| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/29/2008 8:20:03 AM | Is it too much to ask a woman to please reply with an answer?
Not really, but it is kind of like pi$$in in the wind.
Many women get such vile things sent back to them when they reply in the "no thanks" format.. that they are loathe to open a line to say yay or nay. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/29/2008 2:03:11 PM | Is it too much to ask a woman to please reply with an answer?
Yes, it is too much to ask. Why do you think a woman owes anybody an answer? For that matter why is it so important to get a turn-down email back?
Rule 1: Nobody owes you a reply
Rule 2: Complaining about rule 1 won't change anything
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Posted: 11/29/2008 4:52:12 PM | | Angry men who email me again when I don't respond back the first time with nasty names to call me...Idon't let it get to me that much...that is what the delete button is for...lol. I just don't understand why people have the need to be so rude on here...men who can't take rejection are immature...people send rude emails when the feeling is not mutual. What's worse is when I DO send a polite email back saying I don't think we are a match and someone sends a nasty email back because I "hurt" their feelings. Then again, if someone is a stranger...it is so easy for one to type away insults here because they know they can hide behind a computer screen! | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 5:31:43 PM | I have had so many rude emails that tonight I
almost lost a potential nice guy.
I thought when he asked me for more pictures he meant
nasty ones so me being me laid into him. Well I assumed wrong
and I feel terrible about it. Just wanted to share that.
Does it ruin the experience- well after a while like tonight if
something is taken in the wrong context it can ruin a potential
friendship- as far as ruining the experience well that is up to
you and if you let it get to you like that. | |
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| rude emails that spoil your POF experience
Posted: 11/29/2008 6:19:37 PM |
Idon't let it get to me that much...that is what the delete button is for...lol.
That's also what the Block button and the Report buttons are for. 
men who can't take rejection are immature...
It's not just the men. I politely responded to a woman noting an incompatability (one she could have seen for herself by reading my profile). She sent serveral nasty emails to me in response. After that I mostly stopped responding to people I had no interest it; the rejection drama just isn't worth it.
and someone sends a nasty email back because I "hurt" their feelings
Which is another reason not to respond. I don't like being rejected and I don't like rejecting people; so it's just plain easier to ignore than to reject.
Guys, if a woman doesn't respond, that's your answer. Move on. You aren't going to change her mind. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2008 9:23:55 AM | | I had a mesg from a guy saying he "just gotta out of the pen, n bc i look sexy, he needs to get laid asap"......i was like fu dude, block straight away....lol....but yea, alot of strange ones on here....lol | |
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Posted: 12/1/2008 1:36:09 PM | I also had a real creep he asked if I lived in a shelter what a piece of work. But even so I've met some really great people on pof as well. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2009 6:10:42 PM | Hi there ,"double edge".HAPPY NEW YEAR. I FOR ONE ( or many)ALWAYS WRITE SOMETHING INOFFENSIVE LIKE " HAVING THOROUGHLY READ YOUR PROFILE, I DON'T THINK WE ARE A MATCH. BUT I WISH YOU SO MUCH LUCK IN YOUR LOVE QUEST.Warmly D G .(I did not intend to upper case this. )
If he writes again after getting t h a t reply, I just delete , as I know its gonna be rude or mean.
I think you have a right to expect, and deserve, the application of the 'Golden Rule."
But if some women seem rude, please keep in mind that WE may have had a rough time with men to whom we havwe said " no" in one form or another.
In MY caase, I always reply, and dismiss kindly.Brielfly, as i just wote out quite clearly, paragraph one.
Good luck to you Double edge. Remain hopeful. There ARE gooood women in cyberland, and real life.
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Posted: 1/7/2009 8:20:23 PM | | I just got another one this week. Apparently, this person didnt like what I was looking for in my profile, obviously because he didnt have those qualities. So why do people even bother emailing? Just move on to someone who is looking for your type. I am tired of these losers trying to make me feel bad because I am not interested in every guy on here! | |
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Posted: 1/7/2009 8:21:08 PM | | i have you all beat... i went on a date perfect gentleman... and i did not push 4 anything.. then i got home i had a e=mail of a full nude pic stateing if i had pushed i could have this now thats not right in my books how about yours bye ave guy12 | |
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Posted: 1/10/2009 6:57:34 PM | | I recieved a first time, unsolicited email yesterday from another poster on the forums simply stating "no thanks". As if if he found me or my profile to be so disgusting and repulsive that he was at a loss for words but simply had to say something demeaning instead of just moving on. I know what he was trying to do. He has many posts here about how rotten women are, or how a woman's character and personailty matter the most. I really do try to show kindness to others here when I email them or they email me no matter who they are. Where do these mean spirited people get off? They are here to find someone that wants to be with them, right? I may be alone because I'm a plus size, but they are alone because of a much uglier reason. What the hell happened to human kindness? | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 10:19:18 AM | | I have only received one rude email, from a random guy that told me that I wasn't attracted to black guys anymore, and that I shouldn't be dating out of my race. I had never even had a consation with this guy, so I didn't understand why he would randomly email me saying that, but I didn't take it to heart, and just blocked him. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 1:23:06 PM | when I first signed up, I got several messages from some guy who had recently been dumped. Apparently, the girl cut contact and deleted her profile. When I signed up, he apparently thought I was her, and sent me some nasty mail. he refused to beleive me that i wasn't her....it was kinda funny, but wow, he was nasty...no wonder she dumped him lol.
