| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/8/2008 8:06:30 PM | Well I have never got any rude emails yet, but even if i ever do, ill never leave POF! Im here for good!  I havent met the girl of my dreams yet, but i have got a few friends that i have met on here. They are true friends. I just hope she finds me soon... | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/8/2008 8:18:32 PM | I've gotten some rude emails for sure. Probably the rudest was from a guy who, just recently began messaging me again. And we talked about the argument. It was nice that he contacted me again. He got pissed off about me just saying one sentence that was...."I probably wouldn't date you because you sleep with too many women". He freaked out. The thing is that he is really funny. But not my type. However, his rude email didn't deter me from coming here and continuing. And he is still doing what he was doing before.
The messages I get that annoy me are 1. immature desperate guys asking sexual questions right away, wanting to meet me immediately or the day after I read the email. And asking to see me on my webcam. 2. Men who email me to scold me about what I write or my profile.  | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/10/2008 6:50:59 PM |
The messages I get that annoy me are 1. immature desperate guys asking sexual questions right away, wanting to meet me immediately or the day after I read the email. And asking to see me on my webcam. 2. Men who email me to scold me about what I write or my profile.
That is pretty much the same for me.
Perverts and guys who feel rejected and need to lash out at someone. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/10/2008 7:32:07 PM | | ME TOO! A pip-squeak sent me a note. Then sends another that says "I'm sorry I didn't know you were that old. I thought you were 54." I answered him " I told him I generally dont respond to people who don't have a picture but .. how rude!" Sent me another that said "My picture is posted" oldster." Too bad he blocked me. Cause I wanted to tell him "LOL! We'll see how hold you're going to feel after I get my hands on you. Is that you --- the little white square with the red x ?" He could have just kept moving and sent any other message. 48 years old acting like he's 14. LOL | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:24:02 PM | | i only joined less then 2 weeks ago, ive had one guy who has sent me a few suggestive mails that ive just ignored but after recieving 3 more very stupid rude mails today ive blocked him as being i dont reply he cant take the hint. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:33:18 PM | I've gotten my fair share of rude emails and have thought about deleting my profile especially after today.
The latest guy to be rude asked for my yahoo ID yesterday. I gave it to him. I find chatting on yahoo more convienent. I did want to get to know him a little better. But quickly found out I made a mistake. When he messaged me yesterday I told him that I couldn't talk right then, I was finishing up cooking supper and was going to eat and would be back in a bit. I got distracted cleaning my house after supper and doing a few other odds and ends and then went to bed. I know some would have considered me not getting back online to talk to the guy as rude. Maybe it was but it wasn't as if I intended to be rude. Today I get online and start checking email and he messages me. He asked me what was up with some guy telling him last night that I wasn't the one online. The "guy" was my 9 year old son who changed my Yahoo status to reflect that it was him online and not me (ie: status set to 'Do Not Disturb' with a note that it was my son). I sent a "lol, that must have been my son. I got distracted cleaning my house. Sorry." Then he sends "I was told you was watching TV. What's up with that?" Excuse me but when do I have to explain myself to anyone I've had next to no contact with? And yes, when I'm cleaning sometimes I take a break to watch a few minutes of TV. So what? I didn't know I had to explain myself to some stranger. Then he goes on and says "If you're playing games just tell me. I'm looking for a girlfriend, not games." First, I don't play games. Second, I don't jump into a relationship just because. Third, I won't be pressured into explaining myself to some stranger. How the hell is getting distracted and not getting back online playing someone? | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/12/2008 12:58:15 PM | I have a couple of recent ones. I do get a fair share of emails on here and most of the time I just read them and if I'm not interested I leave them to respond to later or sometimes just delete without reading (I know, I know some people consider that the height of rudeness but I just don't have the time to reply to every single message, sorry). One message I did reply to was from a black man. I am not racist and there are some really good looking black men out there but this guy was short (and I have a thing for tall men  ) and a smoker. When he got my "thanks, but no thanks" email he decides to respond with "it's cuz I'm black and you're a racist”. Obviously this man doesn't take rejection well.
