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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/28/2008 8:43:49 PM | | Not a chance. Why, well this is how I see it. I wont marry someone for at least 2 years from when we start dating. Why rush into it. Actually I think that is what's wrong with waiting till marriage. I think it puts a undesirable push towards getting married. People should be getting married because they love someone not because they want sex. Besides I think sex should be a part of the equation on weather or not to get married. I mean a bad sex life can ruin a relationship. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/28/2008 8:55:21 PM | | Yeah sure, as long it's the right person. It's probably better anyways. Who really wants to be with someone who slept with multiple partners. HPV is a widely spread STD which not even condoms can't spread. Sleeping around is just asking for trouble I think not just healthwise but emotionally and mentally. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/29/2008 1:54:41 AM | There's always Rosie the right hand woman or Lefty if you prefer him. hahaha!
Ok ok. That was bad. Honestly. Love is patient. If you really love the person, you'll respect their wishes and when the time does come that they feel comfortably being sexual with you, it's a gift of sharing a very intimate thing with you. There's not going to be that pressure and being ready and willing is very good when it comes to sharing yourself. It might not be that great on the first try..but that's what practice is and what makes you think you are THAT good! C'mon! It does take two to tango you know.
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/29/2008 2:20:28 AM | For me sex is important. I like sex, i have a very high sex drive ( yes, even for a guy ) and from what i can gather i am a decent enough lay.
Sex is a fundamental part of any relationship that i end up in. If i don't have sexual chemistry with someone then i simply don't go out with them.
Why would anyone end up in a relationship where some aspect of it does not make you happy? For me, introducing sex into the relationship BEFORE things get really emotional and serious is vital.
I mean, what if my sexual interests are not the same as the girls? What if either of us is either unable or unwilling to sexually satisfy the other? That is not the kind of thing you want to be finding out after marrige.
I absolutely respect everyone's right to do as they will and if some people choose to wait till after marrige then fair play to them....but it would not be my cup of tea. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/29/2008 4:53:02 AM | | I think it depends a lot on the values I and the person I was engaged to both held at the time we got engaged. If we both decided it was best to wait, I would be happy with that, but if we also decided it was ok to share intimacy before then, I would also be comfortable with that. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/2/2008 4:46:36 AM | After 108 pages of this thread, I think we have all waited long enough.
The right woman would not make me wait for 108 pages.
For things to work well, it is not only the right woman that is required, but also the right man.
Seriously, all this waiting nonsense is really so childish. If people are grown up adults, then they need only wait as long as they feel is appropriate.
Since marriage rates are low and declining further, there will be large numbers of sexually frustrated men and women, if they cannot reach accommodative agreement about sexual union. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/2/2008 6:16:56 AM | | lets see, shes not a virgin but wants to wait for sex? how old are we talking?? an 18 yearold deeply catholic girl?? or a 30+ who was married before? much depends on the circumstance. I don't date vastly younger woman( already raised my kids) so my question would be "why" having been in relationships where the other wasn't honest( last one she was boning a married guy and another along with me) I would be highly skeptical and make me question her motives. One person in the local area met a woman and she made this request, he waited 7 months, they got married and she still" held out" but her female buddy needed a place to stay so being in love with his then wife he let the friend move in. It came out that the two women were lesbian lovers and the whole marriage was a scam to get his house. Luckily he was able to have the marriage annulled. This is a true story as it was reported in the local paper. So women, if you want to with hold affection until after a ring don't feel bad if he witholds all financial support ie. dinners gifts, what have you fair is fair. do everything 50/50 and don't expect him to help you out . If he loves you and respects you he will honor your request BUT if you honor and respect him, wouldn't you want him to be happy??? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/2/2008 10:05:56 AM | To the first question: No. If a complete relationship is not possible before marriage, it's not likely to be possible afterwards.
To the second question: I went on such a date. Having had some experience dating at that point, I had learned to trust my instincts, and they told me she was the type of woman who would - in actuality - jump my bones on the second date. Not being big on dating women who send hugely mixed messages, I decided to look elsewhere. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2008 6:43:25 PM | I think that some of you guys think that it's just women who want the SO to wait. There are some men that want to wait for marriage and they are few and far between but they do exist.
