| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:01:27 AM | Billin I know you were being funny back thats why I was rolling around laughing - It was excellent what you put.
Maybe the electricity shut off as we're all being so naughty wanting to pork our beloveds before the final commitment 
Infact maybe our rings have been seen before we have Indeed seen their ring of gold 
To everyone else
On a serious note for couples happy to wait - good for them but personally I arnt marrying anyone Ive known for 6 months - thats plain ridiculous - and I arnt doing sex free dating with someone I love for years believe me .. each to their own | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:02:13 AM | GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? ... I'm not saying you can't do other things, but the actual intercourse...could you wait for it?
Yes....IF I KNEW! Good things can come to those who wait. Whats a year of waiting compared to a lifetime of fufilling sexual expression?
"what if you went on a first date and the girl tells you she's waiting for marraige, how would you react?" Been there, I do as I ALWAYS do;ask LOTS of questions. If she was intriguing enough to ask out on a date nothing would have changed.Questions go beyond the blanket statement and into the "whys","how longs" "whats" ect. behind the "no sex until marriage"concept for better understanding of her. An OPEN and honest, ethical, strong, intelligent, logical, affectionate, independent woman is a VERY RARE find.
There is very little that you can know about a person's sexual abilty that requires having sex.In fact there may be alot MORE you can learn about them from waiting a few months. | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 153 | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:11:54 AM | Yer the men are as hard to find too but I still wouldnt do It - I just did 18 months no sex not a drama - I dont sleep with anyone It has to be the full package - did 2 years at one stage .. but still I wouldnt be making a life commitment to ANYONE without having been Intimate with them - knowing them totally. Im looking for a true soul connection and you cant know that without fully knowing a person, theres too much to It.
It worked years ago as women married as a job - as long as they were supported they stayed. This Is 2006 - we support ourselves and buy our own houses ect.
And Im not a man but I choose to post here anyways call me a manwhore If you like
And anyways once her fantasys over and the dress Is packed away - what happens 3 years down the track when reality hits and she starts wondering what Its like to be with others?? | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 155 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:19:13 AM | ^^^My parents were faithful to each other for the 50 years of their married life...and they didn't have premarital sex. Dad's long gone now, but Mom said they had a very fulfilling sex life for all the years of their marriage.
Love, family and commitment all contributed to their sex life getting better and better the longer they were together. If only I can achieve what they had, I will be a lucky woman indeed. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:20:06 AM | Oh and I'm 37 and theres no Children - they Invented a funny little pill and called It Birth Control back In the 60s or the like ... things like that arnt relevant honestly Its just called responsibility theres no need for accidental pregnanys In this era If both parties take birth control responsibilities.
But the easiest way here people as everyone different and thats the Beauty of the World - that not everyones the same and everyone Is capable of having their own mindset - that we find someone to date with beliefs that match our own and dont try to force ours on others.
Theres no wrong or right way - Its what fits you.
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 157 | |
| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:23:18 AM | ^^ I agree that there is no wrong or right way. I respect your choice and it makes absolute sense to me.
Oh...and no birth control is 100 % effective. I've seen friends who thought they were covered get surprised. For instance, I never knew the the pill was ineffective if you had to go on antibiotics. No one told me that when I was on it. lol I'm lucky no children resulted from that oversight. lol It did happen to a friend of mine. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:34:57 AM | If you think you have to test drive...maybe something is wrong with your equipment!!!! For most of us women, nothing is wrong with ours!!! : )
If we meet the right guy, we don't have to examine under the hood (as you equate this to a test drive and a car). We would trust about that. You can go test drive a car and it seem fine and also end up with a lemon later! Especially if you get a woman so willing to put out...maybe she will later just as easily put out behind your back! If you have a woman that is controled and has self respect, your heart could safely trust in her as the Bible says. Boy I tell ya, this nation is turning into a bunch of immoral souls who think their soul worth is all between their legs. You have missed the whole point in life and I feel sorry for you. If you get sick and the sex goes...so will a shallow relationship! If you get injured and the sex has to go...so will a shallow relationship. Love endureth all things, sex does not. : ) | |
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7times
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Joined: 10/27/2005
Msg: 160 | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:42:18 AM | Let me add one more thing..Talk about soul mate....the thing is, when you have sex with someone...you create a soul tie. You in some ways become addicted to that person. That is why women fall apart after that type of relationship ends. We were not meant to give ourselves over like that. I have waited and am so glad. Have kept myself from having sex with anyone since my marriage ended over 5 years ago. And what I have found is that it makes my emotionally and spititually stronger. And that gentleman who said yopu get to know a person so much better when sex is not in the picture so soon..is so right. I found when i first starting dating again that if I kissed and got real affectionate with a guy, I was more blinded to his flaws. Now I get to know someone first and have found most are not worth even kissing when you learn who they are.
