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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 12:52:34 AM | Well first that depends on what the couple is both looking for. Me personally I have a high sex drive so I'm looking for a lady that does also. And if she's just using that as an excuse not to get intimate or she has problems with intimacy as a whole. On those last two we would have to find that out. Its a maybe on that situation.
If we clicked on all levels and she also loved intimacy but just likes the commitment then who knows. Personally I have never found someone I felt that deep for that I would want too marry them. So I quite frankly don't know.
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 5:41:33 AM | I plan on waiting until I get married myself... I suppose I am one of the few mature guys here, even though I am still in high school. I am really lost on why most guys can't last a month or two without sex. If you love someone, you can wait until you get married. If you can't wait, you don't love her.
Perhaps the reason I can go without sex is because I haven't had any before. Or maybe it is because I am responsible and when I get a girlfriend, I don't "jump her bones". Just a thought. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:01:53 AM | I would have alot of respect for her it would show me she is a strong willed person and yes I would rather wait till I got married because I think to many people use sex as an excuse to get out of a relationship, I heard someone say would buy a car with a test drive, I said that a car and a test drive has nothing to do with your mate and sex, needless to say I am not thought of as popular for my stand on this subject, but being popular is not what I want, I want a woman who respects me as much as I do her, I would have to wait till marriage. I have had sex with one girl and thought wwe would get married, so if I never have sex again it is ok, but I would rather sex be with a speacial lady for the rest of my life, be strong and courageous, we have the heart of a lion, and can be as meek as a lamb | |
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Hokage
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Joined: 11/6/2004
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:13:43 AM | | She had to absolutely be the right woman. That means that I find her physically and mentally attractive, truthworthy, honest, fun, and compatible. If it meant that much to her personally, I'd respect it. Having said that, she'd also have to respect my feelings on various subjects too. I know from my previous marriage that relationships are all about compatability and compromise. I had great communication but that in itself didn't make it last beyond a decade. You have the rest of your life to have a sexual relationship so up to the point of marriage, if it's important for her, I could respect and honor that. It'd be hard, but if I went without it for a long long time in my previous relationship, the waiting should be nothing. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:17:25 AM | depends on how long the courtship is?
someone wants to go out 3 years and be engaged 2 --- NO WAY
at what point do "" others things"" as you say cross the line?
Clinton said "he did not have sex with that woman"
IS oral sex -- sex before marriage??
I would stick around depending on the situation.
that being said it is important that sexual compatibility exsists | |
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kce33
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Joined: 6/2/2005
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:26:58 AM | GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? 
well if i met a woman and she was everything i wanted and was fun to be with and do things together, yes i could and i would wait until she was ready, BUT i would get my sex somewhere else, hell thats common practice if the guys are honest about that but they aren't going to tell you that and take a chance on loosing the relationship....
sex just seals the deal.....
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:41:18 AM |
If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
If I had met the right woman, we would have already had sex before the marriage, otherwise she wouldn't have been the right woman in my books 
Given that the original post mentioned that both would-be partners aren't virgins, what on Earth is she waiting for at that point? It's not like you can wear virginal white to the wedding in good conscience anyway... 
Besides from what most people tend to say, you have less and less sex after marriage... If you're not having any before, is it possible to have negative-scale sex at that point?
Sex may not be the be-all of a relationship, but it's certainly a pivotal point for most, myself included, and there's no way in heck you'd catch me signing away 50% of my life's earnings to someone I'd never even been with 
I dated a virgin once for 5 months and that was all I could stand, not looking to repeat THAT mistake again... | |
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Joined: 1/1/2006
Msg: 60 | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 12:53:06 PM | | I don't believe in keeping your virginity intact on the day of the marriage. I know a few people whose marriage broke up simply bc the virginity - sex factor became too much of a big deal and when they got there, the virgin partner was too inhibited or too scared to do anything...to the point that sex and lack of it ruined the whole marriage. People should seriously consider sex as natural...It is not something to be wasted on many people, however, a few sexual partners before marriage is great. I don't understand people who want to keep their virginity until marriage...to each his own, I guess. I am personally very glad that I lost my virginity to my first, serious, love. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 1:05:01 PM |
So I'm interested in how many men would wait till marriage if they met the right woman? Even if you were both NOT virgins, do you think you could wait if that was her choice?
Quite simply, no. Sexual compatibility is important to me. I'm more than a bit of a freak, and although I'm not going to quote the old saw about test-driving the car, I need to know for CERTAIN that her tastes and my tastes aren't going to clash dramatically.
