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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 3:48:46 PM | So I'm interested in how many men would wait till marriage if they met the right woman? Even if you were both NOT virgins, do you think you could wait if that was her choice?
I'm not saying you can't do other things, but the actual intercourse...could you wait for it?
Also, what if you went on a first date and the girl tells you she's waiting for marraige, how would you react? Not ever call her again? Or maybe stick around?
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No, I want to know what I am getting into (no pun intended, really, no really and I am saying this with a straight face.....well maybe not...LOL).
Nothing would make me mad as hell if the bride says no oral and no anal, only missionary.
I want a woman I can completely love and adore and worship that body all our life long together. I want to intimately know her. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 4:00:20 PM |
Just think about it: everything was going well for you till year 7 in the marriage, then she unilaterally (as you say) said she didn't want sex any more. One-sided, firm decisions like that can be made on the honeymoon night, too. And, in that case, you haven't had ANY history of good sex to recall with fondness to console you in your suddenly bleak future.
LOL - I suppose that much could be true, except she never would come out and say she didn't want sex anymore. Besides, it turned out she just didn't want it with me.
Communication was obviously a problem. And it does take two to communicate. I'm still working on that.
As for the 32 pages, I'll go back and read them. After all, I've got the leisure time. 
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 4:05:59 PM | | Your kidding me ! First off furry one , i'm not buying this nice guy act .It strikes as a shameless plug and you should be ashamed . and i previously said in earlier post ,don't wanna hear it lol. I guess what i should have said is , How can an intelligent woman age after 30 be bad in bed ,unless she hasn't had much experience (with one man or many doesn't matter) . She can't , it's not possible . Smart girls learn things . work at it . please . You can work at every aspect of a relationship and must , but sometimes two people just aren't sexually compatible , and it pays to figure this out without too much time being invested . And assuming i'm wrong about you being a nice guy ( don't like to admit it , but it is possible lol ) . My apologies . For then it is i who am sorry for you . I never met you but i bet you've been getting played like a baby grand for years . god i love the forums lol | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 5:48:07 PM |
(Msg 776) like what if you meet someone who has been active and she is a bad lover? Do you toss her away? No you work on it so that the sex gets better.
This is the problem with the mentality of people today. Sex has to be great or no go.
I think the differences in opinion are based on two different realities. I believe it's not so much the concern about the quality of sex as opposed to the quantity of sex.
I agree two people can work on mutually satisfying sex IF both like sex. That is the crux of the problem, IMO. You wrote,
makes me think of how people react when they find out some guy has not been laid in a year or two, the boys razz him and make fun of him like he is supposed to be out there banging every woman he sees or he is not accepted as a cool guy.
It has more to do with the effort he put into aquiring sex than the actual frequency. Not everyone can just walk out the door and get laid and no one expects one to just bang anything in this day and age but it begs the question, "How much does the person like sex?"
If someone likes something they make an effort to obtain it. Has the person been dating? Are they on dating sites? Do they go out and socialize? Do they pass the word around among friends they are looking for a companion? Does it bother them that they are not getting sex?
Some people do not care for sex. Two people are not always sexually compatible. If going without sex for years is not a problem would it be reasonable to assume that person will automatically become sexually pro-active in a relationship? I suppose it's possible but I don't feel it's likely.
As Annudderhohummale writes in Msg 777,
It's the waiting for sex after marriage when it becomes a big deal. That's where the concern lies. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/2/2006 5:54:25 PM | | Sigh...ummm...Id' hang around...I never push a woman to do anything she doesn't want to do...being intimate is a way of getting closer, ultimately though, sex is an intergral part of any healthy relationship and compatibility is a must for me...till marriage? hmm..truth be told...nope. Sorry, if a woman doesn't want to get closer to me, then I will not get closer to her. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/3/2006 3:44:49 AM |
If someone likes something they make an effort to obtain it. Has the person been dating? Are they on dating sites? Do they go out and socialize?
Hahah don't make me laugh, just because someone wants something doesn't mean they will get it. Some people get it, some people don't.
Do they pass the word around among friends they are looking for a companion? Does it bother them that they are not getting sex?
