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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/26/2006 1:48:10 AM | | waiting for sex is the stupidest thing i've ever heard of... come on, think about it, would you want to be bad in the sack on the most important night of your life? Or... what if the guy/girl is a freak in the bed and you can't handle her or she can't handle you... what if they expect things you can't provide... I believe sex is like fire, too much can burn you not enough wont keep you warm, if you light the match too soon you haven't set up the wood to burn, and if you light it up too late...maybe theres too much wood to burn and u start a ****in forest fire. LMAO | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 12:13:57 AM | | Well, I definitely agree with the statistics part. I think people are infatuated with the idea of having a perfect marriage. Unfortunately people man or woman aren't going to wait for the right one. Who would that be? Why when there are plenty of fish in the sea for lack of better association. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 3:12:16 AM | | I am not a guy. But, I know this gal who waited til she got married to him. Waited 1 year. After the wedding he told her he sometimes could keep it up. Needless to say, she divorced him after three years. Man, she should had found out before she got married. I feel he tricked her. What do you guys and gals think of that? He met her at a christian church. He had been in car accident. Both were in their thirties. She had never been married before. He had a kid before too. | |
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Joined: 1/31/2006
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:20:30 AM | faithfulone - WELL SAID!!!
My Opinion:
To much emphasis on SEX PERIOD.
Most of society puts more importance on selfish/materialistic matters and not GOD (if one believes in him and the price we'll pay for our actions here on earth) or on the REAL IMPORTANT THINGS in life generally speaking.
Now to get back to this TOPIC - YES-YES-YES!!! I will wait for sure as I am doing already!!! | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 9:34:40 AM | I agree with Dahlia that he was wrong not to tell her that he had an ED problem. That's not good.
I do feel that waiting until engagement to marry fills two things: It shows respect for sexuality, while also giving the couple a chance to find out if they are sexually compatible prior to the I Do's. Waiting until engagement can possibly prevent a divorce, while still respecting the depth and meaning behind sexuality, namely having the commitment already in place.
I'm not very religious, but I do feel that this is a reasonable solution to this issue. My reasons for this choice are secular, but I can appreciate someone doing this or waiting until marriage for religious reasons.
Regards,
DW | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 9:45:43 AM | Ho hum - it's all tosh.
I used to be religious and believe in this whole ideal...but it's unhealthy, and screws with your sex life.
It takes a LONG time for someone to see the act of intercourse as a natural and normal part of a relationship once they place it on a pedestal due to beliefs. So much so that there's an amazing amount of performance anxiety and pressure surrounding such a simple thing.
Shouldn't have to be that way.
And that's if one partner is open sexually, but the other isn't. Imagine how difficult things would be if both partners weren't open and understanding about what they want out of the sexual relationship? How difficult it would be to discuss sexual issues? etc, etc.
Lastly, what's the point of saying, "We won't actually have intercourse, but I'm prepared to go down on you and make you come"? It's just confusing the whole issue. You either abstain and embark on a sexual journey together once you reach a certain "stage" in your relationship...or you just do what mammals do, naturally.
Once again, abstaining - superficially - from just one act, whilst still performing it in thought and intention, makes no sense from a religious view.
And forcing a partner to change their sexual habits just because of your ideals, is cruel and unfair. Their's no diplomacy, just a one-way forced request. | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 2:13:50 PM |
There are a lot of Muslims and Christians in the world who would argue that with you. lol In fact, the bulk of the world's population belongs to one of these religious groups and both promote 'no sex' before marriage.
I understand part of what you are saying, Bikeman, in the sense that there are no guarantees in life so why wait! Many agree with you. I do. But I think saying that there is no 'honour' in waiting is inappropriate.
No offense to Muslims or Catholics, but you see all sorts of instances where Muslim men can have as many women as they want, feel that's ok, but then want to marry a virgin. I'll never understand the contradictions there with that culture. Catholics go to confession, rid themselves of sins, and then repeat them. Interweaving virginity into a religious context is illogical. IMO, God created us to enjoy our bodies, and to interact with the opposite sex.
