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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/15/2008 3:16:46 AM | I have heard that a small percentage of people hold sex to a higher plain and wait till marriage. Unfortunately, that idea in itself, does not hold true when it comes to the majority of men. Lets put it in terms that most of you will understand:
A man (single and looking) goes to his local dealership (this website), looks around and spots a few cars that he likes (some of you single ladies) but out of all the cars he has browsed through, there is ONE that really caught his eye and attention, one that he would really love to test-drive (a girl with sleek, sexy curves and all the included accessories any guy would love). After a brief conversation with the dealer (her), he is granted the keys (her phone number + a first date) to drive this new car. He then is in control (the date) and steps into the drivers seat. He loves the new car smell (her perfume) and really is intrigued by what she has to offer on the inside (the intelligent conversation, her classy personality, her wonderful character). He then turns the key (his charm and charisma), the car turns on (she really likes him, very much so intrigued) and being that this is the first time he gets to drive this car, he is fully aware that he would need to break "her" in slowly (a couple of nice dates). He is given 30 days to try the car out. After a few days or weeks, he eventually wants to know how this car responds to his requests (sexual needs), what this car can do (kinky? hardcore? naughty?) and eventually, get an overall idea of what is really packed under that hood ( ) If he truly loves how this car handles and performs (awesome sex), enjoys the idea of how this car makes him look to others (she remains presentable in public, is classy and makes his friends envious of what they wish they had), only then the thought process of buying this car (long-term commitment), may come true.
For men, the concept of dating and sex is basically the same thing. If she is non-responsive to his attempts at getting her in bed after a few days or weeks, he has it in mind to always trade her in for someone who will be. Its as simple as that. Men are extremely incapable of being patient when it comes to sex. Sure, things may develop at her pace but by this time, he has already mentally and silently, begun seeking other alternatives (his right hand does not count).
If "sex till marriage" was law, 93% of all men on this site and other singles sites for that matter, would ask every girl they want to have sex with, if she would marry him. Hahaha, the divorce rate in this country would skyrocket and infidelity would be worse than the drug problem, national crime rates or perhaps, world hunger put together!
"GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?"
....maybe if he likes driving mini-vans. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:37:52 PM | I could wait. No doubt about it. Hell, I waited the first time until I was engaged at least.
If a woman told me she was waiting for marriage to have sex, I would respect her for that decision and honor it. I would in no way pressure her to change her mind.
I treat ALL women like that. No pressure. What happens happens. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:57:42 PM | | I can see no point in waiting that long, especially if neither of you are virgins. Do you earn an award for denying yourselves good clean pleasure in one another? I am not about to wait till marriage to find out that my bride is a cold fish who only wants sex once in a week or two. I already did that, won't do it again. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:31:59 PM | I'm commenting on awaitinyu's post to this post lol. Can't figure out the how to do the quote thing lol. Anyway, I was raised Southern Baptist and waited to have sex until I was 37. I was waiting for the man who was to be my husband whom I had not met yet. Didn't know a woman's sex drive can explode beyond her control at some point in her life until it happened to me. Now I do not understand waiting until marriage. Also, if sex and money are really the two reasons ppl break up or divorce, then it makes sense to be with each other in that way before you decide to spend the rest of your life together and find out afterwards that you are not sexually compatable. Another component in this area that is soooo important is some people won't admit they have certain fetishes or expectations sexually. After learning about some of these surprises since I started dating after my divorce, I would much rather know this information before getting into a marriage than find out after the fact. I believe it leads to unfaithfulness later and very miserable families that produce children who are hurt deeply by parents who stay together for the sake of the children...Ehem, get a clue! Children are hurt worse by ppl who stay together and are miserable or cheat on each other than ppl who either work things out and get help or who admit it's time to do the right thing no matter how much it costs financially. Ok, carried that into another dimmension. lol But in the end, that is the result of the sexual issues. There are children and they are usually affected by our decisions or the inability to make one. And if you check my pro you will find I do not have children of my own, but my x had six and I had seven siblings. I am also a teacher and you should see the damage that has been inflicted on the children in my care by immature adults who can't even take care of themselves let alone a child. Please be wise and think things through before you are in a position to make a decision that could change not only your life, but the life of a child. And P. S. I don't appreciate being compared to a car or a cow thank you very much. lol (i.e. "take her for a test drive", "don't need to buy the cow if you get the milk for free" sort of comparison--both imply you are paying for something and well that wouldn't be along the lines of marriage...that's a whole nother issue altogether lol). Now having said all that, sex is and should not be the only component in your decision so spend your life in marriage with another. It is one component and if that is the only area you are concerned about, then you are trully doomed from the start.  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/15/2008 11:39:16 PM | I am single for this very reason......you know what im attracted to a man who isin't weak. I know im tough but, i think that's what god wants. Love doesn't equal sex and people who say that are shallow and who knows what else.......I realy don't care if a man doesn't want to be with me because i won't let him put his penis in my vagina.......so freakin simple yet so dam stupid... I think if you are great looking but imcapable of love who needs you? I am good looking ....should you all start worshipping me? Point i'm waiting and why...because it's my belief and culture and I know there is one man out there who gets it and see's the point......until then no points in this p#**y...ahahah...get some self control! | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:23:41 AM | sigh
110 pages
from January 2006
so to reply to a ghost on March 2008
I do not believe it's a good idea to postpone sex until the vows of marriage are made because of all things in which a couple wants to be compatible, sex is huge. What if you made a commitment only to discover that the two of you have vastly different appetities for sex? What a fiasco that would be! One of you or both would be disatisfied. Explore all possible avenues before saying "I do". | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:20:27 AM | Good point RoyD.
I was raised in a religion that says to wait until marriage, I'm not a part of that relationship anymore. I recently dated a man that believed in waiting until marriage for sex. I found that it was sweet the way the relationship deepened and progressed while sex was not an option. I think developing a relationship without the sexual content first and foremost will make the sex, when it eventually happens, a deeper more meaningful experience when it finally happens.
Though the hormones say to jump right in....my recent experience says, "No, better to wait."
But I'm not sure about the "until marriage" clause. I mean, the test drive makes sense. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/16/2008 7:37:34 AM | I'd prefer a more innocent relationship before marriage but I doubt even the most ardent religious persons would even agree with me. I say if you perform an intimate act that you wouldn't do with your own brother or sister (except in certain areas of this country, lol), then it is sex.
Kissing is sex. In fact, I'd say kissing is the most sensual act of sex. A penis thrusting into a vagina takes a lot of energy and can get boring after an hour. I was just talking to a woman last night and said I'd have intercourse with some women but not kiss them as I felt kissing is more personal...acts involving the face compared to the use of a distant part of the body relative to the head could be viewed differentially though the common notion is to focus on the pubic area as being the utimate location in all ways. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/17/2008 5:46:41 AM | Lemme tell you something, just imagine the guy wants to have sex 3-4 times a week and the girl is thinking something more along the lines of once every 2 weeks. 1 partner may be interested in things the other party may find distasteful. You don't really know this information until you've gotten sexually active with them. I ain't sayin rushing into it is a good idea but a poor sex life can lead to tension, tension leads to arguments and that can lead to greater marital problems.
Even if you love a person, excessive tension can cause stress related illnesses that can put strains that all the love in the world can't solve.
Plus I'm not sure I care what god intended, because that honestly sounds like crazy talk. Most people agree that scientology is mindblowing stupid, when the bible was being written I'm not sure that many people took *it* seriously either. You think about that. | |
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