eman07
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Joined: 6/30/2006
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/25/2006 9:13:30 AM | not only NO ....but HELL NO......
If any female actually thinks this "normal" or "okay", you are freaking crazy. It has nothing to do with morals, or your personal prefrence......it has to do with compatability.....three things for any relationship that has to be there
1. communication
2. trust
3. sex
I want all those three to work BEFORE we get married........ | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/25/2006 11:19:16 AM | Wow I can't believe the replies....oh wait I can actually.
I agree that you need communication and trust beyond belief. And yes sex is important. But so many people just jump into having sex so quickly in a relationship (done it myself and learned the hard way). I don't know if I would wait until marriage (as it isn't as though I am a virgin anymore) but I do know that I made a rule with myself to wait 3 months with the next guy I date. I figure if a guy won't wait at least 3 months or pressures me throughout that time then he isn't worth it and won't last that long. I want a best friend and a lover but I need the best friend part first. | |
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eman07
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 1356 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/25/2006 12:09:25 PM | scoripio girl....
Waiting three months is probably reasonable...i get that....im talking waiting till the wedding night to have sex...that is plain stupid and dumb.....
Just remember this...if you are gonna make a guy "wait" for three months there better be some communication on your part that you are not taken advantage of him.....what i mean by that is this....
I understand that some women think the world revolves around there vagina...(in some cases it does)...BUT......to make a guy wait three months there better be some giving in on YOUR part...meaning...when you go out to dinner, are you offering to pay?......is it equal ALL THE TIME?.....A guy doesnt want to think he is being taken advantage of...if he is taken a girl out all the time and gets no action, well then all of a sudden he thinks that he is getting taken advantage of, and that you are using him. There has to be some communication on YOUR part also...... | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/25/2006 12:26:11 PM | | That’s one of the dumbest post I read in a while. Sure, I would wait until the marriage! What if she’s so closed minded and boring in bed? Will she call me an ***hole if I call it quick in the weeks to come? Or if I have to pay a whore to fill my needs? Sexuality is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. It’s way too important to take a gamble, getting married then try. Hey, I don’t even take a chance on buying a stupid pair of shoes for christ’s sake, as if I would marry someone knowing how mush it would cost me to divorce her shortly after | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/25/2006 12:44:49 PM | eman07- I am a firm believer in everything being 50/50. I won't push it to the penny but I will pay for my fair share. He can pay for dinner and I will pay next time. I will meet people in their end of town. I will drive. Whatever. I also believe in communication being the most important thing in a relationship and would explain my past and reasons for my decision.
greystone - There may or may not be a bj but really I wouldn't tease a guy...so read my comments to eman07. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/26/2006 12:51:53 AM | Yes I would wait for marriage. I am doing that now. I am still a virgin and proud of it. Some of it is because of my faith and the other is because I dont want to have a child yet while I am not set for it. I want to be done with college and have a house before all that comes. Yes I know there is birth control and condoms,BUT there is still the chance of it happening and I not taking the risk. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/26/2006 11:23:08 AM | | I agree with Orchid. Relationships/marraiges/common-laws based on sex are doomed to fail because we do age & while the sex does improve over time, as we age it also becomes less important. If the couple doesn't enjoy each other's company when they hit that point, then what's the point? I'm sorry guys, but if you don't enjoy talking to the wee hours of the night with her, when your 60, 70, 80, you're gonna be one unhappy fella because you sure won't be scre_ing to the wee hours at that age...Viagra/cialis be notwithstanding. Is that what you want for your older days? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/26/2006 11:29:26 AM | | Its pretty simple; any woman that wanted me to wait that long, couldn't and wouldn't possibly be the right woman for me. I'm not advocating sex too quickly or before we're both ready, but to connect on all the levels necessary for a relationship to work, you have to share some of the same values and ideas. Someone not wanting to sleep with me til we were married would clearly not share the same values as me. | |
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| Mr. Fair Play Sex is essential for most of us guys
Posted: 8/27/2006 4:16:31 PM | | Sex is essential for most of us women too. Any woman who would want to wait untl marriage is either nuts or has some of her own. Now if I was 12 years old I might be thinking along those lines but we are adults and the realities of life are different. When I was much younger (late teens) I believed you were supposed to wait even though I didn't and felt guilty. Now there is no way I would marry someone without sex first nor would I wait three months. People with that big bag of hang-ups are scary and I would get away from them as fast as I could. Mr Fair Play I like the way you put it. The question should read GUYS if a woman wanted you to wait for sex till marriage do you really believe she could be the right woman? Sexual compatability is so important in a relationship that we should explorer and make sure we are in tune in the sack. If a man likes beef and I like chicken thats one thing but if we had big differences in bed that is a definate deal breaker. | |
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| Mr. Fair Play Sex is essential for most of us guys
Posted: 8/27/2006 8:00:39 PM | Oh dear...I never said I was not for sexual compatiblity. I for one have never been Married but do have 3 children, so I think my stance on the issue is fairly clear. However, I stand by what I've stated earlier. I also beleive that if a couple isn't comfortable enough with each other to honestly, openly discuss their sexual preferences, than they shouldn't be comfortable enough to hop in the sack with each other either. Said discussions should be able to resolve the compatiblity issue fairly quickly. So, under those circumstances, it doesn't matter how long they wait. To my mind, thats how "adults" handle things. Anything else is juvenile. I don't think insulting the virgins out there who want to wait for marraige, for whatever reasons is very "adult". It is also reality that there are many people out there who do choose to wait, & not just females. To each his/her own, I say. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/27/2006 8:16:04 PM | | sex doesn't = knowing the person. I waited till i was 28, i was going to wait till i got married but i didn't see it happening so with a guy i fell in love with i had sex. And now I know why i should wait for marriage. Sex creates an artificial connection that can blind you to the true nature of the person you're with. I think should be the product of a relationship not the relationship but from the posts i see on here its...all or nothing. No sex, no relationship. I argue if you make an ultimatum like that then its all about sex and no relationship. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/28/2006 6:39:08 PM | kat you have a reasonable arguement but that is beacause you waited so long then gave in out of futility. I think sex shouldn't have such a huge responsibility placed on it since it no longer is just the basis of having children.
Before birth control... I would say ... yes its a good idea. now I say no.
marriage is for children and taxes and to let the boss think your life is stable.
I am very glad I never waited and actually think I never should have bothered getting married at all ... it was the phoniest beurocratic seudo religious thing I ever did in my life mainly for the parents ... the relationship was way better before we got married and the next love relationship out lasted the marriage by almost a factor of 5 ... by not getting married a second time I had a great 16 year relationship.
Forget marriage ... just live together and screw all you like.
 If you have kids ... then think about marriage.
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Sentio
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Joined: 8/18/2006
Msg: 1374 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/29/2006 1:16:18 PM | I remember I used to ask this question right away when someone messaged me.
How well do you communicate, verbally, visually, physically, and telepathically?
The question is in reference to an article I read.
http://www.heartpath.com/Content/intellectualforeplay.htm
FOURplay
The central idea of Intellectual Foreplay is the practice of FOURplay—getting to know each other 1) intellectually, 2) emotionally, 3) spiritually, and 4) physically before making the commitment to serious involvement. Granted, if you think too much about your relationship, you may never get married. However, if you think too little, you’ll surely get divorced. | |
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