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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:44:21 PM | I could wait if the women didn't want to have sex for whatever reason. Maybe you don't believe me, but sex is really only a small part of a good relationship. And to be honost I have gone years at a time between sex cause I don't really hump anything that moves like most men.
I have pretty high standerds myself and have turned more then one lady down, so if she has expectations too, that is even better | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 10/21/2009 7:16:40 AM | Sure, I'd love to be there on my wedding night, finally going to have sex with her...
The sex is lousy. It will take lots of open communication and understanding to make it work, if it works at all.
Sexual chemistry is important, and I wouldn't even think about marrying someone if the sexual chemistry wasn't mind blowing. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:17:59 AM | I would and have. Romance is still possible and getting close emotionally (if not physically) is still wonderful too. You don't just have to hold hands, mind you, but I think that if you wait, you have something to look forward too on your wedding night.
Friends of mine that didn't, even if they were engaged, felt they had to 'hold off' for a few days or weeks before their wedding night to 'make it special.' That tells you something right there. If it's special, don't ruin it. MAKE it special by waiting.
Besides, if you don't wait, and proceed with physical intimacy, and then break up, that can be more traumatic because you've already shared yourself with someone that was either wrong for you, or clearly did not feel the same way about you as you did.
Just a thought.
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 10/21/2009 12:23:13 PM | I'd wait. Hey, I want to wait.... I want to get to know really well the person emotionally and spiritually before physically. Do we have to same goals and values and outlook in life? Basically, are we trully compatible? I'm not into sport dating.
In the past due to "chemistry," physicality early in a relationship clouded my thinking and frequently masked a doomed relationship. The physical intimacy created the ILLUSION of an intimate emotional bond without a foundation to sustain the relationship. Sex perpetuated something that wasn't going to work in the long run.
So yes, I want to wait... but it is a struggle! The key is just finding someone like-minded: Loves the physicality, but wants to wait too. Exploration can be a lovely experience. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:03:17 AM | | If marriage were still a noble institution that implied two consenting adults would actually commit to each other for the long-haul, I would wait. But thats not what marriage means anymore; its just a situational contract open to termination at any time at the whim of either party these days. Waiting for sex after marriage is just as irrelevant as marriage itself. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:11:01 AM | If someone wants to wait until they get married until they have sex, that's fine with me... I just won't date that person in any sort of exclusive fashion.
I personally wouldn't wait to have sex until marriage. I wasn't like that before I got married... and if I ever remarry, I won't be like that either.
The last thing I would want to do is marry someone only to find out they have sexual hangups or dysfunction.
And given the huge financial and emotional risks to men that marriage poses, it's idiotic for any man to wait for sex until he's married since the costs of splitting up are very high... unless of course that's what *he* wants too.
If I went on a first date and a girl told me she's waiting for marriage, I'd tell her 'that's fine... we're just going to be friends then. And if you want to date, we will NOT be exclusive'
I don't date in the hope of staying Celibate.
But another truth is that many people say one thing and do another. I've seen many people act like they're virtuous in one setting and act the complete opposite in a different setting. So there's a good chance that someone who says they want to wait for marriage today, might change their mind tomorrow. Hell, they might have already changed their mind in the past... it's not like we do "virginity tests" in North America before getting married.
I'm 35 years old. I have a life. I don't want to waste it with people who have irrational and arbitrary hangups. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 11/9/2009 7:07:31 AM | Yes. I could wait. On the other hand what's to stop her getting it elsewhere in the interim?
Also some women want to wait but also want to make sure their chosen beau is well hung and can satisfy them, so they succumb and give it a go!!
If you mean anything to each other you will both wait and hope for sexual compatibility! | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 11/9/2009 8:18:10 AM | | I dont think its practical that you could actually know that. Without knowing what sex is like it would be a poor decision. Most men wouldnt wait, because that is like a women choosig a man blindly, like not knowing if he could make a living to support her and a child if need be, and any other host of questions that come up. Most men wont risk lack of physical enjoyment with a spouce if he has no idea if she can please him sexually, therefore I dont think its a practical question. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 11/15/2009 3:57:04 AM | | Wait ? here's the problem We are not teenagers if we have chemistry we have sex if we click great if we dont nothing ventured nothing gained so no at 49 i am not waiting till i get married. It's like going out on a date you drop a hundred bucks and you spend a couple of hours together if you realy like each other than the next step is get a blood test this way everyone's safe if you dont have Chemistry you have nothing. If not you find the rite woman. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 11/15/2009 2:43:08 PM | To answer the original question that started the topic:
Nope! And if on the first date she said she was waiting until marriage, I'd probably walk; regardless of how I feel about her. Who knows long it'd be before the question was popped and then until the actual wedding day!? I'd be saddened by having to leave and would sincerely wish her all the best, but I would not wait around for marriage before sleeping w/ her. Now if I was a religious fanatic, that'd be a different story. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 11/15/2009 5:45:29 PM | | hi... when I read that people fear that the sex may not be good after the wedding I keep thinking " did you marry for love or not??".... if it is not good on the first night you have your entire marriage BASED ON LOVE to make it good... hopefully you are not marrying a stranger otherwise you will be able to tell if the person is passionate by their hugs and kissing and tons of other signs.... I would be able to tell if a man was sexually compatible with me just by slow dancing with him... if that fails there is always... wait for it>>> communication, thats right, just come right out and ask them ~anything that your heart desires~... blessings for happiness | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 11/15/2009 9:09:30 PM |
hi... when I read that people fear that the sex may not be good after the wedding I keep thinking " did you marry for love or not??".... if it is not good on the first night you have your entire marriage BASED ON LOVE to make it good... hopefully you are not marrying a stranger otherwise you will be able to tell if the person is passionate by their hugs and kissing and tons of other signs.... I would be able to tell if a man was sexually compatible with me just by slow dancing with him... if that fails there is always... wait for it>>> communication, thats right, just come right out and ask them ~anything that your heart desires~... blessings for happiness
This sounds sweet and poetic to say, but what do you say to the guys who marry for all the "right reasons" and then have absolutely no sex life whatsoever, because their spouse just can't be bothered in the bedroom? | |
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