Another message I replied to was one of those that sat in my inbox for a week or so. Once again I say "thanks but no thanks" and he replies "why would you bother replying now if you didn't right away???? I already forgot I sent you a message but now you replied and had to rub it in that you were not interested!!!!. Once again, a man who can't take rejection.
I'm just glad I'm behind a computer screen and not face to face with these types of men. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/12/2008 1:09:33 PM | I once had a guy who told me to ask for fashion advice from one of my friends on my profile. Coincidentally, this is a friend who asks me for fashion advice. I've had a few, but none lately. Mentioning the weird ones in my profile has helped to eliminate the riff-raff. I don't wish to deal with people who seek "cougars", "immediate gratification", "cyber sex", those who "want to do things to my feet", and are seeking a "domme". The warnings have been working like a charm. Of course, I'm no longer looking to date from here anymore either. 
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/12/2008 1:28:42 PM | I refuse to be upset/offended by people I've never met...
Why would the (usually childish) opinion of someone who messages you with disrespect matter enough for you to change your profile/internet experience?
Block and delete the sad buggers. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:36:20 PM | | I had one not too long ago who emailed me for the first time and asked me for a bl*w j*b. I was dumbfounded when I read it! Obviously 50 cards short of a full deck. Then he persisted and IMd me the same thing. So I just asked him if he knew who Lorena Bobbitt was and that we were related...the IM window closed very rapidly and I haven't heard from him since! lol. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 11:08:41 AM | | listen in the intimate section there are plenty of women and guys just asking for a good time and also why do women post they wan=t to be in intimate section but u write them a sexual letter they get offended saying they are looking 4 long term get serious do not post u arte interested in ansa affair if u want long term plus in this site are plenty of married looking for affairs so people and that marcus should not be offended or else just stop posting married people on this site looking for sex ; the site is pretty much open to about anyone looking for anything but people should watch were they put their add in | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 11:17:46 AM | | just like anything else u got the option of blocking that person and case is closed by writing them another letter u expose yourself to more ofending letter plus lets get to the pics well alot do post younger pics and when u ,meet hem u think they must have put in their highschool pics lol but this happens on all site s not much can be done and u should never give someone your msn or yahoo id tillu are very sure about that person there again stop the wining here its internet and people tend to lie or make up things u after all do have the option to delete or block that person take some of your own responsiblitty and stop blaming others or this site ; also if u post a very suggestive pic of yourself and some suggetstive coments about yourself what do u expect | |
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Posted: 11/28/2008 11:20:50 AM | "i would like to enter .... in and out... in and out"
^ That is a complete copy and paste. Nothing else contained in the message, no picture on the profile to boot.
How's that for unpleasant? 
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 11:48:48 AM | Nobody has EVER spoiled my POF experience.
I have learned that there are a lot of crazy people on & off line and it's up to me on how I choose to react. Will I allow them to intimidate me? NEVER!
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 11:56:31 AM | It was stated that she was a regular at posting in the forums...One has to have pretty "thick skin" to post in forums - especially if what they write goes against the grain...I, personally, value people who don't hesitate to express what they believe vs. what others believe ~ not hesitating to speak their truth, even though it might create conflict or tension....In other words, people with Integrity rank high in my book  ...However, people who don't share the same opinions can be very cruel...I don't think it was email that caused the problem, rather the publicv reactions she may have received in response to her posts...Just my 2 cents... | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 2:57:48 PM | I guess I've been lucky...I've been on dating sites for a couple of years, I think and, I can't remember more than about 3 emails that were less than polite....One was from a young kid (in his twenties) who remarked that at MY age my thinking wasn't right anymore....You KNOW that didn't affect me, because I was certain I had probably forgotten MORE than he KNEW, so far in his life. Someone told me I should get rid of the Red Hat......and, another one told me, after viewing my pix, that I should wear a girdle.....
Actually, that's not bad at all for all the posting I have done. Oh yes, I forgot about a couple of responses to what I thought were helpful emails to a couple of women....they were not appreciative of my efforts, they definitely responded in a NASTY way. I probably hit a sore spot that they thought they had hidden. So, now I don't give advice until asked.
