| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/2/2007 8:50:12 AM | | Hey its your massage make it whatever you want to make it. I have had many both by women and men. None of the women turned me on (just not attracted to women). But I personally cant imagine not being turned on by some hot man having his hands all over me. Does not mean I would act on it. But oh those fantasies. | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/3/2007 11:47:38 PM | I agree with many of the posters :
Massage is always sensual, not always sexual, many people have a tough time separating the two.
Massage can be WORK for the poor therapist, especially if the masseusse (sp?) is petite or the client is very tight.
I suffer from constantly tight muscles, unless I can use them enough to get relaxation, maybe at the end of a physically working day....
.... also, I have taken a couple of "real" stress tests and both times the testers, only half joking, said "you should be dead your stress levels are so high... " which leads to tight muscles and around the cycle goes again. One massuesse I had used to sit me backwards in a chair, draped over the back, and use her elbows to dig in and apply adequate force to stretch and move muscles.... and no it did not hurt, it was incredible, she was careful to warm up the muscle first.  | |
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Karen5
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/5/2007 6:55:04 AM |
Man old thread here..but anyways.....
What if your partner went and got a professional massage (brides gift to the bridesmaids..) and for some reason it bothered you because you found out it was done by a member of the opposite sex. BUT it wouldn't have bothered you had the massage been done by a member of the same sex.
Or am I just messed up?
I see massages being of a personal nature, and one that should be shared by your partner. hence the question above.. I'm troubled.
Swampfox, thanks for resurrecting this thread. I'm a massage therapist and love to talk professional bodywork with people.
If it troubles you that your partner was massaged by someone of the opposite sex, then you should definitely discuss it with her and come to some kind of agreement about future massages if there are any. Some people prefer one gender over the other to massage them. To others, it doesn't matter which gender the massage therapist is. I personally feel that it is ultimately up to the person being touched - but if it's an issue with a significant other, it needs to be discussed.
Usually it doesn't matter to me which gender massages me - but once in awhile, I do prefer one over another. Sometimes I'm feeling more vulnerable (I usually get a woman in that case) and other times I, quite frankly, want to be touched by a man (when I'm not getting enough touch in my personal life from males). Also, because I'm in the business, I tend to get bodywork done from people I know - so I'm already familiar with their work. So, whether I want a good deep tissue massage or mostly energy work or a light nurturing touch, I can approach the person who has talent in that specific area.
If a significant other asked me to only be massaged by women, well, it would be a long discussion. Because sometimes I need that testosterone in my massage. I know that if I massage only women, I literally feel unbalanced. I worked in one place where women weren't allowed to massage men. It was very draining. Also, I missed out on some good tips because men tend to tip better.
I like to mix it up with both genders. | |
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Karen5
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/5/2007 7:04:48 AM |
actually, I've been considering taking a massage course to complement the beauty therapy business I'm trying to start up....not sure though....apart from anything else, the course I've just completed was nail technology and I've now got 6-inch talons - not sure how the two would go together - any thoughts?
Cate, I've known a couple of massage therapists that were able to work with fairly large nails - nothing 6 inches though. That would be tough to work with. I like having nice long fingernails but I've had to sacrifice that. People who work in the massage and/or facial industry need to have fingers with short nails, for the most part. I think it's probably easier for people who do hair and nails to have short nails too, but I could be wrong.
I majored in classical guitar in college and had to have nails on my right hand for that (the nails were sort of like natural picks). I had a classmate whose major was guitar but she was also taking piano and the teacher wanted her to cut her nails in order to play the piano properly. Basically, she changed piano teachers because another one told her it didn't matter too much - especially since the piano was not her major instrument.
There's all types of bodywork - if you were doing Thai massage, you might be able to get away with long nails. If you want to work on flesh with oil though, I can't see how you can do it with long nails. Maybe call some massage schools and ask them to advise you. | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/5/2007 7:23:00 AM | | Never had a professional massage myself, but I've intentionally avoided them too. A massage always turns me on so figured it'd be a bit awkward getting a professional massage cause I would leave much the same way you did. And the fact that I'd probably end up flirting my booty off with the masseuse. | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/5/2007 5:45:20 PM | The moral of this story ... All women keep a pocket dildo with you when you get a professional massage  | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/5/2007 9:23:38 PM | I used to go twice a week @ my college because it was only $20 an hour, and I found some of the students massage was actually better than any spa I've been to.
