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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/11/2009 5:12:44 PM | Nope, I'm not waiting around. There's no way I'd get married without having had sex. Actually, the fact that she would be willing to wait tells me enough about her opinion of sexuality that I know we wouldn't be compatible. I want a woman who's passionate, sensual and as interested in sharing that with her partner as I am. If she wants to wait for any particular milestone, be it marriage or the six month mark, that tells me that she views sex as some kind of "reward". That's an attitude I can't abide.
Also, what if you went on a first date and the girl tells you she's waiting for marraige, how would you react? Not ever call her again? Or maybe stick around?
I would honestly hope that if she held such a draconian belief about sex that she would have let me know before a first date so neither one of us had to waste our time. I wouldn't cut all contact with her or not explain myself, but I would clearly end any possibility of a romantic relationship immediately. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/11/2009 5:16:16 PM | I might be stating a re-post from earlier, but since I really don't have the time to check back on the last 127 pages or 3,175 posts, I'll just wing it:
Sexual compatibility, being an integral dimension of a relationship, no more or less important than the others mind you, needs to be established WELL before actual numptials are exchanged because sexual chemistry and compatibility are things that can be lost but really can't be learned. Either you are compatible or you are not and if by the grace of whatever deity you pray to you are not then, wow, that is going to be one short union of holy matrimony! I'd like to think I'd be spending my honeymoon f*cking like an epileptic jackrabbit instead of drinking mai tais at the tiki bar till I pass out on the beach, hoping against hope that when I sleep this off it will all be a huge nightmare. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/11/2009 9:00:37 PM | | well in a little world called perfect i think this would be a good idea. first off if you meet a girl you don't know if shes gonna play you. which means you take her out all the time and treat her as if you're married. while she gos and has sex with joe blow the****head from the bar. all seriousness i think if she was a girl that was going to do right by me and her. i would wait but you say you can do other things such as fingering,blow job and so on lol. i have a friend that did this same thing and it worked for him this was with no stimulation. if a girl said she was waiting for marriage it would depend on how much i liked her when i met her, but most likely id run away because i'd feel like she just wants to use me. just my prospective. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:26:01 AM | "If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?"
If she makes me wait for marriage, then I haven't found the right woman. It isn't because I need to test drive her, I want women who can express freely what they feel for me. I consider sex a big part of this. Therefore, if you aren't ready for sex, you aren't ready for marriage.
With the right woman, I did wait until the feelings of affection and commitment had developed substantially. I will never again choose to have sex simply for pleasure. This, to me, just feels like a bad sugar rush. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:33:15 AM | Could I? Absolutely!
Would I? Not a chance!
This would be a compatibility issue. Why would you wait? To prove your love? Let's make the test to tattoo your lovers name on your forehead. Would you do that? (There will probably be more yes answers to that then waiting for sex)
I find withholding sex, affection or communication to be a form of abuse. A person who has it in them to withhold sex before the marriage would also be a candidate to withhold it after the marriage. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/17/2009 11:05:35 AM | I guess I don't quite understand the question; is the reason for waiting a religous reason? Is it a personal preference? Does it have to do with manipulation or control? If its a religous reason, I recommend dating within your church. If its contro or manipulation, shame on you. If its personal I have one question for you; what if you like vanilla sex and he wants porno sex? Now what? Compatibility in the bedroom is very important to me.
Sex has multiple definitions and functions for me; making love, a spiritual connection, and fu@king all to provide intimacy, scratch and itch, bonding or just feel good. I look forward to a good healthy relationship with the man that I live with or marry. What if we waited and there was not a connection?
I think that many times men and woman look else where because they don't get what the need or want at home. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/17/2009 11:14:14 AM | Well, for me, the right women would never actually limit her own sex life over superficial, counter-productive and childish ideals, whether it's because of religion, because she believes it will be more meaningful once it does happen or any other possible reason she might have. A women who is unwilling to be sexually active before her wedding also leads me to believe that she is either hiding something about herself, not attracted to me or not interested in sex. What guaranties do I even have that she would even become sexually active once we are actually married? Why anyone in their right mind would want to hold themselves back like this is beyond me.
However, hypothetically, if I was to find the perfect women, someone who is everything I am looking for but simply won't have sex with me until we're married; I would still be willing to wait. Sure, it would pretty hard, I would definitely take that kind of rejection to heart, but if were doing all the other stuff and she doesn't get upset over me taking care of my own business, I could cope. If she truly is the women I want to spend the rest of my life with, it's a price I could be willing to pay. Still, realistically, I am looking for a sexually active relationship; I need to be accepted and wanted both psychologically and physically. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/17/2009 11:22:37 AM | This may sound selfish, but I am a matter offact type of man, and NO I wouldn't wait, and it's just not for me, it is for her as well.
Sex is a very important part of a marriage/relationship, and if WE waited until marriage, how much would it suck if one didn't enjoy the other.
To the one's who have religious beliefs, to each their own. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/17/2009 11:28:16 AM | I do not know which is more rediculous... The OP's question, or the fact that there are 128 pages of answers to it.
I will sum it up and maybe we can have a new thread about something less rediculous and more fun.
Quite simply NO. It is a stupid premise, and no adult I know would consider it. No need to be redundant or reiterate what has been said ad naseum in 128 pages.
This one should go the way of the do-do | |
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