| It's not just emails that are rude
Posted: 2/24/2008 8:54:34 PM |
I was reading some of the earlier posts in this thread and noticed there were a LOT of users who posted here and then deleted their profiles.
If you pay attention (i.e. look at the posting dates), you'll find this thread to be a wee bit on the aged side. That's the reason so many of the profiles are gone. | |
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| It's not just emails that are rude
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:26:59 AM | pattypickle......please don't worry your pretty self on that nut.....the next person that might be someone 'he turns' on, might learn a hard lesson of life.....lets hope so.
I have found that without body language, voice inflections....etc., some of our message is easily lost in the 'typed' message, i.e., email.
So I try to be a little more thorough; seems to help with the understanding of why I write what I am writing, especially if saying something to the effect of, "...this is just not going to work between us....but chatting has been fun....and I do wish you the best....". But then again, thankfully, I am not dealing with a bunch of men....
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:32:18 AM | | The first victim of the internet is manners. Some people feel they can say things that they'd never dare to say in person. I've tripped over a couple rude ladies but I suspect there are alot more rude guys on here than women. Some guy sitting in his basement in a dirty bathrobe and beating off to profile pic's, lol. There are all kinds on here. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:39:55 AM | | I actually had this experience today.I was talking to this guy for a couple of days and he asked if He could get to know me.I said I was not sure I wanted to date someone with children.I don't have children of my own and I'm not sure I want to have any children.He then stated he knew why I had no pic on pof.It was because I wAS UGLY AND FAT!!I am neither.I then e-mailed him saying that his verbal abuse was not acceptable.I then Blocked him.. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:53:46 AM | Rudeness takes all kinds of forms. The worst ones I've ever received were just one liners. It didn't matter the content, all they had to say to me at best was a couple of syllables.
Another form of rudeness was a woman who unloaded all her problems which took up many emails. I finally cut her off.
Another one had a couple of guys in her picture. I think that was really rude. Sometimes they managed to get their whole clan in them. I don't know whether this if rude or not, but I'm begining to dislike women who have dozens of pictures up showing themselves in every conceivable pose imaginable and often times in various states of undress.
I don't know if this internet dating is really worth the time and energy. Now I carefully read her profile and try to limit the emails to the point I feel there may be a connection. I then meet them. Usually it's a bust due to things like "average" turning out to be big and fat or something else.
I can remember one situation that really POed me. I met this woman who already had a BF but she wanted to check me out to see if I was a better deal.
So it goes.
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:51:01 PM | | I am so glad someone started this thread. Last week I had a guy ask me if my dog goes with me on dates because I posted a picture of her on my profile. I went to check his profile which had no pictures and was extremely negative about everything. No wonder why his e-mail was rude. He is just an unhappy dude! I was polite in my response. I told him that was a stupid question and coming from someone without a picture he should not talk. I also said after reading his profile he was someone I definately was not interested in and good luck in finding someone to tolerate him. Then I blocked him because I did not want to hear from him again. People who have low self-esteem write rude e-mails to people. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 4:07:02 PM | I've had a few and just one today...always when they are rejected
This chicken of a guy went all out and made a fake account just to send a derogatory
email which included insulting my European background...my physical features...etc
It's funny because why contact me if that's how they really feel ?
Obviously he became so bitter he had to stooped to this childish level...trying
to find a way to hurt me...well buddy...nice try...
