he wants a one night stand. I;m a guy that enjoys my sex. I don't really like one night stands though but I do appreciate sex early on. its a way us guys connect with women. It also gets a lot of things out of the way such as nervousness and allows us to feel close. And the fear that it will be a nonsexual relationship or that the girl is a prude or that the sex will be awful. Ever have bad sex? it can be worse than no sex.
Some guys do only want one night stands. Some women are like that too though. How many times have you flirted witha guy only to tease him or lead him on to only give him a fake number or give him your number and not pick up or return his calls? I can go to a bar flirt it up and get 5-10 numbers they willa ll be legitimate numbers with their voice mail picking up but they won;t return the calls or pick up the phone and insit on texting or playing cell phone games. Its complete BS. Women need to stop playing games and pick up the phone. Start enjoying life and not jsut being teases. Men need to stop worrying about commitment and let things happen.
Men go for convenience realtionships for one and secondly, We don't like games qwe like to be direct. I think men a e mroe honest about what they want "sex" and women are fickle and lead men on "games" for the msot part. I think peoople in general need to be more direct with eachother. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:50:07 PM | I hope that "well into their 50's" isn't too derogatory. I'm 52 but at my last job I could work harder and longer than most of the 25 year olds. And, by-the-way, I believe that relationships have to reach a certain level before sex is involved. It all depends on how one believes about the act itself. If it's only a biological need then there should be no anger toward men who seek to meet their needs. I've met plenty of women who only want their needs met without thought to the actual person under the male skin they want. They use sex to control men. Things can go both ways.
One key is discovering that you and those you date have a similar philosophy on life. If you can determine (and that means communication) that you do agree about the meaning/function of sexual relations, then there's a better chance of not getting hurt. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2008 3:04:35 PM | Well, I'm having similar feelings, but I know not all of them can possibly be that mean. One I met here on this site (I won't mention a profile name, because I'm not the type to go slandering people in public), turned out to be a real piece of work.
All the warning signs were there, but my heart was so caught up in the whirlwind, I ignored them. The fact that he SCREAMED at me to get off his computer when all I was doing was fixing it, I should have walked out right there - big red flag. Um, excuse me, nobody talks to me like that, sorry. Take a hike, loser.
The first night we met, I assumed he would be like every other guy, interested in one thing. When he told me "That's not what I'm here for, I wouldn't let you." my heart melted. I told myself, wow, this guy is different, right? WRONG!
Let me tell you girls, when they tell you they're not there for sex, they're lying to you. That's the only reason they want to see you. Don't believe a word they say.
This one got me to completely fall head over heels for him. The first week or so, he set the tone by texting me 30+ times a day, calling me sweetie, baby, etc etc ad nauseum. When I finally did give in to the intimacy thing, the interest level dropped off abruptly. Another huge warning sign, but I ignored it, because I was already attached. He didn't call or text anywhere near as much, which left me confused, hurt, and frustrated. So, I started calling him.
On one occasion he was more concerned with satisfying himself than me, and I felt cheap and used for the whole day, but I was already head over heels so I just sloughed it off as me over-reacting. A mistake, I know, but hey I'm only human.
After a month, we had an exclusive dating talk. The very next weekend he stood me up, and two days later I found him online here looking around for other women. I felt so betrayed, because I covered for his daughter when she backed into my car, I was never anything but sweet and nice to him, never asked for anything...
Sorry, but that doesn't work for me. I'd rather be single than put up with that kind of abuse. The hell with that. If there's one thing I took away from this experience, it's not to trust men so quickly. Let them earn the trust. Don't fall for the players! There's good ones out there. You Just have to find them, and if you have to weed through a legion of jerks to do it, so be it.  | |
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Posted: 1/9/2009 12:18:05 PM | Hey guys,
First off women are just as bad as men when it comes to sex the only difference is that most women can cover it up better than men.
Now I know there is a lot of ladies who are out there who are wanting a nice guy and they deserve to find a nice guy; however, there are some ladies who are just looking for sex and that is all they want. I do not see nothing wrong with it as long as both people are cool with I say let it go and do what you want too do, and if you do it good then keep on doing!
