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Posted: 4/29/2007 1:36:01 AM | I guess I should make myself a little clearer. When I invite a woman out, we spend anywhere from 6 to 10 hours together. We will start out by going shopping at the mall. Then lunch and maybe a drink. Followed by something like playing pool. Then it’s back to my place for a movie and popcorn. By this time, I know everything I need to know to decide if I want her in my life. In fact, most of the time when we get back to my place she's practically raping me!
If you think about it, I’ll bet most people spend about the same amount of time together before sex as I do. It’s just that most people do it over three or more dates. Half an hour on the phone, an hour on the first date, having coffee, another hour on the phone a few days later etc. | |
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| question on sex and first date?
Posted: 4/30/2007 5:58:13 AM | | Any guy that would have sex with a girl on the first date and then put her or someone else down for doing the same is a HYPOCRITE to say the least .And that is being way to kind.If a guy thinks because he has slept around that he is a stud and if a girl sleeps around she is a slut .He is delusional and the worst excuse for a person that this world has to offer.We all have to follow our feelings on when is the right time to enter a sexual relationship any decision can be right or wrong just as anyone we chose to become intimate with can be the right one or the wrong one but we live with the consequences of our decisions and move on.But anyone that would let how soon a woman decides she is ready to give you that gift determine the way you feel for her isn't mature enough to enter into a relationship in the first place. So girls if a guy faults you for sleeping with him to soon you are better off without him anyway | |
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| question on sex and first date?
Posted: 4/30/2007 7:39:59 AM | | Are we talking about good sex or bad sex on the first date? That could make all the difference. | |
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| question on sex and first date?
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:11:11 AM | Hi Lindsey,
In my experience it can definitely lead to a lasting and loving relationship! I had sex with a woman on our first date (we were togehter on the date for 6 plus hours before the sex and the date lasted for 3 days ) and we are getting married June 16, 2007. We are all adults and if you look inside people for who they are and like it, then what difference does it really make WHEN you have sex the first time??!! I would just suggest that you DON'T do anything that does not feel comfortable to you!!!!
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| question on sex and first date?
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:34:18 AM | | Sex on a first date seems a little soon, I know that you should have sex with the person so you can know if your sexually compatible before committing to one another and if your not then to break off the relationship to avoid building a connection later that will make things worse down the road. Sex is appropriate before commitment, but after at least the 3rd date. This is just a rule of thumb though. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 9:13:54 AM | | I just talked about this with someone I am seeing sometimes. I think it is well known that if you have sex with someone on the first date, the chances of the relationship developing are rare. What most people don't think about is that if you DON'T have sex on the first date, the chances are just as rare. I don't think it is the sex. I think if you have sex on first dates, you just get to have more sex. It doesn't reduce your chances of finding love. I have seen people find love when they were looking for sex. All that said, I think for some people, sex kind of turns up the intensity of the relationship early on. This could be a good thing or bad. | |
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| question on sex and first date?
Posted: 4/30/2007 11:13:57 AM | Nice interesting post:
Who don’t like talking sex; I would not date a girl/female that set a predetermined date on when we could have sex. Im one of them guys that just likes to go with the flow.
I have dated a few girls and we could not last the first date without sex, so we had sex not really a problem as I see it, sometimes It just the right thing, I dated one girl and we did not have sex for 6 months not really a problem that I could not take into my own hands and deal with (lol),
What I would say is “what if?”
What if after sex you don’t like him?
What if after sex you find out he’s an axe murderer?
What if the next day his her girlfriend calls you?
What if you see his/her brother/sister for the first time and its love at first sight?
What if his/her last partners was paid for?
What if the next morning he/she was filling in the sex disease crossword and got all the answers correct?
And sometimes the questions are easier just things like does he/she want kids?
We will spend most of our life’s looking for the perfect partner (except them few that find them fast the dirty bas*erds) so why rush if you are meant to find them take your time so you can answer your what if’s
That is just a few in this day and age we have lost a lot of our parents values personally I think this is one we should stick 2 | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 3:38:04 PM | | Well my experience says no-- just leads to heart-break... not one of them ever worked out... well except one-- I waited till the second date-- LMAO | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 3:45:23 PM | sorry, but you cant set rules in general like that
mite be two people who look for sex mite be two who look for love
then its all good
but if one looking for sex & other love thats when trouble strat,
he said she said,  | |
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| question on sex and first date?
Posted: 4/30/2007 6:49:52 PM | All my long term relationships had sex on the first date. I assume that we are all out of high school and no longer virgins. Here is the problem women face . If you play hard to get and finally have sex with me after making me 'work for it', it will eventually come out that you have had at least one first night stand. And if the guy has a normal sex drive and has normal emotions and not just posting what the women on this forum want to hear, the guy that was made to work for it or let's wait until we are sure this is what we what line is uttered by the woman, the guy that has been made to wait might have a low opinion of the woman and think she is a tease or if she had sex on the first date with another guy, why didn't she with me?
This 'let's wait until we are friends' is just a line.