Sex is important. If she's a missionary 1/missionary 2, sorry I don't do BJ and please turn off the lights because I'm embarassed sort of girl, then no, I'm sorry, this isn't going to work. I know some people have said you can change those sorts of things over time, and broaden the other person's mind, but I think that is rather presumptuous. I wouldn't want a woman coming into a marriage thinking, "That's okay, I'll change him later" and I wouldn't enter into a marriage with the same thoughts about her, either.
Also, what if you went on a first date and the girl tells you she's waiting for marraige, how would you react? Not ever call her again? Or maybe stick around?
We might go out again, but I'd know right then and there that it would probably only be a friendship, at most. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:48:53 PM | Ok, first part I would say no. I dont believe in having lots of sex partners but i think that at this point in my life it would be difficult to have a relationship that had no sex in it. It might not be the most important part of a relationship but it is a part of being intimate and forming a bond. Im not saying sex has to be a go from the start. I have dated women where we didnt have sex for a while. Just didnt rush into it. I usually go at the womans pace. I see no need to rush into sex. Dont get me wrong I am a man like any other but I find that its just better to wait until she is ready.
I have met women that do feel the need to wait until marriage. I havent had them as girlfriends but that was not the deal breaker. Usually somsome other reason which may have to do with it. Like being very religious. I'm not and I respect others choice to believe but I cant be with someone that is very religious.
Lastly while a virgin sounds nice in theory in practice I want someone that has an idea of what to do and what works for them.  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:54:02 PM | | Why would you want to? What happens if you marry a guy and its like the Miranda situation in Sex in the City. She marries a guy who can't get it up in bed and she ends up going on the internet to see if he can get a pump implanted in his family jewels. Is there a moral to this story? Yes. Try before you buy! (in this case commit) | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/16/2006 4:03:20 PM | .
Not in this lifetime! LOL
Y’all want me to not do WHAT now? How silly!
It’s a little late in life for me to worry about any of that stuff.
Think about it: Kids are long gone, I’m very healthy and I’m retired and have plenty of free time. Oh, and the baby making days have long passed for anyone I’m going to date. Therefore, we’d have free play for many years to come.
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/17/2006 10:00:03 AM |
I'm not saying you can't do other things, but the actual intercourse...could you wait for it?
Ah Taran...... you are still quite young.
B.l.o.w. jobs = sex.
Snackin at the Y = sex
Anal = sex
You see where I'm going with this??? If you're giving up all the rest, you might as well go for the brass ring.
From a clairvoyant womans point of view. The right person includes ALL facets of a relationship, including........ SEX!!
Let's play Devil's Advocate for a bit. Let's say a certain man falls in love with the "right" woman and he decides she's worth it enough to wait for the perverbial wedding night. Now let's say a year down the road, their sex life SUX!!! Wouldn't it have been more fair to the relationship to find out if you click in the sexual arena as well??
Let's face it...... sex pretty much makes up about 90% of a relationship and anybody who feels differently is most likely lying.
I personally feel that if some woman is going to throw down the "sorry you have to wait until we're married" rule, there is most likely some real problems/hang ups in that arena. I have known plenty of men is sexless marriages and trust me..... it is not a good thing. If you're mans not happy in the bedroom than chances are his misery will branch out into other realms of his life including his health.
Are there exceptions to the rules???? Of course there are but not many. Come on girls..... stop playing the hold out game and give you're man the whole goods. Wouln't it be so much better to find out you're the right woman in all areas??? Life is way to short for that stupid little game. Fuk your men girls, if you won't somebody else will.
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/17/2006 11:19:02 AM |
I plan on waiting until I get married myself... I suppose I am one of the few mature guys here, even though I am still in high school.
Don't hurt your arm patting yourself on the back there, sport.
I am really lost on why most guys can't last a month or two without sex. If you love someone, you can wait until you get married. If you can't wait, you don't love her.
While that's a nice platitude, I grew up in a religious subculture that valued, nay worshipped, virginity. Anyone who arrived at the altar with a popped cherry was considered damaged goods. It made for a lot of guilt, shame and didn't inspire a healthy, natural sex life in anyone that I knew, personally.
You seem to be missing the point, here. The question wasn't, "Can you go a month or two without sex?" The original question was, "Could you marry someone without having sex first?" That implies a much longer commitment - like oh, say, LIFE - than one or two months.
Presumably, you want to marry someone you are compatible with, yes? Or are you going to have your parents arrange your marriage for you?
Sex is just another area of compatibility. I've been married, kid. And divorced. Trust me. It's easy to SAY sex isn't important. It's a far different thing to live without it, or be incompatible with someone who feels vastly different about sex than you do.
Perhaps the reason I can go without sex is because I haven't had any before.
Ya think? | |
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