I just delete....no reason to get upset over a stranger....i just figure they have no life so they're trying to stir up some trouble | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 1:59:14 PM | Yes, I get them, it seems i hear that men get upset if the emails are ignored or deleted and of course they should, but if they email you and you nicely and kindly tell them that you don't think you are a match or wish them the best, they can get quite rude and say mean things. So it is kind of if you answer and don't say what they want to hear they get mad and if you don't answer they get mad. I prefer to answer all mail, if someone took their time to send a message it is only right and courteous to send one back.
As i say to people, it is not just looks or any particular thing, it is just something that you feel or think about someone to cause interest. Everyone needs to be thoughtful in how they handle if the person does not feel the same about you, I have emailed guys that have no interest too. We all are in the same place. So I say be nice, polite and lets make it fun and maybe you will make a friend at least.   | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 3:10:52 PM |
OP just be thankful that you ARE a man!
Females on websites get all sorts of abuse and often for nothing........................WTF is that all about???
Men get bent out of shape about all sorts of things. I remember getting into a huge argument with one guy when I was first separated and he wanted to know why I had the word "separated" on my profile. He kept hassling me about it, claiming to be concerned that I wouldn't get any dates. I told him to butt out and mind his own business. He became really aggressive. Again WTF???
Some women I've spoken to say men send nasty emails about their photos. Why would someone do that? Oh and don't get me started on the sexual emails. Why do you think I've turned my Instant Messager off? LOL | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 3:32:46 PM | | I had one guy message me and said something like "You are yummy, id like to butter your biscuit" and im like who the hell are you, and...wtf?? | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 8:19:13 PM | Someonesex. --Oh my that is so sad, that is the worst thing I have heard. I hope you blocked and reported him. There is no reason at all to say those things, that is abusive. I am sorry, well I hope he is no longer around online.  | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 5:27:22 AM | I too recieved an unsolicted e-mail from the same person as MissMewsic.
I have never contacted this person, but it does make me wonder what has happened in his life that has made him so bitter and hateful that he feels the need to lash out at complete strangers.
Said E-mail:
You are pathetically narcissistic! Get out of yourself and
think about someone else....women like are nothing more than a
joke anymore...get a frickin life cu next tuesady!
I have been on here long enough to know though that he is the exception, not the rule.
Anyway don't let people like this get you down. They are obviously lacking in some part of their sad lives. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 5:45:13 AM | I too recieved an unsolicted e-mail from the same person as MissMewsic.
I have never contacted this person, but it does make me wonder what has happened in his life that has made him so bitter and hateful that he feels the need to lash out at complete strangers.
Said E-mail:
You are pathetically narcissistic! Get out of yourself and
think about someone else....women like are nothing more than a
joke anymore...get a frickin life cu next tuesady!
I have been on here long enough to know though that he is the exception, not the rule.
Anyway don't let people like this get you down. They are obviously lacking in some part of their sad lives.
Yes - in his profile he looks like a nice average Joe, but this secretive, despicable, angry behavior tells me he's got big issues with women who have strong opinions, an edgy sense of humor, or those who discuss sexual issues freely in the forums.
I see serial killer in training. NORMAN!!!!!! NORMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go get rid of that filthy w^ore at once!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 6:22:27 AM | One thing I have learned since being a member on here. You have to have tough skin!
I find alot of the guys on here are nice. But then you have the ones who have issues with women.
I had one guy who (first email)- let me know he was *well endowed*.Then there were a couple who got mad because I did not get back to them right away. The one guy wrote(first email) giving me a two paragraph lecture on smoking.
It is enough to make you want to just leave POF. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 9:43:21 AM | | I've gotten some rude emails from a few women on POF, but they were definitely in the minority. Just goes to show that ignorant people are everywhere. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 9:27:11 PM | You are pathetically narcissistic! Get out of yourself and
think about someone else....women like are nothing more than a
joke anymore...get a frickin life cu next tuesady!
This guy has now changed his username (patrickthname) slightly and switched his main picture. He changed his profile to say that he is retired from the dept of justice and he is very loving and compassionate. Definitely Jekyll and Hyde. He claims on another thread what he says is simply the truth and he is being persecuted for it. He really believes that women that get these emails or nasty comments on the forum have it coming to them. He claimed on one of the forums that women are only out for what a man has in his wallet, yet he states on his profile how financially secure he is. I have been watching him close because I don't think he should be allowed to go under the radar just so he can start doing that crap to women again. I know you think, just a harmless email - stick and stones, etc. but I think a man that secretly lashes out towards women online can be a risk to women he comes in face to face contact on the wrong day. His pictures say dorky "nice guy", but his words say sociopath and abuser. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 11:54:35 AM | ^^^^^ Thanks Ms. Mew -- if more woman were more aware and perceptive we could help each other avoid those who mean us the most harm.
I myself have tried very hard not to become jaded by some the nastier fishes in this pond, but there are some NASTY ones. It does become hard to seperate the person from the experience.
If one experiences good times in a place is makes you want to come back. If one experiences unpleasantness, it makes you want to stay away. | |
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