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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 12:23:16 AM | I'd have to say that's the worst dating story, first date or pof story aside, that I've ever heard.
If this person is a regular to forums, she knows who she is and shame on her. What goes around eventually comes around and maybe she better hope she isn't in a strange place (with her children) at some point and when her turn comes around.
"Hope for the best, expect the worst", words to live by and prepare yourself for in an event like this. You seem to have risen above it and tried to make the best of a bad situation and that makes you the better person.
I don't know how I'd deal with something like that after the fact, the idea of a local date going sour is bad enough, never mind travelling that distance.
"Live and learn", more words to live by, hopefully the bad experience hasn't ruined the chances for the next lucky lady as you sound like a genuinely nice guy, and good pic too, so keep on fishing and the best of luck with it. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 12:33:35 AM | How come people don't write threads for the BEST Pleanty Of Fish Story You Will Ever Hear? Is that just to dull to be of interest? I have some great experiences in my short lived life here...I am sure others have too.
The point is, most of us are smart enough not to put ourselves in positions where we can get royally screwed. Why focus on those few really bad incidents, rather lets celebrate all the good things that do happen!
Speaking of which...Ludka from Russia, my 21 year old model and amazingly sexy doll, is asking me to come and visit her....should I go? | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 12:49:59 AM | Sorry about your bad luck .... hope you enjoyed Vancouver though!
There are good and bad / and / nice and ignorant everywhere ..... the bad and ignorant just have that special way of standing out in the crowd and making themselves realy shine!
As far as travel goes ..... it may not always work out .... it may sometimes be a disaster .... but isn't it worth it for those few times it may work out? ..... isn't love itself like that?
Don't let the bad experience sour you ..... keep treking on ...... there is always something and someone new out there! ..... and I wish you the very best in your search! I believe there are still more good out there than bad .... most are a little bruised or dented because of their experiences, but they are out there .... and a little travel may bring out great results, or ... she may be close to home .... | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 12:50:29 AM | In response to comment by JoeDunn re: Canadian women.............
Hey, hey, hey, don't be giving Canadian women a bad wrap now. We're at the top of the totem pole buddy.
That person is the exception to the rule, most Canadian women wouldn't consider doing that. Who's to say that woman didn't migrate north from maybe Pateros (your hometown i believe).
Not trying to get nasty, just making a point. You meet all kinds everywhere. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:13:42 AM | @ JoeDunn.....My situation happened with a man from the States, but I don't paint all the men from the States with the same brush. Mind you I have had more propositions from them in the States than from anywhere else. It has however made me more cautious for a future possibility from anywheres and will take alot more time before accepting what someone is telling me as truth. It was a hard lesson learned, to do my homework. If people are upfront and don't leave out important details as mental problems, we could have avoided the drama period. It also helps if when you arrive in their home, that you don't treat them like a personal maid,cook and chauffeur let alone get a little sumthin sumthin at the end of the day.
@Bandito....We're still trying to find that best story you'll ever hear. I do agree though that I have met some nice people, but still no sparks. I forget who sang that song....."Everyone has a story to tell" but it pretty much nails it here. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:53:46 PM | | No matter what the feelings were, interested or not...you can't ever have too many friends, and for her to leave you in unknown territory 1500 miles from home when she made those plans right along with you..shows she's not a very good person..you could have enjoyed the weekend , had a good time as friends and went on your way...that was inexcusable.. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 4:18:42 PM | Blu eyed gal: WE don't really know if he appeared to give off that "I'm not that interested in you now that we met vibes". Isn't that just an assumption? The only thing I could pick up that would remotely relate to your statement is when he wrote: "In person, I thought she was cute. Truthfully, I thought her pictures were better, but hey, that's the name of the game! Bottom line is I had an open mind and was happy to see where the next few days took us..." He still sd that she looked 'cute'. If we are only basing it in looks, then it may not have appeared to her that he wasn't interested. If we are gonna base it on personality, then maybe he might not have been as interested as her personality wasn't suitable to his.
MOJO: When u met her IRL, did your interest fall? If so, do u think you gave that 'vibe' off in any way???
If you did give off some strong 'vibe', then I don't blame her for palming you off really, but on the other hand, I would still keep my half of the bargain by still showing u around or helping you out. After all, she agreed to meet up w you and sight-see w you on a 'friendly' basis. So, now I'm thinking she should have stuck to what she said or what planned w you because she should'nt have been thinking along any more lines other than friendship. It seems like she must have been cuz she wouldn't have blown you off...or maybe you really did give her a REALLY bad 'vibe' or impression and she stood back and thought: "Narh". So u really have to answer my above question!
Or simply, she was bloody busy and became preoccupied. Something terrible must have happened if she NEVER got back to you! But we tend to make up excuses for people and we should'nt. So, the bottom line would be that she just couldn't be ****ed to chase you up to check on you or whatever.