And hooray for you men that have good morals and values out there. I pray God will send you a princess because you men are truly a prince! I will wait for that type of man and pass up the frogs who sleep with anyone! I want a man who also has self control. That will spill over into the marriage for sure! : ) | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:42:32 AM | | For something as important as sex is for the long term health...I would kind of like to know at least if we have the same ideas about it anyway. I mean the attitudes, adventurous, curiosity...but everyone is diff., you can know these things w/o actually doing it though. I guess I see benefits to both sides...waiting or not, and I've known people who did wait. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:57:18 AM | faithful people are talking about sex - not staring In a Porno Movie - all we think abouts between our legs ???
See Sex In love Is beautiful with the right partner - a deep sharing of heart and soul - and to me a shallow relationship would be one entered Into PURELY based on sex - or one taking a life commitment without knowing the level of soul connection and real compatability - Its about more than sex.
I dont want to become the town bike - this Isnt possible for me nor wanted but I also dont wish to make a life commitment to a man I know very little about .. so much to It you cant put It In words - but untill you've lived with someone for 6 months you dont even know the real person - you know the good side only. Good side cant be lived 24 / 7 - you see the real person when your living with them.
I dont need a man to buy my house - I dont need a man to pay my bills - I need a man to love and share my life with and that Includes Intimacy to me - and If we are living together or together as a couple and he had a terrible accident and his Penis was lost In one foul swoop on the production line  Id still love him and stand by him 100% - but see Id know the man Id chosen to make that commitment to 100%. I cant express It In type - Its not possible - but the sex Is just a small SMALL part of what most people mean by they'd want to have sex with the person first - Its the entire Intimacy - bonding and love experience that lets you know THIS IS THE ONE.
I mean really Ive worked with women ( from the older generation ) who gagged at the thought of her husbands penis In her mouth ... I dont want to go there for myself personally .. I want to know I love - REALLY love and will stand by the person I sign my life away too. And for me to do that I need to have woken up beside him bad breath and all for quite some time - seen the real deal and how we Interact together spending large amounts of time together ... and No Im not having him move In and keep his jammies on each night and keep to his side of the bed.
I have had sex the topics Irrelevant for me really - but I would not commit to life to someone I did not know totally, and totally means every Inch of his body - and as much of his mind and soul thats possible to reach Into. And If his wonki drops off along the way I hear they have some great strap ons down at sexyworld  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 5:29:12 AM | | You don't have to live with someone to know them...thats why spending alot of time over a long courtship is needed....at that point I'm sure you're spending the night, etc w/o actually moving in together. Not that there is anything wrong with that...but in some circles, appearances do matter. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 5:54:32 AM | Sex is a HUGE part of a relationship. Especially if you are the type that physical touch is your main love language.
If a man were absolutly perfect in everyway to me but...we did not have the same appetitie or adventure levels he would be gone.
I disagree that you can always improve the situation. Yes you can learn styles and ways about each other. Appetite is appetitie...if someone wants to make love 10xs week and they are with someone who wants 1x a week...you have a insurmountable problem.
Wait for sex before marraige...I dont think so. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:05:37 AM | Real thing...well said!!
Sadly, you hear from some about the ole "Bait & switch" Ya' know when they act like they like it just as much as you until after you've been married for awhile...then just don't seem to want it as much. Thankfully hasn't happened to me totally, but I have never believed Women like it as often as Men anyway....generally I've been right, but there are other factors. | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:44:03 AM | That's a myth that women don't like sex as much as men.
Generally, I think most men are confused about what turns a woman on. I also think that a large per centage of women don't understand their own bodies either. This is what most of the studies on human sexuality have shown, although things are changing. Communication and experimentation are the keys to a fulfilling sex life.