No amount of rude emails will spoil my POF experience...quite entertaining
really...just to realise how many people out there that really need to get a new hobby
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/26/2008 5:57:05 PM | | Ive recieved a few rudes ones and mainly cos i have read their emails and havent responded for what ever reason. Happened just a couple of days ago with a guy who emailed me just to tell me i was beautiful so i ignored it cos there was nothin to respond to within the message. I then come back on to be told wat a cow i was , i was ugly and just basically bawled me out bein really nasty to me. I just thought how sad are u? lol Shame goin off on someone you dont know and acting like that im sure hes used to rejection and thank god i never liked and met someone so spiteful. I wouldnt remove myself cos of nutters who are unfit to date and they make me smile. I block em and dont let it bother me all you can do is block and report em and im not here alot anyway. People who i dont knows words dont upset me its silly lol x | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:18:11 PM | | I've got a few rude ones, and probably should have blocked the sender, but I figure I'm not on here expecting that I will only get "sweet" emails. I just ignore the ones I find offensive. They get the hint. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:15:40 PM | Guinness
I just have to comment: Your dog is definitely smarter than the moron who had no pic and asked if your dog comes with you on dates!!
Off topic but still on the subject of smart dogs: I saw a bumper sticker that said, "My dog is smarter than the president"
WOOF!!
PS someone said that the thread is aged: Let's take it to the nursing home!!! | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/27/2008 7:21:57 AM | | I haven't really had any rude emails. If I did, I'd probably respond by copying some of the Corporations Act (which runs to some 2-3000 pages) and ask for a case commentary. That should put someone with a hot temper off pretty quickly. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:42:30 AM | I would say 85% of the emails are not worth responding to. That doesnt mean they are rude just that they dont interest me. I cant drive to the store without encountering a "rude" person so why would I expect it to be any different here. What you consider rude someone else may just have been trying to break the ice. Some people are way to sensitive or worried about being politically correct all the time. Defensive, offended and blocked give more people a power trip that the dont and will never have outside in the real world.
As to your original question....When you had that horrible teacher did you drop out of school? When the banana turned brown and mushy did you never eat a banana again?
I know when my kid wet the bed I just gave up put her in diapers and she is doing great in high school crinkling down the hall wearing maxi pads 365 days a year!!!
Now go crawl under a rock with a bowl of ice cream and have a good cry
I do need to add compassionate to my profile right away!! | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/27/2008 3:55:07 PM | | I have received some pretty horrible emails, but it hasn't ruined POF for me, because there are so many wonderful charming men on this site. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/27/2008 4:14:04 PM | I don't get many rude emails at all but...recently I did get 2 messages that were rude. One guy accused me of being 'rude' to him because I hadn't replied soon enough for his liking. (I do try to reply to all messages but sometimes (most times) I recieve something like 20 or more messages a day and can not reply to all of them that day. I do try to return to them within a decent period ( a few days) at least. This guy told me I was just looking for attention or sympathy (that remark was made because I had kept my friends updated on my shoulder problem). I tried to email him back and apologize/explain but HE had me blocked by then. I felt bad that he had such a low opinion of me but....oh well, can't win them all! The other email I recieved was all about SEX!!! he was so vulgar..what a pig! But, no problem, just Blocked him and he is now history.
For the most part I find that the men on here are gentlemen and do enjoy corresponding with them all. Would I delete my profile because of a couple of bad messages? No way! Like I said, most of the men on here are just looking to find a friend, partner or a date just like us!
Your friend probably justs needs some time to cool-off and she'll probably come back because POF is full of wonderful people! | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/28/2008 9:18:52 PM | When I first registered here, and had not even had the chance to change my preferences as far as who could contact me, the first email I ever got through this site had the title: "Age is just a number" and the profile picture of the sender was of a man's chest down to just before.... and his profile said he was nearly 40.
Since age to me is a number, and a huge factor to consider when dating someone, I was not amused. And the message that followed was not much to be impressed with either.
The emails sent to me that start off, "Hey baby/sexy/hotstuff/etc" usually make me cringe, unless they are followed by something intelligent that keeps my attention after the one liner.
Does anyone else get annoyed when they are contacted by someone for the very first time, and all that person has to say is, "add me on msn/aim/yahoo?
