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a37064
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Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 126 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/19/2006 1:14:12 PM | Taran - I'm 57 and could wait willingly if I met the right woman.
I still have the desire that I've always had physically. If that was
what she wanted and needed, love isn't selfish so I would wait.
Any dog can screw all the btches in the neighborhood, numberous
conquests, do not make a person a man. Character and integrity do!
In my experience - there is no right woman for me. Everyone is so
hurt from the past that they can't appreciate a decent man.
Just my take on the subject!
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ya472
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Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 127 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/19/2006 6:09:35 PM | ..
You couldn't be more wrong ya472
I myself am waiting for marriage because I believe that sexual purity is important (and as a Christian it is commanded of me.)
People can believe you, and they can consider what I said.
This isn't a personal comment on you, but when considering statistics, your statement doesn't ring true. And don't answer this question, but I think the answer is relevant. "Do you masturbate?" If a male masturbates, he has a sexual appetite. (unless this is a Clinton definition)
ps this is addressed to a male. Females do have a different perspective.
Over all, I really don't give a sh*t. lol Forums are here for discussion purposes.
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 12:47:15 AM |
You are a married woman on an online dating site, looking for another woman. Seems to me like you are still 'just dating'. You couldn't be more wrong about that. I just moved to Tacoma and I am looking for friends, just simply that, good old type of friends, but like they say: Cada ladron juzga por su condicion" and since you are a 44 years old horny grandma you probably think that every is a desesperate housewife like you.
Oh, BTW, stop ****ing in all the forums to people. Obviously you are not that great if you are that old and alone.
No me busques sino me quieres encontrar.  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 1:01:30 AM | | Wouldn't you have to wait till your dead before you could actualy say, she was the right one. Just because you marry someone doesn't make them the right one? So in that case, no. And whats the difference between other things and intercourse? Sexual stimulation is sexual stimulation. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 1:11:00 AM | I just wonder - and No I dont sleep around - - but ummm ..  If you marry someone no sex.... errrrrrrr ummmmm sex Is a very VERY Important part of a relationship and ummmm quite frankly NOT everyone Is sexually compatible - so what do you do then visit the brothel taking the grass clippings to the dump on a sunday morning? ( dont laugh heard of It many a time ) ...
No Its not possible to wait untill marraige - well yup It Is If you dont expect much for yourself on the satisfaction level - cant go wrong then.
Each to their own not for me - I like sex dont want to do missionary and make a mental shopping list for the rest of my life. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 1:16:00 AM | | For me the key word in the question was 'marriage'. Why get married at all? For what? North American women are from post-feminism era. They give it up freely without the institution of marriage being needed for sex any longer. I just fail to see what marriage is for in general any more. I would never even think about getting married until im atleast 40. So do I wait till I'm 40 to have sex? 60% of marriages end in divorce and 80% of marriages have audultery in them. Marriage = societal institution of pipe dreams. | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 141 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 1:46:57 AM | We truly have evolved into a disposable society that puts instant gratification before commitment. I find this disappointing.
Getting married is about honouring a commitment to a long term couple-ship, and you simply can't do that if you approach it as a single person. Saying your immediate sexual needs must supercede everything else does not speak well for the relationship. You're telling your intended that her needs will be secondary to your own, not a great selling feature in a potential husband.
For instance, if you can't wait six months for a marriage vow, what else won't you honour? If your wife is pregnant with your child, gets sick, and can't have sex for six months, will you go out and have an affair? If you hit a rocky patch in the marriage, will you walk out because it doesn't "feel good" anymore, or will you hang in there and work through it? It's all about commitment.
It's hard to have a relationship with someone if they never see that union as something larger then themselves and their immediate needs. Don't you think this is true?
And, I'm not saying sex isn't important. It most certainly is. I wouldn't want to have to wait for marriage to have sex with my partner, but I would do it if it meant building a meaningful relationship with someone. What's six months in the lifetime of happy marriage? It's a drop in the bucket.
I would also make sure that I was sexually compatible with my fellow before the marriage vows by talking things through. You already know if you have chemistry. You don't need to have sex to discover that.
