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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/26/2006 10:29:48 AM | | counselorTroy...how do you know what those guy's have been doing while waiting?can you say for sure that they havent done anything with another woman while waiting?( and if they did so ,well that would just prove that they are normal )...and for having no sex drive...there's only one reason that could explain why a man as no sex drive ...that's because he can't do it...for phisycal or mental reason...any man ,normally built as a sex drive ...the sex drive is slowed down in a man when he know,s that he can't satisfied is partner...that could be because of the size,or because it just don't work...so if a 47 year old man tell.s you that he doesnt want to have sex...dont ask youself why ? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/28/2006 5:25:10 PM | First, let me ask you this...Do you honestly think that you could "do other things" without moving to intercourse? I can't speak for women of course but I TRULY cant see how a man would stop at "other things" only.
If on a first date a woman would tell me that she's "waiting for marriage" before having sex? I would wish her the best of luck and be on my way as I am going back  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/28/2006 5:38:29 PM | Whats the difference, I have been waiting for 37 long years for just a girlfriend... How about a kiss? Good grief, anything.... Not a darn thing from any female.... What am I? The hunchback of Notre Dame?  I guess a few more years wouldn't bother me at this point, I am numb with grief and frustration... | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/28/2006 6:34:14 PM | It depends... she would have to be something super and we would have to be perfectly compatible, an exact female version of me for me to agree to wait... Otherwise just wouldn't be worth it... My wife and I waited until we were married and it was the biggest mistake I ever made...at least as far as I am concerned...
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/28/2006 9:24:06 PM | NO!!!! NO!!! NO!!! NO!!!
This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Everyone I know who did it was sorry and ended up divorced anyway.
Here's the deal. I've heard people say: "The worst I ever had was great." Those people clearly have no standards of any kind and probably wouldn't recognize mediocre if it reached out and slapped them off their bar stool. The worst I ever had sucked! And I don't mean that in a good way. I wouldn't marry anyone with living with them for a whole year.
If she said she was waiting for marriage...well women say a lot of things. I remember a gal saying she would never let a man go down on her. It took seven seconds to convince her of the error of her ways. Say what you want. A good man is one who will do what's best for you.
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/30/2006 8:50:57 PM | | eh if sex is the back bone of a relationship then im the damn queen of england... pfft i can wait hell ive had every opertunity with drunk horny chick friends of mine.... and ive still gone four years without by my own choice the first and only chick i did anything with lied to me and told me she was pregnant.... yea rite pissd me off caught her in the lie and drumpd her... if the relationship is passionate enough sex is something you both will learn and expearance togather.... if you love each other enough to get married and are married have sex as damn much as you want and learn with each other get kinky if you both want hell it dosent matter what its like test drive a car before buying it hrmmm ive never bought a chick so why would i care to "test drive her" | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/30/2006 9:28:55 PM | People aren't cars!! I cannot imagine the idea of "test driving" a guy. I mean, if sex happens after engagement or the wedding, who cares???? As long as we pretty much agree on various sexual aspects and can talk comfortably with one another about sexual matters before we become physical, that is a reasonable indicator that we will be sexually compatible.
This idea of "test driving" reduces a person to an object. Cars aren't sentient beings with feelings so we really should not be comparing cars to living, breathing human beings!
With that said waiting or not waiting is a decision for each couple to make. I'm not going to tell others what to do here. I've pretty much already made my points, but this "test driving" thing really got my attention tonight. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 12:18:05 PM | | lol i would have to know what im getting. im a very sexual person. i dont want to whip out a vibrator and them run scared. i cant talk to anyone without the thought of having sex going through my mind. i wanna know what im getting. could care a less about them lasting 5 minutes...i wanna make sure they have a****.LOL if the sex isnt great the relationship isnt going to be either. i know what makes me happy. if im not getting it at home...im gonna get it elsewhere. yeah yeah yeah some say size doesnt matter...it does if they a crayon has an inch on them..LOL | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 12:30:31 PM | I wish I could hold out until I met a dream woman who has more than a 3 word vocabulary to go along with 36/24/36. Of course I'm not one to jump into bed with just anyone; appearance is very important, oh and her mind If I really cared for her and thought she cared for me in the same way I would hold out until she was ready, as long as it took. Of course if that was a long time she might get her head stuck in the ceiling if she's on top first time out. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 2:25:46 PM | I don't know it would depend, i don't think it's wise to marry someone there is no sexual chemistry with. have to be compatible that way, or it's best to just stay friends. IMHO.
But if i really loved her, i guess i could wait. i would never force someone i care about to do anything she didn't want to. But i would have to wonder if she would ever want to.
I know people who married and now sleep in seperate beds because they are sexually incompatible. it's not pretty. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 2:57:53 PM | | I can't imagine why , What could she possibly be hiding , Like you finally see where she lives and you come across a room with torture devices and pulleys and stuff ( laugh ,but it can happen to you ). And what if you do marry this girl , and she turns out to be the worst lover you've ever had .Bleckk . I don't even want to hear it from the bleeding hearts .I have no time for training . If your an adult , bring your skills to the table . Hang ups about sex is a symptom of other problems and insecurities , Marriage is neither for the weak nor the insecure . And you can be put in the friend zone if you wait too long . No coming back from there . I'm not saying you have to jump in the sack the first night , but after the three week mark ,you may find yourself feeling lesser than wanted . | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 3:06:18 PM | Ahh worst lover? See that is so wrong..like what if you meet someone who has been active and she is a bad lover? Do you toss her away? No you work on it so that the sex gets better.
This is the problem with the mentality of people today. Sex has to be great or no go.
Friend zone is by one person not having patience or not being compatible with the other. Why the need to rush?
Hang ups about sex is not other problems or insecurities. Is one to be sexually active all the time? makes me think of how people react when they find out some guy has not been laid in a year or two, the boys razz him and make fun of him like he is supposed to be out there banging every woman he sees or he is not accepted as a cool guy. Sex is the be all to a relationship? You work on it getting better, nothing wrong with that. Or is there nowadays?
So 3 weeks you need to have sex with the woman or else she is gone? Pretty sad in my eyes. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 3:21:51 PM | No, I did not read all 32 pages of this thread - sorry if someone has said something like this earlier and I'm repetitious.
I was married 17 yrs. Somewhere @ year seven the ex decided sex was not our cup of tea. All sorts of inquiries from me fell on deaf ears. I can count the number of times we fornicated in the last eight yrs on one hand. My eight-yr-old boy was, very literally, a miracle child. He was five when we divorced. We fornicated one time more after he was born.
All that just to say waiting for marriage to have sex would not be a big deal, although I don't see a reason to wait.
It's the waiting for sex after marriage when it becomes a big deal.
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 3:43:11 PM | ^^^^ By reading through the many intelligent posts in the previous 32 pages against waiting for marriage, it would be much clearer why waiting IS a big deal.
Just think about it: everything was going well for you till year 7 in the marriage, then she unilaterally (as you say) said she didn't want sex any more. One-sided, firm decisions like that can be made on the honeymoon night, too. And, in that case, you haven't had ANY history of good sex to recall with fondness to console you in your suddenly bleak future.
Truly, more die of misplaced idealism than rash adventure. | |
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