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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/29/2007 5:38:53 AM | | Were you not going to Vancouver anyway? Should the trip not have been about going to Van and setting it up yourself? Then once in Van on business or visit, have dinner with her. Set trips up for yourself and if you happen to be going somewhere where there maybe a potential date or visit, you can enjoy what you went to place for. No disappointment if you are going anyway. Have place to stay and way to back out, enjoy trip. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/29/2007 10:03:20 AM | "Willprevale": I don't agree with you. The man shouldn't have to give a woman his home address and workplace for a first date. There are some female troublemakers out there too! One woman I went out with wanted my address so she could receive checks in the mail under an assumed name that she wanted me to cash for her!
But I agree with you that the first date should always be in a public place, like a bar or restaurant. Actually it's probably best to make the first several dates in public places until you really know the person. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/29/2007 11:30:48 AM | Sorry, just read the original post...too long to read otherwise. Anyways, I feel bad that she ditched you and blew you off too. That's plain rude, but in truth, she might have felt huge pressure all of the sudden and perhaps regret for even arranging to meet with you. She might have been embarrassed by personal info she told you and now felt a little violated on some level because she had bared her soul to you on some occassion. I am NOT justifying her actions, but I have heard stories from females who regretting meeting someone because they felt like the mystery of discovering more about each other was gone, and it was more fun fantasizing about where it was going then actually persuing it. I don't think you did anything wrong so pls don't blame yourself. She obviously has issues and she might have done you a favour in the long-run.
Lesson learned from this is DO NOT have a first date with someone in some town you are not familiar with at all! Keep on  | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/29/2007 3:45:47 PM | See this is why l am so scared to meet anyone...it is hard enough for me to post a picture that some sorry (man) will pull apart...and that is not where the chemistry lays??? I really dont know if l am ready for this...it sucks having no one to share things with but god some of the things already said and now this site???? Still deciding... | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/29/2007 6:46:49 PM | Re: long distance dates. They say the internet has allowed people to be miserable at longer distances than ever before.
I know people who have email relationships with people in England, Germany etc. Oh yeah and my Ex somehow got into a flirt-a-thon with a lady in Denmark. The upshot is: once the person has gone halfway around the world to meet you, you are pretty much obligated to spend the time with them. The more distance, the more pressure. Good luck & happy fishing, folks. My pond limit is 25 miles. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2007 7:04:08 PM | well u did say u were planning to to go there soon,
to me i would read that as.. great meet u while ur here.. but seems like that was the only reason u were there.. her. if a guy made it clear he was travelling all that way just for me.. and relying on me.. that would stress me out! lot of pressure. but if he had other things to do and a purpose for being there, that would be different.
but the risk with meeting anyone is.. they aren't going to be what u thought or visa versa.. or there isn't chemistry.. not as relaxed.. they aren't as funny or fifty other excuses..
hence.. keep it local! | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/30/2007 11:36:43 PM | You know what....It just doesnt matter how far you go to meet, cross whatever border, travel for however long,...there are MANY people both Male and Female, that really just don't give a sh*t what your situation is. They are in this for whatever that can get out of it..just for themselves. If they don't like your face, your car, or your wallet, they are Gone.....! So we can all cry about this or that...or say Ill never go past 25 miles to meet, it just doesnt matter...UNLESS, you stumble across a genuine person. These people use feelings, care about others, have pride, able to rationalize, and moreso, show respect to another human being. Anything short of that, is not worth the time of day, and the only thing you can do when you find yourself stuck on the short end of a meet n greet,...is to laugh...! If you travel to meet, get online and book your own room! Book your own small car! and do NOT meet at your Hotel/Motel on the first meet. Do NOT disclose where you are staying (at first) or that you are even renting a car,..she/he does not need to know this. You are VULNERABLE whenever you rely on a stranger for rides, advise, or lodging. DONT DO IT. The reason mojo LA was caught off guard was because he allowed her to control some of his responsibilites. So when he didnt like how she played them, it made for a bad experience. Who's fault..?
Always have your plan and your next plan in your head..ready for action, if need be.
If they turn out great, and you have found a genuine person, ONLY THEN can you let down your guard, and start to allow them to make decisions for you, and sharing personal information and so on and so on. Chances are, this will NOT happen, so you need be prepared at all times. IF you are not....then you only have yourself to blame. No one else. Woman need a plan in place when meeting strange men,...and you must NOT deviate from it..untill you are certain you have met a genuine person. Men also, must have a plan, and don't think men are less vulnerable because they are rough n tough (most of them) I know of many stories where men have been lured to apartments to meet woman, only to be mugged on the other side of the door, attacked by dogs, knifed, robbed and had their car stolen. Their was a woman in Montreal who had a mix pitbull, keep it out on the balcony at first, once you were seated on the couch, she let the dog in, which immediately sat beside you and would NOT let you move to stand up. Once you had left your wallet on the side of the couch, she called the dog to her side, held it, and allowed you to leave. She then threatened to call rape if you called the authorities, and had your wallet as proof you were in her apartment!
