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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/28/2006 5:55:43 PM | (Msg 628) I already addressed dishonesty. If one party has expectations that the other person does not understand, then further communication is required. We are not talking about building a space shuttle here people... we are talking about sex. And while I would admit there are nuances, if you really have to, you can describe every single sexual act in minute detail. So unless your intended is that far below you on the intellectual level that you can not communicate with them, you ought to be able to describe what you want. Pornographers have been making a lot of money doing just that for a long time. As for sexual problems... if your partner has experienced them, then they obviously know about them. And assuming that you actually have honest communication, then you and he/she can then make decisions concerning them. - tin_man
(Molonel responds) God, this is so absurd. So you're basically saying that a couple is going to sit there, basically having phone sex, describing each act in exact, precise, blue-ball inducing detail and that this is HEALTHY!?!!?!?!?
 This has got to be one of the funniest things I have ever read. I'm bookmarking this thread and should I ever have to resort to cyber sex I'll give this thread as a reference showing it's quite acceptable. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/28/2006 10:06:39 PM | | so let me get this right....sex is the most important thing to most of you guys...in a relationship??? well that counts me out...cause i thought it was bout unconditional love between two people ....explorin an acceptin one another...on a mental..emotional..an physical levels. ...hmm...maybe i am wrong. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 12:06:08 AM | | i am a hormone infested person, so i dont think i could wait, but for all these people saying "he/she isnt the right person" just because they dont want sex right away, i think you should all re-evaluate what is really important to you. i can tell ya i'd try my damnedest to wait if its what he wanted. i dont think i would succeed, but i wouldnt rule them out immediately | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 3:27:13 AM |
(Msg 634) so let me get this right....sex is the most important thing to most of you guys...in a relationship???
It's not necessarily the most important thing. It's just something that is expected. If you were married and your partner said, "I'm not moving in with you. I'll live here. You live there and we'll be faithful to each other but I'm not going to live with you", what would you say?
Is living together the most important thing in a relationship? Is sex the most important thing in a relationship? Are not both just expected? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 7:33:41 AM | Is living together the most important thing in a relationship? Is sex the most important thing in a relationship? Are not both just expected?
of course its expected and i agree....my ex wasnt the best at it...but i didnt love him any less ...i just see so many empahisize on this issue....marriage isnt just based on sex...its based on foundation of many things. its bout the passion towards each other. lets face it...i know some men..who cant even own up to the sex part...been so long they had a hard to keepin up...but i didnt think less of them an i didnt run cause he couldnt get it up...i just find that very childish...gotta remember been long time for some..an fist time they might be nervous...so it does happen from time to time.
if a guy is so worried bout the sex part with me and thats all hes concerned bout....i would be thinkin i'm not good enough for him in the long run...tryin to keep up to his expectations. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 9:09:12 AM | so let me get this right....sex is the most important thing to most of you guys...in a relationship??? well that counts me out...cause i thought it was bout unconditional love between two people ....explorin an acceptin one another...on a mental..emotional..an physical levels. ...hmm...maybe i am wrong. - daylillies
Yes, that's exactly right. Sex is the most important thing to all of the guys in this thread. It's all we think about. Sex, sex, sex - all the time. Every day. Nothing else is important. I appreciate it when someone takes the time to sit down, and really drill into a discussion thread, and try and understand other people, instead of making lame generalizations about people they disagree with. Thank you.
i am a hormone infested person, so i dont think i could wait, but for all these people saying "he/she isnt the right person" just because they dont want sex right away, i think you should all re-evaluate what is really important to you. i can tell ya i'd try my damnedest to wait if its what he wanted. i dont think i would succeed, but i wouldnt rule them out immediately - psycho_chica
Please take a little time and read what people are saying in this discussion. Nobody has said, "Unless he or she jumps my bones the first night, it's over." The words "right away" are your addition. The question being addressed is could you marry someone without having sex ever, ever beforehand?
Your answer, like the answer of most men in this thread – and truthfully, the answer of most women in this discussion, too – is probably not. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 9:35:11 AM | Yes, that's exactly right. Sex is the most important thing to all of the guys in this thread. It's all we think about. Sex, sex, sex - all the time. Every day. Nothing else is important. I appreciate it when someone takes the time to sit down, and really drill into a discussion thread, and try and understand other people, instead of making lame generalizations about people they disagree with. Thank you.
i wasnt disagreein for your information...i was merley askin a question...but thank you for your ignorance on the lame part...i will take it to consideration. sorry to even post...good luck..cya | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 9:44:51 AM |
my ex wasnt the best at it...but i didnt love him any less ...i just see so many empahisize on this issue....marriage isnt just based on sex...its based on foundation of many things. its bout the passion towards each other. lets face it...i know some men..who cant even own up to the sex part...been so long they had a hard to keepin up...but i didnt think less of them an i didnt run cause he couldnt get it up...i just find that very childish...gotta remember been long time for some..an fist time they might be nervous...so it does happen from time to time. - daylillies
Nobody is saying that you should have loved him less. But you deserved to know that aspect of his person before you married him, rather than after. That way you made an informed decision regarding a commitment that affects every aspect of your person.