You mentioned that you didnt bring your phone charger though. Maybe she tried to call while your battery was flat? I guess there are always voicemails/text messages. Again, we can't make excuses. What she did was her responsbility. What you did, was your responsibility. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 4:29:46 PM | Sorry to hear this sad tale.
Canadians are usually much nicer than that. No excuse for it at all. We might have to pull her citizenship for non-Canadian-like-behaviour.
Good to hear you met up with some of your film/tv crew. Vancouver is a great city. but it sucks if you dont have a friend to show you around.
Next time you, or anyone goes to a far away city they should look up the sites and info for what they want to do and see. that way if the date doesnt work out you still know where and what to do. Really feel for you being stuck out near the airport. What a sad tale. I have only tried one LDR with a woman from New York and it went really well. but then the distance was just too much in the long run. Still the first time she came to vancouver I had already said that we could just meet as friends as it seemed a lot to assume that there would be more. But from the start it was obvious we were both interested. I had a huge list of things to do. What ever she wanted to do or go see. we had lots of fun. I still would have taken her around even if it had just been as friends. I had given her all my contact info so her family would know how to reach her and know she was safe. If we had lived in the same city it probably would have turned into a long relationship. However the distance and time difference was at times a problem. eventually we had to just leave it as friends.
Last time i had talked to her she had just come back from seeing a guy in toronto. he had lied to her about everything. his name. age, height, weight and hair and other lies. she only found out his real name once she was visiting him and she saw his drivers licence. he was 6 inches shorter than he claimed, 8 years older and 40 pounds extra and bald. And she was thinking that this was a new love so she hadnt even booked a hotel. She was really embarassed by being fooled by him and didnt want to talk about the trip but she was there for one unhappy week.
Lesson for everyone is have a plan B. if they arent who they say they are or if they just arent what you thought or no connection, then have something to fall back on. If you are flyuing somewhere look at it like you are going there for a holiday. plan to do things and not rely on someone else. that way if they let you down you arent scrambling to entertain yourself.
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 4:37:40 PM | Wow Im sorry that happend to you but at least you have a good attitude about it and still managed to enjoy your self. Its funny this is my first time ever reading these posts and for the most part i just got in from a trip to Toronto. I m from Texas and decided to meet an internet friend the UK. So we both flew to Toronto and met for the first time. And the weekend was a blast it was like we were old friends even tho we had just met!
Now he will be comming for a visit to Texas to meet my friends and family.
But this whole time of planning this trip i thought i was nuts for doing this. It was the first time for both of us to do anything like this but I'm glad I did cause I have a great friend and hopefuly some thing great will come out of this friendship in the near future.
So dont give up i still had a plan B just incase things didnt work out and i should of bought my phone charger with me as well!
good luck in your search!
and by the way you seem like a great guy!!! | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 4:49:09 PM | All I gave off was good vibes. I know it. The very "worst" you could say was that I acted friendly as opposed to romantic, which I felt would be in everyone's best interest to start. We both agreed not to push or rush anything.
I mean really, I took her out to eat a few times and that was the end of it. I would have to have acted pretty badly to get ditched and if memory serves I didn't throw food at anyone or suggest getting naked under the table. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 4:58:58 PM | That is so bad, how can anyone be so heartless?
Something happened to me two weeks ago. I had been seeing my girlfriend for a couple of months and I was due to go back to the UK for a visit, first time that I would have seen my family in nearly 3 years. I asked my girlfriend, being a nice guy that I am, I asked if she would like to come with me. She said to give her some time to think about it and a week later on November 30th 2005 she said that she would love to go. But the only the dates that she specified which were going to be 11th - 18th January of this year. So I booked the airline tickets, booked a weeks car hire as we were going to tour the country as well as see my family, this cost me $1400. As soon as I had booked the tickets, these were non refundable or non transferrable, she then turned very cold towards me. I was treated like crap, talked down to, criticised, told that she would call me and me not to call her, told me my breath stunk, clothes smelled, my feet reeked, my dog needs a bath, nothing complimentary. Christmas was hell, she went to a Family Christmas party and I was never invited. Christmas day I was only allowed to see her late afternoon when she wanted to, even asked me if I wanted Lasange for Christmas dinner, hence I offered to cook. Then when I went to leave her on Christmas evening, she had the nerve to say, lets sit down and talk about our future. She knew that I was not happy but she didn't care.
She then wouldn't see me for a week, she called me on the day before New years eve to ask if I wanted to do something, only because plans that she had, had fallen through. Like a fool I said ok, only because I hadn't seen her for a week. If I were to question anything, she would then argue and give her say without giving me chance. The next night, new years eve she came around to my house, she was not interested in holding a conversation, didn't want to snuggle, a kiss was a chore for her. As she stayed at my house, the next morning as I got up to make coffee, she was quickly dressed and was on her way home. Asking what we were going today as it was my only day off, she said she had plans and as I had seen her the past two nights, why did I need to see her on New years day?
