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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/13/2006 6:52:35 PM | | ok sry im nto a guy, but wait for marriage? i wouldnt, k this is gonna sound bad, but u need to know what ur getting into before u tie the knot, whats even more funny, have u seen that commercial where the newly married couple goes to the hotel room, then the man lies on the bed while his new wifie goes to the bathroom, and then the groom peeks around the corner only to see his new wife pissing standing up? ya she had a little sumthin extra, if ya know what i mean, now u wouldnt want that to happen to you right..? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/13/2006 8:54:55 PM | Exactly Monetto. The RIGHT woman recognizes the value of sexual intimacy as the relationship develops toward a POSSIBLE marriage.
Sure some people place less emphasis on sexual expression in an interpersonal relationship. To each his/her own. People like this should be seeking each other, just like people who place a higher value on sexual intimacy should be seeking each other.
This is just an opinion, but if people of unlike mindsets in this area are dating or married, the relationship is doomed to fail. Just another reason why it's best to get past this question AT THE APPROPRIATE TIME. Which is not after marriage.
It's hard to think of another relationship issue more paramount than communication, of which sexual intimacy contributes in a HUGE way. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/13/2006 8:59:38 PM | sure why wouldnt I, there is so much more to love than sex. and as far as I am concerned if it requires contact of the sexual organs, it is sex. if you are willing to go down what is the difference?!
if the love was there I would deffinately wait to marry. of course I wouldnt have sex with someone I didnt love. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/14/2006 7:29:06 PM |
Not to worry, nice thing about being catholic is you can ***** all you want... then confess your sins and ask for forgiveness, get a clean slate and start all over again....
That's how the catholic church claims it's universality, on forgiveness.
That's if you actually believe in all the hocus pocus.
You would be wise not to speak on things you obviously know nothing about.
Scraps
(hardcore PRACTICING Catholic who knows her religion VERY WELL!) | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/14/2006 9:00:41 PM | shooooot i don t think i would be able to wait that long even if it was my idea ! sex is suppose to be this big sin b4 marriage, but waiting and having a miserable marriage cuz the person you married and waited for sux in bed ? hmm no need to tip the scales here i choose SEX b4 marriage.i am not a marriage counceller but dont you think you should see the****b4 the chicken lays the egg ?  | |
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Tastey
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/15/2006 10:06:32 AM |
k this is gonna sound bad
Sweetie, it doesn't sound bad at all. You are entitled to your opinion. We have to do what makes us happy. The real trip is in determining what really makes us happy as opposed to what we think makes us happy. lol
For me personally, I want to find a life long partner that I can nurture a respectful and loving relationship with. When I find him, I want to have lots and lots of mind blowing sex with him. lol However, I don't want to have a series of unfulfilled sexual encounters with men I never really connected with, or came to love, on the road to finding my match. I want to save the sex for the man that matters, but finding him isn't so easy or obvious. It certainly goes beyond sexual compatibility. So, any suggestions on how I could avoid this? lol | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/15/2006 1:03:05 PM | Dartguy: "After marriage is not a good time to a find out that one person has a very high sex drive and the other couldn't care less about sex"
He's got the right idea, waiting until marriage is way too committal, committing to someone without having enough information on them is a cardinal sin. If she has a low sex drive or isnt into what your into your royally screwed. So my verdict is no, sex must come first so you'll know what you'll get into later. | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/15/2006 2:24:11 PM | I felt I made my own opinion and rationale clear on this topic and so I left it...only to check the responses today and am responding AGAIN because I want to commend Yum/Yuck/Yikes   It takes courage,discipline, INDEPENDENCE and a level of awaremenss and introspection very very FEW people seem to demonstrate...EVER.
ANYONE can follow the leader and do what most westerners do. It takes an intelligent, aware, caring, independent, free thinker to exhibit the things you've stated in your last couple of post on this thread. Your reasoning is sound. Your heart is even greater.MAD RESPECT to YOU for your beliefs on this.