Passion only goes so far. We’ve had people come into this thread and insist that all sex with someone you love is good sex. That’s simply not true.
if a guy is so worried bout the sex part with me and thats all hes concerned bout....i would be thinkin i'm not good enough for him in the long run...tryin to keep up to his expectations. - daylillies
So worried? All he’s concerned about? Where are you getting all this?
i wasnt disagreein for your information...i was merley askin a question...but thank you for your ignorance on the lame part...i will take it to consideration. sorry to even post...good luck..cya - daylillies
Your generalizations are more than mere questions. You are free to participate in the discussion, but I don't think I'm asking a whole lot when I ask you to read a little deeper, think a little harder and stop acting like all the guys (and quite a few women) care about is sex.
Is that too much to ask? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 10:06:19 AM | Also, what if you went on a first date and the girl tells you she's waiting for marraige, how would you react? Not ever call her again? Or maybe stick around?
She would instantly become a friend so later on I WOULDNT be the A-hole. Because please believe in the time that im in her life....Im gonna be effin someone. I would like for it to be her, but if not, I wouldn't hold it against her just like she can't hold it against me. Honesty rules all...if i respect her views, more power to her if she respects mine. Playing the role like your going to wait will eventually eat you up. We are men....created to pro-create and conquer things. So don't lie to yourself and say 'yea I could wait'....ESPECIALLY if she isnt a virgin? I would borderline feel offended and or unlucky that she picked this relationship to be the born again virgin....but as I said...we can still be friends.  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 5:36:48 PM |
(Msg 640) Passion only goes so far. We’ve had people come into this thread and insist that all sex with someone you love is good sex. That’s simply not true.
Amen to that. I was married 13 years and went through that. My Ex remarried and two years later phoned to say she was having problems with her new husband. Her exact words were, "You know me. I never really cared for sex."
The funny thing was when we met I never pushed to have sex right away. She always said she wasn't ready and I left it at that. It was months before we had sex.
As time passed, being young and listening to people who didn't know what they're talking about, I just assumed things would improve. Well, they never did. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 5:50:27 PM | That's just one of many, many scenarios that plays out in a dynamic, always mysterious relationship, dave.
I once had a relationship with a woman who was aggressive and passionate in bed. For the first three months it was thrilling and intense. The problem was, she was ALWAYS aggressive. No variety, and no interest in trying any new approach. I like steak for supper, but oftentimes it's good to have salad, soup, and varied cuisine, as well. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/1/2006 8:22:53 PM | If I meet the right girl and she told me on the first date that she going to wait if I liked her and I thought we had a future together not a prob. when i was 21 i dated a girl for about one year never had sex with her, and never cheeted on her she was my frist love!!! So ya I would Waite....
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/2/2006 4:36:34 AM | [Yes, that's exactly right. Sex is the most important thing to all of the guys in this thread. It's all we think about. Sex, sex, sex - all the time. Every day. Nothing else is important. I appreciate it when someone takes the time to sit down, and really drill into a discussion thread, and try and understand other people, instead of making lame generalizations about people they disagree with. Thank you.]
and beer. and football.... and the girl from the newsagents up the street... the one that always wears those little skirts and keeps bending over... ok, thats too much said now...... | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/2/2006 8:29:54 AM | Yes Taran I could wait. I'm a patient person and there would be so much we could learn about each other without hopping in the sac. I myself like to know all I can about a person before the big plunge. So you see Taran there a guys out there with moral values.
Maybe we should contact each other and discuss this further?? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/2/2006 10:31:18 AM | Okay,
I would honestly say right off the bat that I probably would not wait because I don't know if I could marry someone that I'm not sexually compatible with. I mean, realistically, that is the one person you're going to have sex with (Because people should respect their vows!) for the rest of your life. What are you going to do if it sucks??
Now, this is a very touchy subject, if you were in the position where she wanted to wait until marriage, or just hold back on the actual intercourse, then that would be something you would both have to discuss in depth as I'm sure each couple would have different factors to bring into the discussion. | |
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