| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:21:31 PM | | I'm at a loss for words at such a cold,heartless,cruel woman.I'm sorry for your experience.No one should have to go thru that.Just take that negative & turn it into a positive & go from there.I have my own story so I can feel for you.To make a long story short,I met a man on here who I thought would be my dream come true.We clicked from the moment we spoke.We spent hours talking & it couldn't have felt better.Me,being the cautionary person I am,wasn't pushing to meet so soon but he was.He said & did all the things known to make a woman's heart melt...& mine did.He even did the "I'm going to tell you something but don't feel sorry for me" bit & I swallowed it whole.I knew I had fallen in love & thought he did too or he lead me to believe that.He was going to be alone for Christmas,he made sure of telling me that.Playing on my tenderness again.Anyways,I invited him into my home,a part of my family,& showed him complete attention & affection the whole weekend.He knew he had my heart.Everything was good til after he was gone.Then,he did a 360 turn around or should I say,he let his true colors show.He was a player & a good one I must say.I've not had to deal with a player like this before so I had no clue people were so cold,calculating,& heartless to other people.I was devastated at first & still tender but I have taken this experience & learned from it.I won't call out his name here for I've been a lady thru this whole thing but just to warn you ladies,he's back here.I can't believe the nerve! Drop me a line if you want to avoid this player ladies! | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:24:53 PM | You rock Mojo. You didn't insult her, even after the experience. Most of us would. I'm a man, and after reading that, a woman would be idiotic to mistreat you. I respect your tenacity and thoughtfulness. If more men acted in this manner, then both men and women would have a much better time finding someone--because no one would have as much bagagge as they do now.
Keep doing what you're doing. You'll find one--more than that, I bet--that will treat you as you deserve. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:36:26 PM | She left me all alone, to fend for myself, in an unfamiliar city. That has got to be the worst karma anyone has signed up for since John Lennon was shot!
Give me a break!! Are you not a grown up man? Did you really need her to take care of you? I think she just didn't like you after meeting you and didn't want to be put into the situation of chauffeur and babysitter just cause you traveled so far to meet her when you said you were going there anyways!!? HELLO!! I think if I traveled that far to meet someone, I would be prepared financially and emotionally to take care of myself, whether or not we clicked when we first meet. So quit crying and keep trying for God's sake! GOD!  | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:36:38 PM | | I've met someone from far away and it was really a fabulous weekend. The thing we both agreed on was that we should meet somewhere "neutral", that we both knew and could enjoy no matter what happened between us. So I booked two rooms in a hotel in NYC, and we met there. And we used both rooms so nobody had to sleep in the wet spot. Too bad the rest of the relationship didn't keep the pace with the beginning of it. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:46:59 PM |
I think if I traveled that far to meet someone, I would be prepared financially and emotionally to take care of myself, whether or not we clicked when we first meet.
Bingo! He wins the RATIONAL THINKING prize | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 1:33:13 PM | My take on this whole story is different from all the others. I think the reason she was only interested in the Forum and not the dating is because she was still...MARRIED with kids.....and just looking for excitement thru the Forum only!! She only had time here and there to get the car and come up with excusses to get out of the house. Even taking the small baby out signaled me that the baby would not tell stories after. I am sure you never went back to HER PLACE!
Anyway that is my take on it she seemed nervous about being found out!! Write it off as a bad experience with someone who was already TAKEN!!
IT IS NOT YOU!! Never go after someone who does not want a relationship from the start....waste of time!! | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 1:36:52 PM | | Wow Mojo...sorry to hear about that...hats off to you for staying upbeat and seeing the lighter side of things....I think this experience says more about you than it does about her... | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 2:10:27 PM | Mojo:
Oh, dear. How disheartening.
I know personally of two people who've experienced similar.
One lady residing in NYC., chatted and met with a man from another dating site. Eight months later, she bought a ticket and flew to London England. There, she was pretty stranded as he never showed up, didn't respond to calls etc.
She got a taxi to his home to be met by his wife, a flight home to NYC and left in a very emotional state.
Now, a man who chatted with a woman here on POF. Six months later, he drove ( from the east coast of Canada to BC ) to meet her, only to discover 'she' wasn't whom she represented. Instead, she had placed her neighbour's photo on her profile!
He went home throroughly and understandably p'd off.
I feel for you, mojo!
Is there a lesson here?
ABSOLUTE! There are no mistakes...only lessons to be learned. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 2:42:37 PM | Hey Glimmer, I'm sure she is reading this thread, she's very active in the forums. I certainly welcome her to chime in with her version!
And to answer a few critics, I never expected or planned to for anything to 'happen.' All I expected was that she'd follow up on her OFFER to show me around town. Why she couldn't put the romantic notions aside and just have a fun weekend is for her to know and us to find out.