Also, there is a psychological condition whereby, some people find that sex isn't as thrilling when it's been "legalized". The illicitness of premarital sex or sex in someone else's bad is much more exciting. Sex experts say when this happens, you have to put in the extra effort to create mystery and excitement. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:53:14 AM | | ....on this topic, I think that when you are both striving for a better and closer relationship, I think that sex should be the last thing to "set in stone" the relationship. Having consensual hot, passionate sex with each other I think is one of the neccessary things to activly "give ourselves" to the other person as a promise of "you have all my love and heart". | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 9:02:55 AM |
You don't have to live with someone to know them...
Couldn't disagree more.
In my experience, once you move in with someone you soon realize you have no idea who they really are, and you soon ask "who is this person?"
Also, I think in Canada marriage is just an agreement to share assets, and I don't see the logic between waiting for an agreement to share assets before having sex. I'd rather leave the government out of my bedroom. | |
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Ooli
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 12:30:53 PM | This is a complex question that women don’t really want the answer to and men don’t want to tell. Besides most women already know the answer to this line of questions. It really would be like asking if your husband came to you for sex one night (or week or month) and you turned him down would it be ok for him to go get relief somewhere else? However, I decide to write a reply to this not so much to answer the question but to give some insight on the subject.
Most people consider making love to be having sexual intercourse. So if you were to say that you could have sex without love it would be like saying you could love without sex; oh wait people say they can love without sex all the time. But in reality sex is part of a relationship choosing to abstain for vanity reasons is not only a recipe for disaster but the building blocks of division between two people. I would highly recommend that no one start a relationship saying I’m saving myself or that I want to wait for anything. When people set boundaries they will carry over to the more significant part of the relationship and cause unnecessary additional stress. Instead people should consider the reasons why someone may chose to want to have sex, become pregnant, or do special sexual favors before or after a certain date, time period, or significant event. to test a relationship shows that you have trust issues and it would be better not only for you but for your partner as well if you were to work through these problems prior to becoming involved in a relationship. This would be particularly important and necessary if you really wanted the relationship to succeed.
Now on to the second part of the question if you are doing other acts (IE hand jobs, oral or anal) then you may be giving your partner enough of an outlet that he may remain content. But let us not loose tract that this should not be substituted for vanity reasons after all if a man is supposed to like your for who you are how would you feel if he said he wants to wait till you loose that freshman 40 or those extra ponds that you gained? Which brings me to my reply to the third part of your question. To which there is no blanket answer. Just as every woman is different every time a guy may be presented with that question he may have a different answer. So I will explain once when a woman who claimed she wanted to return to her religious up bringing and still wait. To set the stage she has 2 children is of the Methodist religion and was seeking marriage. I did not have a problem waiting because she was interested in having more kids but doing it the right way this time by becoming pregnant to what would be her husband. However I became discouraged when she did not feel like attending services on a regular weekly basis. Yet she did attend the bars on a regular weekends basis. She also later admitted that she did want to have sex but only with her ex until such a time that we were actually married and being an open-minded guy I asked if it would be ok for me to sleep with my son's mother until we were actually married. I was told it was not ok for me to sleep with anyone because I was the one who needed to show I could be faithful to her and no matter how I tried to explain things she could not see that it is not something one person does its something both partners do if they decide to go that route. Little to say that she and I only dated 3 times. To those who would say what was I doing discussing this on a third date? Well we were talking before we dated as most people who meet do and it was almost 2 months after we met that it came to an end. And you should have serious conversations up front so that you get to know a person ands not discover than they are not what you would want after investing serious amount of time and emotion.
And these are the idiotic ramblings of a man who is still single now you can see why! | |
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djkuhl
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Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 173 | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 1:21:06 PM | djkuhl
That is an insane conclusion. "if someone does not want to wait till marraige to have sex they only want sex." I dont think so. I want everything but by god I also want great sex and I am not going to go years (which I think you should before marraige) being sexually nuts to find out I have married a dud.
Personally I think anyone who go long periods of time without and not go crazy are the people who are not that sexual to begin with. Hence I would not want them...we would not be compatable.
This is from a very moral...selective....but sexual female!!! | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/24/2006 1:44:46 PM | | I could do it.. I would also want to do it.. That was my intent all along but that I lost it in the summer when I was 17 to a 24 yr old.. It's hard to be in relationships with some guys because it seems like it is a requirement and a must for you to put out.. But once you have had it sooo many times it becomes natural and it is hard to just stop... | |
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