There was one guy that was awesome, I'd request him all the time, but I he was that good so booking him became difficult.
On a side note about being turned on, there was one girl that gave a different massage of the legs and fingers, kind of a back and forth jerking motion, that coupled with her using my body as her center of gravity admittedly it was a tad arousing. | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/5/2007 11:25:11 PM |
I read an article that said people in society are 'touch deprived'.
Makes sense, no pun intended. We all know how nice it is to have someone
cuddle or hug with.
Sometimes people are just shy about going for a massage.
Once you go once, you wonder why you weren't going before.
Excellent post ! Very good point made about people being "touch deprived".
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:32:15 AM | Touch deprived... also called skin hunger. I so know what the feeling is. Being the cuddly type, I can literally go into a deep depression if I'm deprived of touch for too long. It doesn't have to be sexual... just connected with another human being. It was the biggest reason I left my last mate. He literally ignored me for two years, and it took that long to realize just how horribly depressed I was... I don't go into these black depressions of wanting to die and thinking of suicide. I just shut down, and stop feeling anything. It's like I'm dead, and it frequently takes someone on the outside (a friend or acquaintance) to shake me up and make me open my eyes to what's going on.
So yeah... two years of not being touched by my mate? Sheer HELL. | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/6/2007 4:27:38 AM | Real massage therapist study for a very long time to get where they are
it is never sexual | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/6/2007 6:24:47 AM | jannick, very true... and bless every one of you for taking on the vocation!
One of the best things a person can do for themselves when they're feeling isolated, is to invest in a massage. Not only does it feel wonderful, but if done well, it can help you reconnect with yourself. | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/6/2007 5:24:59 PM | lol... it depends a lot on the type of massage, from shiatsu, swedish to sexual... afterall a mere touch can arouse some individuals... touch meh touch meh!    | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/6/2007 7:12:57 PM | You know, one day when I meet Timothy Leary in person...I am going to kick him in the balls for the one time I did acid a long long time ago and the synapse that I said goodbye to came back online to remind me of something....
Soylent green is people...sorry...wrong Synapse...Synapse...Atari 800...sorry again wrong Synapse, that was the software company...Atari 800...Nolan Bushnell...never mind...
The one little squiggly I was thinking about was this...in Romania, in the fall of communism...think...chauchescu...sorry if the spelling is wrong...however...once the orphans that were in all those ugly baby farms were liberated and it was made even more obvious...
People need touch to survive as well. Children who are touch-deprived don’t grow emotionally, physically and cognitively. There was a television show on Romanian orphans who are stick thin and unable to walk until aided by massage therapy and proper nutrition. A child’s first emotional bonds are built from physical contact, laying the foundation for further emotional and intellectual development.
It is not only a child's first touch...think about it. What is the first thing they should try and do and most times, regardless of cultures try and do? A child is born, it isn't a pleasant experience...and even with the "sterile environment" they try to do...the first thing they do is bonding. Done right, the cord is still intact and the child in placed with the mother.
Why?
Touch....everything is okay...there is at least one person (most times) that loves you.
Speed forward 70 years or so....and I am scared. I am an old person...again....what do I get?
Everyone really needs to think about it....
Most of us really? Never get the touch we need...we would have to open ourselves to be vulnerable and there are only two times in our lives when we have no control over it...birth and death.
Everything in between is a hunger....
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/6/2007 7:36:48 PM | I've had professional massages in the past...I didn't get turned on by them, but they weren't given by some smokin hottie either, lol! They were very relaxing.
Wonderful post onesimpleneed  | |
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| I got massaged today : Reply to Onesimpleneed
Posted: 8/7/2007 1:42:19 AM | A massage is never meant to be sensual or sexual if that is what you feel it is all one sided
A massage therapist is looking at you from a clinical point of view | |
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| I got massaged today : Reply to Onesimpleneed
Posted: 8/7/2007 6:17:15 PM | No...my synapses are doing something I swore I would never do again....seriously thinking about painting....and it won't be happy little trees!