These are just my thoughts, btw, not accusations against any specific poster to this thread. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 1:55:50 AM | storm...
well that's what i get for trying to
be a funny guy...
lol
my computer shut down
hell
i think the electricity in the neighborhood went out
anyway
glad you got caught the humor
i'm not one of those bitter nut case types
just thought what you said was funny
tryin' to be funny back.. | |
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brian2
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Joined: 6/3/2005
Msg: 143 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 2:01:05 AM | >Taran23
>So I'm interested in how many men would wait till marriage if they met the right woman? Even if you were both NOT virgins, do you think you could wait if that was her choice?
I'm not saying you can't do other things, but the actual intercourse...could you wait for it?
i don't know about all the way til marriage but could certainly wait a long time.....and even prefer it that way myself. but it's true - it has ta be MISS right fo sho. | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 144 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 2:20:44 AM | OK...I've just read the entire thread. If I hear the test drive analogy one more time, I'm going to throw up. lol We're talking human beings not possessions. For crying out loud. I would never date a man who believed this.
I think a lot is not being said in this thread. For instance:
Is it truly instant gratification that people are after, or is it determining sexual compatibility?
If you knew that you were sexually compatible with your partner, would you be willing to wait 6 months or a year to get married, if it was important to your partner to do so?
If your partner said they wanted to wait, would you be afraid that he/she would withhold sex in the future from you? Because if this is it, you have a trust issue that has nothing to do with your partner wanting to wait for marriage.
EDIT: And yes I see both sexes have posted to this thread, but it appears the vast majority of people using the test drive analogy are men. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:19:52 AM | | Marriage is overrated, and sexual intercourse is the most beautiful gift women and men can share with each other. There are no guarantees, you could be crossing the street and get hit by a truck, anything can happen, you got to appreciate each day for what it represents. Two people should share their feelings in appropriate ways. I honestly believe this, nothing personal against anyone who feels differently, but a man or woman holds out for marriage, there's no honor in that, you're only fooling yourself, you and your partner are just two insignificant specks of dust in the universe of life. There's no honor in holding out, in fact you are just cheating yourself and dishonoring your partner. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:35:24 AM | This is a tough one to call!!! What if you waited and waited and it ends up you are not compatible sexually?This would just lead to many years of frustration and inevitably a cheating situation.How could you possibly say she was the right girl if you never had sex with her prior to marriage???Unless,of course,sex is not all that important to you.Sexual compatibility for me is HUGE!!!If the sex is not good then there will be less of a chance for serious bonding on other levels.That's just me though.  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:37:27 AM | This is the wrong question--it assumes that sex is not an important part of any relationship. And that is quite naive. Research this and you will discover that the leading causes of divorce include problems between the couple over sex or money, for instance.
So, how would anyone know, really know that the other person was the 'right one' without having sex with that person? | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 149 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:51:57 AM | bikeman: Well, honour is subjective, isn't it? There are a lot of Muslims and Christians in the world who would argue that with you. lol In fact, the bulk of the world's population belongs to one of these religious groups and both promote 'no sex' before marriage.
I understand part of what you are saying, Bikeman, in the sense that there are no guarantees in life so why wait! Many agree with you. I do. But I think saying that there is no 'honour' in waiting is inappropriate.
Where is the honour in having sex before you know if she's the one and then discovering she's pregnant? Where is the honour in having to pay child support for a child you didn't want to a woman you really don't like for the next 25 years? How about knowing that your assets and obligations are split between two households now and that when the right woman comes along, you won't be able to put 100% into the new relationship and new children that are born because of this earlier "mistake"? How about if that "right woman" comes into your life with a child of her own from a previous relationship that didn't work out and an ex who doesn't pay child support? Then you have two children to provide for, one of which isn't even your own?
This happens all the time. Guess why? Because instant gratification rules the day.
EDIT: Sex is an integral part of any romantic relationship. It is part of the "marriage contract", so to speak. It is naive to think that people don't enter into coupleships knowing this.
Further...having good sex does not make you compatible in a relationship. Having the same value system does. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:54:21 AM | Came up against this situation in my last relationship, she wanted to wait, i couldnt wait. After about a month just as i was coming to terms with having to wait guess what, she couldnt wait, go figure.
I guess in the end sex falls down to the comfort level you have with your lover, some of us click together immediately, and some of us take a while, and for some its a religous thing and thats a whole different conversation. My answer is if the mood is right it will happen without the need of a push from him or her. | |
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