Perhaps it is just me. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/28/2008 9:28:04 PM | Actually, yes. A guy emailed me recently, and we exchanged maybe one or two emails. I was trying to get off the internet to do my taxes (ugh), and I told him exactly that, but that I would be able to chat at a later time....to which he replied "Yeah, right! Sorry for wasting your time!" I replied back with ??????. His reply: "I'm sick of you women and your games! I'm outta here!"
I get this once in a while, and I have to admit, the negativity really does put a damper on an otherwise pleasant experience here. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/28/2008 9:38:59 PM | | Yes, I've gotten 'hate' email. But, only when I tell them no. A lot of men don't like to be told no. It makes them crazy and the anonymity of the Internet makes it okay to be stupid and cruel.. yeah, riiiight. And it does bother me, for about two minutes. I dont even try to understand it anymore. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:05:51 PM | | The typical experience is such that, when we enter a dating environment, we search out the one that catches our eye and move over that way to initiate a conversation. Nevertheless, some use the warm cloak of anonymity that is the internet to strike back against their rejection or prospective rejection. Others, women included - like the one a few posts earlier - use their posts, emails and profiles to vent their cynicism and try "moves" they would never try to someone's face. After all, this is the last dating frontier and it is much better meeting people in social situations than behind this firewall. If you google the site, you can discover some hilarious disaster stories as well as why it is dubbed plenty of flesh. I'm still confused as to whether this applies to the fact there are plenty of "freebies" or because a good number of understate their weight because I've run into both. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/29/2008 12:05:55 AM | To snickers06:
Oh, do I have a bundle to report. lol But it will spoil my bed time.
Funny, I had one guy whose pic appeared each time I clicked Viewed Me. Then a chat window was opened with nobody responding. So, I said Yes? He blocked me! Suddenly I realized he was the same one who did it to me a month before when I was new here.
One guy who was among my fav when I was new here asked to meet me. It was so short notice, besides I have not really known him so I declined. Lo and behold he removed his ID from my fav list and mine from his. Before that, I tried to IM him and he refused. He told me I could not even take the time to see him when he was in Toronto, when he emailed me.
Valentine's Day I had two guys did that removing thing from the list like grade school kids and they did it rudely to make me notice. Funny thing is they were just recently put there right before Valentine's. It was a rather weird bahaviour. And to be told by someone you sort of like that you need to get laid ASAP because you are uptight just because you declined someone else who wanted to meet, was rather upsetting.
Married men who offer a discreet affair and are rejected are some of the culprit no matter how politely you reject their, "Do you do married men?" question. They abruptly close the chat without saying goodbye. It is not a great loss but if they had been sort of friends, it is rather disturbing.
But what really hurt is when someone doesn't want to talk to you anymore after seeing your pic. I have never been discriminated against in real life and when I came to POF, I finally had the experience. Took a while to get used to it. I just remember to take a grain of salt each time. May have too much sodium after a while in POF.
I am normally a positive person, so no POF experience can change that.  | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/29/2008 10:33:13 AM | Sorry to hear all that Enchanted ... but that behavior is not exclusive to men. Honestly, I have a good womann that I am with and I am on here looking to forum, chat and talk . Most women I've encountered online are so pushy that they do the same things you mention ...how much do you make, are you loaded ... and have completely misrepresented themselves.
I stay off the favs and don't give them or take them. It's not a barometer for sincerety. If a person loaded up some good pics and a sultry profile, they'd have over a hundred favs quite quickly.
Kepp your head up kiddo. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 2/29/2008 12:05:42 PM | I get emails every day commenting on my chest. Most of them don't even say hello, they just write something like, "Hey, nice t*ts!". It went so far that I actually put something in my profile saying that I am FULLY aware that I have a large bosom, and that comments pointing that out are completely unnecessary.
One guy even went as far as to send me a message saying that I must be begging for attention by having my breasts in the picture. I replied calmly and maturely and let him know that when you have to specially order bras just to fit, its hard to take a close up head shot without them ending up in the picture!!! | |
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