I'm saying let's all go out there and get randomly laid. What I'm saying is that sex is a wonderful gift that a man should be sharing with a woman when they want to solidify a special bond between themselves. That's the way I look at it. Waiting for to have sex until "marriage" is crazy. Divorce laws are often unfair. If I value my sexual experiences, I want to have them with a life partner (and often) who isn't going to screw me for every cent I've got. The POFer who noted the couple that waited until they got married, then the woman found out about her husband's ED, another example of the stupidity of waiting until marriage.
Outside of a divorce context, it's foolish to wait. Who's to say marriage is the be-all end-all of relationship commitments? When two people feel the urge to merge, and they do it in a way where each person thinks more of the other than themself, WHY WAIT FOR MARRIAGE? Marriages are usually carefully planned well into the future. You could get hit by a truck, WHY WAIT??? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 3:02:01 PM | ..what NO SEX UNTIL WE ARE MARRIEd!!..ARE YOU FUCCING KIDDING ME!!!..maybe if I attended a a small pentecostal church with her every Sunday and we had bile class on Wednesday, and I was under 20 yrs.old maybe then I could wait 3 weeks until were married.....I wonder how long the Colonial Puritans waited? welcome to 2006,be safe,make sure Mom and Dad or little sis isn't around and for god sake's GET IT ON!!...geez I need a woman bad..help!  | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 3:21:16 PM | No. I would not wait until I was married. Sex is a big part of a relationship. Just like other aspects of a relationship, I would need to know how we matched up. Can we relate to each other, share empathy, etc. And how would I know it was the right woman for me if we had never been intimate?
Wouldn't it just suck to marry someone, and a year or so later realize that you are just not physically compatable? And won't ever be? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 3:34:41 PM | Hell no! Thats bull shit! What if your like me horney as hell, and she wants it like once every two weeks! It will never work out! Thats why I broke up with my X, she was hot, but the was not much play! Also you have to make shure it fits before you get married, but every girl is not tight! | |
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:02:38 PM | As a sexual creature, passion is of utmost importance to me. As a human being, I desire companionship. What I am looking for on this site is romantic love from a long term spouse.
I am disillusioned by some of the men posting on this thread that seem to be saying that sexual skill is more important then love. It sounds like you're really not looking for companionship so much as a willing receptacle for your sexual energy. Is this really what is going on? (I realize some women are saying this, as well. So, please chime in.)
If so, what happens when you are no longer as vital? What happens when the hormones start to ebb and sex doesn't hold the same power over you? What will hold your relationship together then? What happens when your body starts to age and become infirm? Don't you want a companion who will stick by you, whether you are able to perform sexually or not?
Like I said, I love sex and lots of it, but I also love the idea of a man that goes beyond his genitalia. I'm not looking for a penis attached to a man. I'm looking for a man who will be my lover...and if he wants to wait for a period before getting sexual, I am OK with that. I have some self-control. I can wait. lol I can ask him questions about his sexuality to determine compatibility. I can take him at his word that he knows his own libido. If I can't do that...lack of sex isn't the problem, it's trust.
I would wait for love. For me, it's worth it. For those of you who won't wait, why isn't it worth it for you? | |
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| GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:17:29 PM | I honestly can't believe all the superficial answers!
Worrying about the sex "sucking" if you don't "test it out" before marriage!
My gosh.
Let's just hope you all don't get married!!!
Like anything else in a marriage, a healthy sex life takes work!
Let's just say you "test drive" and everything is "great", then you get married and she has babies. Suddenly, she's not as interested in sex any more!
OR
Just like a man on a talk show I watched once, he watched his wife give birth to their child and he was so repulsed that he couldn't make love to her anymore.
Finally, no matter what the sex is like in the beginning of the relationship, after you've made love a million times to the same person, it's bound to get a little "dull". That is why the "quality" of the act must not be the focus, the **goal** of the act needs to be.
The goal is to unify two souls into one and beget children. When you are deeply in love and connected with a person, just being with them in such an intimate way should be enough. There is no "bad" sex.
Scraps
P.S. Studies have shown that people who wait until their married have healthier and more exciting sex lives. They stayed married longer too!
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