| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/17/2006 10:15:19 PM | | Hey, we're not all like that. From another site, I had a fellow fly out from Idaho to Toronto, and I got caught in traffic and was late at airport. I'm sure the poor fellow thought he'd been abandoned, too. However, even though we didn't hit it off romantically, he stayed a week, (at my home, which was 2 hrs from TO). We were both into horses, and he was very helpful around the farm. I think he enjoyed the time spent, and he later wrote a very supportive letter to my lawyer over an incident that occured while he was there, so he must not have thought I was all that bad! | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 1:52:27 AM |
Remember there are 2 sides to every storey. And thats not what she told me what happened ?????? sorry she said you where an idiot. You gave her the willies,,,
Seems everyone missed this comment as well.
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I think it was unrealistic of BOTH of you to expect anything to happen, even friendship, offline. Yet all I hear is you complaining about what happened and HER part in this, when we don't really know how you came off, we just have your version of what happened.
Sh*t happens, get over it and plan better next time.
But I certainly am disappointed in how dramatically you handled what happened... I'm just glad you were rule abiding enough not to post her name. But seeing this, perhaps her thoughts of you being creepy were bang on. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 2:28:21 AM | | I missed that.. when did she say MOJO was creepy??? did she tell him that??? I thought I was keeping up with this thread pretty good, guess I missed out on some of it. I sure wish she would post on here and tell her side. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 5:12:50 AM | Thanks Cute Brit Guy.
Some people can be very remarkable. Maybe u made a mistake w her but now u have learned to steer clear of people like her or at least know 'the type' :o)
I had made a mistake w a certain person I met as well. U feel awful but it's not your fault that they're like that or your fault for giving it a go.
Well, I see you have put me in your favourites...so I guess I will be speaking to you soon. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 5:41:29 AM | FIrst off, I would like to apologize on behalf of all other Canadian female POF participants.
The lady, and I would use that word losely, is not indicative of they type of people we are. You had just the bad luck of meeting a total loser. Maye it was all the rain we've been having made her a little nuts.
Anyways, I hope you got to enjoy a bit of Vancouver and the next time you come back you leave with better memories.
Bye.
SB | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 5:45:50 AM | | You did - nothing wrong ! She was trying to re-live her younger days like having fun travelling and going out , hanging out ect !....... that all she wanted. Probely did not have the courage to tell you to the face ect so she keep it low key ect by not returning phone calls. I can tell they woman was another race than a black woman (not predudice) I say that because black females are loud and bold ect and would tell a man that she wants to end it with no disrespect to him but she would sit down with him and tell talk to the man ect. That she just "wants to travel see the world have fun" ect . but nothing deeper . I think that is all this females wanted to travel hang out . A female like this my brother would keep in touch with as "just friends" ect untell the man connects with a wife then if he decides to go out then do it as a group thing or travel as a family group event . But this woman "just wanted to travel"- thats all. If you care about her I think you should sit down and have a talk to her asking hear the situation that way she can not hide behind the phone ect and would be forced to express herself, then drop the just be friends topic- if she does not want to go deeper in the relationship. You two can be friends . As a person can have many friends. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 8:09:09 AM | | Maybe, but I'm not exactly a newcomer to this world, (I wish), and learned a long time ago to trust my gut instinct about people. So far it's never been wrong. Guess when it is, you'll read about it in a headline and get to say I told you so. Long before I even thought of having a computer, I used a personal ad. You learn to read a lot between the lines, part of the reason I prefer to e-mail rather than chat. Some replies were garbage can right off the bat. A few letters are maybe better than e-mail. Only met one person who gave me the willies, (and that was in a public place,) and never heard from him again, so maybe he felt the same way. I'm not saying I couldn't be wrong, but you can live with some one for a long time before they sow their abusive side, too, so where does that fit in your picture? Mind you, good counselling helps to recognize the warning signs there, too, but it would probably help a lot of women if there was more public knowledge, but then the abusers would probably be more careful about showing the signs. Oh well, each to their own, but still think gut instinct usualy proves best. (Guess I should have replied to that thread other day!) | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 9:00:38 AM |
Holy moley... there are way too many idiots who let strangers know where they live.
Agreed spider!
This is the INTERNET people!! Home of the liars, flakes, fakes, psychos and weirdos. There is NO WAY I would be inviting some stranger to fly in for even a weekend at my place and I certainly wouldn't consider going to visit them at theirs! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 9:11:09 AM | Harmony, your post does a GREAT job of proving how friendly the citizens of Vancouver are!
One in a million... we can only hope.
ANYONE who accurately reads your posts can see what a whiner you really are! It doesn't matter where you are from! Your just upset things didn't go exactly the WAY YOU wanted them to go. I mean she met with you a couple of times in four days, she just didn't cater to all your whimsical needs. You should've just been happy with that, and emailed her privately when you got back, but instead you try to humiliate her by creating this thread you new she would find! VERY IGNORANT! You are NOT a gentleman, and you have NO class! Good day!  | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 9:13:12 AM | Well, I posted a couple times earlier after this thread was just started.....
I can't believe it's actually gone on for this many pages because frankly, this is HARDLY the "worst POF story you'll ever hear". Mojo is a grown man and travels for business, it's not like he was some naive young person stuck in a foreign country.