Does it teach them that they must put the needs of others first and deny their own basic needs? No, I don't believe that at all. I think it teaches them to love themselves 1st in ways that are most meaningful and subtile,with a fullness that is rarely exhibited. I think it teaches them to value family particularly our children with a demonstration of love that truely goes to the very essence and heart of it. In this day and age, the term "middle age" has lost its meaning because people are living longer than 100 years ago with longer periods of vitality.
I don't advocate not dating at all while children are being raised,but I do admire and comend those who do for the right reasons. I do the similarly for abstaining until marriage. I do have issue with those parents who seem to have a revolving door of "lovers" in the lives of their children. I personally do not believe a parent should EVER have a lover spend the night/have sex, with children in the house unless its a demonstrated mutual LOVE relationship that has been continuously monogamous and committed for YEARS prior, OR MARRIAGE.
Couple #3 - She can have sex three or four times a week. He doesn't need it at all. They're getting divorced right now. She's gone stark-raving mad on the dating scene. (Good for her, by the way.)
unfortunately this can happen even when you have had sex before marriage.... maybe I didn't need to wait, but wait longer to marry him...... This is part of my point,the claim that you NEED to have sex before marriage to know has no merit here.BTW,I don't believe its "good" for anybody to go "stark-raving mad in the dating scene...sign of a real emotional promblem that could easily and likely lead to more.
So, you're speaking strictly theoretically, here. You think you MIGHT be able to wait, but you never have. Correct? This is what I said..I think its clear(post#343);
"... My further point is that in NO other relationship in which we waited to have sex(obviously,I've never waited until marriage) has there EVER been a problem with sexual compatibilty. In fact I've found those who wait longer before having sex are more likely to be the best at it. fewer issues,less baggage. Again,to the OP's question....I KNOW I could... I BELIEVE I would.
I believe I have a high sex drive and an even higher drive for multi leveled connections that go far far beyond sex. Its a drive that encompasses and enhances the verbal and non verbal forms of communication to make sex a natural expression with supernatural results. | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/15/2006 2:47:19 PM | jaymthesexy: Thank you for answering me. I believe you when you say you have a high sex drive. And I didn't have to have sex with you to come to that conclusion. lol
In fact, I bet you could tell me in much more detail what you liked and how often you liked it, and I would have an even clearer picture of how high your drive was.
You know if you're sexually attracted to someone, long before things get sexual. You can tell if there's chemistry, with a kiss or a caress. You don't need to have sex to determine any of these things. You want to have sex to confirm them.
We want to have sex because we are sexual beings. We want it now, because we belong to an instant gratification culture. We have a sense of entitlement to it. But could we be selling ourselves short with this satisfy me, me, me attitude towards sex? What if you passed by the perfect girl for you, because you wanted to get your rocks off today instead of waiting for tomorrow? lol (Tomorrow is figurative, btw. lol)
There is nothing wrong with having sex before marriage. I've done it and continue to. I just think it is wrong to say that you must have the sex prior to determine if you have the same sex drives or good chemistry. You don't. I think that sends the wrong message to people practicing celibacy. And I definitely think there is nothing wrong with waiting until marriage.
Btw, two of the greatest proponents of celibacy are Angelina Jolie and Pamela Anderson. They have both practiced it for several years at a time during their adult life. lol I kid you not. Those in touch with their sensuality, can explore sexuality without getting sexual.
I know I'm asking these quesitons to you directly, but they're really meant to be for everyone. And, I'm not criticizing you. I admire your openness. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/15/2006 8:50:53 PM | not to be an as# but that is just dum! you mean to tell me that you can only tell how a person behaves after you have sex?! that before you engage you have never talked about preferences or anything that may give you a clue? about who the other person is?!
I will tell you now the reason that kind of relationship WILL fail is not because you waited to have sex but because you slept with someone you don't really know.  | |
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Ooli
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