Who knows, perhaps all the emergencies and last-minute probelms were genuine - but if the roles were reversed, I would have at least checked up on her and helped her find stuff to do, maybe call some friends and see if anyone had time to show her around.
And, as I said, I made due without her. In fact, I found an internet cafe and posted a few messages on POF for people from Vancouver who might want to hang out, but it was deleted by mods because I left a phone number.
Whoops! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:01:07 PM | Once SweetPea mentioned the idea of her being married it sounded like it fit. Have you considered that at all. Honest it does sound like that is what it was, sorted out him do this and that on the weekend so she had free time. His plans didn't work out so neither did hers.
Do you know anyone that knows her on here?
If you ever decide to come to my town look me up and I'll make sure you have everything at your desposal. But my body. :-) | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:10:51 PM | I would be thankful it didn't happen in Japan.
I mean - c'mon, Canada... Even language is the same. Well, almost - got to learn how to "eh" here and there.
But you surprise me. Sounds like you totally relied on a stranger.
May be next time you should do a bit of research yourself and make some arrangements that are always possible to change.
And I hope it will not be in Japan.
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:15:38 PM | Maybe not the 'worst' but it does carry pathos for the lead.
I had an experience back when I was 27 ... its the main reason I insist on seeing how a person writes, looks, and interacts with me online and by phone. I will likely never go to any great distance or trouble to meet someone out of my city limits. I don't feel like walking through seeming miles of crop fields in my pin-striped suit again.
Like me, you had a right, a reason, a reasonable feeling of expectation that all would unfold marvelously. I find instinct is an effective ally when one has nothing at stake with the heart. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:19:06 PM | Canadians...can't trust em, can't invade and annex their country. hey wait a minute, Iraq will wind down soon...all those tanks have to go somewhere.
I'd like a house by a lake please. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:36:24 PM | She's not married... I can't say for a total certaintly, but I called her at home many times while we were getting to know each other, got her machine, spoke to her kids when she wasn't home... if she was married, she sure wasn't trying very hard to hide me.
Besides, being married wouldn't stop her from calling or emailing. No, if there was something else going on I would have picked up on it. She just ran like a baby.
By the way, if anyone reading this ever needs a hotel in Vancouver, stay at the Blue Horizon - it was awesome. Best view of a city I've ever had in my life - and I'm from NYC! | |
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cb307
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Joined: 12/11/2005
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 3:41:21 PM | | You both should have made a "back up plan" about how things would go if there was no chemistry. It'a not fun spending three days with someone you are not attracted to. She could have handled it better, but you set yourself up. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:48:32 PM | I agree with cb307, the lesson that I think is here is to always have a backup plan if things go south because traveling alone can be a blast if you want it to be.
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 3:48:39 PM |
I'm sure she is reading this thread, she's very active in the forums.
I bet she's real happy to see her "business" spread all over a POF forum. Regardless of how she "treated" you, you didn't need to come here and post all about it. Perhaps, you could of, ohhhhhhhhhhhh I dunno, ASKED HER ???!!!???!!???!!?? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 3:49:18 PM | We did make a back up plan, as I explained - we both agreed that if we didn't "click," we'd still have fun hanging out as friends. I never would have gone otherwise.
Short of the other person being a psycho, there really isn't much reason to reneg on a deal like that. Unless you're the kind of person that can't be friends with someone you don't want to sleep with.
Even for a few days. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 4:10:46 PM | I would still like To hear Her side
I still smell Dead Fish on this one,I think this thread is anger based,
and relates to getting even.
Even with a back up Plan,it does not mean You will like the Person
or want to spend time with them..when You really don't feel like it
I would feel trapped. | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 49 | |
| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:08:27 PM | I'd like a house by a lake please.
bring mosquito repellant when you invade...
OT: is it safe to assume then that you have not communicated with her at all since heading back home? Even in the way of an explanatory email? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2006 5:18:56 PM | You sound like a good but naive guy. You're knocking my hometown, one of the most if not the most beautiful cities in the world. Tell us about the L.A. baracudas who will empty your pockets and bank account.
The best hospitality I have encountered by far is in New Orleans. Flew there for a weekend to check it out. At dinner in an outdoor cafe on my last night, a table of 4 was seated next to me. They remarked that I must not be from there as I was dining alone. They invited me to join them. One lovely Southern belle asked me what sites I had seen since my arrival. Bourbon Street was all I could come up with.
That will not do, she said. You are not going to leave New Orleans without seeing the city. She bid her companions goodnight and took me on a night long walking tour. In the morning, We dined at the best resraurant in the city. 7 course meal with white wine for breakfast. She saw me off at the airport. I kissed her on both cheeks and thanked her for her hospitality. We did not even exchange addresses or telephone numbers. A very magical night. | |
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