I haven't been on here that long and yet I've read some stories that make this look like nothing!
EDIT: Oh yeah, Harmony....Great post! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 9:21:57 AM | I agree totally with you happening, I made the same point earlier The OP was so caught up in himself he failed to do some basic homework, fend for himself, and then wrote this horrific whine afterwords....and for what....a few sympathy votes...well he gets none from me. | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:09:48 AM | | Sounds a little like the OP had the trip planned ahead of time, for business. And was looking for someone to warm up the hotel room bed. Didn't work out, so now the complaint. Get over it. It was stated that she wasn't really looking for someone, just on POF for the forums. I would have to think that there was a real connection, emails and phone conversations beforehand, to the point of already having a great friendship established, before I ever considered traveling that far or having someone else travel to me. Too many obstacles and difficulties in long distance relationships for me. I'll keep my phishing limited to the local lakes and streams. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 11:43:38 AM | I would have to think that there was a real connection, emails and phone conversations beforehand, to the point of already having a great friendship established, before I ever considered traveling that far or having someone else travel to me.
Yes this is exactly what happened.
Of course, I've said all this already but most of the people tossing in their two cents about my "unreasonable expectations" haven't bothered to read all the posts.
Ignorant folks usually like to voice their loud and obnoxious opinions without having all the facts, so I forgive them, it's in their nature.
To be honest, I don't know why this thread is continuing either. People are saying the same things over and over again. That just makes this like every other huge thread on POF!
I suppose the people who want to prove they're better than everyone else need to have the last word. Good luck, guys! | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:48:47 AM | I may look professional at being ignorant but at least I am smart enough to make my own hotel and car rental arrangements.
Anyone that depends on someone they never met for the most basic things has to be a putz in my books....who looks ignorant now? | |
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:56:08 AM | | Well, anyone who feels the need to berate other people on the forum and talk down to them usually have huge insecurity issues, so I'd check that mirror before pointing the finger. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 12:00:09 PM | I met a girl on line 1 year 2 months ago, ok. We had chat & phone conversations
first for a few day's. We discussed the possibility that we may not be
attracted to one another and what the escape plan would be (talk about brutal
honesty, eh?). We met and we clicked. I stayed at her house for a week and some. Today (right now) she's in my house hanging with me blah blah blah. Moral: don't meet
anyone on line unless you feel comfortable enough to ask "what if......"
Kudo's for being out there though and trying. Too bad it didn't work but next time
be more forthright and open to the possiblity that you may not actually
find her attractive yourself. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 12:02:22 PM |
Yes this is exactly what happened.
Of course, I've said all this already but most of the people tossing in their two cents about my "unreasonable expectations" haven't bothered to read all the posts.
Ignorant folks usually like to voice their loud and obnoxious opinions without having all the facts, so I forgive them, it's in their nature.
Ruffled some feathers. I did read the posts, all of them. Should have been apparent from stating the fact that she did say she wasn't looking for a relationship. As for being loud and obnoxious, almost never. I did say almost. Ignorant, yes, about many things perhaps, I would be the first to admit it, but that doesn't imply stupid. Your forgiveness warms my heart and you have mine as well. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 3:47:23 PM | I met a girl on the net once and we talked over a year, and I still have not met her. She always has an excuse, or changes on a whim. Anyways I really have no interest in her whatso ever anymore but wow, what a story, and you seem to have handled it so well with your integrity and self respect intact. Unfortunately, this woman does not care and has not learned. She will not understand how she hurt you. It was a game, and I am sure it has happened to her too and will probably happen to her again. Just know that you are lucky that your relationship did not grow with this flake...would've hurt a lot more then.
There are nice women in Canada...and everywhere else...only a small percentage of people are evil. Hope you find a good woman closer to yourself the next time. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2006 4:11:34 PM | Well, anyone who feels the need to berate other people on the forum and talk down to them usually have huge insecurity issues, so I'd check that mirror before pointing the finger.
no one is berating you, people are just voicing a difference in opinions. I like it how some people react on here when someone does not agree with them, they are being "attacked" or "berated".
you opened your problem to the floor and what you will get when you do that is a hybrid of views that ultimately will either agree with you or not. If you wanted to have the old "poor poor you" line fed back to you perhaps you should have left this situation to be shared with your close friends who will cosset you an your bad experience until you feel good again. But you came to an open forum instead, expect people opinions to differ and some you will flat out not like.
I dunno even your subject line, "The WORST story you will EVER hear..." LOL I was expecting something really tragic. Ok maybe to you this was tragic but it happens to people every single day, misconnections happen and people are rude, weird, hard to understand, selfish.....(insert any adjective here____________) and life goes on.
And to whomever was appologizing for ALL canadian women earlier: "superman complex" or what?"
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| The WORST Plenty Of Fish story you will EVER hear
Posted: 1/18/2006 4:29:14 PM | I think it might be instructive if more people were to read Eric Bernes little book "Games People Play". From a transactional analysis point of view there are excellent egs of "Rapo" (flirtatation set up to reject the suiitor, resulting in indignation); and "If it wern't for you"; and "Ain't it awuful" being played out here. ---- ie there are big pay offs from going on and on about it as it confirms certain views of the world. | |
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