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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/6/2008 5:06:23 PM | Unbelievable!
I see folks here comparing the sacred act of sex with your spouse to "kicking the tires of a new car" or "milking the cow".
My stars people! What on earth?
Nevermind. Statements like that come from your worldview and your view as to the origin of the species. If you think we evolved from animals then you are going to talk, act and believe accordingly.
If you believe that sex with your spouse is a precious and sacred act meant for just you two then you and she will treat the act accordingly.
This is a simple fact and is proved true everyday around the world.
As for me....yes I would and am waiting. And so will she if she wants to marry me.
All of the "compatability factors" will be worked out between us AFTER we have made a vow of complete devotion to each other.
Do divorces happen? Yes, of course they do. Do they happen because of sex or the lack thereof? Of course they do, but why should that be a justifiable reason for polluting such a precious thing beforehand?
With that kind of reasoning perhaps we ought to "test" every possible conceivable variable with our spouse-to-be before we make the leap huh? Like who is going to take the kids to soccer practice? Who is going to fire up the grill on Thursdays? Who will water the house plants on Monday? Who will wash the dishes? What do you wear to bed? Do you like sandals or western boots? Toilet paper over the top or from the bottom? Squize the toothpaste tube or roll it from the bottom?
Some of these things have been known to start arguments which escalete into a total breakdown and end in divorce, for goodness sakes! Let's eliminate ALL possible problems so we can have a guaranteed trouble free blissfully happy marriage!!!
FYI; sex is meant to be explored TOGETHER in a committed, monogamous, lifelong marriage.
It isn't a new car for crying out loud!!!
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:00:25 PM | No, I could not would not wait....that would be a huge red flag....that would mean she is using sex to get what she wants....imagine how that would play out in the marriage....she would use sex as her weapon to get her way constantly....YIKES!
if she told me on the first date she's waiting for marriage....it wouldn't be with me....Not ever, ever call her back again....
there is only one life to live & its now, not sometime in the maybe future.....if she wants the guy to wait, it won't be with me.....she can go   | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:14:22 PM | I always see so many people posting things to the effect of"try before you buy'",and "we have to know if we are sexually compatible" or if they would "click" sexually.
I always have to wonder how can two naked turned on people not be compatible or click?
I guess I'm blessed to be a very sensual person (we tauruses always are  ),and if I were in love with someone who didn't quite know how to rock the boat.....I would give him some really in depth lessons.repeatedly until he could pass his test.
can't others share like that?I don't get it.
but yeah, some one's going to have to wait awhile in my life also,and if it's a problem then they miss out on a lot. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:39:53 AM |
(Msg 2796) However, the devil, the accuser of our souls, constantly tries to wreck God's plans. He lies to us, tempting us to believe that we can grab hold of sexual pleasures apart from a marriage commitment. He uses day-to-day pressures and our own sinful nature to accomplish his purposes.
And what begins as merely a "wandering thought" can quickly tempt us to act sinfully (James 1:14-15). These sins can involve pornography, fornication, adultery, prostitution, homosexuality, and other ungodly sexual practices.
I appreciate your religious views on sex but one important reference is missing. I Cor.7:
[1] Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
[2] Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
[3] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
[4] The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
[5] Defraud ye not one the other...."
We've forgotten verses 4 and 5. If couples engaged in sex the way the Bible tells us I believe there would be a lot less "pornography, fornication, adultery, prostitution, homosexuality, and other ungodly sexual practices." Unfortunately, people have the strange idea sex is an option, an extra, the icing on the cake, something one participates in only when "in the mood".
It's also unfortunate the frequency of sex has little bearing on divorce precedures. Adultery is considered grounds for divorce and in may cases the guilty party is punished financially. Perhaps if we applied the same standards to the refusal of sex we'd have fewer divorces and fewer instances of "pornography, fornication, adultery, prostitution, homosexuality, and other ungodly sexual practices."
We are told the importance of sex to the point of saying, "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife." I can't see it being stated any clearer. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:45:54 AM | The reason I think women might want men to wait is because a lot of guys out there are just looking for a free "good time" and then it's on to the next one. I think sex is SACRED. It's not just waiting for the sake of waiting. For me, the purpose of waiting is to be sure there is LOVE involved. javascript:smilie(' ')
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:20:28 AM | | If you look between the lines of most of the posters who are saying heck no, they'd never wait, in almost every instance, you can see the selfish, self-centeredness. Sex is a MUTUAL pleasuring process and someone who has selfish or self-centered ideas about it will never be good in bed (well, in their own mind, of course, but...) I'll wait for a man who has proper respect for something very special that God created for committed couples only and who thinks it crazy to share it casually. He and I will be amazing together and I have no doubt about it so I don't feel any need to "try it before I buy it." | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:18:48 PM | From a woman's perspective, I would NEVER get married without first having sex, and often! It's a very important part of any relationship and I think it's ridiculous to withhold something so great. Why? It's fun, it feels good, and you connect with the person on a deeper level. And c'mon, we all have needs. And heck, what if you're completely incompatible sexually and you don't realize this until you are married? It's crazy, if you ask me. I believe that sex plays a big part in getting to know someone.
If there are those that feel that they should wait, more power to them, believe whatever the hell you want - but find a partner who agrees and feels the same way rather than making someone feel guilty for wanting sex before marriage as though it's a bad thing - or constantly pushing them away. Trust me, sex before marriage is a good thing.  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:13:37 AM | | they should move your comment straight to the top.....its not judgemental...preachy or out there...its just the truth. what happen to pride in ones self? morals....values? i am from the old school as well.......think you love that person...hang in there..our parents did and look how long most of them have been together. i give you an A+ for speaking the truth...no sugar coating!! | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:08:01 AM | | I just took a good look at this forum.. It really is amusing how some people think. the hypocracy is rediculous!! Let's face it .. This is not the time ofyour Mother and Father.. Or your Grandparents.. Bless all of their souls.. But this is our time, and we can be compatible in friendship, like the same movies, eat the same food, share the same interest, but if we aren't good in bed together, that is all crap!!! How many relationship are ended because of poor sex??? Some of you people need to go back and read some of the other forums.. You people, and especially you women that say "well I gave in too soon and that's all he wanted" .. Maybe You need to realize if the sex was that good, he would probably have came back for more!!!! You realize this is the same guy you might have married!!!Now he's out looking for it behind your back!! Wouldn't you rather find the guy that appreciated you in bed enough that he only wanted you?? How hard is that to figure out?? And you guys that say that crap only because you probably never had any or very little.. Only a moron man feels like that today. Why do you think things are different from your Mom andDad's era?? You think people just all of a sudden stopped F...ing all of a sudden?? No we are different because we evolved into a sexual time .. You either excepted it, or go on with you same old miserable "lonley" ideas.. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/8/2008 1:51:49 PM | Of course I wouldn't wait - one cannot know, by definition, if she is "the right woman" without experiencing that which must be foresaken with all others (at least, in the context of a monogamous marriage). Just one of many areas in which spouses must be eminently compatible.
The original question is, methinks, posed from extreme naivete...or simply to be provocative (in which it's succeeded). | |
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