To date, I have actually met some Very Nice Gentlemen, and the only negative was that the "chemistry" wasn't there for a long term relationship. Nothing has "spoiled" my POF experience, and I doubt that I'd allow anything to do so.
Just my thoughts,
KK
(And, I LOVE my Red Hat...it's easy for me to find my posts >) | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 3:28:34 PM | Interestingly, the rudest emails I get are from non Forum readers.
I get the men that are all p*ssed off because I'm not here to date, but have pictures up.
I guess they see a purdy face (is too, mom says so) and realize they can't have 'dat and attack.
Whatevs............. that kind of childish bullshit doesn't bother me nor does it take away from the fun that I have here.
Markus (aka "Biggie"....... he hates that... *snort) has given me and so many other posters a place to play other than "InyourFACEBOOK" and "thatotherSPACE". I'd much rather hang here with some of the kewliest peeps around and not let some wee man and his wee winkie get me all worked into a lather.
I'd rather let some of the awesome guys on the Forums work me into a frothy lather of bubbles...... or join me in a cyber pool of jello..... whatever works. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 4:06:01 PM | I had one just the other day it goes like this.
I was checking my email while at work shhhhhhhhhh and didn't respond to any of the emails that I had received just wanted a quick peek. I came home and was busy for the next two days and didn't respond. I get an email stating that " he thought I was more classy than that". I tried to respond to let him know the circumstances behind the read no response as I did with a few other emails that day. But the lovely gentleman blocked me. So next time maybe someone won't judge someone else if they don't respond right away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I had then gone through the non responded emails and apolgized profusely to the writer and low and behold he didn't block me or send me a nasty email. Sometimes STUFF happens and you can't respond right away get it! | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 11:02:33 PM | | i got one rude email on here. this person said she was a woman but had the name phillip in the screen name. i didnt know who this person was and "she" kept calling me racist names, why waste ur time on the computer? after that i blocked the idiot. i didnt do anything to offend this person and i get racist emails. ive get enough of those on yahoo chat! ive been on other sites where i have gotten so many rude emails i ended up deleting my accounts it got so bad. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2008 11:30:39 PM | It gets upsetting. I love profiles that reeeealy speak to Women ad tug at my m iddle aged- heart strings.
I did so last night, or early this morning, to a man who, like myself was Jewish. I am gettin especialy sick of JEWISH MEn( I think "we" have too high a pecentage of disordered mean men who have way way too high opionions of themselves.. And that is because they had doting Jewish mommies, yich! ) but ,,, reighing it in..
I wrote a long e mail replying to his challenges ( extra points if you know who wrote Poisoning the Pigeons in the Park) and I replied to many parts of his bio with humor and effort.
HIS REPLY WAS SIMPLY TO HAZE ME RE: MY TYPOS.
I asked him to check his intent. Wrote him off, blocked him
I have other MEAN e mails from men from this site.Due to them not agreeing wit something I wrote. Whatever.
You have to THANK THEM
You dodged a bullet.
You said
No I wont be engaged ibn this way""
One 63 year old man.. I told him not to wrtite tio me with sophormic termes of enderament
He contin ued with dum studff like DOLL FACE , Cutie, and I dont want to remnember.
Its NOT mean, itas just DUMB
But what if Id met him
Id have spent the day with a Tuchas!
You get these e mails and youo get upset. Then yo read some Leionard Cohen pems and take another shower and massage yourself with almond oil, breathe deep, and thank the unseen hands that guide us thaT THEY SHOWED THEIR TRUE COLORS RIGHT AWAY.
If a man respons in a qway that min imizes you , dint respond. I DID respond to thwe offender today.
I should not have wasted 2 seconds , I should have blocked him.
If you live within 75 mil;es of SAnt Cruz CAand want to know who to avoid, are a woman .. gemmagician at yahoo . Public Service =Tsedakah. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/28/2008 11:45:57 PM | If a man asks for your number 4 times, you give it to him, 3 times with area code, says hes gonna call, " tonight " and then again writes thru POF, thru pof 40 MIN after he said he was going out for night IMMEDIATELY AND COULD N 'T CALL AS PROMISED ( IT WAS A LIE, the I'm going out tonight and can't call part.) you realize he's playing. I mean I relized !! he was playing with me > OY! And he had s u c h a romantic profile and is so full of it.!