This came from a good friend of mine, who did loose his wallet and who did get bit. It was only the fresh bite mark that actually got Police to believe him. She was set up with an undercover posing 2 weeks later, and apparantly ended her circus act.
So you see, everybody must be on guard at all times. Here are a few RULES of the ROAD:
For MEN:
1) Never bring your wallet to a first meet, bring $20 cash..if all goes well....you can always say you forgot your wallet in the car and run back. Even then, just bring a credit card or a debit card. THATS ALL YOU NEED. Hide your wallet in your car, and NOT in the glove comp. or center console. I mean HIDE IT. The reason you dont bring a credit card or debit card for a first meet is you can still be FORCED to withdraw money...So if you lose $20...whoppy sh*t. The reason you HIDE your wallet, is if things presumably go well and you return to your car, and things get hot, while your being pleasured, either she is searching your car with a free hand, or she has her thugs waiting nearby to get you with your pants down. So then at least your forgotton wallet story will hold true. 2) Never park your car right in front of her place, always walk around the corner, keep your car out of sight. Always park it so it can be driven out without a problem. Never nose in to a spot, back in and be ready. Be aware if there are people sitting in cars outside. If you live alone and dont have any friends to disclose arrangements to, then at LEAST write down peticulars on a blank sheet of paper and leave it in your apartment. Names, address's user names on which sites etc...when you get home simply throw it away..and if you never get home, at least you have left the right clues for authorities. (thats an extreme case, but shows you are thinking)
3) When entering an apartment, take note of hallways, exits, elevators, and most importantly....take a mental note which way you turn when you have to exit her door.
IE: Turn left when i get out....say it to yourself, believe me, when you are in a hurry, it helps! Keep your shoes together and pointing to the door, and take note of inside hallways, doors, etc and especially if you note there are others in the apartment, especially dogs!
If you dont feel comfortable, LEAVE! Never question yourself...!
For WOMAN:
1) Foremost, and DON'T deviate, meet in a public place, where there are other people.
If you are meeting at a coffee shop, go EARLIER, have an extra coffee, and strike conversation with a worker. Even if you say..Ahhhh, give me another coffee, I guess he is not going to show...boy I hate that!, and Ill guarantee that person will now take note that a guy has finally showed up..and may even give you a thumbs up! Most importanly though, that employee has just made a memory marker of you and that guy. If ever...and I mean..IF ever,..something go's wrong, and you need to go back and question her, she WILL remember you. 2) Never park in an isolated area, and in this case, park close to entrance door. This will stop the need to walk you to your car....and if you are moving on to another place, follow in your own car!! 3) Leave your purse or credentials in the car, bring in $20 cash,..thats it. You dont need to advertise whats in your purse to prying eyes. 4) This rule is for when you really have a creep in front of you, and you dont feel comfortable even in driving away for fear he will follow you.
CALL A CAB! Go up the clerk and say,..please call me a cab... Once in the cab, take note if he is following you, and if so, alert the driver to call it in to his dispatch and to alert Police. and if he continues, either go to a Police station or tell the driver to stop at a cruiser...and believe me, it works. So, for $20 or $30..you probably saved your own life or from being raped...who knows,...but it shows your thinking, and your safe. If he doesnt follow you from the coffee shop, instruct the driver to go back after a 5 minute ride. This is where getting there EARLIER helps you....so he doesnt see what you drove up in...and you get to see what he drove up in...all of this helps when sh*t happens!! 5) Woman,...always let someone else know where you are, timelines, and a plan to call...and always have your failsafe set...IE:, if you turn your phone OFF when your girlfriend is set to call, she will know your in trouble. This is better for those nervous people who worry about what to say expressing danger to your girlfriend while sitting right in front of him!! You dont want to alert him that you are onto him.
This is called the silent alarm, when your girlfriend gets your voicemail, she should be on her way to where you are. Then she can make out the surprise visit,..fancy meeting you here!! and she doesnt leave without you!!
If your guy is genuine,...there is nothing stopping you from YOU calling your girlfriend, and updating her on where your going etc....and again set your failsafe up,..like telling her to call you in an hour.
If anybody wants any specific ideas on safe meeting, or what to do when travelling, feel free to contact me. Always be thinking, be alert, take notes, and when your meet is a genuine person,..then have FUN.
