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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/17/2006 11:36:37 AM | | Hi yes i can because sex to me means alot,to me i have to be in love with that person to have it ,its just makes the first time more important to me and her .Guess i am old fassion but its very important to me in that way.Sex is something that two people who are in love that sends it to the clouds and most woman do get a person that can really romance her to that point hope this heled you alittle.Buy it is from my herat and no one else's. | |
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ya472
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ya472
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/17/2006 12:58:56 PM | If I had to wait,that is if she BELIEVED that that was the "right" thing to do,then it would already be obvious to me that we were too different in our views on life,sex,love,relationships and marriage for such a relationship to work.
It would mean that one of us would have to CHANGE and I'm too set in my ways for that. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/17/2006 1:01:52 PM | @DCW...
Sexual compatability is part of "chemistry" hello...lol ugh
chemistry isn't just "do we get along" ..no wonder... lol
Like I said before, if you both are so into each other, love each other, and want to continue beyond....you wouldn't deprive the other person of anything related to living fullfilled and as one.....being as one together means everything as a whole, not bits and pieces....and again, it depends on if you are 18 or if you are 33.....18 you haven't lived and experienced, 33 you have....there's more toleration there at 33.....
but the intention is what I would have to question... | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/17/2006 1:31:40 PM | ..Taran23..very good question .....this depends on things like age,maturity,religious beliefs,emotions,understanding,birth control practise, protection,commitment...all these things have an influence on whether to be intimate sexually with your partner. Considering your age,being a 23 yrs.old I can understand your concern. You must believe without doubt that your partner loves and respects you whole-heartedly. If there is doubt about your future in your mind and he is only seeking his own selfish gratification, I would tell him "no way, not now" He is not not ready because his brain is presently in the wrong place. A fault all us men live with unfortunately. Usually takes a sensible and strong woman to put us in our place.  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:46:42 AM |
Well, this thread has sure brought out some interesting things about men. She's worth marrying (for life), but not worth waiting for? I wonder how many understand what marriage is really about? Thanks to the person that started the topic. It's an eye opener for sure.
You either missed, or deliberately ignored, the half-dozen women who also replied expressing similar sentiments. But let's not allow facts to get in the way, shall we?
I think of all the people I know who "waited." Of those:
Couple #1 - He can have sex every day, or two maybe three times a day. On a good month, she has sex once or twice all month, and she flips over sometimes after he satisfies her, and goes to sleep.
Couple #2 - She can have sex two or three times a week. He turned out to have an addiction to pornography, which he prefers to the real thing. The marriage lasted for several years before she gave up and stopped trying.
Couple #3 - She can have sex three or four times a week. He doesn't need it at all. They're getting divorced right now. She's gone stark-raving mad on the dating scene. (Good for her, by the way.)
Couple #4 - He wants to "wait." They've tried to have sex two or three times, and he's Mr. Softie. He promises that all this will change when they get married. She believes him.
I could go on and on. Does every couple who chooses to wait end up like this? Of course not. But stuff like this happens often enough that it's worth considering.
When I tell someone she's "worth waiting for," what I offer is my fidelity. I'm going to have sex with one person, and one person alone. Nobody else. I'm committing myself to her. If she then demands that I not only offer my fidelity, but commit to celibacy until we tie the knot, and enter a lifelong commitment without knowing if we are in any way physically compatible, then we obviously differ in more ways than merely sexual morals. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:32:03 AM | | I've been stupid enough to wait 4 years for someone. You could imagine my frustration. We lived together for 3 years. Planned the wedding and everything. My family didn't like her and that should have given me a clue right there. I got married to this girl and a month later, she cheated on me with another guy. He was almost 10 years older. I told her to get out and got an annulment. I don’t think I would ever do that again. Plus a lot of times you might not be compatible sexually. I’ve had a girl who was too small and it hurt me when we did IT. Eventually, once you get comfortable with your partner, you should take that chance and not wait as long as I did. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:36:41 AM | | Ok, My ex husband and I met. Neither of us were virgins but we decided to wait until we were married to have sex cause it seemed like the right thing to do. After we got married I found out that I wanted to have sex more than he did..I wanted it daily, and he was fine with once a week. You need to make sure you are on the same page..just a little advice from a sexually frustrated woman..for seven years I was anyway | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:48:11 AM | ..so filling every hole except the Baby Maker is NOT sex, eh??..Thank You, Mr. Clinton, and Madonna..
..and Madonna moved to England because she didn't want to raise her kids in such an immoral country!!!..
..I know many people who claim to not have had sex with their wife/husband for 25 years!! One is ethical and would not go outside marriage to get a little-bit, and another is actively utilizing the sleaze factor on street corners and strip clubs. (yeah yeah, I KNOW not all the Go-Go gurls are hoors, but many are...)
..would I tolerate a year or two of Goodnight Cheek Kisses, while the local Biker gang visits her after I go home to Miss Michigan because shes waiting with me to find out if I am "the one"??...
..on the other hand, would I marry a girl who has sex on the first date..with every date she's had..and shes had a LOT of dates??
..I know a guy who used to drink and watch pornos with his GF before they got married..after, she never wanted to see them again..she said she only did it to get him to marry her...
..my own marriage failed, not in that department, but because of other untruths told to me before..
...I am attracted to a woman that is much of what I desire in a long term relationship, and because of past burns, she is celibate. I respect that. (how many people on this site are getting it every night, anyway???) We are friends, but if we spent more time together, learned who each other are and liked what we know, it COULD be possible to simply one day ask her to be the wife.
..But I am still actively seeking a future partner, and yes, sex IS important..NOT everything, but a key component. I've been the route of sex being EVERYTHING and its pretty shallow for a deep guy!! Fun, ohmygawd, yes!!
..but to "date" a girl waiting until marriage, there is a tremendous commitment. Can you know a person fully in say a year, ??..I know of couples who have been bf/gf for eight years (living together with sex, yes) and at least one who agreed to marry on the first date!! (lasted 41 years, not always happy, but HEY, you wouldn't be reading this without them!!)
..so, tough call...you tell me all the things you will do after the wedding and you can't wait...how long does it take before I can trust you enuff to believe you??????
I'm looking for love and sex is a part of that..... | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:51:15 AM | | You say she is the RIGHT WOMAN i met,You did not say She is a virgin,maybe shes having sex elsewhere and seein if she can get over on me,BUT you did say she is the right woman SO yes I would wait,what occures for instanc if you 2 do not and she or you git ill and cant have sex for a while,then what?Good sex involves more than just physical,if I am seeking just sex a call girl is good for that,BUT you said marriage,sorry but I am not marrying a call girl.Should you be that ard up,then go see a call girl and git it ou of your system ,we are talking marriage here,not a 1 night stand. | |
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