Me I never say "I am interested in getting to know you"" I'll call you tonight" the latter unless I will! and the former because till you've spoken on the phone and gotten that sense of a person.. you don't know, ya just don't KNOW.
NO YOU were not plying a game.
But I'd bet the dwindling rest of my IRA that 30 percent of the fish get their jollies doing EXACTYLY that | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 12:08:43 AM | Was he from Sf , short, red hair,wjhats left of it, mid 50's??and half Irish Half Jewish, Uncle Something or Other who wrote to me " i want to suck you pu**y""??
Well if not, you see, youre not alone.
Worse was an inperson meet woth someone , a 60 year old iontellighent humorous CPA from my toen, short , short, man...who gave me a hicky, forced it on me, before I could escape his car.
N Ow I always come and go ine the frist 3 dates in MY car!!!
HOw NICE it wd have bbe had this man been rude in e mail or on the phone,
I was so so so greoosed out Yick , from a sdreaking 60 year iold man who would not hear " NO", yich.
Then there arer doo dooheads who ask immediatley" CASn you send me moere pictures "" Deleted and dont reply.
I used to reply and say " why wd I watn to send you !more pics?:? There are enuf and you're no looker ANd if IFG you WERE a looker, the request wd still be oout of bounds and offensive "
See these men KNOW they are a mess, and love , t h ri ve on sensing our state of upset.
Dont 'give it to them!
Delete and block user."
Another reason I block a user is that If I have told a man I don want anymore e- mailing, just call,= he has my number and he calls -not, I block him.
He can CALL whenever, and if I am not in relationship at that time, who knows?
He "gets the message " by having been b l o c k e d that he has one and only one mode of contacting me.
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Posted: 11/29/2008 12:08:58 AM | Was he from Sf , short, red hair,wjhats left of it, mid 50's??and half Irish Half Jewish, Uncle Something or Other who wrote to me " i want to suck you pu**y""??
Well if not, you see, youre not alone.
Worse was an inperson meet woth someone , a 60 year old iontellighent humorous CPA from my toen, short , short, man...who gave me a hicky, forced it on me, before I could escape his car.
N Ow I always come and go ine the frist 3 dates in MY car!!!
HOw NICE it wd have bbe had this man been rude in e mail or on the phone,
I was so so so greoosed out Yick , from a sdreaking 60 year iold man who would not hear " NO", yich.
Then there arer doo dooheads who ask immediatley" CASn you send me moere pictures "" Deleted and dont reply.
I used to reply and say " why wd I watn to send you !more pics?:? There are enuf and you're no looker ANd if IFG you WERE a looker, the request wd still be oout of bounds and offensive "
See these men KNOW they are a mess, and love , t h ri ve on sensing our state of upset.
Dont 'give it to them!
Delete and block user."
Another reason I block a user is that If I have told a man I don want anymore e- mailing, just call,= he has my number and he calls -not, I block him.
He can CALL whenever, and if I am not in relationship at that time, who knows?
He "gets the message " by having been b l o c k e d that he has one and only one mode of contacting me.
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Posted: 11/29/2008 8:08:37 AM | I need to ask a question and get an opinion. My position as a man on a dating site is that I realise and am fully aware that I am NOT the right man for every woman I send a message to. I respect their wishes and explain that in the message. All I ask for is a simple YES or NO which will suffice. I don't want to conduct myself as if I were in some business arrangement and proceed with follow up e-mails (which I have done with very limited success) and I also explain that
a) I will respect your decision and not hound you any longer
b) I explain that I am fully aware that this is a dating site and that if the answer is negative, then I wont be offended or take it personally.
Is it too much to ask a woman to please reply with an answer?
I realise that women get bombarded with e-mails. That's just the nature of it. But I am never rude and conduct myself in a gentleman's manner. But it seems that that isn't good enough any more. Its just very frustrating. | |
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