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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/3/2006 3:18:01 AM | I say kudos to those that wait until marriage...
Some times it can be really hard, and some times easy.
I am think I still kinda old fashion where my beliefs leads to me waiting,
Altho I must it definately hard sometimes dealing with it, cuz all my friends heckle me about it.
My friend didn't wait until marriage, and he has with his gf.
They have broken up now, and there's not a day goes by where he wants it, needs it, craves it. It makes him goes crazy, especially when being approach by****teasers(BIG FLIRTS) at clubs or even strip club.
I never experienced it so I don't know if it's good or bad, so I don't set myself for dissappointment. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/3/2006 2:05:31 PM | Patience is a virtue
I love the way that popular bromides can be plopped in a bubbly glass, and swallowed to create a nice steamy sensation about the heart. How it pertains to this thread would need much further elaboration, though. (As an aside, I once had a sales boss, your typical type A + anger-fueled "my way or the highway" type, who, when confronted by his workers about unjustifiable slowness in responses to their complaints, simply dredged up the "patience is a virtue" chestnut, in hopes of silencing those who wouldn't roll over and submit to the bullshit.)
As I thought, no one has stepped forward to answer my detailed challenge as to how to overcome specifically outlined sexual incompatibilities. This isn't a trick question. Anyone looking to get into a long-term relationship (or even, gawd forbid, marriage) without exploring avenues to deal with these potential problems, is flying a fragile plane into stormy weather.
But I understand the all-too-frequent human dynamic of wish-fulfillment and idealism over any serious preventive questioning that may pour cold water on their lovely illusions. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/3/2006 5:42:22 PM | In all honesty, no one has step forward to answer the question of overcoming sexual incompatibilities is because there is no clear cut way, and no guarantee. As you said its like flying a fragile plane into stormy weather, all your doing is hanging on with your hopes.
As I stated earlier, I had read from several sources that the divorce rate between couples who choose to wait till marriage is somewhere between 80-90%. Now could this a co-incidence???
For the people on here that have had multiple sexual partners, you'd probably agree that some of those partners have been terrible, and/or completely sexually incompatible with yourself no matter what you 2 have tried. Sometimes it can be difficult to find someone that you completely click with in that way. Perhaps thats why that figure of 80-90% is floating around.
Some of you are probably thinking "sex is not the only thing, communication, honesty, trust" and all of those things are needed to have a successful marriage. However sexual compatibility is just as important, and it can kill a relationship or marriage just as much as poor communication. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/3/2006 6:17:38 PM | Could I wait? I suppose so at least were it not too long a wait. The real question is why in the world would I want to wait. I notice that the few people who said they could and would want to are in general quite young. More idealistic and less realistic perhaps?
Marriage is a sexual relationship. Let me repeat that. Marriage is a sexual relationship! That's what it's all about. Yes, certainly that's not all it's about but basically that's why people get together and stay together, to have sex, have children and stay together at least long enough to raise them, of course hopefully much longer.
Dating is our courtship ritual. It's how we evaluate and select our mates. If I'm planning to marry someone, potentially have children with them, stay with them for many, many years I want to know a lot about them. I want to know how they react to good times and bad. How they deal with children, how they handle illness, basically how they handle life in all its facets. Sex is such a fundamental part of such a relationship that I can't imagine why you would want to exclude it from the evaluation. Sure, if you were going to marry after only knowing each other for only a couple of weeks them maybe, but you have to be pretty foolish to marry after such a short courtship.
I want to marry a woman (in my case) where we can't keep our hands off each other. I want someone I still feel that way about after years of living together. Is that a lot to ask? Perhaps, but that's the ideal. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/3/2006 8:51:47 PM | | I got to know you better than, the three days i could wait for sex. how about you hangout with me, and my other girlfriends. that way you can get an idea, how sex, and life with me would be. that way, you can take all the time you want. you must leave your morality, and religion at home. trust me it will be a blast. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/4/2006 9:40:54 PM | | Perhaps if he/she didn't know any better...ie. never been with anyone else other then his/her spouse...it could work...however, if you've been with others and know how bad or good your spouse is in comparison...it could make a difference. That's why in the olden days, when people didn't have sex before mairrage, it worked as most would only have had one partner all their life and have nothing to compare their spouse to, but nowadays people don't wait and will often have multiple partners before mairrage and thus can compare how good or bad their spouse to be is and you have to seriousely consider whether you could really live with mediocre sex for the rest of your life. I think most people would agree they would prefer a great sexual relationship with their spouse, and can therefore understand that a person maybe leary to commit for life w/o testing the waters. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/25/2006 4:06:20 PM | | I Beleive It IsVery Iportant To Wait Until You Are Married To Have Sex.Imean Sex Is Good But It Is Even Better When To People Whoe Are Deepley In Love Can Share It Together Becous Then There Is So Much More Meaning To It.And If I Went On A Firste Date And The Girl Tolde Me That She Was Waiting For Marriage I Would Deffinatley Stick Around.Any Guy Whoe Woud'nt Probably Was Just In It For The Sex Anyways | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:00:07 PM | that's tough....but what do you consider sex?
I mean, is oral pleasure sex (and thus holding off
from running to home plate?)....you get the picture.
If a woman wanted NO sexual contact, then no, I'm not a saint.
I have human needs and to me sex is the best when shared with emotion
and tenderness (hey, it's great to have just HOT sex too, but you get the picture). | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/26/2006 9:59:26 AM | | ok ,now as for the question on this thread...absolutly no..sex is a natural thing...would you stop eating before getting married if someone would ask you ?...everibody need's to have sex,like we all need to eat food...this is just a normal behavior for any human being,and asking to hold what is prefectly normal is just a big non sense...unless your name is TedjMill and you come from another planet... | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/26/2006 10:03:16 AM | Now now! Slap on the weenie to you for berating the poor man. If TedjMill has a lower sex drive than many of the others here, he doesn't necessarily have a small winnie. Average is defined by the highs and lows - somebody has to be at the ends of the spectrum.
And who better to tell you than Deanna Troy?
That said, I know of two couples who 1) waited and 2) are waiting for marriage. The first couple is now pregnant. She was from a very strict upbringing and was a virgin until, not the wedding night but at least until they had been engaged a while.
The 2nd friend used to live with a woman, so he's not a virgin but his girlfriend is. He's a Catholic. And he's got a good relationship with the palm sisters.
Me? I wouldn't wait. Gawd that would be torture.... hot man to snuggle up with an no sex? | |
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