Artists don't suffer....humans suffer...artists make the suffering appear when most would just rather try and keep it hidden.
Nobody touches me...given a gift certificate for a massage, I'd throw it in a drawer...if I don't trust you, you ain't touching me...I jump back like a feral cat.
That's what bioligically is supposed to happen...based on acceptance of touch.. | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/10/2007 5:39:42 PM | | I saw on the news that several oriental massage parlors got busted in for prostitution in Macon, GA. I guess no matter what profession -- how far will one go to make a $ | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 8/11/2007 2:09:17 AM | they were not massage therapist they were prostitutes totally different profession nothing what so ever to do with ours
a massage parlour
and a massage clinic
are like a doctors and a vet you wouldnt take your mum to the vets would you | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 10/15/2008 6:24:58 PM |
If you felt that he was "into it" he probably was..shame on him
She was talking about a school. A student giving a massage hasnt learned proper form yet, he's likely overworking his own muscles and burning his energy too fast and causing toxins in himself. Ergo his body kicks up the breathing from exertion.
He might have been 'into it' because he was really concentrating on what he was doing, especially if his stance was off and he wasnt using advanced tehcniques to limit his own effort expense.
Much like a man might get turned on by hearing a woman oaning over chocolate, so to might she have been arroused by his heavy breathing. He was relaxing her body, putting her into a state just shy of sleep and her mind heard the breathing and walla. Simple anatomy.
you can tell if a massage therapist is getting 'weird' he might rub you in a place that you are not comfortable with. If this ahppens, then stop the massage. If this doesnt happen, he's likely a student trying to concentrate and get a good 'grade' on his forms she fills out after the massage. | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:58:08 PM | Kow-Teng said:
but a stranger touching me is icky
THANK YOU!!! I agree 150%!! I have a friend who is always trying to convince me to go to these places with her. I keep telling her, even my Dr hasn't touched me that much- a perfect stranger?!?! EEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWW!!
I kind of feel like this:
I need to really like and trust the person who is giving me a massage. I am very sensitive to other people's vibrations, and I need to know that when they touch me their energy is clean, and they are not pulling on my resources. Acupuncture, acupressure, cranio-sacral...I've had it all. Along with the wonderful sensual warm rub-downs/foreplay of lovers and husbands. I just feel like a stranger does not need to be rubbing me, and there has to be a mutual respect bond there first...that's just the way I roll
I would not be jealous if my lover wanted to go and get a professional massage or a pedicure though...I just do not allow strangers to touch me. I give myself a better pedicure anyway. It is my body, my vibes, my choice. It's all good for others to do what is best for them | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 11/23/2008 1:04:18 AM | Was a licensed massage therapist for 12 years, massage school instructor, AMTA and Nationally Certified. I like the slogan
Prostitutes provide sex without love
Massage therapists provide love without sex | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 11/23/2008 2:33:14 AM | Maybe you just misinterpreted the close physical contact with something more than it was?
Massage is definitely not sexual in any ways, did you go to the right clinic - it wasnt one of those funny places with blacked out windows was it.  | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 11/24/2008 6:22:37 PM | I've been a massage therapist since 1993. like they taught us in school, men respond to stimuli faster than women do, so they do tend to get erections during the massage. some guys even get to the point of no return, so the therapist has to be very aware of what's going on. no zoning out involved!
a lot of women will respond by getting "wet" when massaged, especially by a man. if that makes anyone uncomfortable, find a woman massage therapist.
lots of people feel the "ick" factor about being touched by a total stranger. this can be for many reasons, from coming from a family that didn't touch often, to personal preferences to incest and abuse issues. I don't talk anyone into getting a massage who isn't comfortable with the idea, and I believe the majority of us in the profession don't. we respect where people are coming from.
I was delighted to see so many responses from my colleagues! remember, bend those knees, keep the back and wrists straight! | |
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| I got massaged today
Posted: 11/24/2008 6:49:13 PM | | we are all born with a biological need for contact and closeness with others, we need to touch and be touched, when we're young, we do it with our hands, as we grow older, we learn to do it with our words, as well as our hands, so massage is fullfilling a biological need, it might not be sexaul, but some things are more important than sex. | |
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