Believe it or not there is a logical explanation for a woman wanting a man to wait. I will use myself as an example. As a teen, I thought men weren't asking me out because one of the first things they would find out about me is that I wouldn't be having sex with them before marriage. So I changed and started having sex with men I had dated for a while, guess what, none of them stuck around any longer than the guys I didn't have sex with. So I came to the conclusion that I'm just dating the wrong kind of guy. So no more sex with boyfriends, you just gotta respect me enough to not pressure me.
If you are a man who is so impatient and is too selfish to sacrifice something like sex for a year two while you date, get engaged and then finally married then you are too selfish of an individual to sacrifice bigger things to keep the marriage working. What I am speaking of is exactly this, there will come a time in EVERYONE's life that they will have to do without sex, be it for a week or a few months or even a few years. There are situations that happen like business trips, vacations with friends, taking care of sick/dying family members, even having kids curbs the amount of sex a couple has. If you couldn't wait to have sex because you've got such an "active" sex drive then how the heck can your SO expect you not to cheat while he/she's gone. Oh and before one says it, HELL YES being married and devoid of sex is the same thing, if not worse than, dating or being engaged and not getting any.
In summation, if you didn't catch it. Being unwilling or unable to wait for sex speaks volumes about you, your character and your level of respect for your SO. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2008 10:39:41 PM | It would depend on what it was that made me interested in the person. If it was an upfront sexual attraction, then maybe not. If it was because I got to know and care for the person, then yeah. I would want the second in a long term relationship more than the first. One day the equipments going to fail down there, then what would you have. I believe sex is made overcomplicated in society. It's made to be this big important thing. Sex is mostly psycological, it's anywhere from a shared intamacy, to an act of agression and dominance. It was originaly designed as a form of procreation believe it or not.
meh. I souldn't post when I'm tired. I seem to ramble.
But yes, for the right person, I could wait. I wouldn't want to, but I could. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/4/2008 2:20:21 AM | | Well, survey says that the happiest marriages are between couples who decided to wait until after marriage. Maybe it forces them to take the time to figure out if they actually like the person they're dating or planning to marry. Lust can be even more blinding than love, and is frequently mistaken as such. True love takes time and grows out of "like". Also, if a man , out of a committment to me and to God, decided to wait until after marriage, I would have a tremendous amount of trust in this man. If he was willing to discipline himself before marriage, I can feel pretty confident that he will be a loyal mate. The studies also show that the single most important factor for a happy relationship is that both parties feel safe. Having a partner who has that much integrity would make me feel very safe. Maybe God made some of these rules because he understands the human heart...how frail and jealous and weak and suspiscious and easily broken it can be... (not to mention the physical harms of STDs and unwanted to babies). | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/4/2008 3:04:06 AM | Man, I dunno about this one, but I will say this, I tend to wanna do it a lot.. If we weren't compatible in the bedroom that would cause some excessive friction and none of the right kind..
I gotta say, since most of the people that can wait till marriage demonize sex to the point where having it with their spouse is almost unthinkable never mind commiting adultery... I dunno.
I don't see the problem with waiting a while, but once you're married you're done, over it's life or she gets 50% of your stuff. The main problem is while some people are saying that you're completely taking lust out of the equation which I don't think is true at all. Sex is a natural desire, yes it needs to be curbed a bit and impulses need to be controlled, but they're still there. If you tell someone "not until after the wedding" they are going to (at least somewhere in the back of their mind) make early judgements and ignore flaws that seem minor at the time to gain that sexual gratification they're searching. It can lead to a lot of infidelity and a lot of problematic divorces, at least that's kinda the case in a lot of things I've seen on the subject anyway. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/4/2008 3:24:02 AM | What if there was no sexual chemistry?
In my opinion if there is no sexual chemistry than there is no relationship. To me there has to be some form of attraction with one another to make a relationship. If sex was not a big part of a relationship then there would be no need for pills of viagra or penial implants for the impetant man. I do not believe two people can be in a total loving relationship unless there is a form of sexual attraction between the two. If sex was not a big part of a relationship, why would you not have a relationship with your best friend. Why would women not just stick with women and men stick with men? If you say children, then why are there women on POF that are pass the children bearing years looking for a soul mate in a man? | |
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