By now i was becoming suspicious. On talking to her on the phone a couple of times during the day I saw that she had been on the internet. That was strange as we had disconnected her computer the previous week and had no plans to set it back up again for at least a couple of weeks. So in calling her when I saw her on line, she denied being on there. Her way of dealing with my question was, ' Why are you checking up on me? ( I wasn't - she appeared on line on my friends list ) I am a big liar ( I am an honest as a day long ), I don't want to talk to you again, slammed down the phone and blocked my number. Is that a guilty way of dealing with the situation?
The next day I tried to contact her, she wouldn't answer her cell. ( I never hid my number ). Next thing I had a voice mail from her, ' never contact me again, you need help, you are controlling, give the ticket to someone else, if you contact me again I will call the police.' She had been over my house with a stranger, took her belongings without my consent.
I did absolutely nothing wrong, she would not reimburse me for her ticket which I paid for, it seems I was too nice to her and she paid me back in the way that she did. Yes its my own fault, I was too kind and generous to her, she knew I wasn't going to step out of line as there was a once in a lifetime trip at stake. I was over a barrel.
Thanks Zaney | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 4:59:28 PM | | i agree with you too much games too much excuses toomuch dramas nextime dont invest your life in that women there too men women for you desrve better i had that happen to me before last april 2005 i book at flight in brazil to me my futre husband he had cold feet to meet me and the next day he took my money from western union never take no risk like i did thank godi spoke poertuges. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 5:34:19 PM | | I have to admit that from what you are telling us on here it seems like she is the culprit. What she did was classless, immature and absolutely rude. I think that you are definitely right in stating that even if she didn't find you attractive or there was no chemistry, she could've at least helped you find a better hotel central, so that you can have fun without her. I think that this is a horror story and sorry to hear that you felt slightly hollow. But it has nothing to do with romance...it has a lot to do with how people should seriously respect each other and clearly, she was not human enough to do that. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 5:56:15 PM | | I think your friend was married and looking for some attention. She just yanked your chain and wasted your time. Did you have a home number and address?Did you see her place? How old was the kid (not old enough to tell?). Been seeing alot of predators at work and online. It's a shame. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 6:38:11 PM | That is such a sad story Zaney. No deserves to be treated like that and I hate to hear that women do these things to men when a lot of women moan about how men behave.
You did only know her/go out w her for 2 months...so maybe u rushed into it a little. It's really not your fault...the fault was hers. Any considerate and genuine person wouldn't have treated you like that no matter how kind or generous you were. Some sad people just take advantage of kind, decent people and it's a horrible thing for it to happen. I guess it's an experience to learn from. I really do feel horrible for what happened to you 
Also in reference to CrackerChickie above who sd that it sounded like this women is married. I never though of that...I think that could be possible. Anyway, it was her silly doing. And I kinda do feel sorry for her. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 6:56:46 PM | Man o man she sounds like bratty b**ch. I don't even like vancity much but it is pretty at night. I would hate to get lost there, I am eventually going to visit my friend in White Rock sinc she is gettin married soon and no way would I want to get lost it is hard enough trying to find my aunts house which is close by. You certainly did not deserve in anyway to be treated as you were. If I ever mete someone off of here and they wanted to meet where I live I would certainly be there to greet them and show then what little there is here to do but drink  and party but its what we do. All I wanted was to say how rude of her, if I was there I would not have done that it is not in my nature. Take care | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 7:17:45 PM | | This IS one of the worst stories. I cannot understand why anyone would treat A HUMAN BEING that way...but you MOJO, you look very hot!!! HOWEVER...that is not the point...leaving someone in a strange place and not even checking on them is horrible. Many years ago, I was flown to Florida a few times by a guy I used to "DATE" and he also flew to see me often.... HE was always at the airport waiting....with the biggest smile...such a doll. I always dressed up so I would look really good for him and we had the best times.....I PRAY if you ever do a long distance date again, it goes down like mine did...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!! IT WAS NOT YOU!!!! YOU ARE VERY CUTE AND SOUND REALLY NICE!!!!! Don't give up! | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 7:27:47 PM | | I think the main moral of Mojo's story is--be prepared for your local contact to bail. Check beforehand for things that you might like to do in the place you're going to, if you end up on your own. Make sure you can change your return plans if you decide to leave early (you might have to pay the change fee on the flight ticket but it could be a big savings overall if you don't have several nights in a hotel to pay for.) You might even see if there is anyone from POF in that area who would be interested in going out on the town with you. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/16/2006 7:44:48 PM | "Also in reference to CrackerChickie above who sd that it sounded like this women is married. I never though of that...I think that could be possible. Anyway, it was her silly doing. And I kinda do feel sorry for her."
I think crackerchickie was referring to the OP, not zaney
Actually, that is a good point crackerchickie. I know you and someone else posted that possibility. It does all add up to that. except that the OP mentioned that she answered the phone any time he called and she talked openly with him over the phone.
Who knows?
Off-topic: Why did my cut & paste quote not appear shaded? How do you do that? | |
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