Best Regards.. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/31/2007 5:56:18 AM | | Wow, I'm so sorry that that happened to you. I heard a story on Dateline (I think) about this woman who did the same thing. She was married and very very heavy. She created these fantasy worlds online. She would set up to meet guys and never show. People from her town went to her home and spoke with her husband and he just said not again....please tell me she's not still at it. I guess you never know what you are getting into online. I believe it would be common human decency to hold up her end of the bargain as friends at the very least. Better luck next time. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/31/2007 10:41:01 AM | | Dang! I would be flattered as hell if a man traveled that many miles to meet with me. I have also been raised to believe to treat others as you would like to be treated! Even if she felt no attraction when you finally met, she could have still treated you as a friend and made sure you were all set up before just telling you that she lost interest. And you are right, can you bar what love might come in what distance? To often people complain that they can't find the right "one" , but they won't travel very far either. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/31/2007 1:31:38 PM | Maybe not the worst story but sounds like you wasted a lot of time, money, and effort only to be let down like that.
It doesn't make sense that she was himming and hawwing about you staying out there for more than one night, because she did that before you and her even met up so she would not be able to judge how things would go in person yet. Seems to me like you either ran into someone who has an unhappy marriage, or has a boyfriend yet is "fishing"
She brought the baby probably because the baby was too young to tattle tale on you two if she was indeed taken.
The point brought up by others is a very good one, even if you don't click like you think you would, does not mean you cannot be friends and have fun together, and you may even find out that your first impression is usually right, but I have had a couple women "grow" on me after a while and ended up with them.
I drove 3 hours to Rockford to meet a woman I had talked to on here, she seemed awesome and was already talking love with me. I drive all that way, got stuck in traffic, and then meet her at a restaurant. Our plan was to spend the night together and we were going to book a room together, and just have an awesome night together.
She at first told me she liked how I looked, and seemed like she was interested, but we ended up going to a park (her idea) and then she was very rude, we talked for 5 minutes and she seemed really distant and I found I was the only one both talking and answering questions. After that 5 minutes, one of her best friends called and she ended up having me stand there, awkwardly, for 35 minutes on the phone! How rude can you be, and her friend invited her to hang out with them at a bar and she said she would go, so I thought that was what we were going to do. She hangs up finally, as I am bored and sitting on a bench about 100 feet away from her, as I was kind of pissed she would treat me like that.
She then tells me, "Well, something important came up and I have to get going in a few minutes." I thought she was kidding, I drove 3 hours only to be told that after her in depth conversation? I said that and she said, "Well, to be honest I usually like guys who are 6 foot tall or more and you just don't seem to be my type, but we can remain friends." She knew my height before I came over, and I had drove all that way, paid for her dinner, and then stood and sat while she talked on the phone for over 35 minutes. I was very visibly mad, but I was still polite and she want to hug me and I refused to hug her, as she had been rude, and shallow and obviously thought it was cool to waste my money, time, and effort only to be sent home. She got into her car and left, and when I got home I got a nasty email on here telling me, "You did not have to have an attitude with me, I did nothing wrong to you and I think you are a very rude person and I can see why you are single!" She then blocked me, so I wasted 8 hours of my life which I want back for a shallow head case who made me think I have actually found the woman I had been looking for. Even though I can understand her not feeling that "click" there is no excuse to treat someone like that, and if we were to be friends we could have hung out anyhow and I could have went home. Instead I drove all that way for nothing, you live and you learn.
That is by far my worse Plentyoffish experience but hopefully from now on I have only one more experience, and a good one at that! | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/31/2007 1:34:21 PM | Also, I thought about this...I had told her that I did not have much money on me when really I had just gotten paid the night before, so I had plenty of money. That seems to be when her attitude changed and she lost interest in me. And, to be honest she looked much better in her picture than in person.
That is a good way to root out the money grubbers, and women who don't really like you, just want a guy to pay their way for a night of fun. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/31/2007 1:47:54 PM | Well I read your story and ALL the posts.......and I have to agree with you on the part of it hoping for the best and expecting the worst........
my thoughts are......the least she could have done was said.......look....im not interested.....bite me.......something........just forget the excuses......
anyways.......there are alot of people who come on sites....write a great profile.......
but they truely DO NOT......know what they want.......
maybe it should be called Im fishing to see what I catch........lol....If I don't like it...throw it back........lol.
anyway......sorry for your bad experience..........sounds like it really sucked...Except for getting to see a new place. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/31/2007 1:54:53 PM | That has to be the worst story Ive ever heard!!!! I live in the UK and I have problems with people travelling a distance, say 100 miles lol, never mind that far... what was she thinking of, Doing that, I really cant believe that for someone to travel that far, the other party would not have the decency or common courtesy to enjoy the time together and make you feel welcome!!! regardless of any sexual attraction. I would hve made you welcome regardless of how we felt towards each other, especially as you would have to fly half way round the world lol, but thats not gonna happen huh..... Please dont let that put you off, like I say the UK is a lot smaller and guys here will not travel to the end of their own street lol. Take care xxxxx
LYNNE | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/31/2007 1:58:59 PM | I had told her that I did not have much money on me when really I had just gotten paid the night before, so I had plenty of money. That seems to be when her attitude changed and she lost interest in me. And, to be honest she looked much better in her picture than in person.
