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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 3:59:02 PM | I am sure there other Christian men out here...Whats wrong with you guys ..Stand up and be heard.!!
Sarasal99, for whatever reason, on POF, it's a matter of numbers. The few good Christian men and women get shouted down. And although I have no proof one way or the other, I suspect that may meet with the approval of POF. Regardless, it causes them to leave so the remaining ones are overwhelmed even more.
By the way, while I am religious and that partly may explain my desire to remain a virgin until marriage, I also know it is also the smart thing to do because it increases my desirability as a wife with smart, educated, and good looking young men. Perhaps not for most of the men on POF; however, I don’t want them anyway. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:02:19 PM |
I havent seen one comment showing concern for the moral religeous falling of having Sex before Marriage. It is clearly stated in the bible. I know that may not be a popular answer especially for you younger heathens...lol..but Since I have come to the Lord in recent years...and am still seeking my soul mate.. The timing and Beauty will be to wait. My decision and hers made mutually for the same reason. The Pleasurability and all the rest will Take care of itself..Talk about it !! Youll Know by her answers.. the karma of intimacy is in the mind and spirit..Thats what makes it good...the physical act..well its the vehicle...the relationship is the Hemi under the Hood. All those other justification answers are just that ... and Bull. We seem to lack any moral standards today. I am sure there other Christian men out here...Whats wrong with you guys ..Stand up and be heard.!! Thanks for reading.. by the way...I have done my share and more of Sex prior to Marriage. The relationship changes when it happens and it becomes all about that and not the rest. Wev are only here a short while guys...Live with the end in Mind and where youll be when you leave this place. - Sarasal9
Allow me to provide the democratic response to this post, since I am probably the best qualified. First, my qualifications: while this poster has "come to the Lord" only recently, I was raised in the religious environment he has recently joined. I spent twenty-five years there. I served as a missionary on short-term missions trips in Mexico and China. I have a Master's degree in Evangelism and Spiritual Development from Wheaton College Graduate School - the alma mater of Billy Graham - and I served faithfully and sincerely.
The tale he spins, where "timing and beauty" create sexual happiness when you just wait until marriage, is one of the pleasing fictions they tell you in church. The truth is somewhat more complicated, and I've alluded to it already. In the women's groups, they talk about the men who only want sex once a month (she wants it every day). The men usually do NOT talk about the strip clubs, the girlfriends on the side, the pornography (which is a HUGE problem in any church), the frustration.
The answers given by others who disagree with Sarasal9 are not, despite his claims to the contrary, bull. I've been on both sides. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:06:28 PM | Adriana,
(here I go biting on the fishhook)
While I respect the virgin issue, and I agree it keeps you out of a lot of trouble, I have seen more than a few marriages of virgins, where the woman discovered to her horror that the reason that he was able to wait was....he had sexual issues. And then she was stuck in a sexually dead marriage going crazy.
This scenario is FAR more common with women and their surprise sexual issues that magically appear after eating a piece of wedding cake. Me, I would be terrified to marry a woman who was capable of refraining from sex for 1-2 years with a man she claimed to love.
I guess I am saying, while yes, you are keeping out of trouble, bear in mind your path is fraught with many problems and dangers of its own. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:11:54 PM |
Sarasal99, for whatever reason, on POF, it's a matter of numbers. The few good Christian men and women get shouted down. And although I have no proof one way or the other, I suspect that may meet with the approval of POF. Regardless, it causes them to leave so the remaining ones are overwhelmed even more. - adriana1986
Okay, on topic: baloney.
The mods on PoF are fair, and relatively impartial. They will examine any claim of people being mistreated, and even provide an avenue for complaints to be entered anonymously in the "ADMIN: Forum Rule Violations" thread (titled in red) in the Plentyoffish Site/Suggestions/Help forum.
If you feel you are genuinely being mistreated because of your faith, then take it there. It will be dealt with.
This forum, despite being a DATING forum, nevertheless provides an entire section for the discussion of religion, religious topics, God, theology, whatever.
I know certain sects of Christianity like to think of themselves as a poor, persecuted minority, but in a fair environment like this, if you get mistreated, you usually bring it on yourself. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:17:04 PM | The few good Christian men and women get shouted down. And although I have no proof one way or the other, I suspect that may meet with the approval of POF. Regardless, it causes them to leave so the remaining ones are overwhelmed even more.
because ironically enough it is the extemists, as in this case the extreme religious types, that come out here and not only try to put forth that their choices in life are the only right ones they shout blastphemy at all those who don't follow the same choices and basically peg them as undesirables. And it is not that staying virign before marriage is a bad choice, not at all, this is not what is making people upset, it is the way in which those that don't choose this get looked down upon.
I find it really odd that when religious types come on to public forums they try to win over others with their ideologies through force, insults and general put downs and not with love, compassion, and understanding as the bible truly professes they should do.