I've set up so many friends, but the favour is never returned, ever. In fact the only "help" i've ever gotten from my friends was interference and sabotage. To me, social networking is a load of crap. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/4/2006 4:42:21 PM | | Till marriage, hell no.... If thats the case something is not right with that relationship. I can see maybe waiting a couple dates, but till marriage, never...... I might stick around for a couple weeks, cuz it could of been someone that just has been hurt, so yeah I might see but yeah but a guy is only going to wait so long...... | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:12:53 PM | Of course I would wait until marriage. But keep in mind that I'm a unique creature. Most guys wouldn't. And she would have to be really special...but that's obvious, I would never marry someone unless we knew we were meant for each other.
Of course, I think the "other things" would be close enough to the actual thing to get the idea of what intercourse would be like. But I'm nevertheless shocked at how much value people put on the sex act itself...I would think that the attractiveness of someone's body and personality, as well as how that person relates to you emotionally and life-goal wise, would be the deciding factor for marriage. Weird. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:43:20 PM | I have been in a relationship where I found out after it was going hot and heavy that the woman was NOT into wearing certain clothes (Fredricks of Hollywood or Victoria's Secret) because she was not a "Tramp" and also she refused to do anything but the standard missionary position and thought I was a pervert for asking her to try anything new. She even was hesitant to talk about sex. I was VERY glad I did not marry her... There were others, some worse, some not quite as bad but still the woman was pretty "prudish" and I was glad I didn't make the mistake of saying "I Do" because I sure didn't after we got in bed. Some were even quite compatible in other things in my life, just not in the sex department so it was "Ill catch you later Baby" as I ran for the door... I spent 18 years married to a woman who was not into sex and refused to do much besides "get it over with so I can go watch my soaps" so I refuse to be dragged into a relationship that doesn't satisfy my requirements now...
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/6/2006 9:56:20 PM | round_cactus said:
Of course I would wait until marriage. But keep in mind that I'm a unique creature. Most guys wouldn't. And she would have to be really special...but that's obvious, I would never marry someone unless we knew we were meant for each other.
Of course, I think the "other things" would be close enough to the actual thing to get the idea of what intercourse would be like. But I'm nevertheless shocked at how much value people put on the sex act itself...I would think that the attractiveness of someone's body and personality, as well as how that person relates to you emotionally and life-goal wise, would be the deciding factor for marriage. Weird.
I don't know who you are, but THANK YOU. Dude, we are a part of the few. This just proves how selfish and greedy most men are. Some call things off if they don't get sex within the first three dates. Sex is the most important thing to them. If the sex isn't great, then things can't work out. Even if the woman is perfect otherwise, they still can't sacrifice great sex to be with her. How many women do you think would say "No" to a man that can provide for her and their family, is caring and honest, and anything else a woman desires if he askes her to marry him just because he can't "satisfy" her completely in bed? I believe that women would be more willing to give up great sex for a man that excels in other areas. You men that place sex so highly on the totem pole, think about that and get a little respect for women. Reorder your priorities. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/6/2006 10:14:21 PM | Jessica Simpson who's actually pretty religious said she kept her virginity until marriage. If I had a girlfriend as good looking as her and she said no sex until marriage I could probably wait.
Sex to me isn't everything in relationship. It's great but if I met somebody great I could live without it for whatever reason. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/7/2006 7:25:40 AM |
I don't know who you are, but THANK YOU. Dude, we are a part of the few. This just proves how selfish and greedy most men are. Some call things off if they don't get sex within the first three dates. Sex is the most important thing to them. If the sex isn't great, then things can't work out. Even if the woman is perfect otherwise, they still can't sacrifice great sex to be with her. How many women do you think would say "No" to a man that can provide for her and their family, is caring and honest, and anything else a woman desires if he askes her to marry him just because he can't "satisfy" her completely in bed? I believe that women would be more willing to give up great sex for a man that excels in other areas. You men that place sex so highly on the totem pole, think about that and get a little respect for women. Reorder your priorities.
It all sounds so nice and noble, but women need to have good sexual chemistry with their partner too. Not just the guys. Trust me, i've seen enough examples to know it's a two way street. Besides if you have bad sexual chemistry, what's wrong with staying good friends, why do you need to marry someone you aren't compatible intimately with? Unless you don't think it's possible to just be friends with the opposite sex.
Sex within three dates? I'm not down with that either. In fact i have a rep for not "putting out". i was with my last g/f for almost a year and there was no sex at all. So i can and will wait for sex, but definately not until marriage. No way in hell will i be in a intimacy barren marriage, that's for 50s sitcoms, not me.
Call me greedy, but i want the whole package, just as i want to be the whole package for someone special. Love, intimacy, caring and friendship. Take something out and it's just a friendship. | |
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