Yet you say that you were planning on dinner and a hotel room?
My guess is that she suddenly thought you were going to stick her with the bills. That was kind of a dumb game to play, don't you think? | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 7/31/2007 10:04:06 PM |
Yet you say that you were planning on dinner and a hotel room?
My guess is that she suddenly thought you were going to stick her with the bills. That was kind of a dumb game to play, don't you think?[/Quote]
Though I see your point, I should have also told what she had planned for us to do that night, which would have probably cost a lot of money and the red flag went up. I was not playing a game, just testing to see if my money was more important than my company and she never complained about the money part in her insult letter. I don't play games, I just also know a lot of women on here like money, as I have run into quite a few that asked me how much I made which makes you weary. I still feel she would have had me take her out for a night on the town, and then told me some excuse like, "Well ok I had fun but I got to go." She was really shallow and without being there it's hard to show you, lets put it this way, she was a big phony, and a very obvious one at that. If you had seen how she talked to me on the phone as opposed to in person, you would see what I mean. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 8/1/2007 3:51:53 AM | Well my friend, I don't see why you are making all the fuss. Did this person
put a gun to your head to go to Vancouver? It's not like she didn't show up the first
time at all. There is always a large degree of chance when meeting someone for the
first time on a dating site. Why did you put so much trust in someone you barely
know? Sounds like you should just except what happened and move on.
Why would you even go all the way to Vancouver? You were taking quite a risk!
I'm surprised that she even met you the first time. You should just be content with
that and be Happy you saw Vancouver. Wow, you shouldn't be so trusting of others.
Sorry, but that's how I see it! | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 8/1/2007 6:30:07 AM | I once met someone from the net.
He suffers from multiple personality disorder.
Sometimes he's female
Sometimes he's gay
Sometimes he's straight
Has portrayed himself to be a police officer and our current police office is aware of it
He portrays himself as a chartered accountant
He stalks people both in real life and the internet
The sad part about this person is that he graduated from a child & youth worker program. It's a sick world if someone employs this psycho. There is something severely not right in his head. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 6:55:33 AM | Hmmmm..this story happened almost TWO years ago folks. 
And yep, there ARE rude people out in that big ole world. So, be prepared....for the worst but expect the best! Especially when "dating" in cyber world before actually getting into the real world with them.
Sure does seem like too many get "involved emotionally" before they ever even really meet and hang out with the other person. Makes little sense to me. But then, I'm from the old school...haha!
I have met people from VERY far away and with no expectations. One came to visit me...but I intentionally made arrangements that included him, but also freed us both from any obligations in the event we couldn't stand each other
I have gone to a city I've never been to, to meet someone...and made certain I made alternative plans should the visit bomb.
I really really want to see BC, Vancouver Island....I also "know" someone there from POF...and I will welcome a "personal Tour Guide " while there...but believe me...should we not get along, no big deal. I will still see as much of that area as I am able.."Tour Guide" or not. 
Anyway..don't think this old story was the worst dating story. 
I would be thrilled to be in Vancouver!!!
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 8/2/2007 8:21:11 AM | Wow what a story, you poor bugger, heart in the right place and get S..t on from a great height
I got one for you, precis version, met jane 3 dates, took her for a beer at my local, sensed something was wrong when we went back to my house and asked her to leave, she had only arranged a date with a mate of mine at my local when I went the loo. So I sent her on her way........over you would think, oh no
She slept with the mate of mine, now an ex mate, then when he dumped her expected me to come back to her, and wanted me back, I told her where to go and she simply broke into my house when I was away, got arrested, in the cells overnight, was drunk and then called me and asked me not to press charges.....well I did and she lost her licence thru DUI and got a heavy cort fine..........she continued to pester me and I had to get an injunction to stop it.......................guess what she did for a living........a psychiatric nurse, that says it all, enjoy your search pal, Tim | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 8/7/2007 2:30:05 PM | | Women are Trash they have very liitle to offer.....They think what is in their paints is GOLD women wounder why they get left after 25 yeras of marriage...they play games because they have NO BACK BONE...they are the most insecure CREATURES ON EARTH....I HOPE THIS IDIOT GET ****ED WITH OR IS DEAD.......what goes around comes right back front and center...... | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 8/8/2007 8:12:55 AM | Wow. Now to get back to the original post refarding the Vancouver holiday.
Big deal. She got cold feet, and you got left high and dry in Vancouver.
As you said you met up with some people you worked with and others; and had a great time. Not like Canada is a foreign country where they speak a foreign language (even though they sound foreign to me) and she took your passport and money.
Why are you crying as if it is a tale of terror. ffs you had a good time, and saw Vancouver.
As we say in Oz "Shite happens".  | |
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