If there is attraction-go for it. Forget about some stupid rule you read in some magazine or what your friends say .
I have more respect for a woman who acknowledges that she loves sex and does not use it to barter with or control someone with than I do with this 'reformed virgin act'.
And I hope that people don't believe in TV or movie love where the actors drag out their feelings for years like in the X files. Sculley and Muller should have done the nasty years earlier .
And if you become too good of friends, you may not want to ruin it by having sex because once going in that area, you can't go back. I know from experience. One person can't say we had sex because we were drunk or whatever but let's forget what happened. I doubt if the guy will feel that way. And he will probably be pissed and insulted. If you have sex with me and we had a good time, there is no reason to stop. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 6:53:03 PM | I find it funny when a guy complains that he was taken advantage of by a woman. But I I believe in the Easter Bunny too so I guess a guy that should be a lot stronger than the woman is beaten into submission and forced to have sex against his will. I hope they throw the book at the woman and I hope the man has a good shoulder to cry on.
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Posted: 4/30/2007 6:58:30 PM | To Lone Star Scoundrel,
Maybe I missed something between the post where the woman is raping you after inviting her back for a movie and popcorn and then reading your profile, maybe I missed something. But after reading your profile, I guess you make one hell of a batch of popcorn.
But being 100% man I guess you were forced by a 200% woman to have sex.
This site is material for a reality TV show (and a bad one at that) | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 7:05:40 PM | | ehh..history says no...if he is upset and doesn't respect that you would prefer to wait and get to know each other better, then he's not worth it! | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 1:43:12 PM | | I think it could be made into a relationship only if you are both upfront about what you want before the sex happens! | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 6:46:31 PM | | Civic2004, I like what you’re saying. I don’t wait for sex because I have options. If one woman says no, I just call another one. I think you’re spot on about guys saying a bunch of BS that they THINK women want to hear. You can’t blame them, it’s what women say they want. But, I know that women love sex. I know that what women say they want and what they react to are different things. I also know that if a man doesn’t act soon enough he’ll lose his opportunity. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 7:02:11 PM | Got me. I've never had a first date that didn't start and end in a public place.
I figure that the maitre'd would kick us out if we started humping each other. 
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Posted: 5/1/2007 11:26:05 PM | | When I was 44, I started dating a woman of 23.. Yes, we ended up in bed on the first date.. It was great.. We continued dating for 7 years.. We finally got married in '91, and we're still together, and the sex is still great.. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 9:39:10 AM | | Tuggirl; anytime you email answer or say hi to someone there is a chance they will read more into it and someone will get hurt, I dont think that anyone can give a definitive answer on this one whats right for you might not be right for me and vice versa , and whats right with you might not be right with me and vice versa follow your mind and your heart and your needs and if what you do is the wrong thing someone gets hurt and it does hurt but as we have all learned Life goes on | |
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| question on sex and first date?
Posted: 5/2/2007 2:14:33 PM | Thats a really great question. Im not normally one to put out on the first date either...but there are times when everything feels right and you just want it right then and there.
Honestly I think it boils down to the two individuals. There are some guys that have major issues when girls put out too fast cuz they think "gee, does she do this on every date? But then there are just guys who are so into you, that they are willing to look past your momment of weakness...some are even turned on by it.
Whatever was meant to happen with that relationship...will happen | |
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| question on sex and first date?
Posted: 5/2/2007 3:15:25 PM | I place a high value on sex whether it is the first date or the ninth. If I give it out, it means it's exclusive.
Most men don't like that. 'Cake and eat it too?' philosophy.
I think it CHANGES things in a relationship. If others don't feel that way, then they are just out to get laid.
I would really feel uncomfortable if the man I was having sex with was out every night grabbing the next ring on the merry-go-round.
Even though us women TRY to talk these feelings out, most men will say anything...to get laid.
I'll stick with the vibrator. It never feels like it wants to 'move on' or is afraid of a 'commitment'. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:23:34 PM | Hell yeah!!! why wait for it, Good sex is always an important part of any relationship, especially in the beginning when you're still getting to know each other..... so linds19, want to go out sometime?? | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:38:37 PM | I feel that if you have sex on the first date, men no longer have respect for you.. they may call again, but I think they would be expecting more sex.. then you never truly get to know them, and the fire eventually would just fizzle out..
I'm sure there may be exceptions to this rule.. but overall, for yourself, it would just make you feel more confident knowing that the man you were dating took the time and got to know you.. Respecting you and your values.. Then a very solid relationship can grow!
best wishes! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 9:06:40 PM | The biggest problem with sex on the first date is that women change once they sleep with a man.
Whether it's on the first date or the thirtieth, after they've had sex with a man most women will suddenly either assume a committment that may or may not be reciprocated and they want reassurance that the man is still into them and they push for more time and attention than prior. None of this is good from the man's point of view and when the guy is still a stranger, like after sex on the first date, the whole thing goes to pieces.
Better to make no big thing of the sex, just proceed as before, so the guy thinks you're not as impressed as he would like and he's still motivated to keep trying to win you over outside of the bedroom. | |
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