So it is not the idea that one chooses to stay virgin that is the bad one, not at all, it is in the way in which you talk with such hatred about those who don't follow those very same footsteps. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:23:59 PM | Taran,
Yes that can be done, however if she is young enough to potentially be a virgin how would a man know if that is the truth. Now if neither are virgins, then both have already been addicted to that joy! What would be the point of waiting for marriage. Think about it.!
Now if the options or intercourse with her mouth/throat and ass were available why not wait? All women are very simlair when it comes to intercourse. But they sure all very different when it comes to oral talents and allowing anal.
I know what I am saying sounds horrible, but it is very true! I have been with many didderent women, and I sure would wait until marriage for the intercourse, if she were to be really good at the other options.
I am sure a woman would what to know how caring, loving, respectful, honest, and how talented he might be with not only his tongue, but also how is is in bed. She would know that through oral and anal.
What I am saying is that waiting for that magic of intercourse is a good thing before marriage, but really only works well for truely virgins. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:25:40 PM | How do you know its the right person if you leace things out? That goes for conversation, meeting in-laws, sex, games, vacations, etc.
I think the real question for non-virgins of lets say the 30+ crowd is why would you want to even consider not having sex. If you click with your partner, make an appointment to see a doctor together and then both get checked together for STD's and then go from there. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:35:55 PM | How do you know its the right person if you leave things out? That goes for conversation, meeting in-laws, sex, games, vacations, etc.
I think the real question for non-virgins of lets say the 30+ crowd is why would you want to even consider not having sex. If you click with your partner, make an appointment to see a doctor together and then both get checked together for STD's and then go from there. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:40:04 PM | Here we are, 21 pages later, and roughly, the tally amounts to this:
The very young, never-married, and/or very religious say you should wait.
The older, more experienced and/or divorced say you should not.
(Before the outraged squeaking starts, I DID say "ROUGHLY.")
Now that we know where everyone stands, why does this debate continue? I doubt anyone will be converted to the other side and I cannot imagine anyone having any new points to make. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:43:22 PM | | never lets face it why would marry someone who may not even like sex.like the other guy said I wouldnt buy a car with out a test drive. Next why do people put such importance on sex anyway?????????? I'am not looking to get married so some gal can take my money that I have worked for and sure not to meet a gal who hasas much I do. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:47:24 PM |
I think the real question for non-virgins of lets say the 30+ crowd is why would you want to even consider not having sex.
BINGO! and comparing this back to the 19-early 20's crowd who may have hopes for marriage before they have sex it's ok because when one is young there is still hopes that this could happen and that they may find a partner who is willing to wait. Also, it makes sense for the younger folk to wait. I think it's smart to hold off because sex only complicates things in a young person's life. but when they get to be in their thirties or later 20's one does tend to wonder what is wrong with that person and why would they hold off from expressing their sexuality. I also agree with the posters that said that sometimes those that hold off find out later in married life that their partners had severe sexual innadequacies YIKES!! Imagine marrying someone only to find you you were completely incomatible sexually.....no thank you!
Sex is a fundamental part of a relationship, as being good friends is, as having the same intellectual connection. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:52:20 PM | And if virgins are the ones that get all the smart, educated, and good looking young men, why are you on a dating site at age 19?
And in spite of your selected name, aren’t you lacking in brains? The reason for over a month that I placed the two requirements to contact me as, (1) must live in Ecuador AND (2) within 75 miles of Dallas, TX was to make certain no one could contact me on the dating site. It was only to allow people to forums to contact me that I removed the restrictions. However, I still listed my zip code as 82710 which is Aladdin, WY a town of 15 and in a county of 6000. That still makes it very hard for anyone to find me on the dating site while allowing those on forums to contact me. Since you are so prone to jump to erroneous conclusions, obviously you have selected a name to try to compensate for your intellectual deficiencies. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 4:57:29 PM | Good gawd you better be a virgin...because your attitude sucks monkey balls. Everytime someone disagrees with your more than warped ideals you flip your nut and name call. You are just too precious for words.
I agree with Sexy and BRAINY. IF you are so wonderful as you continue to say (btw..folks who are wonderful...usually need not continue to tell others this REPEATEDLY) why not leave this site of "Christian Haters and sluts and the thousand other names you spew" and find unchartered waters where folks will appreciate your um...perfectness?
On Topic: I always told my dad I wasn't gonna buy a car before I test drove it and that's only a 3 yr obligation...bet your ass I'll try out a guy before I buy. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/21/2006 5:11:22 PM | @ Adriana
I never asked for your life story. 
I asked why you are on a dating site if your vriginal self can get all these smart, good looking young men.....and it doesn't look like you are going to answer that. The answer is because you simply cannot back up your big statement. And when you can't back yourself you just resort to insults against everyone. Not having sex is the least of your worries honey.... | |
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