But do not get mad at men or women who just want sex and nothing else. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2009 12:54:55 PM | well, i'm gonna throw in a thought i have noticed...
if you date the same guys continually, you'll get the same types of guy...right? i know men aren't the only ones that look at the picture first and then decide what they want. many women do the same thing and then get upset when they get used by the guys that, for all intents, even LOOK like players. i'm not sayin an ugly guy won't do the same thing, but either step out of your "comfort zone" a little and date a different type of guy and see how it turns out? who knows, you might be happy with what you find... | |
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Posted: 3/31/2009 1:08:47 PM | | I am recently broke up with a girl who was heart broken and not over it, I was probably her rebound thing. But it became clear to me that her heart had turned cold and my question is : Are most women my age or older Jaded from past failed relationships and left bitter and unable to trust. Not all men are bad and I would like to meet a sweet girl that doesn't have these issues lingering and have a meaningful healthy relationship? | |
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Posted: 3/31/2009 3:15:17 PM | | I know you don't know me from adam, but I've been in a similar situation for quite a while with my father. Not being able to tell him to screw off for 4 years. I can only imagine how much harder it is for you with your kids too. Listen if he is doing this to you and you have proof, sorry to say this but kick his butt out. You can't let him be destructive to your family like he is. It will only cause pain to you and your children's future. I hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 10:10:04 AM | Everyone is so damn jaded these days anyway..it's a 2 edged sword.On 1 hand you have 99% of guys that ARE out for 1 thing only regardless if it's a 1 night stand or they fake the willingness to wait to get it.Know this:Time reveals everyone's true intent!If you give it up on a 1st date then that's it I don't care if you're male or female,you deserve the outcome.I'm sorry but you do NOT know someone in that little of time and "love at 1st sight"is BS.It takes time(sometimes a looonngg time to really know someone)plus,sex is supposed the most intimate of acts between 2 people,a true"merging of both flesh & souls"and folks need to wake the hell up and realize how important an undertaking it really is.Second,people only endure what THEY settle for.
If you sleep with someone straight from the get then it will always be in one or the other's mind how easy it was therefore most people have insecurities that this will always play upon mentally.As far as cheating goes,in a nutshell="If you eat enough crap you will develop a taste for it".This means you only endure what you allow yourself to,regardless of all the self pity and need to find scapegoats.I do believe people can change but once again,only time shall reveal if a person has truly changed their ways.Change does not happen overnight or in a moment,it takes time and most people never wait to see if change has truly occured,they accept others at face value and thus"history"can sometime repeat itself. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 11:48:53 AM | We're not all mean. Sex is part of what makes a man feel like...a man. Without it, I feel nutured, emasculated, not quite up to my full potential, like I'm "missing" something. And there's nothing wrong with that.
You're clearly looking for something deeper, more tender, more emotional. And there's nothing wrong with that either!
Keep throwing out what you expect to get back...sooner or later, the right guy will click with your particular emotional gel. You guys'll fall head over heals, confide in each other deepest needs and fears...and chances are, the sex'll be mind-blowing too! And he'll keep coming back for more! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2009 10:49:28 AM | | I am sorry for what this selfish and self centered man did to you. Maybe he was just out to use you until he found someone else, and maybe it is his way of screwing women he meets on this site and elsewhere. It is selfish and self centered morrons and users like him that spoil it for the rest us good men that are out there | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 7:01:56 PM | [she won't even see the kids don't pay child support nothing what does that make her]
If she were a man it would be referred to as "deadbeat dad" | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 7:23:20 PM | [there is no warranty with life in a relationship]
Wouldn't it be nice if there was a warranty. ........ and if things don't work out each of you will maintain their self esteem , there will be no pain or loss of trust. All items purchased under the compromise clause will be returned for a full refund. The knowledge gained from the relationship can be kept as special gift to you. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 7:34:34 PM | | I was married to a man like that for years. He never changed, and they do bring down your self-esteem. I did the same thing you are doing, never worked. Give it up. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2009 12:02:18 AM | | mean men come in all ages. Got to say they do drag your self worth down. I dated a guy who I thought could do no wrong. I worshipped him. I accepted the crumbs of attention. Foolish woman that I was. He thinks of me as pathetic simply because I haven't got the nerve to say bleep. It makes me ill to confront a person if they have walked all over me. Guess he has joined that crowd | |
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Posted: 6/11/2009 1:19:47 PM | | Not all men are. you just haven't met that one. the right one will make you feel you are capable of anything and will always just be there for you. Jesse | |
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