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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:47:02 PM | | Holy crap! I havnt heard this much trash talk in my life. Lets put the shoe on the other foot shall we. I have met some chicks that used me for sex. and no thats not a gloat, its the truth. And ohh poor me huh because iam a guy that doesnt have a intimate bone in my body. The truth is why are you looking for a relationship. You should look for a friendship first. Becase how can you be intimate with someone if its not all there. In order for a healthy relationship you must have a combinaton of more than just chemistry. Intimacy is a process not an event. so dont put your selfs on front street by making it look like you need to have a relationship, START WITH A FRIENDSHIP!!!! AND NOT ALL GUYS ARE LOOKING FOR JUST PLAIN SEX. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:50:10 PM | I am replying to the original letter on this thread. One nite stand, what about one that use you for a couple of months and then tells you there was no spark. We got along great chatting on line. We even seemed to click on first meeting, or so i thought. After that every word out of his mouth was a lie. He would call me and make dates and then call me to tell me work came up. Something did not seem right and so I investigated and he had be lying all along. When I confronted him, he said well there just was not spark. And please do not thnk bad of him. What am I supposed to think? I am directing this question to both men and women, but what it is that you are really looking for on this site. Are your lives so miserable that you need to make sure you make some one elses miserable. People here are looking for friends and hopefully a romantic connection. I was hurt by what this man did to me because at this time of my life this was not what I needed. I needed to be happy and to smile for awhile. For awhile I thought I was hurt because he did not want a relationship with me, but I have come to learn that, that is not the case. What really hurts me is the fact that he does not even think that I am person worthy of being his friend. I tried to treat him well the way I would like to be treated and in return, I got stomped on by someone who thinks he is God's gift to the world.
Perhaps, POF should have a WARNING: Internet Player forum. A place to list the ones that are users and abusers. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:54:47 PM | im not sure i understand this thread,youre complaining about a one night stand from some guy you started to fall in love with? but youre still married? am i getting this right?
And you wonder why some folks are very wary on this site? | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:56:54 PM |
im not sure i understand this thread,youre complaining about a one night stand from some guy you started to fall in love with? but youre still married? am i getting this right?
And you wonder why some folks are very wary on this site?
Yep...makle sense of that lol | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:59:13 PM | | Smilz: You're exactly right about all that. Oh by the way (referring to my previous post)...twenty-THREE year olds are cool! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 8:59:22 PM | thanks for the advise missazriel - It is karma and they say what goes around comes around right so it is going to be his turn one day. I am a pretty girl and i have a decent body i am just wondering what pushes a guy to cheat. is it some kind of sickness in the head they have or what. I know women cheat...but you know why cause the man dont give them the love they need. Yes a woean may not give a man they love he needs but 94% of the time it is the mans fault. i think. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:02:20 PM | harely...the only reason we might be married and on this site is because the man we married is a lying SOB...a cheater and a heartbreaker. Yes...why are they so mean...what cant we do for them that the other Sl*t can do...they are sick in the head! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:02:26 PM | You aren't an idiot, you are just not ready...I know all about that..I stayed in a stupid, abusive relationship for over 20 years...for the kids and cause I didn't know what to do...but I have been out for the past 6 and it is now the best time in my life.....so just believe in yourself...you CAN live without him. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:02:39 PM | | 94% of the time is the mans fault? maybe you need to pick better men | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:03:34 PM | | It is true....girls use guys as well..it isn't just the guys... | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:07:39 PM | jazz or whatever your name is
like i said you need to pick better men, not all men are a$$holes
listen i had a gal cheated on me, yet you dont hear me condemning the whole female race | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:08:41 PM | Jan, yes girls do use guys I know most of the time its for the DOE. My hubby isnt good looking (34 AND LOOKS 50) but he shows the green to the girls and they use him for that. Maybe i was too harsh when i said 94% of the time...but mainly guys are the cheaters...don't you all think...I am a good hearted girl who is trying to sacrifice her relationship with a cheating hubby because of my 2 kids but i am tired. I am not getting the respect i am giving so I am going to get ouut of this relationship...it is karma and he well get what he deserves....
WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:09:36 PM | | Harley, I am not putting men down...men are great ....yes we can all cheat but why do men do it more? | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:13:34 PM | men cheat more than women, i think women cheat just as much as men
when a man steps out on his woman its called cheating but when a woman
steps out on a man its called a affair , think about that hun. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:17:38 PM | smilz 4free....START WITH A FRIENDSHIP!!!! AND NOT ALL GUYS ARE LOOKING FOR JUST PLAIN SEX.
why do we need to be reminded bout friends first...gawd we that nieve. The way i see it..if were online we are associates...on the first meet its a start of a friendship...duh. Startin to hate that word now..friends...gawd i treat my friends with loyalty...and they treat me the same in return.
ok gonna get killed for this one...go easy on me..lol.
cheatin...my idea of it>>>goes for both genders why do they cheat? ...what is it your not doing for them ...dont provide for them in the bedroom they look else where...same goes for talkin..no communication they look else where. if people bring out the worst in them ...they seek else where to get positive energy for another....to me its simple. i was cheated on by my ex of 20 yrs of marriage....long story short...we grew apart an lived seperate lives in the end.
way i see it..men are easy creatures to please...feed them and love them ...they'll stay. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2006 9:28:30 PM |
I don't mind sex but come on u don't even know me get to know me first please
If you have not left your husband why would you be looking for a man to fall in love with, get to know and have sex with? If you think he is cheating and you are doing this are you both not in the wrong? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:14:46 AM | | WTF? Did I miss something? Where did the original post go? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:30:44 AM | I understand completely why you have not done anything about getting out of that situation yet.
Your self esteem is so low you just don't have tha motivation to organise yourself into a better situation.
He will never change.
You must start doing things for yourself that make you feel better: good food, do your legs n eyebrows, change your hairstyle, if you are good at anything eg: painting, playing guitar, tennis, riding your horse, writing stories. Whatever it is do it , keep doing it, you will achieve some satisfaction, draw all the positive energy you possibly can. Then your self esteem will grow enough to make the move! Then watch it grow after that! Pow wow girl you will be free to make yourself feel better all the time.
There will be down times but hey, thats life.
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:41:53 AM | Pss. Don't look to another man to get you out of this, keep your morals or you will be the one who ran away with another man. Find another man later when it won't be a rebound relationship. I know it sounds hard but you must be strong and true to yourself before you can be that way to anyone else. Treat yourself like you treat your favourite possesion.
Good Luck Once Again. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 5:19:27 AM | Some men. Why are some men so mean.
You can't draw any type of conclusion from such a limited sample. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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Posted: 1/13/2006 6:38:32 AM | of course you can...it's the easiest type of conclusion to draw. SOME men are mean because they have a hangnail...it's true!
BTW: mssg vwls...clever name! You're another cool 23 year old. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 6:40:38 AM | I thought it was those darn knuckle busters that make them mean.
Nothing like cracking their knuckles on something hard to burn a man's temper | |
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Joined: 12/30/2005
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Posted: 1/13/2006 7:16:33 AM | | If its mainly guys who cheat, who are they cheating with? It takes two to dance. | |
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Joined: 1/10/2006
Msg: 49 | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 7:40:47 AM | On haven't been on any dates yet,but whom ever I go on a date with will not find me a mean person.Just the opposite. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 8:28:52 AM | | not all of us are mean or just want sex . and no we all are not cheaters my ex cheated on me said she would never do it again so i took her back within 6 months she did it again. kicked her as# to the curb for good so if that makes me mean or a jerk than i guess i am . she won't even see the kids don't pay child support nothing what does that make her ?all guys are not just here for sex some of us are just looking for somebody to love!!!! | |
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